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By *lentiful1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

KinkySexville

Trying to get back into it what's the best way, position, or lubricant to help i was told mineral oil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trying to get back into it what's the best way, position, or lubricant to help i was told mineral oil "

ive always found Doggy the best position, trust and your natural vaginal fluid the best lubricant....So im told anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally on all fours,on top too,although have full control of that lol, best lube is yours or his cum, only my opinion as most sting, takes a bit longer to warm up..nette

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

Would completely agree re your own juices, perfectly designed to work as a lube at body temperature, nothing better

And I agree re behind being a good position

An alternative is for him to lie down and you lower yourself onto him so you can control the speed and depth of entry

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I haven't had anal in some time now. I am a little nervous about trying it again to be honest. I have booty lube to use but am still nervous and want it to feel good again.

Am rather worried about the size of the cock Iwant inside me again. Its rather big but felt aamazing last time it was in. My body hasn't had that in ages. I probably need a bit of dutch courage but not too much of course. Just a bit nervous really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember being there had been a while, but soon get in the swing of it, do you know how big the cock is?

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By *lentiful1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

KinkySexville

Most of them that want it r over 7" I think i want a much smaller one for a while til i get use to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of them that want it r over 7" I think i want a much smaller one for a while til i get use to it"
yes 7 has been my max so far,that's most enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of them that want it r over 7" I think i want a much smaller one for a while til i get use to it"

One trick if you think it may be too big is wait until its Semi, It will still go in and you will be relaxed as it grows inside you

Gary

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Most of them that want it r over 7" I think i want a much smaller one for a while til i get use to it

One trick if you think it may be too big is wait until its Semi, It will still go in and you will be relaxed as it grows inside you

Gary"

Easier said than done if you love anal only having a semi at that point!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"I remember being there had been a while, but soon get in the swing of it, do you know how big the cock is?"

Yes I do lol. Its a damn decent size. I have been there before and it was great. But very very nervous but want to feel that pleasure again.

Tips please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my man said about there, a semi to start gently thrusts first, then comes the comfort, in postion to take how you prefer,thrust yourself back and forth only pick up speed if you wish then the other person knows how hard to go...after find a cushion to sit on and reap with pleasure lol..that was not a scare tactic lol..nette x

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley

I found it painful the first couple of attempts we had , but I was determined to find a way!

We bought a butt plug and used that to get me used to having something in there , then a combination of lots of lube on him and me, then take it slow I would say , found that once it was in it was best to take a moment to get used to it , dilate I guess , before any thrusting ..then it's great! Good luck! x

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Also helps if the guys tends not to just pound away and uses some skill.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I managed to orgasm with a butt plug in me and him. The butt plug got sucked in when I came and the whole thing sucked inside. So am very careful about putting anf toys inside my bottom lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try opening up a bit with a toy first...there are some anal training toys that are basically a bigger butt plug. I have a Doc Johnson one which has made anal much easier and more comfortable - as well as a lot more enjoyable!

I would always advise using lube though not just natural lubricant as the ass doesn't naturally produce anything...just make sure they are condom friendly. Silicon based ones can last longer than water based ones, but be careful in the shower afterwards as it can get slippy!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Also helps if the guys tends not to just pound away and uses some skill."

He has skill no question. Its just me that is the nervous one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also helps if the guys tends not to just pound away and uses some skill.

He has skill no question. Its just me that is the nervous one x"
if he has skull there will be no question, a very enjoyable experience with a trained man x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

If he has skull lol. Hoping I will get to feel that pleasure sometime again. Thanks for the advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of lube and patience. I have found doggy isn't for me. Spooning feels good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he has skull lol. Hoping I will get to feel that pleasure sometime again. Thanks for the advice x"
lol damn predictive text again ..your welcome x

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Astroglide gel..............

Absolutely perfect........

Lots and lots of gentle foreplay,

Lots of relaxation.......

Plenty of lube and then plenty more too...

Ease it in then STOP!

Wait a little while, let the girl dictate the pace. Go gently, slowly, sensitively...

If it hurts her then you are doing it wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Astroglide gel..............

Absolutely perfect........

Lots and lots of gentle foreplay,

Lots of relaxation.......

Plenty of lube and then plenty more too...

Ease it in then STOP!

Wait a little while, let the girl dictate the pace. Go gently, slowly, sensitively...

If it hurts her then you are doing it wrong!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Astroglide gel..............

Absolutely perfect........

Lots and lots of gentle foreplay,

Lots of relaxation.......

Plenty of lube and then plenty more too...

Ease it in then STOP!

Wait a little while, let the girl dictate the pace. Go gently, slowly, sensitively...

If it hurts her then you are doing it wrong!

I have say I enjoy the pain of it, but saying that, I am masters submissive I'm bound to..my written opinion was based on a lady that is a first timer or worried.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggest an oily massage..

Start with front.. then back.. get into persition "doggy" and ease in.. ..

I tried it this weekend and well ill leave rest to your your imagination lol

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

For Liz its on the side using I.D Millennium silicon based lube and lots of patience.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I would not suggest your own natural lube at all especially if the cock is large. I use liquid silk and never have a problem. You will need loosening up first with fingers or toys.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Oh and douche well beforehand.

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Oh and douche well beforehand. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and douche well beforehand. "

I'm more relaxed if there's less chance of an 'accident' which ultimately makes it much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of ladies i been with just use there own flow of juices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trying to get back into it what's the best way, position, or lubricant to help i was told mineral oil "

chip fat, if your arse is a bit saggy, the burnt battery bits add friction (_O_)

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Fuck me - never heard of anal without lube! Well, I have - but you'd be bloody sore if you didn't use anything.

Best lube - liquid silk, doesnt dry and you dont need that much compared to other lubes.

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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow ish

Just don't use hair gel....

Went to play with a 'bi' gent who used hair gel to lube himself.

Lets just say I laughed long and very loudly before I left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Alot of ladies i been with just use there own flow of juices "

Any guy trying to put it in my ass without lube will have double the pain returned to his balls! There is no natural lubricant in the anus and without a lube you are increasing the risk of tears...something I certainly wouldn't appreciated for the sake of a few quid on a bottle of lube

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Alot of ladies i been with just use there own flow of juices "

Very risky behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im only giver if the second party is happy to take it without lube thats her choice not mine if she reequest lube then i would b happy to use it

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I suggest an oily massage..

Start with front.. then back.. get into persition "doggy" and ease in.. ..

I tried it this weekend and well ill leave rest to your your imagination lol"

You seem to have done a hell of a lot this weekend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever done it so I really am a newbie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Durex cherry lube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can recommend ID backslide. It's a lube especially for anal and contains stuff which helps relax the anal muscles rather than numb the area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me - never heard of anal without lube! Well, I have - but you'd be bloody sore if you didn't use anything.

Best lube - liquid silk, doesnt dry and you dont need that much compared to other lubes.

"

And it doesn't rot your condoms as any oil will...or ruin your silicon toys as silicon lube will...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some sensible posts here.. Own experience? Most ladies seem to prefer being "warmed up". Start with good oral and finger work on vagina. If you can take your partner up to the point of gushing then plenty lube there.

Move along the perineum and ensure lubrication is spread. Rimming is good if you are both ok with that - fingers and toys can also help.

For entry , at least first time, lady on top with her back to you. Allow her to control entry - then relax! Leave it a moment or two. Then take it really slow to start... the longer you take- only increasing speed and range of movement gradually- the better it will be and the more intense the orgasm for both of you.

I find this has worked well for me and the ladies involved. ... Feel free to contact me directly if you wish to ask more. xx Chris

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Try Anal Eaze off Lovehoney and lots of lube like liquid silk or Maximus

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

For first emtry lie on your side and raise your knees to your chest. In that position everything is internally lined up and you can maintain eye contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all about listening to the lady in my book. Use lube/foreplay to relax her then gently get inside her ass & listen/feel her response. She will let the guy know whens shes comfortable & ready gor a lil harder thrusting

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By *uestandpinkCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Mmm norty peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely need lube! And spooning I think is the best position as not so deep and easier to control the pace.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Definitely need lube! And spooning I think is the best position as not so deep and easier to control the pace. "

Just remembered dking anal spooned and it was a good position to try to start. I think from memory once he was in with me lying flat on my tummy was the best. His size seemed manageable then.

Fingers crossed I will get to try it again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely need lube! And spooning I think is the best position as not so deep and easier to control the pace.

Just remembered dking anal spooned and it was a good position to try to start. I think from memory once he was in with me lying flat on my tummy was the best. His size seemed manageable then.

Fingers crossed I will get to try it again x"

Let us know how you get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easiest position is to sit on top of the man and ease yourself down at your own pace. Lube? Durex Play, and some people use poppers too.

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By *nnejohnCouple
over a year ago

warrington

please never use mineral oil .it is extremely dangerous if absorbed internally

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By *nnejohnCouple
over a year ago

warrington

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

boy butter ! sounds a bit gay but does the job,, acts like a crap lube but numbs the bum muscle a little so no painful penetration ... happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only done it once. He spooned me, 2nd attempt successful. Nice slim cock, sadly we no longer speak won't do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely need lube! And spooning I think is the best position as not so deep and easier to control the pace.

Just remembered dking anal spooned and it was a good position to try to start. I think from memory once he was in with me lying flat on my tummy was the best. His size seemed manageable then.

Fingers crossed I will get to try it again x"

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Definitely need lube! And spooning I think is the best position as not so deep and easier to control the pace.

Just remembered dking anal spooned and it was a good position to try to start. I think from memory once he was in with me lying flat on my tummy was the best. His size seemed manageable then.

Fingers crossed I will get to try it again x

Let us know how you get on "

Haha you're funny lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lube that numbs the area can be dangerous as you could tear!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I am utterly astonished at some of the messages on here.

Without a very good and appropriate lube, plenty of play to relax the sphincter muscle then there is a real danger of tearing. And with that comes the risk of infection.

That is why I simply don't do anal with inexperienced guys particularly if they get their tips from porn.

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By *ustJakeMan
over a year ago

Manchester/north east


"I am utterly astonished at some of the messages on here.

Without a very good and appropriate lube, plenty of play to relax the sphincter muscle then there is a real danger of tearing. And with that comes the risk of infection.

That is why I simply don't do anal with inexperienced guys particularly if they get their tips from porn."

I agree with this lady.. Baffled at the fact people aren't safe when it comes to this..

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By *randmrsfreakyCouple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield


"Trying to get back into it what's the best way, position, or lubricant to help i was told mineral oil

ive always found Doggy the best position, trust and your natural vaginal fluid the best lubricant....So im told anyway "

Only problem with that is it doesn't flow out of your ass.

Use a lube that suits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find anal better with a toy in my pussy and on my back. And plenty lube. The toy relaxes me enough for when hes in and also gives me pleasure C xx

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife says a lot of warming up and a lot of spit works best for her...but she'll only do anal with me anyway. Lube makes her ass itch!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

You're using the wrong lube. There's a lot on the market these days and it is so much safer if you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try on your side, with your knees curled up (foetal position). this allows good penetration along with ease of access.

As for lube????? use a good waterbased one, and lube up well before hand...take time to ensure you are slippery enough and there should not be to much pain.

xxSindy

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