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Why is it so hard

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

To find like minded localish people to socialise and play with? I mean surely it's not too much to ask !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course its not, they should be lined up around the block trying to knock your Door down by now

Him

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

That's not what I was eluding to at all, jut seems when you finally get through all the blah blah it's still even harder to match up ....

Ah well c'est la vie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's bloody hard!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

are there any clubs or socials being held locally to you...

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Could be .....

Never been much of a looker

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

I work shift so normally miss out, have thought about going to a club but would prefer not to go it alone first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To find like minded localish people to socialise and play with? I mean surely it's not too much to ask ! "

Totally agree! All the guys that tick a lot of boxes all seem to be far away from me. The local guys automatically assume that coz I'm local I'll meet at a drop of a hat regardless...trying to find the balance is very difficult

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford


"To find like minded localish people to socialise and play with? I mean surely it's not too much to ask !

Totally agree! All the guys that tick a lot of boxes all seem to be far away from me. The local guys automatically assume that coz I'm local I'll meet at a drop of a hat regardless...trying to find the balance is very difficult"

Seems to be a recurring theme ..... I know what you mean about locals but then again there is too local

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By *aughty-PeepsCouple
over a year ago

teesside

try putting a profile picture up for starters, when you got a inbox full of messages those without immediately visable pictures are often going to fade into the back ground. u got a picture on your profile at least set that as your profile and might help a little.

otherwise work on your profile, add more good quality pictures and bit more about yourself,

and just chat to women but the trick is not to chat to them to try and get a meet/fuck out of them quick as you want but rather just chat to them as if you trying to make a friend and have a crack and get to know them and if ya get on good then after a few days minimum when the times right they going to react alot more positve to the idea of meeting

might take more effort and mean you end up chatting to more people and take longer to meet people but i know this works well and you will get alot more meets and theres also a better chance that your meets turn into repeat meets

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Thanks, great advice

Profile is minimalist and I'm not too good at the old pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

profile is ok.

your veri is from may last year.

have you really waited since then until now to wonder why its just not happening? lol

that will put some off as its nearly a year inactive.

probably better to start fresh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think the key is understanding the difference between men and women.

I might be generalising a lot here so apologies if anyone is offended, however regardless of whether this is a sex site or not I think women in general enjoy chatting, finding a common ground with someone and feeling like the men talking to them are enjoying their company.

Men tend to enjoy the quick, last minute meet scenario more and can i think at times come across as pushy which can out women off.

Just an observation from my own experience at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks, great advice

Profile is minimalist and I'm not too good at the old pics "

You might want to add more pics... The one you have up now looks like you have no hands & one leg. Lol

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Not been a year just not been verified because I prefer to keep things to myself.

Veri is from a very special girl who made me promise to post it

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

But that's exactly what I've got !!!! Lol

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

True men really are from Mars !!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not been a year just not been verified because I prefer to keep things to myself.

Veri is from a very special girl who made me promise to post it"

In all fairness I don't show my verifications either but making your profile more eye catching would definitely do you some favours I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To find like minded localish people to socialise and play with? I mean surely it's not too much to ask ! "

There are a lot of guys on here maybe even more than average in your area perhaps. Is it really such an issue to travel a bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be down to you only having half a left leg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree, the majority of guys I click with are miles away.

Use this site as one of the ways to meet people, don't rely on it being the only way

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Travel not an issue but really over an hour or two is not realistic

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By *eno_2004 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

I agree

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