FabSwingers.com forum: people don't understand I'M NOT GAY

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why don't People understand I'm not gay and don't find guys goodlooking or attractive??? When dressed I just like using there cocks for my enjoyment I love being a slut and seeing there reactions to it but never ever find them attractive. Guys are always sending pics like am I you. Type do you find me attractive?? Does anyone else relate to this??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably think you are bi not gay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Suppose iam, everyone I have spoken to find it strange I don't find Guys attractive?? But love there cocks? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Suppose iam, everyone I have spoken to find it strange I don't find Guys attractive?? But love there cocks? Lol"

Its not strange really you just like cock not men and its probably the situation you are in that you like when you get cock that helps too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think I felt the same, but theres some body shapes I just going go near.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to think I felt the same, but theres some body shapes I just going go near."

Don't not going!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So any cock in a hole is a goal basically lol ?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Why don't you try explaining this on your profile?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

make it really clear what you are looking for 'a cock' and you may not be interested in what the person looks like/or need any form of attraction as long as you get fucked.

that will make it clearer for the guys who contact you or you contact them.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gay and in denial.

The fact you don't like men's bodies is no different to any other preference people might have

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm totally not gay. In my eyes a gay guy is a guy who finds men attractive not women, a bi guy likes being with men and women and finds both attractive, and a straight guy finds women attractive and not men. So whilst I would never say I was gay because I only find women attractive . Would also never say . Was totally straight as i Like to be fucked by cock be it real or strap on.... Looks like I've opened Pandoras box lol... Anyway it was just a rant . Don't care what you think anyway xx bye for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm totally not gay. In my eyes a gay guy is a guy who finds men attractive not women, a bi guy likes being with men and women and finds both attractive, and a straight guy finds women attractive and not men. So whilst I would never say I was gay because I only find women attractive . Would also never say . Was totally straight as i Like to be fucked by cock be it real or strap on.... Looks like I've opened Pandoras box lol... Anyway it was just a rant . Don't care what you think anyway xx bye for now "

If you don't care what people think, why would you ask for advice on the forum?

As someone has already said, try explaining yourself on your profile better to eliminate unwanted messages

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not gay and don't find men attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was more of a thought actually..

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

I don't really have a problem with people thinking i'm gay or not, i've clearly stated my preferences on my profile and if a man messages i'll take it as a compliment but i'm never going to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't know how they could be confused

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm not gay, I also dont have sex with men which I thought was fairly key in the are you bisexual/gay debate.

Apparently not though...

FAB where you learn something new every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not gay and don't find men attractive. "

And for that reason I don't want to suck a mans cock either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't care what people think, why would you ask for advice on the forum?

As someone has already said, try explaining yourself on your profile better to eliminate unwanted messages

exactly. If you don't care why post about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with people thinking i'm gay or not, i've clearly stated my preferences on my profile and if a man messages i'll take it as a compliment but i'm never going to meet them"

I'm the same. I think because my name is curiouspat people think I'm bi but it's curiouspat because I'm inexperienced sexually. I also have no problem with men msging me I find it flattering and a compliment but make it clear that I'll chat but never meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sucking another guys cock is a homosexual act. I assume from the OP's protestations that he plays with women also..........That makes him bisexual.

It's all about sexual preference, not what is found to be attractive. The OP craves cock and therefore he is bisexual, end of!

But man! Does he ever care about not being labled.

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By *otwife CoolhubCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Mate don't feel the need to pigeon holed into a category just because there is a label for it. Everyone has a sexual DNA and it's entirely different for all.

There absolutely are bi guys who find both males and females attractive but there are also guys who like you, only like cock play. If people don't understand your way once you've explained it, their bad not yours.

Relax fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, don't be pigeon holed.

I have tried all sorts and I don't fancy men. I Like a bit of cock clashing.. And ball grabbing and guiding. It's nice not to be so reserved in a multi gender/multi orientated orgy. Don't touch this, don't touch that. Tbh it's about trying I think, far to many hang ups with these types that stress their sexual orientation in capitals.. One of my straight mates was once wanked off by a man.. Best wank/touch he ever had he said, but he is so not gay. Tastes change too.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

So why are so many men that have sex with men so keen to jump in the 'straight' pigeonhole?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they panic if they think they will be called gay or bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't People understand I'm not gay and don't find guys goodlooking or attractive??? When dressed I just like using there cocks for my enjoyment I love being a slut and seeing there reactions to it but never ever find them attractive. Guys are always sending pics like am I you. Type do you find me attractive?? Does anyone else relate to this?? "

I do actually, I will play with women in a group situation but I don't find women attractive at all in a sexual way, I couldn't sit on here and arrange to meet a female or couple but in the heat of the moment if she is there I will play with her, I cant kiss women though, weird that I can lick her muff but cant bring myself to kiss her

I cant have a woman play with me either the thought of a woman licking me makes me shudder, I think its just a case of being greedy when turned on and grabbing all that's available for me rather than attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here! I will occasionally meet with men just simply for the pleasure of anal! I'm not attracted to them and do not want to kiss or have any other intimate contact other than sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, you meet men specifically for sex, but you consider yourself straight? Why oh why do people feel the need to "hide" their preferences in this way. You like man on man sex.....that is NOT straight by any definition except your own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe fabisexual is a good pigeon hole to stuff the waifs and strays into. I'll happily be in that catagory. I get lots of 'straight' married guys contacting me though they don't like cock mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you meet men specifically for sex, but you consider yourself straight? Why oh why do people feel the need to "hide" their preferences in this way. You like man on man sex.....that is NOT straight by any definition except your own!"

he didn't say is was straight, he said he's not gay and has bi on his profile

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

The OP is not attracted to "whole" men, just to their body parts. The OP is attracted to cock but not the body or mind it's attached too. If cocks could be autonomous. Float in the air and fuck without all that unnecessary man behind it then the OP could be understood more easily and the world would invent a label he could be comfortable with. "Cock lover" "Cock Hog" "Cock worshipper". But let's be clear, liking cock inside you when it's disembodied will not not make you gay or bi. Right??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like guys dealing with personal issues. Gay or Bi, that's for you to decide. But definitely not straight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP is not attracted to "whole" men, just to their body parts. The OP is attracted to cock but not the body or mind it's attached too. If cocks could be autonomous. Float in the air and fuck without all that unnecessary man behind it then the OP could be understood more easily and the world would invent a label he could be comfortable with. "Cock lover" "Cock Hog" "Cock worshipper". But let's be clear, liking cock inside you when it's disembodied will not not make you gay or bi. Right??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold on, your profile says you're bi-curious, but you won't meet men? Are you planning on staying curious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold on, your profile says you're bi-curious, but you won't meet men? Are you planning on staying curious? "

That was directed at _astpoet, btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You like everyone else is a sentient being,

If you like cock , you like cock,

It is you labelling yourself is the

problem.

Labels are for jam, not for people, its 2014. be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't you try explaining this on your profile?"

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF

Does it matter what people think about you ? It's how you think about yourself

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

"Suppose iam, everyone I have spoken to find it strange I don't find Guys attractive?? But love there cocks? Lol"

I've met quite a few full on gay guys who don't even like other guys and are just in it for the cock and won't consider a relationship with a guy but I suppose it depends where you draw the line - someone will disagree with you because they're equally entitled to their opinion...

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By *j30Couple
over a year ago

bellshill

Don't stress tell them all were to go. I love doing anything to get off and not caring what others think, especially on Fab xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fucked a tv couple of week ago and some one suggest I should put bi on my profile I don't find men attractive at all lol I love pussy and I always will don't worry what people say they are small minded

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I just don't know how they could be confused

It's a mystery!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then yur bisexual then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it matter if there's no suitable label for what you are?

..as long as you're happy and enjoying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words like Straight, Bi or Gay etc are self-definitions...

Only you can say who you are and who you love (who you have sex with has little to do with it!).

It's nobody else's business and nobody else has the right to define you against your will -

It's always been the first right of an individual to be an individual...!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sucking another guys cock is a homosexual act. I assume from the OP's protestations that he plays with women also..........That makes him bisexual.

It's all about sexual preference, not what is found to be attractive. The OP craves cock and therefore he is bisexual, end of!

But man! Does he ever care about not being labled."

You are so wrong! In Fabland sexuality is fluid. If you only suck cock and allow a man to bury himself balls deep in your arse whilst you're wearing a frock and wig: you're straight. If in a group situation you have same sex contact: you're bi playful, so still straight. If you enjoy one on one same sex play but wouldn't pick out soft furnishings together then you're bi flexible but straight.

Anyone claiming to be straight is lying and in denial...allegedly!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I fucked a tv couple of week ago and some one suggest I should put bi on my profile I don't find men attractive at all lol I love pussy and I always will don't worry what people say they are small minded

Be careful name calling. If YOU can't be honest with YOU, who's small minded?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nobody else's business and nobody else has the right to define you against your will"

Rubbish, of course they do. These words have clear definitions. If your actions fit the definitions, others have the right to label you. You can't make up your own definitions, that's where the confusion starts.

Whether the label is relevant to your own attraction is another matter though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful name calling. If YOU can't be honest with YOU, who's small minded?!!

The people who label others and hide their profile and I don't need to be care ful of any thing as I not attacking any one or labelling Anyone unlike others

And will defenatilty not be bullied by any one here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Words like Straight, Bi or Gay etc are self-definitions...

Only you can say who you are and who you love (who you have sex with has little to do with it!).

It's nobody else's business and nobody else has the right to define you against your will -

It's always been the first right of an individual to be an individual...!!!"

That's all very well if it's in a chat-only context, but since this is a contact site primarily and since the nature of contact sites is mainly commercial (in that you're trading physical attributes and performance indicators), it's a matter of trade descriptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Words like Straight, Bi or Gay etc are self-definitions...

Only you can say who you are and who you love (who you have sex with has little to do with it!).

It's nobody else's business and nobody else has the right to define you against your will -

It's always been the first right of an individual to be an individual...!!!

ROFL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful name calling. If YOU can't be honest with YOU, who's small minded?!!

The people who label others and hide their profile and I don't need to be care ful of any thing as I not attacking any one or labelling Anyone unlike others

And will defenatilty not be bullied by any one here

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pointing out when you are mistaken isn't the same as bullying. The fact you are uncomfortable with the label your voluntary actions are given by the rest of society is for you to deal with, not for society to have to change its definitions. You got a hardon and chose to fuck a guy (knowingly) in the ass. What label do you give this behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful name calling. If YOU can't be honest with YOU, who's small minded?!!

The people who label others and hide their profile and I don't need to be care ful of any thing as I not attacking any one or labelling Anyone unlike others

And will defenatilty not be bullied by any one here

pointing out when you are mistaken isn't the same as bullying. The fact you are uncomfortable with the label your voluntary actions are given by the rest of society is for you to deal with, not for society to have to change its definitions. You got a hardon and chose to fuck a guy (knowingly) in the ass. What label do you give this behaviour?"
Bi sexuality doesn't exist,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends whether you define 'sexuality' as the physical side or the love side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful name calling. If YOU can't be honest with YOU, who's small minded?!!

The people who label others and hide their profile and I don't need to be care ful of any thing as I not attacking any one or labelling Anyone unlike others

And will defenatilty not be bullied by any one here

And who give you right to label other people are you some kind of leader now

I like to live in a society which is more tolerant to sexual attitudes

I really don't give a s___ what opinion you have as it does not matter to me at all but I will say again no one has a right to label any one other than themselves and again I will not be bullied or need opinion form a narrow minded person

So I suggest keep out of it

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Oxford English Dictionary gives me the right. Not that anyone needs 'a right' to make their own decisions.

I have no problem with what people want to do or be, i'd happily shake your hand and not judge you. Be free. But accept thst if you kick a ball around, society will call it football. If you put food in your mouth, society will call it eating. If you have sex with strangers in carparks, society calls it dogging. If you have sex with a member of one's own gender, society has a name for that too. It's pointless trying to deny it. Labelling isn't the same as 'judging', that's the point some on here are missing. Be free, but to thine own self be true, as shakespeare might have said. Everyone is free to judge. THAT is a right. It's what they do with that judgment that makes them a good or bad person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are not judging that fine and I comfortable what I am but don't need a label

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Btw, i've spent enough time naked in rooms with all sorts of people doing all sorts of things that would make your eyes wider, so i am hardly 'narrow minded'. But yoy didn't know that. You judged me........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are not judging that fine and I comfortable what I am but don't need a label

Cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take my words back as you did as a fellow naturist I respect that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you labelling me a naturist just because i like to get my kit off outdoors?? Lol

Thanks

Peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to do that out doors so bloody cold in England lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a room, you two!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Be careful name calling. If YOU can't be honest with YOU, who's small minded?!!

The people who label others and hide their profile and I don't need to be care ful of any thing as I not attacking any one or labelling Anyone unlike others

And will defenatilty not be bullied by any one here

You have an identity problem you need to deal with, it's none of my business. I wouldn't have met my boyfriend on here if he wasn't comfortable and honest with himself.

You can deny it til the cows come home but I think you're ashamed...I could be wrong...but nay!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"The Oxford English Dictionary gives me the right. Not that anyone needs 'a right' to make their own decisions.

I think you're wasting your time as there's none so blind as those that will not see!

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

Hold on, your profile says you're bi-curious, but you won't meet men? Are you planning on staying curious? "

Because if you read the profile it's a circumstantial thing. Basically the "attraction" isn't to men, it's to do with total submission to a domme female, and therefore taking part in bi acts for her.

This turns me on massively, and means i would do acts that would have me considered bi.

But i'd never meet a man and don't find men attractive. So it would be a lie to say straight, and a lie to say bi. And given Fab doesn't have a "forced bi" setting, bi curious is all i can put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the information is that some thing to do with you

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Surely if people lie on their profile it is to do with everyone?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Did you close your eyes and pretend then?

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

Well if you like cock then i suppose people will reach their own conclusions

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If you have problems with another member please either block them, or report them, or both but keep it off the forums.

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