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By *aughtyplaym8s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Medway

We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search and message yourself?

And use filters to block unwanted incoming mail?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask for early phone chat. Then you'll at least know it's a woman.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"Search and message yourself?

And use filters to block unwanted incoming mail?"

They can't bitch about single men if they block them

Not that they're even looking for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days"

Not actually true

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days"

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a Club, far easier to meet real gen people. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't. "

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Search and message yourself?

And use filters to block unwanted incoming mail?

They can't bitch about single men if they block them

Not that they're even looking for them "

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By *orney hunCouple
over a year ago

galway

anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. "

Cams. Not interested in them.not interested in cam verries. Get out the door and down the road. Works for me.

Technophobe too mind you.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

Not actually true "

We don't either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas"

Because they don't meet you it makes them a time waster? Do they owe you a meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. "
I don't either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a Club, far easier to meet real gen people. x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas"

I've had the chat and block thing, even arranged a meet then blocked on the day arranged. If I'm interested in meeting someone now I just give my mobile number and say text or call and we can arrange something. If they're genuine and want to meet they'll contact you, if they don't then no time is wasted with endless messages that lead nowhere.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

if a fem is verified after 3 or 4 months I don't think they ever will be. there are that many guys and couples after a single fem they can get a meet in am hour of joining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. I don't either "
nor do either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a fem is verified after 3 or 4 months I don't think they ever will be. there are that many guys and couples after a single fem they can get a meet in am hour of joining"

They could but would they WANT to?? It took me ages to meet someone on here that I really clicked with, I'm not going to shag juat anyone just to get a little green tick!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

"

I tend to agree but its amazing the amount of people on here for over a year without any verifications. I block non verified people now and don't have many problems anymore.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters"

And how do you conclude that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters"

Bit harsh on people who are struggling to get a meet.

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By *yLongJourneyMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days"

I dont have one at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate cam chat anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters"

That's such a typical couple comment. I've no veris cos no one ever responds to messages! But I'm definitely not a time waster.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Look for meet verified people, look for people who meet regularly, pro tip if they have 3 webcam verifications over 3 years they probably are not going to meet you.

Understand that single females who play with couples are a very very very small minority of users on this site and they have a massive amount of people to pick from.

Try to use a combination of things early on cam, phone or a social to make sure and really common sense is your greatest ally here.

Unverified 19 year old who wants to meet everything and has been here over a year without any meets ? probably not meeting any time soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone doesn't have any verifications doesn't actually mean they've not met anyone, just means that the person they met hasn't been nice enough to write one. Doesn't mean I'm a time waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas"

Hire a paid fem escort...

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

There are three things you can do to be absolutely sure that you massively improve both the number of veries you have, and your chances of meeting genuine people.

(The crowd leans forward, eager to learn from the Jedi-swing Master)

1. Go to socials

2. Go to socials

3..... do I really have to say it?

Here endeth the lesson.

(Five years swinging... zero no-shows!)

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. I don't either nor do either "

we don't either and if we did we wouldn't use it for verification

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

The best things always about these threads are the people with huge amount of verifications that wouldn't use X method or Y method to verify they are real.

Well Duh, a large amount of verifications over a period of time sort of suggest you're a real person so it doesnt really apply to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But when you say to a women on here cam or phone your thought of been a perv if you say it early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas"

How long do you chat before asking for a meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree hun some I have met didnt verify me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

How long do you chat before asking for a meet? "

I say about 2 weeks then meet for a drink or a pub lunch just keep it social then if sparks whatever will be will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adobe flash not supported by Apple. Can view webcams using Puffin browser but can't use own webcam on ipad so not everyone has webcam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Search and message yourself?

And use filters to block unwanted incoming mail?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

How long do you chat before asking for a meet?

I say about 2 weeks then meet for a drink or a pub lunch just keep it social then if sparks whatever will be will be"

I wouldn't meet 2 strangers after 2 weeks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are three things you can do to be absolutely sure that you massively improve both the number of veries you have, and your chances of meeting genuine people.

(The crowd leans forward, eager to learn from the Jedi-swing Master)

1. Go to socials

2. Go to socials

3..... do I really have to say it?

Here endeth the lesson.

(Five years swinging... zero no-shows!) "

not everyone lives within reasonable distance to these socials!! Plus there are other ways of detecting timewasters!

Use your filters, thats what they're there for.

(Three years swinging....zero no-shows oh and zero socials!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Search and message yourself?

And use filters to block unwanted incoming mail?

They can't bitch about single men if they block them

Not that they're even looking for them "

yes they can bitch about single men its taken over fox hunting

Some and i dont mean o p in this would rarely post if not to moan about single men.

Solution as others say use the filters instead of moaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days"

I do not have computer just phone and to be honest cam vetifications to me are nothing more than showing faces does not prove what the person is like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. I don't either nor do either

we don't either and if we did we wouldn't use it for verification "

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By *yLongJourneyMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft


"There are three things you can do to be absolutely sure that you massively improve both the number of veries you have, and your chances of meeting genuine people.

(The crowd leans forward, eager to learn from the Jedi-swing Master)

1. Go to socials

2. Go to socials

3..... do I really have to say it?

Here endeth the lesson.

(Five years swinging... zero no-shows!)

not everyone lives within reasonable distance to these socials!! Plus there are other ways of detecting timewasters!

Use your filters, thats what they're there for.

(Three years swinging....zero no-shows oh and zero socials!!) "

i love this woman already, look at that ZERO no shows and ZERO socials. i have never intended myself to go to a social at all and there is the proof i was looking for, BLISS!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are three things you can do to be absolutely sure that you massively improve both the number of veries you have, and your chances of meeting genuine people.

(The crowd leans forward, eager to learn from the Jedi-swing Master)

1. Go to socials

2. Go to socials

3..... do I really have to say it?

Here endeth the lesson.

(Five years swinging... zero no-shows!)

not everyone lives within reasonable distance to these socials!! Plus there are other ways of detecting timewasters!

Use your filters, thats what they're there for.

(Three years swinging....zero no-shows oh and zero socials!!)

i love this woman already, look at that ZERO no shows and ZERO socials. i have never intended myself to go to a social at all and there is the proof i was looking for, BLISS!!!!!!!!! "

Yep! It can work for some!!

Now all you need to do is get that sex change..............

Seriously though - you will rarely find someone of the female persuasion struggling for meets and particularly complaining on the forums. They don't need socials, clubs and help getting interest and meets - just sometimes finding guys that will show up - hence they often pay more attention to veri's.

And since the biggest alleged issue with guys is getting veri's - the best advice for those guys is attending clubs and socials.

There's no one size fits all model - particularly when gender is the issue. But I'll stand by my opinion that ANYONE can avoid timewasters, fakes - whatever you want to call them - using both the tools the site gives you AS WELL as simple common sense and a realistic expectation of what sites such as Fab can help (note help - not provide) you with in terms of fun and company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

How long do you chat before asking for a meet?

I say about 2 weeks then meet for a drink or a pub lunch just keep it social then if sparks whatever will be will be

I wouldn't meet 2 strangers after 2 weeks... "

We will meet someone same day they message if we like them , it's amazing how many get cold feet if you suggest it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

How long do you chat before asking for a meet?

I say about 2 weeks then meet for a drink or a pub lunch just keep it social then if sparks whatever will be will be

I wouldn't meet 2 strangers after 2 weeks...

We will meet someone same day they message if we like them , it's amazing how many get cold feet if you suggest it "

Yeah...send yer mrs by herself, see if ye like it then!

Its not "cold feet", its 'personal safety'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are three things you can do to be absolutely sure that you massively improve both the number of veries you have, and your chances of meeting genuine people.

(The crowd leans forward, eager to learn from the Jedi-swing Master)

1. Go to socials

2. Go to socials

3..... do I really have to say it?

Here endeth the lesson.

(Five years swinging... zero no-shows!)

not everyone lives within reasonable distance to these socials!! Plus there are other ways of detecting timewasters!

Use your filters, thats what they're there for.

(Three years swinging....zero no-shows oh and zero socials!!)

i love this woman already, look at that ZERO no shows and ZERO socials. i have never intended myself to go to a social at all and there is the proof i was looking for, BLISS!!!!!!!!! "

Awww someone luvs me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And not showing veri after 3 months is a timewater ?

I dont think so , I have had a cpl of meets and neither of them bothered to verify me .

Cant use that as a pointer towards being a timewaster !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And not showing veri after 3 months is a timewater ?

I dont think so , I have had a cpl of meets and neither of them bothered to verify me .

Cant use that as a pointer towards being a timewaster !!"

`i totally agree. Not all people are kind enough to write a verification after a meet x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days"

I don't!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get to a club x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters"

I (without veri) was stood up by a woman with veri's, so not that infalible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - If you seek the Holy Grail of a single bi female who wants to meet a couple you will be in for a long wait.

I see you have been on for over a year and have (apparently) no veris. Perhaps the other side of time wasters is being too darn choosy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - If you seek the Holy Grail of a single bi female who wants to meet a couple you will be in for a long wait.

I see you have been on for over a year and have (apparently) no veris. Perhaps the other side of time wasters is being too darn choosy?

"

Why is knowing what they want being too choosy? If they accept that it is looking for something quite difficult...What do you suggest they change?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

I tend to agree but its amazing the amount of people on here for over a year without any verifications. I block non verified people now and don't have many problems anymore."

Yet some of us manage to meet unverified people with no problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think maybe you are too pushy for many fems...many couples tend to treat single fems in the same way that many single guys treat women in general....like they've got nothing better to do, than to meet when it suits you...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been stood up by guys with veris and contact the night before, timewasters

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

Bit harsh on people who are struggling to get a meet."

Some people aren't struggling to get meets, they simply don't care or want verifying as they manage to select playmates with similar mindset and don't rely on Fab for meets or make the site the centre of their universe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

I tend to agree but its amazing the amount of people on here for over a year without any verifications. I block non verified people now and don't have many problems anymore.

Yet some of us manage to meet unverified people with no problem. "

I agree, I'm not saying I wouldn't meet someone who isn't verified or that I haven't in the past, none of us were verified at some point but I've have been mucked around more by people who weren't verified so applied the filter as a personal preference.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Just because someone doesn't have any verifications doesn't actually mean they've not met anyone, just means that the person they met hasn't been nice enough to write one. Doesn't mean I'm a time waster."

Has nothing to do with being "nice". It may be hard for some to understand but not everyone cares about verifications.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

How long do you chat before asking for a meet?

I say about 2 weeks then meet for a drink or a pub lunch just keep it social then if sparks whatever will be will be

I wouldn't meet 2 strangers after 2 weeks... "

Some people "meet now"...horses for courses.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"There are three things you can do to be absolutely sure that you massively improve both the number of veries you have, and your chances of meeting genuine people.

(The crowd leans forward, eager to learn from the Jedi-swing Master)

1. Go to socials

2. Go to socials

3..... do I really have to say it?

Here endeth the lesson.

(Five years swinging... zero no-shows!)

not everyone lives within reasonable distance to these socials!! Plus there are other ways of detecting timewasters!

Use your filters, thats what they're there for.

(Three years swinging....zero no-shows oh and zero socials!!) "

Six years swinging, social meets 100m from my office during my lunchtime. Unverified members and from other sites too. Zero social or club...zero no show!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

Bit harsh on people who are struggling to get a meet.

Some people aren't struggling to get meets, they simply don't care or want verifying as they manage to select playmates with similar mindset and don't rely on Fab for meets or make the site the centre of their universe."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

How long do you chat before asking for a meet?

I say about 2 weeks then meet for a drink or a pub lunch just keep it social then if sparks whatever will be will be

I wouldn't meet 2 strangers after 2 weeks...

Some people "meet now"...horses for courses. "

Yes, but that doesn't make those who 'don't', "timewasters", it just makes them...maybe..fussy, not into random shags, wanting to get to trust people first, or even maybe...just not interested, but "timewaster"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe "timewaster" and the walter mittys and those leading double lives on here are all getting put in the same boat and they are two different things

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I wish the word "timewaster" would be banned for several reasons....

1) it is such an easy accusation to throw out... put all the blame squarely elsewhere and the person who is using it blameless....

no offence... but if you are picking people to play with, and all the time you get "timewsters"... the common factor is you!

change the way you do your selecting... basically.. Pick better!!!!

2) its only actually "time wasting" if you are doing something you would not have been doing anyway... so for example going to a meet and they no show.

so for all those people who think of someone ending talking as "timewasters" its not, I am guessing you would have been here talking to other people instead... you are not doing something you wouldn't be doing!

but other than that... keep calm and carry on!!!

p.s.. socials... they aren't for everyone, but they certainly help! if someone makes an effort to go to one they are certainly trying to make an impression to stand out.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish the word "timewaster" would be banned for several reasons....

1) it is such an easy accusation to throw out... put all the blame squarely elsewhere and the person who is using it blameless....

no offence... but if you are picking people to play with, and all the time you get "timewsters"... the common factor is you!

change the way you do your selecting... basically.. Pick better!!!!

2) its only actually "time wasting" if you are doing something you would not have been doing anyway... so for example going to a meet and they no show.

so for all those people who think of someone ending talking as "timewasters" its not, I am guessing you would have been here talking to other people instead... you are not doing something you wouldn't be doing!

but other than that... keep calm and carry on!!!

p.s.. socials... they aren't for everyone, but they certainly help! if someone makes an effort to go to one they are certainly trying to make an impression to stand out....."

Spot On!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish the word "timewaster" would be banned for several reasons....

1) it is such an easy accusation to throw out... put all the blame squarely elsewhere and the person who is using it blameless....

no offence... but if you are picking people to play with, and all the time you get "timewsters"... the common factor is you!

change the way you do your selecting... basically.. Pick better!!!!

2) its only actually "time wasting" if you are doing something you would not have been doing anyway... so for example going to a meet and they no show.

so for all those people who think of someone ending talking as "timewasters" its not, I am guessing you would have been here talking to other people instead... you are not doing something you wouldn't be doing!

but other than that... keep calm and carry on!!!

p.s.. socials... they aren't for everyone, but they certainly help! if someone makes an effort to go to one they are certainly trying to make an impression to stand out....."
... Everything I was too lazy to write myself.

I call myself a time waster on my profile , eliminates all the pushy people who think I have nothing else going on in my life.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

Just fallen foul of a timewaster. Been planning a meet for a few weeks now. He even messaged us this morning to check it was still on. Suddenly silence. The guy had good verifications too. Sadly he turned out to be a time wasting prick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just fallen foul of a timewaster. Been planning a meet for a few weeks now. He even messaged us this morning to check it was still on. Suddenly silence. The guy had good verifications too. Sadly he turned out to be a time wasting prick."

Just because YOU don't know why he hasn't contacted you, doesn't mean he HAS been wasting your time, what 'time' has he actually wasted?

You've hardly booked a room and brass band have you?

And now you reduce yourself to namecalling? Mmmmm...can't imagine why he's not falling over himself to get to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have differing views as to what time wasting actually is as with anything in life. I've had many occasions when chatting to people where the messaging has just suddenly stopped on their part, never to be heard from again or they delete their profile or block you. Frustrating as this is, especially if it seems to be going well, I don't consider this time wasting though some others might. The only time my time is wasted which has happened on a few occasions over the years, is when you take the time to get ready, travel somewhere only to get a txt with a poor excuse or nothing at all or at worst, have booked a room only to have a no show. Everyone is entitled to change their mind, unfortunately many don't have the respect or decency to just be honest for fear of upsetting the other person.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

That's such a typical couple comment. I've no veris cos no one ever responds to messages! But I'm definitely not a time waster. "

Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

Bit harsh on people who are struggling to get a meet.

Some people aren't struggling to get meets, they simply don't care or want verifying as they manage to select playmates with similar mindset and don't rely on Fab for meets or make the site the centre of their universe."

+1

I don't give or want verifications, most of my meets are straight, usually married men, and discretion is important, veris are useful if you are looking for someone who meets lots of people, and you can , by using veris, track the type of people they meet and have sex with, another tool in the selection process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think we all have differing views as to what time wasting actually is as with anything in life. I've had many occasions when chatting to people where the messaging has just suddenly stopped on their part, never to be heard from again or they delete their profile or block you. Frustrating as this is, especially if it seems to be going well, I don't consider this time wasting though some others might. The only time my time is wasted which has happened on a few occasions over the years, is when you take the time to get ready, travel somewhere only to get a txt with a poor excuse or nothing at all or at worst, have booked a room only to have a no show. Everyone is entitled to change their mind, unfortunately many don't have the respect or decency to just be honest for fear of upsetting the other person. "

Agree with this. A time waster for me is when a meet is arranged, child care arrangements made, work pattern changed to fit in with meet for them to cancel, but not even have the decency to contact you - you contact them to confirm and a million and one reasons come up as to why they can't meet. All these things you have done to put the meet in place have used your time, hence they are a time waster.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I disagree. We went for a year without a meet for various reasons all genuine and we never wasted anyone's time.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


".... ... Everything I was too lazy to write myself.

I call myself a time waster on my profile , eliminates all the pushy people who think I have nothing else going on in my life."

What you said has to be said more and more, we get a lot of gyp simply because a) we do not always drop everything for someone else's whim and b) because we do not spend 24 hours a day together and thus are not always in here together. Apparently that makes Andy a pervert and a liar. Lol

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By *aughtyplaym8s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Medway


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas

Because they don't meet you it makes them a time waster? Do they owe you a meet?"

No just string you along and make out a meet and then delete account.. Thats NORMAL?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's happened to me a couple of times or they block you, its life on here unfortunately.

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By *unwithus2.Couple
over a year ago

south kent


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas"

join the club we have loads of wasted meets, one meet in a hotel, both text to say they would be there,one even said he was just leaving

we booked one for in the afternoon, the other in the evening,

both had our numbers and the location on where to meet, which wasn't to far away,

neither of them turned up at the hotel. so i hd the wife all to my self, yum-yum lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. I don't either nor do either "

We met a couple who said they had no cam. We would talk on Skype, they could see us but we couldn't see them. They blocked us when we insisted on seeing them. I find it hard to believe people have no cam or even smart phone they could use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. I don't either nor do either

We met a couple who said they had no cam. We would talk on Skype, they could see us but we couldn't see them. They blocked us when we insisted on seeing them. I find it hard to believe people have no cam or even smart phone they could use. "

I think you will find quite a few people don't have cam.If I had it I wouldn't use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. I don't either nor do either

We met a couple who said they had no cam. We would talk on Skype, they could see us but we couldn't see them. They blocked us when we insisted on seeing them. I find it hard to believe people have no cam or even smart phone they could use.

I think you will find quite a few people don't have cam.If I had it I wouldn't use it."

Nor me. We trust our gut instincts and have never been wrong. If we have enough doubts about someone being genuine that we feel the only way to check is phone or cam then we don't bother. And we feel no need to use those methods to prove that we are "genuine"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - If you seek the Holy Grail of a single bi female who wants to meet a couple you will be in for a long wait.

I see you have been on for over a year and have (apparently) no veris. Perhaps the other side of time wasters is being too darn choosy?

Why is knowing what they want being too choosy? If they accept that it is looking for something quite difficult...What do you suggest they change?"

Surely, "knowing what they want" is a reasonable literal definition of "being choosy"? If they are choosy then they have a narrow field and must be very patient about finding what they want. If they actually want a quicker meet it is better if they are less choosy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters"

I disagree, being one myself. Although it is hard to be taken seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

That's such a typical couple comment. I've no veris cos no one ever responds to messages! But I'm definitely not a time waster.

Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

That's such a typical couple comment. I've no veris cos no one ever responds to messages! But I'm definitely not a time waster.

Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad "

Do you know where west Cumbria is?

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By *ames blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad "

Have you looked at the availability of socials in the North East region?

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By *iceguy25Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

I dont get time wasters it happens to us single guys to

But when i hear of guys doing it puzzles me

If you break it down to basics men are horny gits and want sex most of the time

So they come on here chat to people they are attracted to they put all the leg work in

Then they get to the stage of a meet lets face it unless its a social you know you are going to get luck but the second sex is offered on a plate the dont take it :-S

And the worst thing is people stop trusting single guys (cant blame them)

All i can say is EVERY meet social or otherwise i have turned up when told and as of yet not met anyone that wont have me back

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By *rednkatieCouple
over a year ago

orlando

it is what it is.. really no exact way to know if their gonna waist your time or not. we also have been with a few that didnt verify us and we also have had our time wasted many many times to the point that we really never believe its gonna happen until its happening. but i have to say just last weekend we turned out to be time wasters.. the same morning of scheduled meet katie had the visitor show up bad timing for it but she cant help mother nature,we felt horrible..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

Have you looked at the availability of socials in the North East region?"

Like Newcastle?? Stop making excuses. If you don't like whats on offer organise your own Social!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a fem is verified after 3 or 4 months I don't think they ever will be. there are that many guys and couples after a single fem they can get a meet in am hour of joining"

Some of ur like to be discreet about who we meet so never have any verifications ! It dont mean we are timewasters

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a fem is verified after 3 or 4 months I don't think they ever will be. there are that many guys and couples after a single fem they can get a meet in am hour of joining

Some of ur like to be discreet about who we meet so never have any verifications ! It dont mean we are timewasters "

So if a fem isn't verified after 3 months she is a time waster because she could have anybody on here and will meet anyone who offers. Warped logic there!! I'm not here to work my way through the site to prove I'm not a time waster.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Some people need to accept that others simply dont want to meet them

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By *ames blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

Have you looked at the availability of socials in the North East region?

Like Newcastle?? Stop making excuses. If you don't like whats on offer organise your own Social!! "

Sorry to spoil your arrogant attitude but I have never seen a post of an organised SOCIAL in Newcastle.

I actually have no wish to drive a 120mile round trip in order to meet someone who may live 5 miles from me.

I was just pointing out that not everywhere has the same facilities. To believe that is just showing ignorance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

Have yit'slooked at the availability of socials in the North East region?

Like Newcastle?? Stop making excuses. If you don't like whats on offer organise your own Social!!

Sorry to spoil your arrogant attitude but I have never seen a post of an organised SOCIAL in Newcastle.

I actually have no wish to drive a 120mile round trip in order to meet someone who may live 5 miles from me.

I was just pointing out that not everywhere has the same facilities. To believe that is just showing ignorance!"

Well maybe you are not looking in the right places. Under the UK forum there is an organised SOCIAL arranged for Feb. But of course it's easier to call me arrogant than actually make the effort and look yourself.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

Have you looked at the availability of socials in the North East region?

Like Newcastle?? Stop making excuses. If you don't like whats on offer organise your own Social!!

Sorry to spoil your arrogant attitude but I have never seen a post of an organised SOCIAL in Newcastle.

I actually have no wish to drive a 120mile round trip in order to meet someone who may live 5 miles from me.

I was just pointing out that not everywhere has the same facilities. To believe that is just showing ignorance!"

just as an experiment.. I put newcastle in the big search box....

have a guess at the thing at the top of the list...

Newcastle social... 8th feb!

so not looking hard enough.....

you many not want to travel the 120 mile round trip... but here is the kicker.. a hell of a lot of people do...

200 people at the last social, thats potentially 200 people you are missing out on networking with....

with regards to complaining about not having something close.... rather than complain, get off your arse and organise something.. simple as

doesn't have to be the biggest thing in the world....

if everyone waits on someone else to do something, nothing gets done....

you have the power to change something... or you can be a sheep and bleat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to get all the time wasters that this site can offer contact us.. Those people that chat until you mention a meet then blocked. Just looking for fems any ideas"

Oh, the benefits of free membership.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabio - as always your forum posts are spot on!! In future I think we should all quote your posts as an example of how single men can be successful. You may take over from Tina's Forum insurance

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

That's such a typical couple comment. I've no veris cos no one ever responds to messages! But I'm definitely not a time waster.

Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

Do you know where west Cumbria is?"

Sure do, I'm even more remote than you jameaters down here in woollyback land and I'm off to Xtasia for the big forum social next week, was in Manc with another forumite last weekend and off partying in Penrith at Easter...I know I have a fanjiner therefore it's a good bit easier for me to get meets but making an effort to get to a social or club is (in my opinion) no bad thing - and guess what? You (or I) might get laid!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

there was the same complaint about there being no socials in the north east many moons ago..... because no one would get off their arses and organise something

so in the end I decided to stick my next out and do it....

and I am glad that other people decided to take up the mantle and do them....

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone


"Always suggest a cam chat, everyone has a cam these days

I don't.

I don't. I don't either nor do either "
Me neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters

I tend to agree but its amazing the amount of people on here for over a year without any verifications. I block non verified people now and don't have many problems anymore."

We have met guys on here who have been here over a year with no veris.

Asked one of them why they had not been verified he said the longer you on here without being verified the harder it is to get a meet.

Turned out to be one of the nicest guys we have met x

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By *ames blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

Have yit'slooked at the availability of socials in the North East region?

Like Newcastle?? Stop making excuses. If you don't like whats on offer

organise your own Social!!

Sorry to spoil your arrogant attitude but I have never seen a post of an organised SOCIAL in Newcastle.

I actually have no wish to drive a 120mile round trip in order to meet someone who may live 5 miles from me.

I was just pointing out that not everywhere has the same facilities. To believe that is just showing ignorance!

Well maybe you are not looking in the right places. Under the UK forum there is an organised SOCIAL arranged for Feb. But of course it's easier to call me arrogant than actually make the effort and look yourself."

Three times tonight (latest 30 seconds ago) I have been into meets, Events for North East Socials & NOTHING in Newcastle. Maybe you lot are using a different method but all that means is that the system is failing. Besides which I don't live in Newcastle.

As for 'getting off my arse' to go to Newcastle which is somewhere I don't care to go, why should I.

I have turned down at least 6 meets this week so don't see the point.

I have NOT bleated about meets etc, just pointed out that not all places are equal. Is that too hard to understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have cam - but I do scare a few in the chat rooms

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socials are frequent and all over. No excuses really unless you live somewhere very remote or are serving abroad

Have yit'slooked at the availability of socials in the North East region?

Like Newcastle?? Stop making excuses. If you don't like whats on offer

organise your own Social!!

Sorry to spoil your arrogant attitude but I have never seen a post of an organised SOCIAL in Newcastle.

I actually have no wish to drive a 120mile round trip in order to meet someone who may live 5 miles from me.

I was just pointing out that not everywhere has the same facilities. To believe that is just showing ignorance!

Well maybe you are not looking in the right places. Under the UK forum there is an organised SOCIAL arranged for Feb. But of course it's easier to call me arrogant than actually make the effort and look yourself.

Three times tonight (latest 30 seconds ago) I have been into meets, Events for North East Socials & NOTHING in Newcastle. Maybe you lot are using a different method but all that means is that the system is failing. Besides which I don't live in Newcastle.

As for 'getting off my arse' to go to Newcastle which is somewhere I don't care to go, why should I.

I have turned down at least 6 meets this week so don't see the point.

I have NOT bleated about meets etc, just pointed out that not all places are equal. Is that too hard to understand?"

Awww bless you petal. You are obviously struggling! Again -look under UK forum. Not meets and requests. Is that easier to understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey all we have been on for a good few months now with no meets :/ not for the lack of trying though...had loads of chats and even came close to meeting a couple of times but they didnt show up

it is hard work to the fact that my partner doesnt even come on here anymore so that leaves just me (nick) trying to get things going and when i get talking to a nice woman she just thinks im a single male posing as a couple...there you go...theres my pennys worth lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone on here more than three monts without a valadation seems to me to be timewasters"

This is probably one of the most blinkered, ignorant, narrow-minded, know-it-all comments on the thread.

From my experience, there are a minority of verified couples who let their verifications go to their head, and use it as either a status symbol or as an excuse to look down and insult unverified members. It took me 7 months to become verified on here, but it hasn't made me a big-headed bastard.

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By *ames blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


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Awww bless you petal. You are obviously struggling! Again -look under UK forum. Not meets and requests. Is that easier to understand."

I'm not struggling at all, don't know where you get that from.

I looked in the correct place - Meets, Events (not request as you misquote).

Thought that might be a logical place to look for an event. Silly me eh!

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By *ames blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Funny place this

I make one comment about this area & get slated & abused for having an opinion.

Some people are very touchy aren't they lol

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