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By *punker! OP   Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Hi been on here for a few months now, majority of emails I send to women within my area are just beeing delete without giving me a reply, I'm not a pest if I send a message to a woman I won't send another one to her until she responds. My messages are normally just a sentance or 2 long that reflecks what they have put on their profile and there not dirty messages.....unless there profile asks for it!!!

Not had one meet yet nor have I been close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think "spunker" for a username would do it for me lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been veri, d though?

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By *punker! OP   Man
over a year ago

mansfield

maybe spunker wasn't the best name to choose but it's only a username

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe spunker wasn't the best name to choose but it's only a username"

Only a user name but it's the first thing people read and see. Might be putting ladies off. I know it's a swinging site but the ladies must get loads of messages and a good profile name may help out a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been veri, d though?"

only photo verified theres no green tick for a meet/cam veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Name would be enough to put us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i get a message with no pics attatched and no face for a profile pic, i don't open it, just delete it. I want to see faces and i think a lot of other women do too.

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By *rowneyedboy 78Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Same thing for me too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard for a single guy full stop you look after yourself that's a plus I'm sure . I know Mf cpls on here finding it hard keep trying good luck

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

what would you do if you were out on the pull?

do that here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what would you do if you were out on the pull?

do that here"

I tried that but you can't drug people's drinks and fireman carry them away on here haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Username

Muscle Picture (yak)

Headline (could be quite intimidating for women who don't consider themselves beautiful)

Generic profile text that reads the same as every other guys profile who isn't getting a meet

These kind of posts are swamping the forum. Do a search and get some tips to revamp your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe spunker wasn't the best name to choose but it's only a username

Only a user name but it's the first thing people read and see. Might be putting ladies off. I know it's a swinging site but the ladies must get loads of messages and a good profile name may help out a bit. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi been on here for a few months now, majority of emails I send to women within my area are just beeing delete without giving me a reply, I'm not a pest if I send a message to a woman I won't send another one to her until she responds. My messages are normally just a sentance or 2 long that reflecks what they have put on their profile and there not dirty messages.....unless there profile asks for it!!!

Not had one meet yet nor have I been close"

Profiles not that bad..but the name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As otthers have said the username is off putting, somethin witty always gets my attention better. If you pay to be a site supporter you can the change your username to something else (its only £5 and opens up lots of other possibilites too)

The profile text is very generic. I've lost count of how many times ive read the similar opening line of "hi my name blah, im blah year old and looking to meet women for fun etc" just today alone.

Your not the first and won't be the last 'Gym fit' perosn on the site so that not exactly a unique selling point to get people to pay you any notice.

What is your definition of a beautiful woman? remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so write in the profile who you are attracted to. Is it athletic women, curvacious, BBW, blondes, brunettes etc.

What is it about being with a couple that turns you on and as made you curious to explore meeting them? Do you just want to be a voyeur and watch the couple play? Would yo like to join in also and if so to play straight, or are you curious of Bi play?

Would you consider going to a social meet (theres on in sheffield in march)or going to a club so you can socialise in the swinging world and meet people to get you noticed and hopefully a good reputation in the swinging community.

In respect to you profile text, theres no wrong or right answer, but as a guide use these forums to look at the profiles of the more succesful guys so you can read the depth and effort they put into their profiles. I'm affraid minimal effort = minimal success.

Hope this is helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TRy a bugati car pal, those mr bean cars wont that far lol.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Think "spunker" for a username would do it for me lol x"

Yup. Same here. I'd not even bother reading the profile. Instant turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been here long either but i love this site, loads of people have said this before but it's not instashag. If you expect women/couples to have sex with you then you've got to put the time in, and become a site supporter and change that name!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Name would be enough to put us off."

Yup, me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what would you do if you were out on the pull?

do that here

I tried that but you can't drug people's drinks and fireman carry them away on here haha"

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"maybe spunker wasn't the best name to choose but it's only a username"

It might impress the blokes down the pub but not many women here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The name alone would get a delete from me.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


"what would you do if you were out on the pull?

do that here

I tried that but you can't drug people's drinks and fireman carry them away on here haha"

says who?

No-one's drugged me in ages

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh


"Hi been on here for a few months now, majority of emails I send to women within my area are just beeing delete without giving me a reply, I'm not a pest if I send a message to a woman I won't send another one to her until she responds. My messages are normally just a sentance or 2 long that reflecks what they have put on their profile and there not dirty messages.....unless there profile asks for it!!!

Not had one meet yet nor have I been close

Profiles not that bad..but the name "
disagree the profile says nothing about what you want and can offer, its not instashag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's not instashag and did you really think it was gonna be easy? nothing in life is easy, life isn't supposed to be easy. So suck it up buttercup and go to a club/social/party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is just don't waste valuable time sending messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice is just don't waste valuable time sending messages "

What's the alternative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of us been on here as long if not longer with no response.

Not a new problem and unfortunately this type of thread isn't the first; prob not the last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too young for me, maybe same for others too but not all. No face pics, not much information either about you and why you can't accommodate.

Also, it's not only single men who have problems on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i get a message with no pics attatched and no face for a profile pic, i don't open it, just delete it. I want to see faces and i think a lot of other women do too."

Most of fabsters care about keeping this lifesryle secret and separated from their professional and vanila life. Many fake profiles on here and most messages don't get replied wether it has face pic attached or not. I don't send it in a first message unless I am comfortable to do so. Glad that there are plenty females here who are thoughtful enough to respect that and not just think with an inflated ego for the amount of choice they have here. If they do then tough! Its their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think "spunker" for a username would do it for me lol x"

Me too x very off putting

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