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"Sub-drop? If it is you need cuddles and sweeties." Yes, had them  | |||
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"Have really hit a bad low after last night, maybe I should just do this every night then I won't suffer "Never nice to see a fellow fabby down hope u ok xxxx nothings ever that bad sweetie never !!! Xxx | |||
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"Have really hit a bad low after last night, maybe I should just do this every night then I won't suffer
Never nice to see a fellow fabby down hope u ok xxxx nothings ever that bad sweetie never !!! Xxx"Aww thank you .its not a down as in depressed down.so I know I'll be okay Nice to know people care though | |||
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"Lol if a guy had posted this he would of got some right stick .... Man up, grow a pair mate. eX cRypT keEpeR -|-" Hmm well there is some truth in that. | |||
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As for OP; hope it passes soon. Lots of cuddles and wine usually help for me xxx | |||
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"Well thank you for explain what it is I feel after a good session; I never knew it was something other people felt too or that it had a name. There are several situations that cause this for me but I'm not wanting to hijack this thread; just wanted to say thank you
As for OP; hope it passes soon. Lots of cuddles and wine usually help for me xxx" | |||
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"By the looks of OPs pics she is into the BDSM lifestyle.So I would assume from other comments she is suffering sub drop "Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms. If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense session."" Thanks for writing that so people can understand. I'm okay now | |||
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"Well thank you for explain what it is I feel after a good session; I never knew it was something other people felt too or that it had a name. There are several situations that cause this for me but I'm not wanting to hijack this thread; just wanted to say thank you
As for OP; hope it passes soon. Lots of cuddles and wine usually help for me xxx"I'm good now, thanks. It does help when it's understood xx | |||
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"Oh I'm so sorry, didn't mean to concern, just had an amazing night and the low after can hit quite hard X" even if it only a little life taster, grasp onto it but gently as it should be x keep the colour in life x | |||
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"Lol if a guy had posted this he would of got some right stick .... Man up, grow a pair mate. eX cRypT keEpeR -|-" If a guy had posted this, feeling as I had, He wouldn't have got stick from people who understand | |||
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"Lol if a guy had posted this he would of got some right stick .... Man up, grow a pair mate. eX cRypT keEpeR -|- If a guy had posted this, feeling as I had, He wouldn't have got stick from people who understand " Oh maybe all the Trolls are in bed 
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" Before anyone rants at my post I am not in any way slagging this post off . ok ? I Can never quite get my head around this bdsm thing . Obviously it works for millions which is great - we all have our kicks I just don't understand how something which can give you symptoms as described in some of the answers above is continued Why would you do something that makes you feel this way ? Is the high so bloody good that it's the risk you take ? Seriously if the posts are right and this down can lead to depression . Is ot really worth the risk ?? Not so sure I'd put my mental health at risk for anything " Yes the high is amazing !!! The after effects, in my case are usually fine.sometimes you can hit a low, but it's something that I bounce back from and yes its most certainly worth the 'risk' as you put it | |||
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" Before anyone rants at my post I am not in any way slagging this post off . ok ? I Can never quite get my head around this bdsm thing . Obviously it works for millions which is great - we all have our kicks I just don't understand how something which can give you symptoms as described in some of the answers above is continued Why would you do something that makes you feel this way ? Is the high so bloody good that it's the risk you take ? Seriously if the posts are right and this down can lead to depression . Is ot really worth the risk ?? Not so sure I'd put my mental health at risk for anything " Would you ask this question to people who go out drinking even though they may have a hangover for days or someone into an extreme sport that may leave them aching and bruised or even worse? | |||
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" Before anyone rants at my post I am not in any way slagging this post off . ok ? I Can never quite get my head around this bdsm thing . Obviously it works for millions which is great - we all have our kicks I just don't understand how something which can give you symptoms as described in some of the answers above is continued Why would you do something that makes you feel this way ? Is the high so bloody good that it's the risk you take ? Seriously if the posts are right and this down can lead to depression . Is ot really worth the risk ?? Not so sure I'd put my mental health at risk for anything Would you ask this question to people who go out drinking even though they may have a hangover for days or someone into an extreme sport that may leave them aching and bruised or even worse?" If I saw a post on here saying I'm feeling really down and really low And they said I had a really great parachute jump last night . It wa so good that now im so low I need to write on the forums for support Or I went out last night and got so pissed I'm feeling the same Yes I would reply and say then why do it ? My point of view is also a hang over maybe lasts a few hours and I've never heard of a hangover that affects your emotional health And if I ever did ... I wouldn't do it again Hangovers are usually a short term symptom Mental health problems are different | |||
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" Before anyone rants at my post I am not in any way slagging this post off . ok ? I Can never quite get my head around this bdsm thing . Obviously it works for millions which is great - we all have our kicks I just don't understand how something which can give you symptoms as described in some of the answers above is continued Why would you do something that makes you feel this way ? Is the high so bloody good that it's the risk you take ? Seriously if the posts are right and this down can lead to depression . Is ot really worth the risk ?? Not so sure I'd put my mental health at risk for anything Would you ask this question to people who go out drinking even though they may have a hangover for days or someone into an extreme sport that may leave them aching and bruised or even worse? If I saw a post on here saying I'm feeling really down and really low And they said I had a really great parachute jump last night . It wa so good that now im so low I need to write on the forums for support Or I went out last night and got so pissed I'm feeling the same Yes I would reply and say then why do it ? My point of view is also a hang over maybe lasts a few hours and I've never heard of a hangover that affects your emotional health And if I ever did ... I wouldn't do it again Hangovers are usually a short term symptom Mental health problems are different " So I'm not allowed to write on the forum, to have replies from people who know what I'm talking about and who offer support!! As you said~you don't get 'this' fair enough. I don't understand what a lot of people do on here but it's their choice It's a bit of a low, not a mental health problem. Believe me, if you knew my life, you'd know, this is a blessed release and if I'm a bit low after, so be it. | |||
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"had the effect of the high whilst in "sub space " described as more intense then any orgasm they have ever experienced felt throughout the whole body and prolonged .the actual high dependent on the cause can last anything between 10 mins and 10 hours .think how your body and mind would react after an orgasm lasting more than ten minuets this is where the term sub drop comes in as the effect of the endforins and the adrenalin rush subside a low comes in if not handled right it can effect people badly this is where good after care comes in . even with good after care some experience a low some days after and this i think is what the OP is meaning " Yes exactly, I do have amazing aftercare, my doms are wonderful.and if the original post was read again, I'd said, maybe I should do this every night lol Thank you | |||
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" Before anyone rants at my post I am not in any way slagging this post off . ok ? I Can never quite get my head around this bdsm thing . Obviously it works for millions which is great - we all have our kicks I just don't understand how something which can give you symptoms as described in some of the answers above is continued Why would you do something that makes you feel this way ? Is the high so bloody good that it's the risk you take ? Seriously if the posts are right and this down can lead to depression . Is ot really worth the risk ?? Not so sure I'd put my mental health at risk for anything Would you ask this question to people who go out drinking even though they may have a hangover for days or someone into an extreme sport that may leave them aching and bruised or even worse? If I saw a post on here saying I'm feeling really down and really low And they said I had a really great parachute jump last night . It wa so good that now im so low I need to write on the forums for support Or I went out last night and got so pissed I'm feeling the same Yes I would reply and say then why do it ? My point of view is also a hang over maybe lasts a few hours and I've never heard of a hangover that affects your emotional health And if I ever did ... I wouldn't do it again Hangovers are usually a short term symptom Mental health problems are different So I'm not allowed to write on the forum, to have replies from people who know what I'm talking about and who offer support!! As you said~you don't get 'this' fair enough. I don't understand what a lot of people do on here but it's their choice It's a bit of a low, not a mental health problem. Believe me, if you knew my life, you'd know, this is a blessed release and if I'm a bit low after, so be it." You can do as you like sweetheart ! | |||
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"By the looks of OPs pics she is into the BDSM lifestyle.So I would assume from other comments she is suffering sub drop "Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms. If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense session."" this is probably one of the best answers i've ever seen in a forum !!. none judgemental and not over bearing. Very informative, and even though i dont get into BDSM, if someone gets their kicks from it, it's good that there is another to help with the down side. I think liking it to getting d*unk is a good thing, because most people do it.. and do it again. At least the only people involved in getting "hurt", are those that want to get "hurt". unlike alcohol !.. thanks again | |||
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"By the looks of OPs pics she is into the BDSM lifestyle.So I would assume from other comments she is suffering sub drop "Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms. If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense session." this is probably one of the best answers i've ever seen in a forum !!. none judgemental and not over bearing. Very informative, and even though i dont get into BDSM, if someone gets their kicks from it, it's good that there is another to help with the down side. I think liking it to getting d*unk is a good thing, because most people do it.. and do it again. At least the only people involved in getting "hurt", are those that want to get "hurt". unlike alcohol !.. thanks again"  | |||
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" Before anyone rants at my post I am not in any way slagging this post off . ok ? I Can never quite get my head around this bdsm thing . Obviously it works for millions which is great - we all have our kicks I just don't understand how something which can give you symptoms as described in some of the answers above is continued Why would you do something that makes you feel this way ? Is the high so bloody good that it's the risk you take ? Seriously if the posts are right and this down can lead to depression . Is ot really worth the risk ?? Not so sure I'd put my mental health at risk for anything " The sub drop is something I wasnt aware of until recently and I guess its different for most people. I generally feel good for days after a good meeting/session whatever however my play partner does experience sub drop and needs her hugs and cuddles afterwards. As far as I am aware for her it is worth the drop to feel the high and I can understand how she feels (as well as the OP - and glad you are feeling good again ). The feeling of being in the zone, almost a several hours long orgasm, is simply amazing and worth a kick afterwards.
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" Before anyone rants at my post I am not in any way slagging this post off . ok ? I Can never quite get my head around this bdsm thing . Obviously it works for millions which is great - we all have our kicks I just don't understand how something which can give you symptoms as described in some of the answers above is continued Why would you do something that makes you feel this way ? Is the high so bloody good that it's the risk you take ? Seriously if the posts are right and this down can lead to depression . Is ot really worth the risk ?? Not so sure I'd put my mental health at risk for anything The sub drop is something I wasnt aware of until recently and I guess its different for most people. I generally feel good for days after a good meeting/session whatever however my play partner does experience sub drop and needs her hugs and cuddles afterwards. As far as I am aware for her it is worth the drop to feel the high and I can understand how she feels (as well as the OP - and glad you are feeling good again ). The feeling of being in the zone, almost a several hours long orgasm, is simply amazing and worth a kick afterwards.
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"You'll be fine when you come back up sweetie. Get some oj, chocs and a snuggley blanket. And a cuddle too." Thank you xx | |||
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"Its interesting to see certain reactions from people about sub drop as personaly I find the BDSM community more open to the idea that play partners have a responsibility to each other, so much so its almost expected. Whereas I find the swinging scene has lost that element, too much NSA especially in the comments telling OP to man up? I find it bemusing that the emotional thought of swinging is so unacceptable to people that OP can't talk about her feelings after a meet. Surely if OP is having stick about her feelings on a swinging forum after a meet that surely this just is another sex site?" Yes, people in the BDSM scene do have a different approach to 'afterwards' and it's a very emotional thing to share, unlike 'just sex' There seems to be quite a lot on here that share this but most are here because, yes, its a sex site X | |||
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"Its interesting to see certain reactions from people about sub drop as personaly I find the BDSM community more open to the idea that play partners have a responsibility to each other, so much so its almost expected. Whereas I find the swinging scene has lost that element, too much NSA especially in the comments telling OP to man up? I find it bemusing that the emotional thought of swinging is so unacceptable to people that OP can't talk about her feelings after a meet. Surely if OP is having stick about her feelings on a swinging forum after a meet that surely this just is another sex site? Yes, people in the BDSM scene do have a different approach to 'afterwards' and it's a very emotional thing to share, unlike 'just sex' There seems to be quite a lot on here that share this but most are here because, yes, its a sex site X" glad to hear you're feeling better frill x | |||
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"Yes it is worth it high is amazing and if you get the right after care you don't suffer from sub drop different for everyone" I agree, roll on next time I say Nette | |||
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"By the looks of OPs pics she is into the BDSM lifestyle.So I would assume from other comments she is suffering sub drop "Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms. If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense se ssion."" Mmmm...I don't see why its specific to subs...ANY play in which there's an intense connection can have the same effect...bruises and the such, just make me horny again! | |||
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"By the looks of OPs pics she is into the BDSM lifestyle.So I would assume from other comments she is suffering sub drop "Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms. If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense se ssion." Mmmm...I don't see why its specific to subs...ANY play in which there's an intense connection can have the same effect...bruises and the such, just make me horny again! " | |||
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"Oh I'm so sorry, didn't mean to concern, just had an amazing night and the low after can hit quite hard X" cheer yourself up by thinking about your next fab nite out, hee hee | |||
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"Wow never knew this was a thing. Reminds me of having an intense hangover after a crazy night out." It's most certainly a 'thing' | |||
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