FabSwingers.com forum: Is it us?

By *ox And Vixen 19 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fareham

We've met some fantastic people through this site but recently started talking to new/different couples and mid conversation they sudden stop replying and we get nothing!

They contact us or we contact them and we have a little back and forth, never pushy! But we do both work lots so struggle to arrange meets! We explain this but say we do definatley want to meet and we are not time wasters and suggest some dates but then hear nothing back!

It's happened multiple times now and were just a bit concerned! Our main though is that we're still nervous talking to new people so our messages can be a bit long as we like to share and ask questions and be sociable!

Does this put people off?

Have people experienced this before?

Thanks

Amy and Nick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not just you. We don't know why people stop replying. Don't worry about it. Keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have tomato ketchup in your bedroom lol

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

This happens to us too

so frustrating!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have tomato ketchup in your bedroom lol "

Yep. That would put us off too! And family guy on in the background!!

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Not all couples spend time on here every day. Sometimes we take a few days to reply because we get the message when we are doing something else and do not go back on to fabswingers for a few days. I dare say we have missed out on a few friends as a result and that is a shame.

It is a hard balance but real life does have a habit of getting in the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the problem i have found is, when trying to converse, and someone replies with something closed, such as

indeed

nothing really

and so on, those sentences that dont afford a chance of coming back with a response, it can be very difficult carrying on with the conversation.

if im interested in chatting then all replies will end with another question type ending, to afford the recipient the chance to come back.

if they then choose not to, well im not going to chase anyone.

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By *ox And Vixen 19 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fareham

"Not all couples spend time on here every day. Sometimes we take a few days to reply because we get the message when we are doing something else and do not go back on to fabswingers for a few days. I dare say we have missed out on a few friends as a result and that is a shame.

It is a hard balance but real life does have a habit of getting in the way."

Maybe I could written the post better, a few days are fine and we've lost possible meets due to our slow responses, but we're talking weeks, to the point we know we've been blown off!

And we don't want any of this to sound at all malicious, we'd much rather they back out if there's something that puts them off, we wouldn't want anyone to be uncomfortable!

And thanks for pointing that out TenderLovers and Naughties angel, We'll do some more pics soon and replace them! Very sloppy of us, we didn't notice!

Any other profile advice please pile it on! Constructive criticism is always welcome!

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By *ox And Vixen 19 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fareham

"the problem i have found is, when trying to converse, and someone replies with something closed, such as

indeed

nothing really

and so on, those sentences that dont afford a chance of coming back with a response, it can be very difficult carrying on with the conversation.

if im interested in chatting then all replies will end with another question type ending, to afford the recipient the chance to come back.

if they then choose not to, well im not going to chase anyone."

Yeah that's our approach now, we always try leaving it open for response and keep driving the conversation but if they're a struggle then maybe it's not worth the hassle!

Thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have tomato ketchup in your bedroom lol "

Yep i spotted it too x

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