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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

At a club, how do you politely but firmly get rid of a pain in the ass, ie pushy, unwanted gropes, people who follow..... How do you do this without creating a scene, or ruining an evening?

Do you have any prepared scripts, or tips....??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this in a playroom or public area?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Re-Reading my thread, I would reply to it Preparation H.... good at removing pains from arses!!!

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF


"At a club, how do you politely but firmly get rid of a pain in the ass, ie pushy, unwanted gropes, people who follow..... How do you do this without creating a scene, or ruining an evening?

Do you have any prepared scripts, or tips....??

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Well if it's non consensual then it's sexual assault, just as valid inside a sex club as on the street, so I would remind them of this and go to the management and complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A firm 'no thanks' and if necessary walk away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this in a playroom or public area?

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Hi you two!!

this was in a public area, right at the end of the night. It was not a problem, we just had difficulty in getting a pain to take no for an answer and the hints to go forth. A punch in the face would have seemed over the top, and not our style. We prefer belittling humour as a weapon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At a club, how do you politely but firmly get rid of a pain in the ass, ie pushy, unwanted gropes, people who follow..... How do you do this without creating a scene, or ruining an evening?

Do you have any prepared scripts, or tips....??

Well if it's non consensual then it's sexual assault, just as valid inside a sex club as on the street, so I would remind them of this and go to the management and complain"

Ok, this was not a BAD pain, lets call him a nice pain, ie one minute really nice funny and same wavelength, to then suddenly try to keep asking almost begging for sex. We both told him what we do and that we were not doing anything with anyone that night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Important to add, that it is Mrs Spunky that wants to be able to reject by herself...

or is it really expected that the husband should always do the talking to pains....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this in a playroom or public area?

Hi you two!!

this was in a public area, right at the end of the night. It was not a problem, we just had difficulty in getting a pain to take no for an answer and the hints to go forth. A punch in the face would have seemed over the top, and not our style. We prefer belittling humour as a weapon."

In all honesty, an unsolicited grope in a public area would undoubtedly result in one or both of us asking the perpetrator what the fuck they thought they were doing?

In a playroom, if we've chosen to play publically and someone we don't feel comfortable attempts to join, eye contact and a shake of the head usually works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're had this towards the end of a night usually from guys who have no hotel booked and want to share ours, we find saying we're only taking bi guys back with us helps, if they suddenly turn bi being in a sex club you can ask for a demonstration! As for followers last time it happened I found just a couple of looks to one of the doormen and he asked the guy to leave us alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this in a playroom or public area?

Hi you two!!

this was in a public area, right at the end of the night. It was not a problem, we just had difficulty in getting a pain to take no for an answer and the hints to go forth. A punch in the face would have seemed over the top, and not our style. We prefer belittling humour as a weapon.

In all honesty, an unsolicited grope in a public area would undoubtedly result in one or both of us asking the perpetrator what the fuck they thought they were doing?

In a playroom, if we've chosen to play publically and someone we don't feel comfortable attempts to join, eye contact and a shake of the head usually works. "

We play in closed rooms so don't have that issue, but your first part is simple advice, when we discuss it, one thing all those we have played with have NEVER given unwanted attention. We will have your idea in place from now on. I suppose after the first few times telling people to fuck off, it becomes easier?? Wish we had a real life Block Button!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

geez, i very much doubt i would get a chance to tell someone that touched V unwanted to feck off lol.

she would have the guy on his arse and his nose bloodied before i looked up from my drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"geez, i very much doubt i would get a chance to tell someone that touched V unwanted to feck off lol.

she would have the guy on his arse and his nose bloodied before i looked up from my drink"

Don't forget that assault with ABH is just as illegal inside a sex club than it is on the street. Inappropriately touching someone is much harder to prove than a broken nose/bust lip. Do you really want the court case where the location of the assault is read out for all to hear. Discretion is your friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"geez, i very much doubt i would get a chance to tell someone that touched V unwanted to feck off lol.

she would have the guy on his arse and his nose bloodied before i looked up from my drink

Don't forget that assault with ABH is just as illegal inside a sex club than it is on the street. Inappropriately touching someone is much harder to prove than a broken nose/bust lip. Do you really want the court case where the location of the assault is read out for all to hear. Discretion is your friend."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about just "I'd love to but mother nature has come along early"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"geez, i very much doubt i would get a chance to tell someone that touched V unwanted to feck off lol.

she would have the guy on his arse and his nose bloodied before i looked up from my drink

Don't forget that assault with ABH is just as illegal inside a sex club than it is on the street. Inappropriately touching someone is much harder to prove than a broken nose/bust lip. Do you really want the court case where the location of the assault is read out for all to hear. Discretion is your friend."

dude, you dont know the missus lol

thing is, most men wouldnt want it known they got a bop on the nose by a woman anyway, let alone because they squeezed her tits lol

joking aside, i know she wouldnt hit anyone, although the temptation would be there, but as said, i wouldnt have to react, she would deal with it herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy I know that one asks the lady politely if she is single, or her partner if it is ok to touch. If the answer is no then its no. If I try then to touch without permission then I expect to be thrown out for good. Its tossers like this guy that ruin it for the genuine respectful guys that know the etiqutte and respect others. Call the management as the sooner these idiots are got rid of then the better for all of us.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

I was once at a club with a couple in a locked room when this single guy kept trying to force the door open. The husband told him to politely go away, but he eventually kept trying to open it and manage to poke his head through the door, so the husband just closed the door with his head still in it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell the manager who the trouble makers are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If repeated firm and assertive "No thanks" do not do the trick, I would not hesitate to involve the management of the club/whatever to deal with the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy I know that one asks the lady politely if she is single, or her partner if it is ok to touch. If the answer is no then its no. If I try then to touch without permission then I expect to be thrown out for good. Its tossers like this guy that ruin it for the genuine respectful guys that know the etiqutte and respect others. Call the management as the sooner these idiots are got rid of then the better for all of us. "

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By *hoseboots1952Couple
over a year ago

grangemouth


"At a club, how do you politely but firmly get rid of a pain in the ass, ie pushy, unwanted gropes, people who follow..... How do you do this without creating a scene, or ruining an evening?

Do you have any prepared scripts, or tips....??

anyone that touches your body without prior consent are committing abh etc. no one should hae to put up with that, in or out of a club. Women in particular are very very vulnerable to it. at a club one night, years ago, i was tied up on the st andrew's cross while ma man was whipping me. a few guys walked in and IMMEDIATELY his mingin fingers were inside ma fanny! they just canny RESIST THE LURE OF A PUSSY! AND THAT IS ABSOLUTELY NOOO EXCUSE! i made a pass at a girl while we were at a social meet, it wasnt someone i knew well either, which makes it a bit....naw ye shoudny hae done that. next time i see her im goin to apologize for being so familiar with her. it was uncalled for, really.

Well if it's non consensual then it's sexual assault, just as valid inside a sex club as on the street, so I would remind them of this and go to the management and complain"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy I know that one asks the lady politely if she is single, or her partner if it is ok to touch. If the answer is no then its no. If I try then to touch without permission then I expect to be thrown out for good. Its tossers like this guy that ruin it for the genuine respectful guys that know the etiqutte and respect others. Call the management as the sooner these idiots are got rid of then the better for all of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy I know that one asks the lady politely if she is single, or her partner if it is ok to touch. If the answer is no then its no."

I know you're trying to demonstrate how polite and considerate you are, but I would hope that you would ask the lady regardless of whether she's single or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy I know that one asks the lady politely if she is single, or her partner if it is ok to touch. If the answer is no then its no.

I know you're trying to demonstrate how polite and considerate you are, but I would hope that you would ask the lady regardless of whether she's single or not! "

I was thinking that.

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By *oupleMKUKCouple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"As a single guy I know that one asks the lady politely if she is single, or her partner if it is ok to touch. If the answer is no then its no.

I know you're trying to demonstrate how polite and considerate you are, but I would hope that you would ask the lady regardless of whether she's single or not!

I was thinking that. "

Me too. Nice to have a minder/hubby to ward off unwanted attention, but I do have a mind/voice of my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was thinking that.

Me too. Nice to have a minder/hubby to ward off unwanted attention, but I do h]ave a mind/voice of my own."

I tend to see comments made like this a lot. It doesn't matter that like Jaz and I, a lot of men will know whether the contact is wanted, but it should be the woman's consent that third parties seek, not her other half's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was thinking that.

Me too. Nice to have a minder/hubby to ward off unwanted attention, but I do h]ave a mind/voice of my own.

I tend to see comments made like this a lot. It doesn't matter that like Jaz and I, a lot of men will know whether the contact is wanted, but it should be the woman's consent that third parties seek, not her other half's. "

Abosolute bollocks!! When we play at our club in a open area my first priority is Debs, period, WE decide if WE are going to invite a guy to join us, we find the respectable guys wait to be invited, and if any guy wants to ask then he should approach me first for permission to ask Debs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was thinking that.

Me too. Nice to have a minder/hubby to ward off unwanted attention, but I do h]ave a mind/voice of my own.

I tend to see comments made like this a lot. It doesn't matter that like Jaz and I, a lot of men will know whether the contact is wanted, but it should be the woman's consent that third parties seek, not her other half's.

Abosolute bollocks!! When we play at our club in a open area my first priority is Debs, period, WE decide if WE are going to invite a guy to join us, we find the respectable guys wait to be invited, and if any guy wants to ask then he should approach me first for permission to ask Debs."

Honestly can't think of a response to that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Abosolute bollocks!! When we play at our club in a open area my first priority is Debs, period, WE decide if WE are going to invite a guy to join us, we find the respectable guys wait to be invited, and if any guy wants to ask then he should approach me first for permission to ask Debs."

I see what you're saying, but you say 'we decide' and then say that they ask you first.

My point was simply that it's her body, she should get the choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Abosolute bollocks!! When we play at our club in a open area my first priority is Debs, period, WE decide if WE are going to invite a guy to join us, we find the respectable guys wait to be invited, and if any guy wants to ask then he should approach me first for permission to ask Debs.

I see what you're saying, but you say 'we decide' and then say that they ask you first.

My point was simply that it's her body, she should get the choice. "

Certainly the first choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She always has the choice for sure but a certain ammount of "vetting" has to be involved otherwise it turns into a free for all.

We both know what type of guys we would invite as weLl as those we don't want involved. And besides we play as a couple and decide as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She always has the choice for sure but a certain ammount of "vetting" has to be involved otherwise it turns into a free for all.

We both know what type of guys we would invite as weLl as those we don't want involved. And besides we play as a couple and decide as a couple.

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We all have our own ways of doing things, that's for sure

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