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Genuine Notts/Lincs fella having no luck!

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Hiya fabbers!

Just wondered if I could pick up some advice, or even generate some interest in me lol!

I've been on here a while now, and still have had no luck. I'm a genuine fella, and have improved my looks recently by loosing 2 stone, and I think I'm not a bad looking fella and have all the important bits in good working order!

I don't have public pics but do sent them to people, I do this as I am a little bit in the public eye, so needs must.

Take a look on my profile, and see what I could do to improve it, and if you like it, say hello!

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello, Think you have a good profile, I understand about the photo issue, but surely you could have a headless pic, even clothed if you have identifying tattoo's. It would probably help.

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Hiya

Ok, thats a thought! So called 'selfies' never seem to come out the way I hope, but will try.

There's always some young stud with a six pack on here, which I guess more will chose! No six pack here, but a decent physique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

using a full length mirror works best I think, You need to get verified too. Are there any social's in your area, that's a great place to meet people

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Would love the chance to get verified! I did put my name on a list for a local party, but haven't heard back yet. Slightly cautious about a party as its new to me and wouldn't know what to expect or how I would feel, a couple or single lady is preferable at the moment, but I'm ready to pop so I'm sure I could relax and have some fun in that atmosphere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hiya

Ok, thats a thought! So called 'selfies' never seem to come out the way I hope, but will try.

There's always some young stud with a six pack on here, which I guess more will chose! No six pack here, but a decent physique "

Not true. I agree with above poster like on our profile we don't show our faces but body shots give you an idea of our physique at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would love the chance to get verified! I did put my name on a list for a local party, but haven't heard back yet. Slightly cautious about a party as its new to me and wouldn't know what to expect or how I would feel, a couple or single lady is preferable at the moment, but I'm ready to pop so I'm sure I could relax and have some fun in that atmosphere!"

Why don't you attend the next Lincoln Social ? Then you'd get hopefully several veri's

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Socials are always useful as are clubs, which probably won't be easy where you live

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

I've put my name down on the list but didn't get a reply email, will try a pic without a head shot. It may put people off, but I'm not going to shave my whole body for the sake of that! Some women actually do like quite hairy fella's! The old chap is neat and trim though!

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Quite true, there's things happening not too far, but with my restricted times its not always easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socials are always useful as are clubs, which probably won't be easy where you live "

we've found several clubs are within only just over an hour from us...so it's not too hard to get there in a reasonable time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've put my name down on the list but didn't get a reply email, will try a pic without a head shot. It may put people off, but I'm not going to shave my whole body for the sake of that! Some women actually do like quite hairy fella's! The old chap is neat and trim though!"

Pop onto the thread and remind flick or pm her...there's been lots of interest so I know she'll not have missed you deliberately...

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Thanks, will do. Its tough going on here for a genuine bloke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks, will do. Its tough going on here for a genuine bloke!"

No its not...keep the faith and be yourself, you,ll soon be enjoying yoursef

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

I am being myself, but that doesn't seem to work haha!! But I'll never pretend to be something I'm not, not in my nature, but maybe I'm under-selling myself, who knows...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being myself, but that doesn't seem to work haha!! But I'll never pretend to be something I'm not, not in my nature, but maybe I'm under-selling myself, who knows..."

You probably are...just try and remember theres 1000s of single blokes on here...its one big job interview, the profiles like your cv, first message like the interview....just keep it real though and who knows....

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Cheers mate, not sure if that description will help with the ladies, but I know what you mean

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Photos definitely help. As for being hairy, previous threads have suggested more women like it than dislike it.

Your profile is good

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Thanks, I know I'm biased, but I think its more masculine!

I do send pics to anyone who wants to see them, but will try a body pic as I need to keep my face to myself due to my circumstances... Alot of people in certain circles know my face, and no its nothing dodgy!!

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Really appreciate everyone taking their time to read my message and give some advice - keep it coming

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By *um and get it.Couple
over a year ago

Spalding

Shame you prefer not to meet with skinny girls.

We would have have been up for a meet if you had.

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Just pm'd

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

bumping this thread up the board

Say hello!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hiya fabbers!

Just wondered if I could pick up some advice, or even generate some interest in me lol!

I've been on here a while now, and still have had no luck. I'm a genuine fella, and have improved my looks recently by loosing 2 stone, and I think I'm not a bad looking fella and have all the important bits in good working order!

I don't have public pics but do sent them to people, I do this as I am a little bit in the public eye, so needs must.

Take a look on my profile, and see what I could do to improve it, and if you like it, say hello!

J x"

Well done on losing 2 stone!

Saying you're genuine means absolutely nothing until you cam with a potential meet and have had a veri, go to a club or a social or party

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Thanks for the info, I don't have cam at the moment, but will look into getting one

Re the 2 stone, thanks! Actually found it quite easy, just kept all food to 3% or lower in fat, sounds boring, but made it :O)

Would love to get verified in a meet up, and have plans for a party next month, but wouldn't mind some practice first hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the info, I don't have cam at the moment, but will look into getting one

Re the 2 stone, thanks! Actually found it quite easy, just kept all food to 3% or lower in fat, sounds boring, but made it :O)

Would love to get verified in a meet up, and have plans for a party next month, but wouldn't mind some practice first hehe"

My sister did the same and has lost nearly 6st from size 18-20 to a size 10, she's skinnier than me

In terms of getting practice, go to a social either at a club or one that someone has arranged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really does depend on the area you live too... and how genuine people are within those areas. You could always move... but I wouldn't suggest you come to this area as it's just as bad here ...lol

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

I've got my name on the list for a social too, so who knows?!

Well done to your sis!

Been on here a few months now, a few nibbles of interest, but there's such an abundance of single fella's I'm not sure how to stand out from the rest. Everyone is different, and I think I have quite alot to offer, not just physically but mentally too as I don't think I'm daft or a bad conversationalist!

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

Won't be moving, got my business and house all sorted

Just have to be wait until the right lady of people or club comes along!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You sound an interesting person but there are negative aspects of your profile. Remove them as much as you can.

Profiles without pics are almost a dead loss. If you can't post anything, even a pic of your big toe, then people will lose interest and you have to remember that you're in competition with massive amounts of single guys who have tons of pics. If you absolutely cannot post any public pics whatsoever, then add a compelling reason in your profile. Otherwise, in this age of digital photography and same day addition to fab, then it can create suspicion. Otherwise, you're just making things significantly harder for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really does depend on the area you live too... and how genuine people are within those areas. You could always move... but I wouldn't suggest you come to this area as it's just as bad here ...lol"

There are plenty of genuine people in our area. Bit of an odd statement

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

wasn't said by me Hiya by the way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Won't be moving, got my business and house all sorted

Just have to be wait until the right lady of people or club comes along!!"

that's not being proactive, which is why so many men complain they aren't getting anywhere, get to a club or a social asap, that way you'll get a veri or 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile looks good to us x

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

morning all, bumping this up the list again! x

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

bump up the forum to all you night owls x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't see much of an improvement regarding pics, like someone else has said, profiles without pics are a dead loss and will get you nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd suggest taking off the "I know what strings to pull" and "know what buttons to press" as you don't know what each woman likes/dislikes, what works for one woman won't work for the other.

and having a male friend on here, some might think you are secretly bi, by not confessing to be bi

1. you are lying and

2. you will lower you're chances of meets

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

If you can get to Nottingham one weekend your more than welcome to join me in a visit to a club. I can introduce you to the regulars lol. Normally a couple of single ladies in the car so entry fees are cheaper.

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

I do have some, just send them to those who want to see them!

I'm working on an appropriate pic or two

Thanks for the comment x

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

make friend as he's a party organiser. Thought the strings to pull with me being a musician was a bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there may well be, but, you are in Notts, not Staffs... and if there are some around here, I have yet to find them... where are you all hiding???? lol

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

bump!

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

morning bump

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

bumpy bumpy!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think there is only so many times you can bump a thread like this before you hit the law of diminishing returns.

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

A fella has to try his best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up if i was you

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By *lincs35 OP   Man
over a year ago

inbetween newark/lincoln/sleaford

haha, not going to happen x

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"haha, not going to happen x"

I find you intriguing and interesting, but I wouldn't meet anybody unless I saw their face, simple!!

We have face pic in private, you have to be prepared to put yourself out, as others do!!!

The music thing interests us, as hubby is in a band and a keen musician, stuff to talk about I guess!!

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