FabSwingers.com forum: When arranging parties

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do other people choose attendees?

Do you only choose only people you would play with

Do you invite people you wouldn't play with but assume other attendees would

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We choose local people first & then branch out if there are not enough, we don't only invite ones we fancy as people like variety & guys who don't fancy us or us them will appeal to others.

If you have a separate naughty Twitter account use that to advertise to, always keep in mind how many people will fit in your home/venue & don't overcrowd it as that's worse than having a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" always keep in mind how many people will fit in your home/venue & don't overcrowd it as that's worse than having a few."

We start with friends list, then friends of friends .. Lol. And then just do a local search .... But when inviting new people remember the general rule of thumb, invite 4, 2 don't turn up ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In the past we've only invited people we are attracted to.

Don't people have an expectation that you will play if you invite them though

I think I'd like to invite other people but don't want to put on the spot ...

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"In the past we've only invited people we are attracted to.

Don't people have an expectation that you will play if you invite them though

I think I'd like to invite other people but don't want to put on the spot ..."

We have swinging friends who we have never played with...some of these we have known longer than 10 years etc, people don't fancy everyone & vice versa but they are all there for fun.

If we were to invite our naughtiest play mates we wouldn't want to share them lol!, people don't automatically want to jump your bone for sending them a party invite & its nice meeting new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd assume its a case of "He who pays the piper"

If we're going to arrange the meet and provide the accommodation and everything that entails then we sure wouldnt invite anyone we didnt want there!

Its a different thing if attending a party someone else has arranged.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the past we've only invited people we are attracted to.

Don't people have an expectation that you will play if you invite them though

I think I'd like to invite other people but don't want to put on the spot ...

We have swinging friends who we have never played with...some of these we have known longer than 10 years etc, people don't fancy everyone & vice versa but they are all there for fun.

If we were to invite our naughtiest play mates we wouldn't want to share them lol!, people don't automatically want to jump your bone for sending them a party invite & its nice meeting new people. "

They don't

. What's wrong with them

- joke for the people that don't understand humour !

Yes fair point. Well we shall try it once and see how it goes then. Think you for your replies

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've been to 3-4 parties and each one has had a different vibe. One was more like a tea party and everyone came away with full balls but a larger number of friends. Another was more like an orgy.

I think the key when throwing one is not to give rise to any assumptions and when attending, to go with an open mind.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"We'd assume its a case of "He who pays the piper"

If we're going to arrange the meet and provide the accommodation and everything that entails then we sure wouldnt invite anyone we didnt want there!

Its a different thing if attending a party someone else has arranged."

There is a difference between not wanting a person & not fancying them, we go to lots of parties where we meet up with people we have never played with but we can still have a good chat & be sociable.

We like to have a happy medium of age, size etc so people feel comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We'd assume its a case of "He who pays the piper"

If we're going to arrange the meet and provide the accommodation and everything that entails then we sure wouldnt invite anyone we didnt want there!

Its a different thing if attending a party someone else has arranged.

We like to have a happy medium of age, size etc so people feel comfortable. "

^this. We always have a good laugh and I've no problem inviting people I don't want to play with personally. I guess we should ensure we get a good response to ensure there's a variety of people to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never go to parties with any expectations,If we can have a chat n laugh with people its all good and anything more is a Bonus.

Gary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite people of a similar age range generally. Have a "core" of people you know and you know will play (can be awkward as who starts first? kinda thing).

I always try to invite a few newbies to us and just newbies - people have to start somewhere.

Provide snacks n soft drinks but dont expect to be paid for this lol... a voluntary contribution tin is ok.

Generally invite 3 for every two you expect to come - particularly if you don't already know them (even friends may not always turn up but they will let you know!).

Most of all don't set expectations too high. See it as a social event first and foremost. Everyone you get to play with is a bonus.

PM me if you want more info from someone who holds regular parties...xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Invite people of a similar age range generally. Have a "core" of people you know and you know will play (can be awkward as who starts first? kinda thing).

I always try to invite a few newbies to us and just newbies - people have to start somewhere.

Provide snacks n soft drinks but dont expect to be paid for this lol... a voluntary contribution tin is ok.

Generally invite 3 for every two you expect to come - particularly if you don't already know them (even friends may not always turn up but they will let you know!).

Most of all don't set expectations too high. See it as a social event first and foremost. Everyone you get to play with is a bonus.

PM me if you want more info from someone who holds regular parties...xx"

The hosts aren't even of a similar age lol but thank you for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We keep our party's to Cpls who are friends and friends of theirs. We prefer our party's to be smaller and more intimate . Always been great so far with everyone having fun

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Agree, friends, friends of friends or maybe even people we've met but not yet played with. Wouldn't invite total strangers into our home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We invite people we both like. Then let them know who is invited so they can chat to each other too beforehand. It's worked well so far.

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