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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Heyy. Really wanting my first meet. Looking for a female, I send face pics, very polite but get nothing back. I'm not an ugly lad. Just dunno what I'm doing wrong. Help me out ladies!!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Profile is poor, no public pics, unable to accommodate amd quite young.

Concentrate on what you can change.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. So I need more of a description?

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

re-vamp your profile.

your young, cannot accommodate.

Your up against lots of other single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the pub, pull a Bird n gain some Experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, you get out of this site what you put into it. If you put zero effort into your profile, expect zero return.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

If you wait for people to ask for more info you'll be waiting a long time.

A bit about what you are looking for, what you can bring to the party, inject some personality into it.

And get some public photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

firstly take your status down!!!!! thats hardly going to win u any friends, then write a little more about what your actually looking for the kind of sex u enjoy add any kinks or fantasies u never know maybe a young lady looking for the same thing, add a few more pics have a avatar or profile pic atleast then you will atleast get viewed cant remember if your a site supporter but become one at least it shows your here for a while and maybe genuine, try getting into chatrooms on cam or go to a local social and get varifed, and always remain polite and send decent messages,ummmm other than that fab is a breeze for single guys pmsl gd luck fella we all need a bit of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face to face social skills, iron your shirt son, call your mates, find a nightclub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree about the status. I hate grumpy negative statuses, I have blocked just on this basis before. I don't want to meet unpleasant people and I'm sure others don't either. Keep it light, it's not Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry mate, bit harsh.......

Do your research. Look at other peoples profiles. Don't copy them but get ideas

Don't lie or exaggerate but definitely put your good points to the fore

Upload some decent photos but don't overdo it on the cock pics. Maybe no cock pics to start with

You are young so play on it. There are some cougars on the site who are looking for guys like you

Say what you like, what you want to do, what you don't like if it's important

Sell yourself. People will probably only look at your profile for a very short time so make it eye catching and original.

Give it time, and if it doesn't happen straight away don't let your anger show in your posts. So remove the angry tag line on your profile. It puts people off.

Good luck mate and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be wrong but I reckon no one on this site has evet got a meet thanks to ranting/swearing/miserable status. Though you may of course prove me wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. Re-done the text and changed my status :D better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. Re-done the text and changed my status :D better? "

Never read the original profile but to be honest you just sound desperate to get laid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

For your body type you have "curvy", rightly or wrongly I think that comes across rather feminine than manly, so that's something to consider changing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if you send face photos in a message and more than one if requested. Does it really matter if you have your photo publically displayed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one will probably want to meet you due to your age, most will have kids your age so age will go against you, try looking for women in their 20's to start off with

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"Surely if you send face photos in a message and more than one if requested. Does it really matter if you have your photo publically displayed "

I don't think you need a face photo in public pictures but a silhouette isn't great, almost any photo is better.

Also although I don't think a public face photo is necessary it can give you the edge over others that don't have one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he's only a year younger than you :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he's only a year younger than you :p

"

shhhhh :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Face to face social skills, iron your shirt son, call your mates, find a nightclub"

I find this makes no sense. I have confidence and EI skills to have great face to face social skills however that makes no difference on an internet site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Face to face social skills, iron your shirt son, call your mates, find a nightclub"

This definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Face to face social skills, iron your shirt son, call your mates, find a nightclub

This definitely. "

Again having face to face social skills does what for someone behind closed doors on the internet.....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Heyy. Really wanting my first meet. Looking for a female, I send face pics, very polite but get nothing back. I'm not an ugly lad. Just dunno what I'm doing wrong. Help me out ladies!!"

I think there's an issue right there In your first post. Why are you only wanting help from ladies? Surely you should be asking for help from sexually successful men? Reason? You're a

guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Face to face social skills, iron your shirt son, call your mates, find a nightclub

This definitely.

Again having face to face social skills does what for someone behind closed doors on the internet....."

They're saying.f get off the internet and just go out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heyy. Really wanting my first meet. Looking for a female, I send face pics, very polite but get nothing back. I'm not an ugly lad. Just dunno what I'm doing wrong. Help me out ladies!!"

Keep with it sweetie - I'm sure things will happen soon enough - just make sure the pics you have are the best ! No looking down or frowning at the camera etc

Its harder for younger guys on here x

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By *ingjayMan
over a year ago

exeter

Go on pof!!!!

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By *eeper01Man
over a year ago

weston super mare

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By *eeper01Man
over a year ago

weston super mare


"And the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol."

that's a hell of a gangbang lol

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"And the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol.

that's a hell of a gangbang lol "

I'm free!!

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley


"Go to the pub, pull a Bird n gain some Experience "

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

a few things...

4 weeks doesn't exactly scream patience.....

do some research... see how others may have done theres (don't copy though!) people want to be able to get a good feel for you... and that needs to be done in your own own words...

I am a great fan of "simple".... sit down, pen, pad and actually just take some time to write something, not just full of buzz words that you think sound good.... give people a reason as to why they should meet you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he's only a year younger than you :p

shhhhh :P "

Pretty sure as a 21yr old female fab life is a tad easier than it us for a 20yr old guy.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"

Pretty sure as a 21yr old female fab life is a tad easier than it us for a 20yr old guy. "

Only if she knows her photos are being used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up, go home, play on x-box, the women on here will eat you alive anyway!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he's only a year younger than you :p

shhhhh :P

Pretty sure as a 21yr old female fab life is a tad easier than it us for a 20yr old guy. "

I dunno she's got to cling to the back of my.bike soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate, you get out of this site what you put into it. If you put zero effort into your profile, expect zero return."
don't believe that this is true. I think our profile is a ok. We don't get much interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate, you get out of this site what you put into it. If you put zero effort into your profile, expect zero return. don't believe that this is true. I think our profile is a ok. We don't get much interest"

And oddly enough, I have seen profiles with a few lines, no pictures and a long list of verifications, indeed I have someone on my friends list who has also only been here 6 days but is already verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heyy. Really wanting my first meet. Looking for a female, I send face pics, very polite but get nothing back. I'm not an ugly lad. Just dunno what I'm doing wrong. Help me out ladies!!"
Would you really have sex with a 99 year old ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has already been mentioned. You've only been here 4 weeks ... Granted some guys seem to get a meet almost immediately with no profile to speak of ... But there's a lot on here who've been here longer and may still be waiting for their first meet off here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As has already been mentioned. You've only been here 4 weeks ... Granted some guys seem to get a meet almost immediately with no profile to speak of ... But there's a lot on here who've been here longer and may still be waiting for their first meet off here"

Ha that is true as on my looked at list there is a guy who has been here 3 years but not yet verified! Site supporter tells me we exchanged messages 3 years ago that is how I know

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Don't use the word "FEMALE"

Sounds all wrong.

Try Girl, Lady, that shows a little more respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As has already been mentioned. You've only been here 4 weeks ... Granted some guys seem to get a meet almost immediately with no profile to speak of ... But there's a lot on here who've been here longer and may still be waiting for their first meet off here

Ha that is true as on my looked at list there is a guy who has been here 3 years but not yet verified! Site supporter tells me we exchanged messages 3 years ago that is how I know"
Is it me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate, you get out of this site what you put into it. If you put zero effort into your profile, expect zero return. don't believe that this is true. I think our profile is a ok. We don't get much interest

And oddly enough, I have seen profiles with a few lines, no pictures and a long list of verifications, indeed I have someone on my friends list who has also only been here 6 days but is already verified "

its the newbie thing ..a female profile bumps a male one in return for a gold membership,a male one bumps a female one thinking gets a lead on the chasing pack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't use the word "FEMALE"

Sounds all wrong.

Try Girl, Lady, that shows a little more respect. "

Or Bitch,..that usually gets a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As has already been mentioned. You've only been here 4 weeks ... Granted some guys seem to get a meet almost immediately with no profile to speak of ... But there's a lot on here who've been here longer and may still be waiting for their first meet off here

Ha that is true as on my looked at list there is a guy who has been here 3 years but not yet verified! Site supporter tells me we exchanged messages 3 years ago that is how I know"

Not sure how long I've been here now and yet I've still to get my first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't use the word "FEMALE"

Sounds all wrong.

Try Girl, Lady, that shows a little more respect.

Or Bitch,..that usually gets a response "

Something along lines of "fuck off"? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he's only a year younger than you :p

shhhhh :P

Pretty sure as a 21yr old female fab life is a tad easier than it us for a 20yr old guy.

I dunno she's got to cling to the back of my.bike soon "

I'm clinging on to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect to meet too soon, the odds are against you. I personally have a son OP's age. He's not on here, is single & keeps no secrets, He has never had a problem getting a girl. He does it the good old fashioned way. Down the club, buy her drink, have a chat & dance. Why do young 20 yr old need to be here. Develope their social skills 1st.

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