FabSwingers.com forum: first club visit contemplation

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thinking about a club visit as a single male, with no real connections. Has anyone else jumped in at the depend as such? And how was it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, went as a single male to the Hellfire about 5 years ago.

Best time I ever had :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just need to man up then don't i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did booked ourselves a room at the club thinking that would give is the motivation to get though the door.

Turned up nerves turned to excitement and had a great time.

Just ring before you go to check the single situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have it in my head that it would be easier to know of a meet in there or knowing someone in there to start with. Being a couple would always have that support to go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have it in my head that it would be easier to know of a meet in there or knowing someone in there to start with. Being a couple would always have that support to go"

I would not want to go though the doors on my own as a single. Once in and settled you will wonder what the fuss was about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hoping so, laugh at how awkward it felt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just relax. Go with an open mind and no expectations. Any play is a bonus. It takes guts to go alone but nothing ventured and all that. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just treat it like going to your local pub. Only thing is some ppl will be naked and fucking lol. Never forget respect eva

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd be more nervous walking into my local

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been in 2 clubs so far, the yellow house in barking and funtimes in hackney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be more nervous walking into my local

Just go for it mate. Your all there for the same thing unless your just going for a social. I found the best way to go is to expect nowt then if you get to play its a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just gotta bite the bullet, always wanted to and definitely without expectactions and always respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I travel the UK on my own trying out different clubs - I love it - they are great places x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Care to share some of that awesome confidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I travel the UK on my own trying out different clubs - I love it - they are great places x "

Its a different ball game for single guys in clubs to single ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I travel the UK on my own trying out different clubs - I love it - they are great places x

Its a different ball game for single guys in clubs to single ladies.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Going as a couple if you're going to be going as a single after that is not always the best idea.

Ask for a tour when you arrive if they don't offer one and then ask to be introduced to some regulars.

Above all mingle. Chat. If you don't know what to say say that it's your first visit and you're nervous and you don't know what to say.

If you think someone looks good then tell them - but don't try to say anything 'sexy', just offer a simple, genuine compliment. Don't talk to her tits, even if she's topless. And if you're talking to a couple talk to both.

In my experience the guys who follow rarely get picked. The ones who chat and mingle do.

Oh, and know when to move on. Don't cling to people just cos they talked to you. Couples will often want to confer so chat then say "hope to see you later" and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Excellent advice, you're a gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have it in my head that it would be easier to know of a meet in there or knowing someone in there to start with. Being a couple would always have that support to go"

Plenty of single ladies on fab that wouldnt mind joining you. Theres a few that will just think you wanna go with them just to get in cheaper thou

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was concerned this would come across as a veiled attempt to get a 'date' for one and a pm proved that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same as you pal haven't got the balls to go alone, if you fancy it I will go with you " yes I'm straight" unless there are a few ladies or other couples who want to introduce us to this wonderful lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's a shout. I'm straight too but going with some one in the same boat and if it all goes to shit, still got someone to speak too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And of course if there's a few ladies / couples......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And of course if there's a few ladies / couples......"
send me a message, you've blocked guys and we can see what clubs are between stoke and Nottingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I travel the UK on my own trying out different clubs - I love it - they are great places x

Its a different ball game for single guys in clubs to single ladies.

It still takes a certain amount of confidence to go into a club alone whether you are a man or a woman. Don't assume that ladies have it easy - unwanted attention can be just as much a problem as no attention at all. Hats off to densolmilf.Awesome lady!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going as a couple if you're going to be going as a single after that is not always the best idea.

Ask for a tour when you arrive if they don't offer one and then ask to be introduced to some regulars.

Above all mingle. Chat. If you don't know what to say say that it's your first visit and you're nervous and you don't know what to say.

In my experience the guys who follow rarely get picked. The ones who chat and mingle do.

Oh, and know when to move on. Don't cling to people just cos they talked to you. Couples will often want to confer so chat then say "hope to see you later" and move on. "

As another chap who's yet to venture to a club this is all very helpful advice. I've got enough about me to behave as you suggest naturally anyway, but it's still good to hear it from those with the experience. Hopefully I'll commit to attending one before too long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just been asked to go for my first club visit as a couple and I am nervous...have read all the advice and so think I will enjoy it...just go expecting nothing and anything is a bonus!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well as a couple you'll have each other! Good luck and hope you really enjoy it. Let us know how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks and willxx Hope you go and enjoy it as well...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club (excuse the pun). Feel the same.

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By *pskirtloverCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Thought about trying a club a few times, would love to try it as a couple. Even if its to tick it off the list of done that, but not again.

Hopefully we would both enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If your both willing even if it's just to tick a box, it has to be slightly easier as a couple.

Go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just need to man up then don't i"

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

We go to LC in Sheffield most Saturdays and love it.

If anyone is thinking of trying it but feels too nervous to go it alone, feel free to get in touch if you'd like to come with us. Its couples and single ladies only on Saturdays though.

Rarely we get to go on a Friday but if we ever do the same goes for single men.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Oh, and pick a club that welcomes single men. The other clientele will be there either looking for single men or at least single men friendly which will make the whole experience better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We go to LC in Sheffield most Saturdays and love it.

If anyone is thinking of trying it but feels too nervous to go it alone, feel free to get in touch if you'd like to come with us. Its couples and single ladies only on Saturdays though.

Rarely we get to go on a Friday but if we ever do the same goes for single men.

Abit out of my range personally but thanks, I'm sure someone would really appreciate that

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"We go to LC in Sheffield most Saturdays and love it.

If anyone is thinking of trying it but feels too nervous to go it alone, feel free to get in touch if you'd like to come with us. Its couples and single ladies only on Saturdays though.

Rarely we get to go on a Friday but if we ever do the same goes for single men.

Abit out of my range personally but thanks, I'm sure someone would really appreciate that

Yes...your quite a way from Sheffield. But yes you're right. Lol! Messages are coming in. We just wish we had known someone to go with. It took us a while to pluck up the courage to go and settle into visits but now love it and can't keep away. While we state no single men on Fab, we do sometimes play within the club. Its so much more chilled out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look after all the sexy single men who come to Jaydees lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We go to LC in Sheffield most Saturdays and love it.

If anyone is thinking of trying it but feels too nervous to go it alone, feel free to get in touch if you'd like to come with us. Its couples and single ladies only on Saturdays though.

Rarely we get to go on a Friday but if we ever do the same goes for single men.

Abit out of my range personally but thanks, I'm sure someone would really appreciate that

I don't think it would be the case of playing but the company to start with

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"I look after all the sexy single men who come to Jaydees lol"

Sharing is caring...

In any capacity....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I look after all the sexy single men who come to Jaydees lol"

Aren't you a hot generous lady!!!!

I'm sure that will help to spur on anyone thinking of visiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to help

I can see why Angel is in your username

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to help

I can see why Angel is in your username

Of course

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"We go to LC in Sheffield most Saturdays and love it.

If anyone is thinking of trying it but feels too nervous to go it alone, feel free to get in touch if you'd like to come with us. Its couples and single ladies only on Saturdays though.

Rarely we get to go on a Friday but if we ever do the same goes for single men.

Abit out of my range personally but thanks, I'm sure someone would really appreciate that

I don't think it would be the case of playing but the company to start with"

Yes...I totally agree. We go for the social aspect first and if we play then its never planned.

We love the conversation, music and dancing. The social part is what drives us.

My fella is DJ'ing at LC in march. Really looking forward to that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds like a great night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to help

I can see why Angel is in your username

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think I will stick with you when we go to a club, you sure do attract the ladies "angel"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to help

I can see why Angel is in your username

think I will stick with you when we go to a club, you sure do attract the ladies "angel"

Do I ? Lol or him lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to help

I can see why Angel is in your username

think I will stick with you when we go to a club, you sure do attract the ladies "angel"

Do I ? Lol or him lol"

DEFINITELY YOU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I attract ladies do I ?

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

"Just need to man up then don't i"

Yes you do mate, just go without any expectations of guaranteed sex and chat to whomever takes your fancy. If they don't want to play then take it in the chin. Every club that I've been to has been full of friendly people

So just bite the bullet and give it a go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I attract ladies do I ?"

Don't think it's specifically just ladies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just need to man up then don't i

So just bite the bullet and give it a go"

With a profile pic like that, I've no argument. When I get round to it that's how I'm naturally going to play it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I attract ladies do I ?

Don't think it's specifically just ladies"

We'll I am friendly kind of girl what can I say

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I attract ladies do I ?

Don't think it's specifically just ladies

We'll I am friendly kind of girl what can I say"

You must have a natural welcoming aura

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I attract ladies do I ?

Don't think it's specifically just ladies

We'll I am friendly kind of girl what can I say

You must have a natural welcoming aura"

Totes do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I attract ladies do I ?

Don't think it's specifically just ladies

We'll I am friendly kind of girl what can I say

You must have a natural welcoming aura

Totes do

Buckets of modesty too?!?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I attract ladies do I ?

Don't think it's specifically just ladies

We'll I am friendly kind of girl what can I say

You must have a natural welcoming aura

Totes do

Buckets of modesty too?!?!?!"

Haha

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over a year ago

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