FabSwingers.com forum: first meeting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering. From the first message to the actual meet. How long does it normally take? How long would you wait before you thought forget it.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

It varies. Some people like to exchange lots of mails, others very little.

We have exchanged a couple of mails then agreed to meet that night, but others it has taken a few weeks.

Depends on both parties free time or how horny they are I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how busy my week is really ...ive chatted to someone and met them the same day then other times its taken over a week to actually meet when it suits both x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies, but I get bored of endless messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God mine toke a while Xmas and newyear got in way but was worth wate .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive met after just a few messages and other times its been a few days or weeks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks.One meet has taken weeks. We don't mind as both of sides had one thing or another going on. Another couple got shirty cause we hadn't met after about 3 weeks and we ended up blocking them. But hard for us as we work,have children and mother nature calls a lot. Just wondering if same for most others in same position

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm normally a few weeks at least!

I'm very cautious being a single female, but at least when I do meet I am 95% sure, play will happen.

And yes I know that doesn't suit everyone, but they are free to move on if they don't like it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It varies. Some people like to exchange lots of mails, others very little.

We have exchanged a couple of mails then agreed to meet that night, but others it has taken a few weeks.

Depends on both parties free time or how horny they are I suppose "

By the Saturday following the first message , also if we give number out mine to couples and Paula's to singles and they don't text by the weekend , we usually don't meet them ever

Our time is precious if people can't meet Saturday evening then we are not interested no matter how good they or say they are,

It's surprising how many single guys disappear when they realise we are only available Saturday evening lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's made me feel better thanks guys. We only have a couple of week nights free like yourself and if our one and only sitter isn't free we can't meet. It's frustrating for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive met after just a few messages and other times its been a few days or weeks "

Same here no set pattern

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

It takes as long as it takes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It takes as long as it takes "

Some have been within a couple of days and some have taken a couple of months...depends on free time for both parties and whether mother nature decides to throw a spanner in the works too. This is only one part of my life, and 'real life' will always come first.

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

We have a child so we can't do spur of the moment meets as babysitting needs arranging

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

I will admit to pissing around messaging ... but have decided on a new 5 step approach ...

1. check height

2. check skills/verifs

3. check face pic

4. check voice on phone

5. check inside leg measurement

Seems to have worked so far !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some has taken hours some have taken months, all depends on the people really, often comes down to right place, right time available and how horny people are I reackon.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"It takes as long as it takes "

Completely agree

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I've found the following helpful:

couple's average age x no. of veris / distance from you +

(male's height x no. of friends) = days until you'll meet

Or not

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"I will admit to pissing around messaging ... but have decided on a new 5 step approach ...

1. check height

2. check skills/verifs

3. check face pic

4. check voice on phone

5. check inside leg measurement

Seems to have worked so far !!

Kate absolutely great reply - even though I'm sure I'd fail at the first step.

As you made me laugh I wont report you for being potentially sizeist

haha

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've met within a couple of hours of the first message and even as long as months from the first message. It all depends on the individual and their circumstances.

I always meet for a coffee meet first and I won't get drawn into sex chat with someone I've never met in the flesh. This tends to discourage the all talk contingent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on attraction I guess , I usually like a bit if chat , flirty if otherwise ... See if your after the same things ... ... Everyone is different , when it feels right I guess ! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends, often people meet socially to see how they feel and take it from there.

I like to think most people are genuine but there are certainly plenty dreamers and time wasters around and you will learn to spot them.

Possibly average time for initial contact to meet is 5 days.

Beware of picture hunters though and those with no verifications.

Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There s no rules to swinging. Your opening your relationship to others and that takes a lot. At the end of the day it's about being comfortable with one another and there shouldn't be a time limit. Every one here was once new here but the more your on here you get to know the tricks of spotting the fakes or time waisters

That's just my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We cannot get out often at all and one meet up with friends took nearly a year after having to cancel a couple of Times due to mother nature and snow.

We got there in the end though lol.

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