FabSwingers.com forum: first time at club

By *attoguyme OP Man
over a year ago

heath and reach

Hi all I plan on going to a club soon I know as a single male there is a stigma around me but I am not pushy or any thing if things happen that's fine if not so be it I am not in a rush just looking for some tips many thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't get a play on your first visit...never expect that just because you pay to get in it guarantees you a shag! Treat it like a social, talk to people, not just singles, couples but men too! If something does happen then that's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You won't get a play on your first visit...never expect that just because you pay to get in it guarantees you a shag! Treat it like a social, talk to people, not just singles, couples but men too! If something does happen then that's a bonus"

couldn't have put it better myself.

The clubs are great, but most women and couples I've come across only feel comfortable after chatting for a while. Besides, you get to find out what their boundaries are, they find out yours,etc. If you can set yourself apart from the pack animals(ie, single guys trolling round together looking for opportunity), then you'll likely be much more successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had our first night at a club the weekend.

we just sat back and took it all in.

didnt go out of our way to chat to anyone as just wanted to get to grips with what was going on around us at the time.

admittedly its easier being a couple as we dont look like a sad lonely wanker in the corner, but for the first while, i would say just stand back and take it all in, see if you can pick up on things, signs and so on which make certain things ok.

stand at the bar and chat to whoever comes over to order a drink, afterall they are a captive audience lol.

above everything else, as sexy has said, dont expect anything

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Read the advice I posted on the 'single girls in clubs' thread in the swinging club discussions forum. It holds true for boys as well as girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv only ever been to one club and had all intentions of just sitting back and watching, luckily for me a couple headed over 5 min after arriving and introduced themselves. I understand it's different being a single guy, but my advice would be to go with an open mind and no expectations.. Enjoy

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

go with an open mind and no expectations.....

chat, take it in, chat a bit more, be social.... chat a bit more...

you can be the socialable guys who is going to be fun to be round ... or you can be the guy who doesn't say boo to a goose and just patrols all the play areas like some dark arts ninja.....

sometimes a "hello" goes a long, long, long way......

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