FabSwingers.com forum: What to wear?

By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

The websites will have a dress code (usually smart-casual for men) and as long as you go on a night that allows single men (again will be listed) then going on your own is fine. I went on my own the first time to a club.

And of course it's OK to watch. Just be discrete, polite and friendly and don't follow or stalk women and couples and you'll be fine.

By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Smart casual to the club, even if it's a wet one - someone will notice you arriving and notice if you don't look kempt.

Put thought into your underwear - too many men wear saggy, faded and even holey underwear!

As long as it's a mixed night then it's fine to go on your own. Too many go with a friend and then cling to them and don't mingle. Every club has social areas, in some the best place is the smokers area. Make an effort to introduce yourself and chat. Chat to both halves of a couple and don't stare at her tints, even if she's topless!

If you're not sure what to say then say that. Explain that you're a newbie and nervous/unsure.

Tell the staff you're new to clubs and ask for a tour. Ask lots of questions and pay attention when they tell you the rules. Don't worry if you can't remember your way around, you can work that out but if you don't know what is and isn't acceptable it's easy to offend people.

The basic rule of all clubs is no touching without an invite. And that goes for both sexes so if you get groped don't feel you can't call them on it. Saying that a quiet chat will resolve most things.

Don't cling to people if they're chatting with you. Chat and move on. It's perfectly acceptable to suggest that you'd like to play with them later but don't expect an answer straight away, couples like to confer and singles may want to socialise for a bit longer. If someone says thanks but no thanks they are not saying you're awful never talk to us again, just that they don't want to play with you. Saying maybe later means exactly that; they haven't decided yet or they aren't ready to play yet or they've just spotted a good friend or... Well, it means maybe later.

Don't get arsey if you get a refusal, many people know each other and a bad attitude will get you a reputation. A good attitude might get you introductions.

And if you think someone looks good tell them. Us ladies put a lot of effort into how we dress and a genuine compliment is always welcome.

Good luck.