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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are a lot of posts from people on here asking for profile advice, most of which are from single males with one liners. Coming from the opposite side, would a profile that takes a few minutes to read be seen as too much of a chore?

It's getting to the point now where no matter what sort of message I send, quirky, funny, intelligent, witty or whatever else I can think of, there must be something I'm doing wrong. I'm not too disheartened as you get out what you put in and I could most likely do more, it's just I don't see any glaring mistakes.

I've held a social, been involved in forum threads, speak to a few people regularly and like to think my profile reads ok. I'm not gunna be put off, I just want to know what I need to change as I do believe I have things to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More public pics. Maybe they just don't you attractive? Maybe you're not what they're looking for

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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over a year ago

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Less is more - sometimes. With messages, many recipients go straight to the profile, and its strength helps you get meets. I think it's good to have detail, as long as length really delivers that. Review your own profile and ask whether it really says that much. I'm not sure that it does, though I warm to you, from reading it, which is good. I'd add in more info on your couples swinging experience, as it's not evident. I'd also balance your photos a bit, without too many funny, cartoonised type pics: mainly get them to be natural pics, preferably with you smiling, where you show your face.

It's tough for you single guys, so don't feel it all relates to how badly or well you're doing. Tenacity pays off. Also check for spelling mistakes/typos - I think you meant averse, rather than adverse, for example.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like your recognises what needs to be done. What you may have to do is keep plugging away. Word will get out your a decent guy and then things may pick up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not planning on giving up any time soon. While I don't expect women to throw themselves at me or for every couple I message to invite me over, a little bit of interaction would be nice.

I'm aware beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I'm not pushy. Persistent maybe but not overly so.

Thanks for the feedback so far, much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two points from me sweetie

1. I find your pics annoying - a couple of joke ones is fine but not all/ majority. Suggests to me someone who is a great fun guy but not necessarily one for the bedroom.

2. Your profile is too picky by far !! Nothing wrong with preference but you can use that when deciding who to message or reply to. Look at my pics - even i was debating whether I fitted the "model" look you want - I found it very off putting and even though " who does this guy think he is ?" Lol- and I mean that in a most constructive way possible ! Lol x

All the best x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback.

I did try to show my humour so im glad that comes across but I didn't want it to become detrimental. I might have a swap around with them soon.

I really didn't want my blurb to come across as picky, I've read it a 100 times and didn't deduce that so I'm glad you pointed it out. I've re-arranged that part to read a little better, hopefully at least.

Thanks again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoyed reading your profile! It's well constructed and interesting...and why shouldn't guys be picky? Hell, I know I am and I make no apologies for it! I didn't detect any arrogance or such in the wording.

A clear face and body shot would improve your public pics but at least yours are different from the norm.

Stick with it and maybe try a club or two?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do have face pics in my friends only section and attach them to messages.

Thanks for the feedback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoyed reading your profile! It's well constructed and interesting...and why shouldn't guys be picky? Hell, I know I am and I make no apologies for it! I didn't detect any arrogance or such in the wording.

A clear face and body shot would improve your public pics but at least yours are different from the norm.

Stick with it and maybe try a club or two?

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Lol x he changed it ! The first draft was like a shopping list and thus offputting x its much better now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate - the rewritten profile much improved. Take on board the pics thing and you will be away. And hey! You have a few veris there so can't be doing it all wrong.

Good luck dude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I changed it after Milfy said I sounded overly picky heh.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing I can add is to check your grammar and spelling, I hate to see i instead of I and if I have to read a sentence twice it's too much like hard work. It is hard to know what a couple look for but some nice photos that have been thoughtfully taken do help.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like a pretty decent profile and to he honest the snake pic is hilarious!

One very very minor point (though doubt if it would stop anyone meeting you!) is that it's whet, not wet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Noted and corrected. Hopefully everything is fine and dandy on the grammar front .

Just need to find someone to help with my photo's. Offers welcome heh.

Also I've pencilled in an Isis trip for early next month. Let's see if that comes to fruition.

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