FabSwingers.com forum: what do you need to do to get female interest on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems as if every time we try and talk to a female they either delete the message right away,would appear to be a guy on a female profile or they speak to you until you add them and then never say anything else. What do we need to do to get some female interest on here ? P (female half) xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

How do you know they are a guy pretending to be female? Although one tried it on with me once and when I asked for her waist size she said 32

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

You are searching for the elusive unicorn I am afraid....there are lots of couples searching for that elusive Bi female...stiff competition...

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Welcome to the wonderful world of messaging women on fab.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If anyone has that answer there d be no bemoaning from single guys or anyone else, my suggestion be yourselves be patient and try and have fun whilst your doing the searching,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would guess that the fact you haven't played yet , despite a club visit , makes a meet for play a bit daunting for the girl you wanna meet .

She isn't going to know what to expect and has so many others to choose from , so you are not very high on the list .

Good luck though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're only looking for socials to start with and will only do what the other party no matter who they are is comfortable with otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're only looking for socials to start with and will only do what the other party no matter who they are is comfortable with otherwise."

Your best bet is to continue exploring the club scene then , until you get a bit of experience in playing with others .

It will be virtually impossible to find a single bi female to meet you until then .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems as if every time we try and talk to a female they either delete the message right away,would appear to be a guy on a female profile or they speak to you until you add them and then never say anything else. What do we need to do to get some female interest on here ? P (female half) xx

How do they appear to be a guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheese is traditional....or peanut butter works well.

Oh, hang on, no. That's mice.....sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheese is traditional....or peanut butter works well.

Oh, hang on, no. That's mice.....sorry"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We only really went to Connections sauna in Blackpool to see what it was like as we have never been to any swinging places before.We did enjoy it though even if it was about 4 or 5 males to 1 female (me) at one stage after the male and female we intended to meet left but no playing was involved at any point with others.It was only A and me trying a couple of things by ourselves in the different play areas.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do you always give negative feedback ? Do you get some sort of buzz out of it ? It's always the same !! We would appreciate it if you would stay off the forums that we post up thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?"
green arrow??

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Why do you always give negative feedback ? Do you get some sort of buzz out of it ? It's always the same !! We would appreciate it if you would stay off the forums that we post up thanks."

unfortunately this is a public forum...you don;t say who that was aimed at but that's the sort of post that will put people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you always give negative feedback ? Do you get some sort of buzz out of it ? It's always the same !! We would appreciate it if you would stay off the forums that we post up thanks."

Who is that aimed at?

People are just trying to help. It may seem negative but actually all replies are fair comments. I wouldn't meet a couple with no experience of meeting others. Perhaps the lady could meet another lady alone. That would be much more likely. Especially if it was for a coffee and a chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?"

They do this all the time on our forums got nothing better to do than to kick you when your down its not the first time this has happened we were just asking for feed back and as a general questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?

They do this all the time on our forums got nothing better to do than to kick you when your down its not the first time this has happened we were just asking for feed back and as a general questions "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you always give negative feedback ? Do you get some sort of buzz out of it ? It's always the same !! We would appreciate it if you would stay off the forums that we post up thanks."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Black AMEX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs and meet real people simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing in your profile about what the single fem is going to get out of meeting you. I would be wary that the fem would just be a plaything.

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?

I've clicked the little green arrow too - and I suspect the point being made is that you've made several similar enquiries and been offered lots of useful advice/suggestions before. Have you taken any on board?

Having browsed your profile there seems to be a lot of 'hoops' for anyone even interested in contacting you to jump through. The requirements would put many a single guy off, plenty of couples - let alone a single bi fem who as is often pointed out - is spoilt for choice regarding who they contact.

The majority of veri's are webcam - those looking to actually play may be put off by this.

Your statement of only looking for socials will likely deter those looking to play.

And the green arrow also points to threads and posts that insinuate a sense of 'entitlement' and amazement that people are not getting in touch. Nobody is entitled to a message, a meet or anything - and it's a two way street. You have to put as much effort in to seeking company as you do making your profile desirable to others.

So do you honestly think you are doing both? If so - then you'll have to take what comes and be patient. If not - take on board the feedback you've been given - often by those that have no problems finding suitable, regular company.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?"

Then maybe ignore the persons thread if you think they are asking for too much advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?

Then maybe ignore the persons thread if you think they are asking for too much advice."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Perhaps they are not into bdsm, know what you don't want, not what you're looking for. People tend to read the profile before the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Genrally I define myself as straight now, because i prefer being with men, however i have met with women and couples in the past to play, and if im giving an honest opinion theres a few pointers I would give:

1) altough i can aprreciate if the fem of the couple as no/little experience it can be a daunting experience, but your profiles focuses on how shy "P" is. This immediately would concern me as experience as taught me most profiles that state how shy the fem is, usually means its more about what the guy wants as opposed to being what the fem desires also.

2) what is exactly in it for the single fem? Is she merely a toy to be used for your sexual pleasure? or will she be made the focus of the whole experience? Do you actually want fem on fem play? or are you looking for a threesome where theres no fem on fem contact and you just want to share your man, you just state you want a bi fem to draw more interest?(and yes that does happen).

3)If you do generally wasnt bi fem play it may be worth stating a little if any experience P has had or what it is that turns her on about the thought of it.

4) playing with a couple can be a daunting experience for the fem herself especially if she as any on the above concerns (especially those mentioned in point 2), so state in you profile that a social meet is prefered first.

Finally, the fem needs to be attracted to both of you, this is the hardest thing about it, many of times I came across profiles where i fanceied the fem but not the male and vice versa. In fact I've only played with two couples in 8 years for that sheer reason alone its also why i prefer to meet singles only now.

Hope this is in some way helpful

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

One thing to consider that if anyone has hotlisted you with the intention of contacting at some point in the future, they see updates...

the updates will often continue the attraction, don't fall into the trap of exploding your frustrations out there, this will only put people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't sit behind the PC 24/7....get out to clubs, and behave there and you shall reap the rewards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at thw green arrow, I can't help but think what is it they say about lwading a horse to water... How many times does the same advice need to be given?

They do this all the time on our forums got nothing better to do than to kick you when your down its not the first time this has happened we were just asking for feed back and as a general questions

The majority of veri's are webcam - those looking to actually play may be put off by this.

Your statement of only looking for socials will likely deter those looking to play.

I think Obi has made my point far more eloquently than I did!

Apologies if the tone of my post offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Yes and now you see what we single lads are up against its imposible lol.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've made some really great fem friends....but it takes time and effort and is almost impossible to do by purely messaging on here!

We've met the most fems at clubs, socials and parties and it really is the best way to get to know people.....not just single fems.

It's very daunting for a single fem to meet a couple on her own (I used to have a single fem profile before I met Mr Ch33ky) and there needs to be an attraction between all 3 people. One of my 'pet hates' is couples where the fem just wants bi fun to please her partner and single fems are often left feeling used and dissatisfied.

We enjoy getting to know people and sharing fantasies and likes/dislikes...that way the playing is fun and satisfying for everyone!

In short get out there and make an effort to meet people face to face

Mrs Dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've made some really great fem friends....but it takes time and effort and is almost impossible to do by purely messaging on here!

We've met the most fems at clubs, socials and parties and it really is the best way to get to know people.....not just single fems.

We enjoy getting to know people and sharing fantasies and likes/dislikes...that way the playing is fun and satisfying for everyone!

In short get out there and make an effort to meet people face to face

Mrs Dirty "

Could of out it any better myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks maybe it will help another couple. Unfortunately after a long discussion and the strain Fab has put on our relationship we're no longer a couple and decided to go seperate ways because I'll never get to explore my bi side. Just a shame to throw away a 5 year relationship and I'm sure somebody will post something negative but that's just the way it goes. P xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to here that, but if you broken up over this perhaps it's not for you

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By *ornycouplefromguildfordCouple
over a year ago

Guildford

I agree! It is meant to be fun isn't it?

The chase , the chat , the flirting!!

I don't see the problem ?

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By *ornycouplefromguildfordCouple
over a year ago

Guildford

Thats a Shame!

Fab brings us closer together.

I suppose it depends on the foundations of your relationship?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

". Unfortunately after a long discussion and the strain Fab has put on our relationship we're no longer a couple and decided to go seperate ways because I'll never get to explore my bi side. . P xx"

You have split up because you can't have a woman to play with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear that but are you sure you're doing the right thing. You were a couple when you started this thread four hours ago. Fab really isn't worth sacrificing your relationship over. I'm very sad to read that!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm sorry, but there must have been other problems before joining fab!

You started this thread just hours ago, what on earth could have happened in the mean time???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your a single Bifem now fancy a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to the wonderful world of messaging women on fab. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We were a couple who were trying to spice things up but sick of getting used as a punchbag on here. It's definitely not been worth our while joining this site plus the fact we're not near any swingers clubs hence the reason why we've not been.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"We were a couple who were trying to spice things up but sick of getting used as a punchbag on here. It's definitely not been worth our while joining this site plus the fact we're not near any swingers clubs hence the reason why we've not been."

CJ's & the After 8 club are close-ish... try there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

". Unfortunately after a long discussion and the strain Fab has put on our relationship we're no longer a couple and decided to go seperate ways because I'll never get to explore my bi side. . P xx

You have split up because you can't have a woman to play with?"

And that is no doubt the main reason that single bi fems won't meet couples.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm sorry, but blaming Fab for your relationship problems is beyond weird. Fab is a tool which you use the way you want. If you don't get what you want you don't then blame everyone else and dump your partner!

Is it me or is that the most dramatic reaction to not getting a bisexual experience ever?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Is it me or is that the most dramatic reaction to not getting a bisexual experience ever?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

". Unfortunately after a long discussion and the strain Fab has put on our relationship we're no longer a couple and decided to go seperate ways because I'll never get to explore my bi side. . P xx

You have split up because you can't have a woman to play with?

And that is no doubt the main reason that single bi fems won't meet couples.

Too true! Way too many issues it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging will never fix a failing relationship.

Blaming the site seems ridiculous though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can you not read verifications ? They clearly show that both of us were on cam and at the meet with the two people socially. Admin please close this thread/forum post down it would be much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I read veris which indicate couple but still don't alter fact that Fabs got nothing to do with breaking up relationship, as stated by one of you earlier came on Fabs to try fix it, so wrong to claim fans broke it. Fabs can't break what's already broke

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I find it hard to comprehend that if a relationship has broken down after only 4 hours on site that one or either of the couple should still be active on site.

This thread has had a very strange feel to it from the start but erring on the side of caution in case it is genuine I hope that whatever your problems are I hope you are able to come to some solution

Maybe a break from the site and a rethink would help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats a Shame!

Fab brings us closer together.

I suppose it depends on the foundations of your relationship?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It has been the female responding to comments.We've had this account for a few months now.Most of the time all we've had is people trying to bully us into meeting for sex and people sending nasty/cheeky messages and then blocking us so we can't respond. I've no problem going on cam for anybody to prove that it is me answering messages or that we were a genuine couple. If you still don't believe me ask any one on the friends list most if not all have saw and chatted to both of us regularly for the last while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry to read about your split,there shouldnt be any blame on fab,you both chose to be here,you both had a couple of social meets and webcam,you both didnt play but shared the experience,so i dont see that is the problem,

You have to be pretty solid as a couple and know eachothers boundries,mainly through communicating to make it work for you here

Thats coming from a woman that split with hub during time on here,but i know fab were not the reason so i wont blame the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm confused

Couple or single

Together

Fab spilt them up

This is for fun not therapy

Everyone gets rejected,deserved or not

& if 'bullying' happens learning from it.

Bizarre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, this escalated quickly

Breaking up over fab though? Come on to fuck

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