FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging Etiquette

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm new to the scene and am hoping someone could give me some pointers regarding etiquette. I'm after 100% NSA fun but am also looking for some regular play mates.

How do you go about getting that point across without leaving someone with the impression of a bunny boiler?

Any other advice for a newb would be greatly appreciated. Loving this little world I've just joined

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes. Take your time and get to know people. Men who want to meet you quickly tend to just want a quickie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never expect anything from a guy..even if they say will see u again..want regular fun..friendship etc!

i learnt the hard way last month and quit the site. i shouldnt of done really but did in frustration and felt totally like shit.

plenty of guys on here who will make u feel special at the time!

guys tend not bother being in contact once met you as much, yet beforehand will be all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not after friendship lol. I just would like to take the admin out of getting my needs met :P

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Afraid it's not that easy. You get out if it what you put in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never expect anything from a guy..even if they say will see u again..want regular fun..friendship etc!

i learnt the hard way last month and quit the site. i shouldnt of done really but did in frustration and felt totally like shit.

plenty of guys on here who will make u feel special at the time!

guys tend not bother being in contact once met you as much, yet beforehand will be all the time.

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Iv been very lucky and quite a few guys have stayed in contact

( when not being told not to by a single white female)!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"never expect anything from a guy..even if they say will see u again..want regular fun..friendship etc!

i learnt the hard way last month and quit the site. i shouldnt of done really but did in frustration and felt totally like shit.

plenty of guys on here who will make u feel special at the time!

guys tend not bother being in contact once met you as much, yet beforehand will be all the time.

Iv been very lucky and quite a few guys have stayed in contact

( when not being told not to by a single white female)!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on here is much like vanilla life. You meet, you fuck and if you get on well you meet again. If not it is a one off. Keep trying guys out and keep in touch with the ones you get on with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being on here is much like vanilla life. You meet, you fuck and if you get on well you meet again. If not it is a one off. Keep trying guys out and keep in touch with the ones you get on with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being on here is much like vanilla life. You meet, you fuck and if you get on well you meet again. If not it is a one off. Keep trying guys out and keep in touch with the ones you get on with.

Exactly this. It'll happen naturally, you just can't plan it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will depend on your choices. I always hope to meet again and have been lucky enough to be invited back, except on the odd occasion. I have played with one couple for 8 years and am still in touch.

You may not want to meet a second time, if you both get on and enjoy your time together, you will both want to meet again. As in life away from fab!

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex

"never expect anything from a guy..even if they say will see u again..want regular fun..friendship etc!

i learnt the hard way last month and quit the site. i shouldnt of done really but did in frustration and felt totally like shit.

plenty of guys on here who will make u feel special at the time!

guys tend not bother being in contact once met you as much, yet beforehand will be all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree take your time, but not all men want a quicky, i like to enjoy and give the lady a good time so she is dissappoined,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree take your time, but not all men want a quicky, i like to enjoy and give the lady a good time so she is dissappoined,"

Hoping you left out a word near the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree take your time, but not all men want a quicky, i like to enjoy and give the lady a good time so she is dissappoined,

Hoping you left out a word near the end

I am sure he did. Same goes for me. I genuinely go into meets with a view that

If all goes well we wil meet again. Further meets are rare as hens teeth thus far. Plenty couples seek one offs. No problem if everyone knows what page they are on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just let people know from the off what you do and dont want.

thats the only way, that way people have no false expectations or hopes.

but as has been said, expect some to lie to get into your pants/get their own way, so turn your bullshit detector up to 11

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oopsy yea i did, i left out NOT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being on here is much like vanilla life. You meet, you fuck and if you get on well you meet again. If not it is a one off. Keep trying guys out and keep in touch with the ones you get on with.

Exactly this. It'll happen naturally, you just can't plan it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not after friendship lol. I just would like to take the admin out of getting my needs met :P"

From my experiences with the repeat meets I have there has to be some kind of friendship. I'm sure you didn't mean it to, but that sentence came across to me a tad selfish. If they're giving you their time think it's only fair you at least pretend to be interested in more than their cock! Think you'll struggle to find guys who are happy for repeat fuck & go meets to be honest

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

Also having just read your profile, although it is good that you are honest about what you want you may need to soften it up a bit. As far as sharing pictures is concerned, don't forget that everyone is in the same boat as you so need discretion.

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By *atty_mooMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I am looking for a regular lady or M/F Couple, just like real life you may or may not get on once you meet. I prefer to chat some first and build up a little connection before any mention of a meet, then when the time feels right, maybe a phone conversation or two, then arrange a meet. Some gentle flirting is great, but no filthy chat, unless it has been discussed this is all right, otherwise it just seems you are using them as a sex line. Also important to establish that you are only looking for NSA fun, and you don't want to blur the lines and one of the two thinks they have a start of a proper relationship, and the other doesn't. That could end up being messy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would disagree slightly in your time line, I would try to talk or get a social meet reasonably quickly cos for me after a week or so of email tennis I tend to get bored and/or one of us will day something wrong. If possible arranging to talk face to face for half hour or more in a public place is a lot more effective for me in learning what someone is like than endless email tennis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would disagree slightly in your time line, I would try to talk or get a social meet reasonably quickly cos for me after a week or so of email tennis I tend to get bored and/or one of us will day something wrong. If possible arranging to talk face to face for half hour or more in a public place is a lot more effective for me in learning what someone is like than endless email tennis"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

first rule of swinging.

Never wipe your cock on net curtains.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I'm new to the scene and am hoping someone could give me some pointers regarding etiquette. I'm after 100% NSA fun but am also looking for some regular play mates.

How do you go about getting that point across without leaving someone with the impression of a bunny boiler?

Any other advice for a newb would be greatly appreciated. Loving this little world I've just joined

Make it clear to anyone you chat to what you are looking for. Then they can decide if that is also what they are looking for. Do what you want and is right for you. Take your time getting to know somebody online before you meet them in real life.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"first rule of swinging.

Never wipe your cock on net curtains."

Now I know why people have been getting upset with me lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never expect anything from a guy..even if they say will see u again..want regular fun..friendship etc!

i learnt the hard way last month and quit the site. i shouldnt of done really but did in frustration and felt totally like shit.

plenty of guys on here who will make u feel special at the time!

guys tend not bother being in contact once met you as much, yet beforehand will be all the time.

that is soooo true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just let people know from the off what you do and dont want.

thats the only way, that way people have no false expectations or hopes.

but as has been said, expect some to lie to get into your pants/get their own way, so turn your bullshit detector up to 11"

I'm definitely taking this advice, I've heard plenty of rubbish and bull in emails.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm shaking my head and wondering what the reaction would have been if the OP was a man?

No, I know what the reaction would have been. He'd have been slated for playing away from home with not one bit of helpful advice.

Oh the double standards of Fab......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never expect anything from a guy..even if they say will see u again..want regular fun..friendship etc!

i learnt the hard way last month and quit the site. i shouldnt of done really but did in frustration and felt totally like shit.

plenty of guys on here who will make u feel special at the time!

guys tend not bother being in contact once met you as much, yet beforehand will be all the time.

that is soooo true"

i know..and just read latest veri from guy i met..."treat her right" ffs talk about double standards after how i was treated and still feel low now!

still shows alot though knowing how gone out way put things right with me..oops nope forgot didnt happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm shaking my head and wondering what the reaction would have been if the OP was a man?

No, I know what the reaction would have been. He'd have been slated for playing away from home with not one bit of helpful advice.

Oh the double standards of Fab......"

agree totally

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I'm new to the scene and am hoping someone could give me some pointers regarding etiquette. I'm after 100% NSA fun but am also looking for some regular play mates.

How do you go about getting that point across without leaving someone with the impression of a bunny boiler?

Any other advice for a newb would be greatly appreciated. Loving this little world I've just joined

Take your time, making a first meet purely a social meet (coffee for example) s a lot of guys out. From then on, just go with your gut. I'm sure you will find someone you like who is happy to have regular fun.

Good luck and have fun

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

"I'm shaking my head and wondering what the reaction would have been if the OP was a man?

No, I know what the reaction would have been. He'd have been slated for playing away from home with not one bit of helpful advice.

Oh the double standards of Fab......"

Just found this thread and was about to post the same.

How about you sort your life out at home and be honest with you other half, before expecting people to meet without even a photo.

Absolutely shocked how much double standards are evident in this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I've learnt my lesson: Don't start threads on these boards! Being judged on a swingers site...!

Thanks for those helpful replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've learnt my lesson: Don't start threads on these boards! Being judged on a swingers site...!

Thanks for those helpful replies."

Why wouldn't you be judged on a swinging site? Are you saying swingers have no morals? swinging isn't cheating...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and if you think you have been judged harshly, search the forums to see the response married men who think this site is an easy source of sex get.

Loving the hypocricy and double standards from many responses on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you'll struggle to find guys who are happy for repeat fuck & go meets to be honest"

to be honest I used to find plenty that were happy to not have any contact in between meets. Yet now I enjoy the flip side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm shaking my head and wondering what the reaction would have been if the OP was a man?

No, I know what the reaction would have been. He'd have been slated for playing away from home with not one bit of helpful advice.

Oh the double standards of Fab......"

in my defence i very rarely read the profiles of people that post these kind of threads, unless prompted to by others posts.

if i had seen the OP was married and playing away then yes, i wouldnt have offered the same advice as i did.

i would have said the exact same if it had been a married guy playing away, but also would have offered the same advice had it been a genuine single guy as i did in the first place

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