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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Well met my best mates 24 year old son yesterday!

She had already told me that he would like me so after he met me started texting me saying he wants me!

My mate has told me she is fine with it but I've told her I don't think it's right and I don't want anything to spoil our friendship! But she's told me not to worry about it!

He came over last night but I made it clear just to chill and chat, it was nice but I don't know what to do??

And constructive advice please? Lol

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Personally my relationship with my best friend would be more important to me than getting my leg over, so Id steer clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *arlock69Man
over a year ago

Batley... (near Leeds)

Stay away from him...if it all goes tits up you lose your friend!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well met my best mates 24 year old son yesterday!

She had already told me that he would like me so after he met me started texting me saying he wants me!

My mate has told me she is fine with it but I've told her I don't think it's right and I don't want anything to spoil our friendship! But she's told me not to worry about it!

He came over last night but I made it clear just to chill and chat, it was nice but I don't know what to do??

And constructive advice please? Lol""

Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would let him shag your brains out. Bet he wanks off all the time thinking about all the nasty things he can do with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally my relationship with my best friend would be more important to me than getting my leg over, so Id steer clear"

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Stay away from him...if it all goes tits up you lose your friend!!"

That's what worries me the most!

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Well met my best mates 24 year old son yesterday!

She had already told me that he would like me so after he met me started texting me saying he wants me!

My mate has told me she is fine with it but I've told her I don't think it's right and I don't want anything to spoil our friendship! But she's told me not to worry about it!

He came over last night but I made it clear just to chill and chat, it was nice but I don't know what to do??

And constructive advice please? Lol"

Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?"

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

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By *litlicker77Man
over a year ago

Dirty old town

Dangerous

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By *ecor atorMan
over a year ago

York

Disaster written all over it!

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

To me, it would feel like incest. I am uncle Phyl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fuck him like your life depends on it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would steer clear also... all sounds a bit risky.

I also find it entirely bizarre that she is trying to hook you both up.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Interesting that it is mainly men saying go for it and women saying avoid. In your position it would be a definite no from me. Friendships are more important than a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally my relationship with my best friend would be more important to me than getting my leg over, so Id steer clear "

you have received lots of good advise, stay away from him. What is one cock? A beautiful lady like you can have all the cock she wants. You don't need this one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

W..w..wait a second... your best friend said she'd be okay with you hooking up with her son?

I don't have any grown kids (or any kids for that matter), but my closest mates are like family, so any kids I have would be like family to them as well.

I would stay away, this situation seems unhealthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well met my best mates 24 year old son yesterday!

She had already told me that he would like me so after he met me started texting me saying he wants me!

My mate has told me she is fine with it but I've told her I don't think it's right and I don't want anything to spoil our friendship! But she's told me not to worry about it!

He came over last night but I made it clear just to chill and chat, it was nice but I don't know what to do??

And constructive advice please? Lol"

There's only a 13 year difference in your ages, so there's no problem as you're both consenting adults. Actually if you fancy having him, and he fancies having you ... why are you waiting? Good luck, and enjoy xxx

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By *unToRideMan
over a year ago

Belfast

At 24 that would of totally been my fantasy. If you think he's fit make the young man happy and go for it!

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Dangerous...but what was your friend thinking encouraging you....may be if her son is shy and a little inexperienced with girls, perhaps she would like someone she trusts to broaden his experience. think you need to talk seriously with your friend and explore her motives to encouraging you

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By *weetdebWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I feel that just by the fact that you invited him around just to chill and chat,then you already pretty much know whats gonna happen next

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Dangerous...but what was your friend thinking encouraging you....may be if her son is shy and a little inexperienced with girls, perhaps she would like someone she trusts to broaden his experience. think you need to talk seriously with your friend and explore her motives to encouraging you"

this was from the male half perspective

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Ruin him.

If your mate does turn sour, show her the texts saying she didnt mind (if it was text or written to you)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds strange to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally my relationship with my best friend would be more important to me than getting my leg over, so Id steer clear"

This!!

I wouldn't even have to think or ask advise about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a little close too home, and a little odd that your best friend is trying to set you up with her son

Fit he maybe? But I would imagine there would be so much to more to loose,than gain, depends I suppose how much you value her friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Warning bells should be going off in your head, much better to keep it vanilla, especially if you value your friendship. Things like this have a way of going tits up very quickly.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

How 'best' of mates are you if you've only just met the Son after 24+ years?

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Thanks for all the input, I wouldn't call it incest as we are not related!!!

It's not just about a shag, as I can get that anytime and he's made it clear it's not just about sex either!

I don't think it's odd that my mate is ok about it, after all she knows the kind of person I am!

Like I said, my main problem with it is I don't want to lose my best friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you arent interested,and personally i am in agreement with most of the other posters,ie stay away,why would you give him your number and invite him over to yours without his mother,your friend?

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"How 'best' of mates are you if you've only just met the Son after 24+ years?"

We've been best friends for about 7 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the input, I wouldn't call it incest as we are not related!!!

It's not just about a shag, as I can get that anytime and he's made it clear it's not just about sex either!

I don't think it's odd that my mate is ok about it, after all she knows the kind of person I am!

Like I said, my main problem with it is I don't want to lose my best friend!"

Exactly be careful your playing with fire, if you hurt him. ....Most mothers side with their offspring its natural. Bye bye best friend!

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"I feel that just by the fact that you invited him around just to chill and chat,then you already pretty much know whats gonna happen next "

Not at all and he asked to come over and talk, which is exactly what we did!

I feel I'm being judged for trying to be sensible lol

I just wanted some advice, not to be made out to be some sexual predator!!!

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"if you arent interested,and personally i am in agreement with most of the other posters,ie stay away,why would you give him your number and invite him over to yours without his mother,your friend?"

I didn't give him my number and his mum knows he come over, and she knows exactly how I feel

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

you have that name for a reason, use it!! I mean... him!

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By *ornypborocplCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

If there's an attraction on your side then go for it! Life's to short to worry !

Can certainly see why he's attracted to you!

Just out of interest do any of them know your on this site ? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bad idea, simples.

loads of other lads who would love your attention.

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"If there's an attraction on your side then go for it! Life's to short to worry !

Can certainly see why he's attracted to you!

Just out of interest do any of them know your on this site ? X "

Yeh they both know and thank u

See I would have thought it would only be wrong if I'd known him for 24 years and watched him grow up!!!

But I met him for the first time yesterday!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What part of this can even come cloae to ending well?

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By *ornypborocplCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"If there's an attraction on your side then go for it! Life's to short to worry !

Can certainly see why he's attracted to you!

Just out of interest do any of them know your on this site ? X

Yeh they both know and thank u

See I would have thought it would only be wrong if I'd known him for 24 years and watched him grow up!!!

But I met him for the first time yesterday!!

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Do you find him attractive? If you do then text him and get him Round , if your mate is happy then there's no problem, did he mention you being on this site at all when you were chatting last night ? X

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"Interesting that it is mainly men saying go for it and women saying avoid. In your position it would be a definite no from me. Friendships are more important than a shag."

My thoughts exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jeremy kyle will have a field day with this

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

If all are happy then , go for it ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a little close too home, and a little odd that your best friend is trying to set you up with her son

Fit he maybe? But I would imagine there would be so much to more to loose,than gain, depends I suppose how much you value her friendship. "

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"jeremy kyle will have a field day with this"

Lol jeeeeeez I haven't even done anything!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If there's an attraction on your side then go for it! Life's to short to worry !

Can certainly see why he's attracted to you!

Just out of interest do any of them know your on this site ? X

Yeh they both know and thank u

See I would have thought it would only be wrong if I'd known him for 24 years and watched him grow up!!!

But I met him for the first time yesterday!!

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If you only met him yesterday, then it'll be easy to end it now.

If you want, I know a few decent- to good-looking 24 year old males that would most probably have sex with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dangerous...but what was your friend thinking encouraging you....may be if her son is shy and a little inexperienced with girls, perhaps she would like someone she trusts to broaden his experience. think you need to talk seriously with your friend and explore her motives to encouraging you"

Good advise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what feels right. Your best friend had only been your friend for 7 months so you can always find another.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Personally my relationship with my best friend would be more important to me than getting my leg over, so Id steer clear"

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By *arlock69Man
over a year ago

Batley... (near Leeds)


"Stay away from him...if it all goes tits up you lose your friend!!

That's what worries me the most!"

Just stay away from him hun...there's something very wrong with a mother wanting to get her son laid with her friend!!!

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

defo steer clear

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Stay away from him...if it all goes tits up you lose your friend!!

That's what worries me the most!

Just stay away from him hun...there's something very wrong with a mother wanting to get her son laid with her friend!!!"

He's 24 not 14!!!! Lol

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

My two penn'orth

Stay mates with her and put him in your wankbank (or female equivalent) then no one is hurt

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"If there's an attraction on your side then go for it! Life's to short to worry !

Can certainly see why he's attracted to you!

Just out of interest do any of them know your on this site ? X

Yeh they both know and thank u

See I would have thought it would only be wrong if I'd known him for 24 years and watched him grow up!!!

But I met him for the first time yesterday!!

If you only met him yesterday, then it'll be easy to end it now.

If you want, I know a few decent- to good-looking 24 year old males that would most probably have sex with you."

It's nothing to do with the age or sex!!

But thank u lol

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Admin feel free to close thread lol

Thank u all for your advice and comments x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At 24 that would of totally been my fantasy. If you think he's fit make the young man happy and go for it! "

At the age of 24, come to think of it, I was being used by girls from the ages of 18 to 50, and having the time of my life. I had sex with lots of my friends' mothers ... and those women wanted me as much as I wanted them. Great days !! How many other guys had terrific sex with cougars, before the term existed? Own up, lads. And ladies, own up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you arent interested,and personally i am in agreement with most of the other posters,ie stay away,why would you give him your number and invite him over to yours without his mother,your friend?

I didn't give him my number and his mum knows he come over, and she knows exactly how I feel"

Bit of a discrepancy as you say he dont have your number you go on to say he been texting you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you like him give him the best night of his life, i wish i was his age and an older lady like you wanted to fuck me, it would be awesome x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you could have a three sum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mate trying to set you up with her son. Doesn't sound healthy. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I understand this correctly then he says he want a relationship with you not just a shag? Does he know about your swinging then? I'm assuming his mother does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this thread was a bloke asking about his mates daughter I wonder how different it would be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 months is hardly long enough for a good strong friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If this thread was a bloke asking about his mates daughter I wonder how different it would be?"

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"if you arent interested,and personally i am in agreement with most of the other posters,ie stay away,why would you give him your number and invite him over to yours without his mother,your friend?

I didn't give him my number and his mum knows he come over, and she knows exactly how I feel

Bit of a discrepancy as you say he dont have your number you go on to say he been texting you ?"

Erm no I said I didn't give him my number!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hang on, she said she only met him for the first time yesterday and he already says he wants a relationship?

Something doesnt add up here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have allready started the ball rolling by allowing him round so think if its wot you want then fine hes 24 lol and not like you known him growing up but you must go for it or stop him coming round x.

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By *ebsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Orpington/london


"Personally my relationship with my best friend would be more important to me than getting my leg over, so Id steer clear "

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"Well met my best mates 24 year old son yesterday!

She had already told me that he would like me so after he met me started texting me saying he wants me!

My mate has told me she is fine with it but I've told her I don't think it's right and I don't want anything to spoil our friendship! But she's told me not to worry about it!

He came over last night but I made it clear just to chill and chat, it was nice but I don't know what to do??

And constructive advice please? Lol"

You already overstepped the mark, why would you invite him over Mrs Jones. I think it's wrong and all he will get out of it is I shagged my mums best mate, you want to hear that out in town?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think someone is having us on......or it's a researcher for jeremy kyle......

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"Thanks for all the input, I wouldn't call it incest as we are not related!!!

It's not just about a shag, as I can get that anytime and he's made it clear it's not just about sex either!

I don't think it's odd that my mate is ok about it, after all she knows the kind of person I am!

Like I said, my main problem with it is I don't want to lose my best friend!"

So does your friend know that your on a swingers website and meet up with men? I would never encourage my son to go with any of my vanilla or lifestyle friends even that I love my friends and that they are all lovely.

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"hang on, she said she only met him for the first time yesterday and he already says he wants a relationship?

Something doesnt add up here "

No I didn't say he wanted a relationship!!! Lol

Ok think this is getting out of hand, I asked for advice not to be judged or slated!!!

As I said, I haven't done anything!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a bit odd that anyone would talk about their child in a sexual way with their mate

personally if i knew someone liked me in a way i didn't like them back i wouldn't be inviting them to my home where we was alone for a chat, you could be sending out mixed signals to the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you arent interested,and personally i am in agreement with most of the other posters,ie stay away,why would you give him your number and invite him over to yours without his mother,your friend?

I didn't give him my number and his mum knows he come over, and she knows exactly how I feel

Bit of a discrepancy as you say he dont have your number you go on to say he been texting you ?

Erm no I said I didn't give him my number!!"

I refer to second paragraph of the original post where you say after he met you started texting the wants you.

I maybe reading it wrong but seems bit odd the whole thing seems off.

As some others point out if bloke had posted this the outcry would have been deafening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant imagine even the most open minded of my friends saying go for it - i just couldnt and to be honest no need is there just for sex ? how many single men on here ?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I read that as his mum texting, maybe I'm wrong.

Anyway, why all the fuss. He's an adult, his mum seems to be encouraging it. My only reservation is what adult male lets their mum decide their sex life for them?

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By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY

Keep away friends are hard to come by but shags are another thing

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

I never realized how many judgemental people there are on here!!!

Thank u again, just wanted advice as I said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would steer clear also... all sounds a bit risky.

I also find it entirely bizarre that she is trying to hook you both up."

This!!!!

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"I find it a bit odd that anyone would talk about their child in a sexual way with their mate

personally if i knew someone liked me in a way i didn't like them back i wouldn't be inviting them to my home where we was alone for a chat, you could be sending out mixed signals to the guy "

I never said I didn't like him and I haven't been talking about sexual stuff with his mum!

U all make it sound so sordid and criminal

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By *amamanMan
over a year ago

Inverness and around. ...


"I find it a bit odd that anyone would talk about their child in a sexual way with their mate

personally if i knew someone liked me in a way i didn't like them back i wouldn't be inviting them to my home where we was alone for a chat, you could be sending out mixed signals to the guy

I never said I didn't like him and I haven't been talking about sexual stuff with his mum!

U all make it sound so sordid and criminal "

i dont think it is sordid ....just your freindship may be tested ???be wary for what is only sex ....

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"I find it a bit odd that anyone would talk about their child in a sexual way with their mate

personally if i knew someone liked me in a way i didn't like them back i wouldn't be inviting them to my home where we was alone for a chat, you could be sending out mixed signals to the guy

I never said I didn't like him and I haven't been talking about sexual stuff with his mum!

U all make it sound so sordid and criminal "

I'm not but still waiting for an answer if not much to ask. Hey it's your life and if you really don't want peoples opinions then don't post on here surely you did know that it would be a mixed review come on

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Thanks for all the input, I wouldn't call it incest as we are not related!!!

It's not just about a shag, as I can get that anytime and he's made it clear it's not just about sex either!

I don't think it's odd that my mate is ok about it, after all she knows the kind of person I am!

Like I said, my main problem with it is I don't want to lose my best friend!

So does your friend know that your on a swingers website and meet up with men? I would never encourage my son to go with any of my vanilla or lifestyle friends even that I love my friends and that they are all lovely. "

Yes they both know

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Thanks for all the input, I wouldn't call it incest as we are not related!!!

It's not just about a shag, as I can get that anytime and he's made it clear it's not just about sex either!

I don't think it's odd that my mate is ok about it, after all she knows the kind of person I am!

Like I said, my main problem with it is I don't want to lose my best friend!

So does your friend know that your on a swingers website and meet up with men? I would never encourage my son to go with any of my vanilla or lifestyle friends even that I love my friends and that they are all lovely. "

Yes they both know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you are thinking about bedding him then, otherwise you wouldn't be asking!

Im assuming your 'best mate' is older than you and as she is your 'best mate' you have known her for a while! along with her son who you have seen grow up!

Best advice here is Stay well away from your 'best mates' son.

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"So you are thinking about bedding him then, otherwise you wouldn't be asking!

Im assuming your 'best mate' is older than you and as she is your 'best mate' you have known her for a while! along with her son who you have seen grow up!

Best advice here is Stay well away from your 'best mates' son."

Just proves people don't read posts properly!!! Lol

I met him for the first time yesterday!!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Well met my best mates 24 year old son yesterday!

She had already told me that he would like me so after he met me started texting me saying he wants me!

My mate has told me she is fine with it but I've told her I don't think it's right and I don't want anything to spoil our friendship! But she's told me not to worry about it!

He came over last night but I made it clear just to chill and chat, it was nice but I don't know what to do??

And constructive advice please? Lol"

There are certain things that are no brainers and you shouldn't even contemplate it but you are and regardless of what is said here you'll do him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you are thinking about bedding him then, otherwise you wouldn't be asking!

Im assuming your 'best mate' is older than you and as she is your 'best mate' you have known her for a while! along with her son who you have seen grow up!

Best advice here is Stay well away from your 'best mates' son.

Just proves people don't read posts properly!!! Lol

I met him for the first time yesterday!!!!"

First time yesterday, come off it he is your best mates son, how long have you known her for ?

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"So you are thinking about bedding him then, otherwise you wouldn't be asking!

Im assuming your 'best mate' is older than you and as she is your 'best mate' you have known her for a while! along with her son who you have seen grow up!

Best advice here is Stay well away from your 'best mates' son.

Just proves people don't read posts properly!!! Lol

I met him for the first time yesterday!!!!

First time yesterday, come off it he is your best mates son, how long have you known her for ?

"

Known his mum about 7 months, he's been away working!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you are thinking about bedding him then, otherwise you wouldn't be asking!

Im assuming your 'best mate' is older than you and as she is your 'best mate' you have known her for a while! along with her son who you have seen grow up!

Best advice here is Stay well away from your 'best mates' son.

Just proves people don't read posts properly!!! Lol

I met him for the first time yesterday!!!!"

I am thinking his mum is a bit odd setting him up with someone she has only known a few months clearly they get on well to have discussed meeting the o p what would worry me is would he report back to mummy everytime he sees you.

Trust your gut not your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally my relationship with my best friend would be more important to me than getting my leg over, so Id steer clear"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not been judged or slated in my opinion. You asked for advice and have been given it, 80% of the people replying are saying don't do it. If them saying you shouldn't do this or is slating you I don't see it.

I get the feeling you wanted everyone to say go for it, but sadly there are lines you don't cross and sleeping with your friends kids is one of them. Regardless of how long they have been friends & how old the kids are.

It's your life, do make your own decision, but the resounding advice you received it this is a bad idea and you shouldn't do it.

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"You're not been judged or slated in my opinion. You asked for advice and have been given it, 80% of the people replying are saying don't do it. If them saying you shouldn't do this or is slating you I don't see it.

I get the feeling you wanted everyone to say go for it, but sadly there are lines you don't cross and sleeping with your friends kids is one of them. Regardless of how long they have been friends & how old the kids are.

It's your life, do make your own decision, but the resounding advice you received it this is a bad idea and you shouldn't do it."

Well said! I'm out of here getting boring now, and I have a pussy that need attention for a very important party

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"You're not been judged or slated in my opinion. You asked for advice and have been given it, 80% of the people replying are saying don't do it. If them saying you shouldn't do this or is slating you I don't see it.

I get the feeling you wanted everyone to say go for it, but sadly there are lines you don't cross and sleeping with your friends kids is one of them. Regardless of how long they have been friends & how old the kids are.

It's your life, do make your own decision, but the resounding advice you received it this is a bad idea and you shouldn't do it."

I didn't say everyone was and have thanked people for their advice, it's just the few people making me feel like some sexual predator lol

I didn't expect everyone to say go for it but I'd hoped there would be more open minded replys!

Like I have said I haven't done anything wrong!

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By *ornypborocplCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I think the ok has had a hard time , she has asked for advice , not to be slated , if people read the whole thread then maybe there wouldn't be so many negative and hostile reactions!

It's 2 people with a attraction to each other from what we are reading , can every one on here that's had meets genuinely say they haven't had doubts about playing but have !

No wonder people are using the forums less frequently !

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"I think the ok has had a hard time , she has asked for advice , not to be slated , if people read the whole thread then maybe there wouldn't be so many negative and hostile reactions!

It's 2 people with a attraction to each other from what we are reading , can every one on here that's had meets genuinely say they haven't had doubts about playing but have !

No wonder people are using the forums less frequently ! "

Thank you, really appriciate that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But most of us wouldn't have invited our so called best friends son round having never met them before to get into such a situation....

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"Thanks for all the input, I wouldn't call it incest as we are not related!!!

It's not just about a shag, as I can get that anytime and he's made it clear it's not just about sex either!

I don't think it's odd that my mate is ok about it, after all she knows the kind of person I am!

Like I said, my main problem with it is I don't want to lose my best friend!

So does your friend know that your on a swingers website and meet up with men? I would never encourage my son to go with any of my vanilla or lifestyle friends even that I love my friends and that they are all lovely.

Yes they both know "

And I have read it I did ask you 2 things so don't get high on your horse if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you are thinking about bedding him then, otherwise you wouldn't be asking!

Im assuming your 'best mate' is older than you and as she is your 'best mate' you have known her for a while! along with her son who you have seen grow up!

Best advice here is Stay well away from your 'best mates' son.

Just proves people don't read posts properly!!! Lol

I met him for the first time yesterday!!!!

I am thinking his mum is a bit odd setting him up with someone she has only known a few months clearly they get on well to have discussed meeting the o p what would worry me is would he report back to mummy everytime he sees you.

Trust your gut not your friend."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

No wonder people are using the forums less frequently ! "

Are they?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I didn't expect everyone to say go for it but I'd hoped there would be more open minded replys!

"

The way I read that is that by openminded you actually mean agreeing with you.

Which suggests that this is more about seeking approval rather than seeking advice

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By *ornypborocplCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I think the ok has had a hard time , she has asked for advice , not to be slated , if people read the whole thread then maybe there wouldn't be so many negative and hostile reactions!

It's 2 people with a attraction to each other from what we are reading , can every one on here that's had meets genuinely say they haven't had doubts about playing but have !

No wonder people are using the forums less frequently !

Thank you, really appriciate that xx"

Not a problem , tried to message you but can't as we are blocked ! X

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Thanks for all the input, I wouldn't call it incest as we are not related!!!

It's not just about a shag, as I can get that anytime and he's made it clear it's not just about sex either!

I don't think it's odd that my mate is ok about it, after all she knows the kind of person I am!

Like I said, my main problem with it is I don't want to lose my best friend!

So does your friend know that your on a swingers website and meet up with men? I would never encourage my son to go with any of my vanilla or lifestyle friends even that I love my friends and that they are all lovely.

Yes they both know

And I have read it I did ask you 2 things so don't get high on your horse if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen. "

I apologise I thought u only asked me one thing!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

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By *ornypborocplCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet

Couldn't agree more

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

"

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

"

but there are just some people that given the choice you wouldn't get involved with because of all the potential problems if something went wrong or it didn't work out and most of us wouldn't choose to go there. Yes I know it happens but I think what I'm not comfortable with us going out of your way to make something potentially complicated happen when less complicated relationships are an option. She's only met him once remember.

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

This is not about age and bless the girl that put this post up,this is about the boys mother trying to get her friend of 7 months friendship and her flesh and blood together and as a parent would you really like to hear about your son and daughters sexual experiences? Well????? I know I would not the same as we don't go back and tell our teenagers about our dirty weekends away it's just not right. Rant over

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

"

Yes I have an 18 year old son and I wouldn't encourage him to go with my friends!!

And yes I have read all the replies and as I have said many many times through this thread that I haven't done anything!!!

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"This is not about age and bless the girl that put this post up,this is about the boys mother trying to get her friend of 7 months friendship and her flesh and blood together and as a parent would you really like to hear about your son and daughters sexual experiences? Well????? I know I would not the same as we don't go back and tell our teenagers about our dirty weekends away it's just not right. Rant over "

But nothing HAS happened and even IF it did then I wouldn't discuss it with his mum nor would he!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

Yes I have an 18 year old son and I wouldn't encourage him to go with my friends!!

And yes I have read all the replies and as I have said many many times through this thread that I haven't done anything!!!"

well let's hope that it all works out well then and you make the best decision for all concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For my two penny worth I say trust your gut feeling . It's your life grab it with both hands and enjoy it.

Your mate sounds a liberal woman so unless you do something really nasty to her son why would you lose her friendship ?

Good luck , have fun and enjoy YOUR life xxxxx

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"For my two penny worth I say trust your gut feeling . It's your life grab it with both hands and enjoy it.

Your mate sounds a liberal woman so unless you do something really nasty to her son why would you lose her friendship ?

Good luck , have fun and enjoy YOUR life xxxxx"

Like my mate said 'he's a hairy arsed man and he can do what he likes' lol

She said she learnt a long time ago not to interfere in his life!

She knows my concerns and has told me we'll always be friends!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

"

Yes, I have read all the replies but im not a herd animal, I can formulate my own opinions.

So what you and others are saying is that if you and a friend had single adult children of similar ages who hadn't met but you know from discussions with this friend your respective children had similar interests you wouldn't even think of introducing them?

Oh, for the record, I've five children, three of which are over eighteen.

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By *eorge17Man
over a year ago

Leven

I think this thread belongs in the forum 3 down from this one

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I think this thread belongs in the forum 3 down from this one "

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"I think this thread belongs in the forum 3 down from this one "

To be honest, I'm finding none of this horny!!!

It's quite difficult tbh

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

OK, I haven't read all the posts but my two-pennuth is no, no and no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let him have the night he's going to be bragging about for the rest of his life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not read the whole thread so sorry if this has been said. If you have or say you had a child how would you feel if your mate shagged them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this thread belongs in the forum 3 down from this one

To be honest, I'm finding none of this horny!!!

It's quite difficult tbh"

Looking fir the hug smiley nope not one there just have to catch this one ((((((((hugggggggg))))))))))£££

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For my two penny worth I say trust your gut feeling . It's your life grab it with both hands and enjoy it.

Your mate sounds a liberal woman so unless you do something really nasty to her son why would you lose her friendship ?

Good luck , have fun and enjoy YOUR life xxxxx

Like my mate said 'he's a hairy arsed man and he can do what he likes' lol

She said she learnt a long time ago not to interfere in his life!

She knows my concerns and has told me we'll always be friends!"

I've got adult kids and no way would I go there with a friends kid...

Sorry but a friend is a friend, I would respect the friendship more than a shag x

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"For my two penny worth I say trust your gut feeling . It's your life grab it with both hands and enjoy it.

Your mate sounds a liberal woman so unless you do something really nasty to her son why would you lose her friendship ?

Good luck , have fun and enjoy YOUR life xxxxx

Like my mate said 'he's a hairy arsed man and he can do what he likes' lol

She said she learnt a long time ago not to interfere in his life!

She knows my concerns and has told me we'll always be friends!

I've got adult kids and no way would I go there with a friends kid...

Sorry but a friend is a friend, I would respect the friendship more than a shag x"

And if your friend was 20 years older than you and their child was the same age as you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For my two penny worth I say trust your gut feeling . It's your life grab it with both hands and enjoy it.

Your mate sounds a liberal woman so unless you do something really nasty to her son why would you lose her friendship ?

Good luck , have fun and enjoy YOUR life xxxxx

Like my mate said 'he's a hairy arsed man and he can do what he likes' lol

She said she learnt a long time ago not to interfere in his life!

She knows my concerns and has told me we'll always be friends!

I've got adult kids and no way would I go there with a friends kid...

Sorry but a friend is a friend, I would respect the friendship more than a shag x

And if your friend was 20 years older than you and their child was the same age as you? "

Yes rules would still be the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only love once babe that's our moto anyway

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"For my two penny worth I say trust your gut feeling . It's your life grab it with both hands and enjoy it.

Your mate sounds a liberal woman so unless you do something really nasty to her son why would you lose her friendship ?

Good luck , have fun and enjoy YOUR life xxxxx

Like my mate said 'he's a hairy arsed man and he can do what he likes' lol

She said she learnt a long time ago not to interfere in his life!

She knows my concerns and has told me we'll always be friends!

I've got adult kids and no way would I go there with a friends kid...

Sorry but a friend is a friend, I would respect the friendship more than a shag x

And if your friend was 20 years older than you and their child was the same age as you?

Yes rules would still be the same "

Even with friend's blessing? I'm referring to a non swinging situation btw.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

Do you really need anyone else's opinion? Only you know the situation fully and only you know what's right for you. Everyone else can only give you the answer that would be right for them.

I think you know what you want to do and probably what you're going to do. Listen to your instincts and try not to do anything you think you will regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I know of you from chatting I know how important a friend is. I wouldn't risk it even if she approves. Good friends are hard to come by...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me"

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't meet guys younger than my friends son let alone have sex with them, he acts as a benchmark age wise.

I just can't see a good outcome with this scenario for you so i would say step away whilst you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would you want your best friend to have sex with your son(if he was of age obviously).

just saying my opinion,and no,i dont really think its a good idea to have sex with him.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

holy fucking holy.....jump to conclusions make accusations..blahh fucking blah.

A grown mother of a 24yr old son, actually thinks her pal could be suitable as a partner(some have concluded that somehow its JUST based on sex?)and that the mother might be sick for suggesting it?...fuck me FFS!

there isnt a huge age gap(which might not matter to many anyway)

if the OP likes the MAN, and he likes the OP..and his mother thinks nicely of the OP, why the fuck not!

some people should grow up and not think anything sounding slightly 'odd' means something disastrous

the jeremy kyle comments are equally ridiculous.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!"

and?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think the guys mother is sick for suggesting it but I admit to finding it slightly odd.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?"

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could see this going all wrong...

Lets be honest after the sex, what u gonna talk about, 37 and 24,total different outlook on life, different problems and opinions..

Value your friendship and appreciate it....

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By *ark n gemCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I feel that just by the fact that you invited him around just to chill and chat,then you already pretty much know whats gonna happen next

Not at all and he asked to come over and talk, which is exactly what we did!

I feel I'm being judged for trying to be sensible lol

I just wanted some advice, not to be made out to be some sexual predator!!!"

Well I hope everything works out for all involved what ever direction it takes , (wish I was 24 again ) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for. "

maybe she views him as a man, has possibly been open about relationships to him...even at 24, he might be quite mature in his outlook.I doubt the mother wants to know any other detail other than he has the opportunity of dating a nice woman..and who knows where it will go.

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over a year ago


"I don't think the guys mother is sick for suggesting it but I admit to finding it slightly odd."

that was a general response to:-

the jeremy kyle bit comment

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for.

maybe she views him as a man, has possibly been open about relationships to him...even at 24, he might be quite mature in his outlook.I doubt the mother wants to know any other detail other than he has the opportunity of dating a nice woman..and who knows where it will go."

well since neither of us know any of the parties personally its all academic isn't it?

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By *irtyDee33 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for.

maybe she views him as a man, has possibly been open about relationships to him...even at 24, he might be quite mature in his outlook.I doubt the mother wants to know any other detail other than he has the opportunity of dating a nice woman..and who knows where it will go."

Thank u xxx

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

Yes, I have read all the replies but im not a herd animal, I can formulate my own opinions.

So what you and others are saying is that if you and a friend had single adult children of similar ages who hadn't met but you know from discussions with this friend your respective children had similar interests you wouldn't even think of introducing them?

Oh, for the record, I've five children, three of which are over eighteen. "

So you would be happy for your daughter or son to go off with an older man/woman who was a new friend of yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for.

maybe she views him as a man, has possibly been open about relationships to him...even at 24, he might be quite mature in his outlook.I doubt the mother wants to know any other detail other than he has the opportunity of dating a nice woman..and who knows where it will go.

well since neither of us know any of the parties personally its all academic isn't it? "

it is that..however viewing the negative threads of

"It'll end in DOooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooom!", I thought I'd keep an open mind...

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over a year ago


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for.

maybe she views him as a man, has possibly been open about relationships to him...even at 24, he might be quite mature in his outlook.I doubt the mother wants to know any other detail other than he has the opportunity of dating a nice woman..and who knows where it will go."

I think the problem I have is that the OP has implied that her friend has introduced her to her son with the view to them having some sort of relationship. That is what I, as a mother, am struggling with. If it was a friendship and relationship that had developed naturally from them spending time together then so be it. These things happen, and I don't think I would have such a problem with that. It all just sounds very calculated and something that could potentially break up a friendship if things go wrong, and I don't see that as being worth the hassle.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for.

maybe she views him as a man, has possibly been open about relationships to him...even at 24, he might be quite mature in his outlook.I doubt the mother wants to know any other detail other than he has the opportunity of dating a nice woman..and who knows where it will go.

well since neither of us know any of the parties personally its all academic isn't it?

it is that..however viewing the negative threads of

"It'll end in DOooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooom!", I thought I'd keep an open mind..."

I am happy to concede that an open mind is the best way forward in all cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sounds a bit taboo, but you're both adults. It just sounds a bit strange how his mum would know about it?

I think she likes the idea coz she knows I'm a nice person and she said she knew he would like me

This is the bit I find the weirdest, his mum shouldn't be setting him up with women....he's 24!

and?

as I said I find it weird, I don't think parents being that closely involved in their childrens love lives is a good thing usually. My opinion that's all and I thought opinions were asked for.

maybe she views him as a man, has possibly been open about relationships to him...even at 24, he might be quite mature in his outlook.I doubt the mother wants to know any other detail other than he has the opportunity of dating a nice woman..and who knows where it will go.

I think the problem I have is that the OP has implied that her friend has introduced her to her son with the view to them having some sort of relationship. That is what I, as a mother, am struggling with. If it was a friendship and relationship that had developed naturally from them spending time together then so be it. These things happen, and I don't think I would have such a problem with that. It all just sounds very calculated and something that could potentially break up a friendship if things go wrong, and I don't see that as being worth the hassle."

whats the harm in trying..if things dont work out so be it, as long as either parties involved remain civil.I find it as natural as people saying they can find love on this site, its not the best place for it,it isnt 'normal'..the OP's case isnt actually that odd,and in my opinion the OP should feel flattered she might not have the over protective mother who thinks of her own happiness instead of her sons....then again...maybe shes like norman bates's mum.....get OUT OP...get out...it can only be a disaster...

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

Yes, I have read all the replies but im not a herd animal, I can formulate my own opinions.

So what you and others are saying is that if you and a friend had single adult children of similar ages who hadn't met but you know from discussions with this friend your respective children had similar interests you wouldn't even think of introducing them?

Oh, for the record, I've five children, three of which are over eighteen.

So you would be happy for your daughter or son to go off with an older man/woman who was a new friend of yours?

"

My children are not stupid and have been taught to think before they act. If any one of them, at 24 years of age or over, got involved with someone 13 years their senior and that person was a newly acquired friend of mine then I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Don't forget we're talking about a 24 year old, not a barely legal 16 year old with a 29 year old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

Yes, I have read all the replies but im not a herd animal, I can formulate my own opinions.

So what you and others are saying is that if you and a friend had single adult children of similar ages who hadn't met but you know from discussions with this friend your respective children had similar interests you wouldn't even think of introducing them?

Oh, for the record, I've five children, three of which are over eighteen.

So you would be happy for your daughter or son to go off with an older man/woman who was a new friend of yours?

My children are not stupid and have been taught to think before they act. If any one of them, at 24 years of age or over, got involved with someone 13 years their senior and that person was a newly acquired friend of mine then I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Don't forget we're talking about a 24 year old, not a barely legal 16 year old with a 29 year old. "

Fair enough, but would you introduce them with a view to having a relationship?

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I to as a Mother find this mother a bit strange trying to set up her 24 year old son with her best friend who she only met yesterday, and just to recap Best friends son, met yesterday, text saying that he wanted her, there that evening op says did not give number!how would the op reacted if her 18 year old son was doing the same thing with her best friend and I have read the thread.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

Yes, I have read all the replies but im not a herd animal, I can formulate my own opinions.

So what you and others are saying is that if you and a friend had single adult children of similar ages who hadn't met but you know from discussions with this friend your respective children had similar interests you wouldn't even think of introducing them?

Oh, for the record, I've five children, three of which are over eighteen.

So you would be happy for your daughter or son to go off with an older man/woman who was a new friend of yours?

My children are not stupid and have been taught to think before they act. If any one of them, at 24 years of age or over, got involved with someone 13 years their senior and that person was a newly acquired friend of mine then I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Don't forget we're talking about a 24 year old, not a barely legal 16 year old with a 29 year old.

Fair enough, but would you introduce them with a view to having a relationship? "

If I thought they'd get on well then yes I would. At least I'd know I'd get on with my potential son/daughter-in-law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

Yes, I have read all the replies but im not a herd animal, I can formulate my own opinions.

So what you and others are saying is that if you and a friend had single adult children of similar ages who hadn't met but you know from discussions with this friend your respective children had similar interests you wouldn't even think of introducing them?

Oh, for the record, I've five children, three of which are over eighteen.

So you would be happy for your daughter or son to go off with an older man/woman who was a new friend of yours?

My children are not stupid and have been taught to think before they act. If any one of them, at 24 years of age or over, got involved with someone 13 years their senior and that person was a newly acquired friend of mine then I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Don't forget we're talking about a 24 year old, not a barely legal 16 year old with a 29 year old.

Fair enough, but would you introduce them with a view to having a relationship? "

I think "got involved with someone 13 years their senior and that person was a newly acquired friend of mine then I wouldn't have a problem with it..." tells u lol

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

No idea really but I would go with the women's advice. In my experience women are more sensible than men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the ok has had a hard time , she has asked for advice , not to be slated , if people read the whole thread then maybe there wouldn't be so many negative and hostile reactions!

It's 2 people with a attraction to each other from what we are reading , can every one on here that's had meets genuinely say they haven't had doubts about playing but have !

No wonder people are using the forums less frequently ! "

Well said. I agree.

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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago

Cougarville

Look at it another way , if it was your daughter and your best friend was male?

Or if you met him in a club not knowing he was your friends son , would you ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there no one suitable on here for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your friend endorsing this that's the odd thing otherwise go for it he will love it just stay in control keep him sub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still think you should have a threesum... then agin im from cornwall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this wouldnt be something i would be interested in, personally.

its not that he is too young, thats his choice, and yours.

if you had met him in a bar or whatever, then all power to you, its the fact a friend is suggesting it to you, and after they both know you are a swinger, i would be cautious they arent seeing it as an easy way for him to sow his wild oats, eleviate some sexual tension, as it were.

just tread carefully if nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well met my best mates 24 year old son yesterday!

She had already told me that he would like me so after he met me started texting me saying he wants me!

My mate has told me she is fine with it but I've told her I don't think it's right and I don't want anything to spoil our friendship! But she's told me not to worry about it!

He came over last night but I made it clear just to chill and chat, it was nice but I don't know what to do??

And constructive advice please? Lol"

If it was me I would feel like it was a neice/nephew not a best friends child if you get my drift....and for all those who have said that you will lose your friend if / when it goes wrong....I think they are absolutely correct.. let him carry on wanking over you and take it as a complement. ....not a ticket to the next episode of Jeremy kyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My honest advice would be to find yourself a new best friend,she sounds way too creepy. Most women would want to physically assault a best friend who had any sexual interest in their son but she actively encourages it ?

I must be getting old or something but that's just not socially acceptable behaviour,well not the way I was brought up anyways.

I'm not putting anyone down here I'm just amazed this is even open for debate,strange days indeed.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

odd this /....ears ago I had my next door neighbours brother in law and her 18 yr old nephew her son was young

then I moved away

a few years ago I had a phone call from her asking if I would shag her son who was a virgin I said no despite having the rest of her family it didn't seem right but only you can decide

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

years

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"years"

ears sounded better, well it made me laugh anyway

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"years

ears sounded better, well it made me laugh anyway "

felt a right dumbo wen I read it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this wouldnt be something i would be interested in, personally.

its not that he is too young, thats his choice, and yours.

if you had met him in a bar or whatever, then all power to you, its the fact a friend is suggesting it to you, and after they both know you are a swinger, i would be cautious they arent seeing it as an easy way for him to sow his wild oats, eleviate some sexual tension, as it were.

just tread carefully if nothing else."

this. And odd friend. I would not be comfortable with that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"years

ears sounded better, well it made me laugh anyway

felt a right dumbo wen I read it lol"

Lol don't feel like a dumbo I have posted some right howlers in my time, I think it cheers the place up a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My honest advice would be to find yourself a new best friend,she sounds way too creepy. Most women would want to physically assault a best friend who had any sexual interest in their son but she actively encourages it ?

I must be getting old or something but that's just not socially acceptable behaviour,well not the way I was brought up anyways.

I'm not putting anyone down here I'm just amazed this is even open for debate,strange days indeed."

neither is swinging....thats more amazing!

almost everyone one of 'us' would be more jeremy kyle than a mother setting up her 24 year old son with a friend(bearing in mind the OP isnt a family friend, she hasnt known the son since he was young etc etc).Far too many negative judgements on unknown factors

fucking boring episode of jeremy kyle this would make

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"years

ears sounded better, well it made me laugh anyway

felt a right dumbo wen I read it lol

Lol don't feel like a dumbo I have posted some right howlers in my time, I think it cheers the place up a bit "

dumbo didn't mind!!! lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"years

ears sounded better, well it made me laugh anyway

felt a right dumbo wen I read it lol

Lol don't feel like a dumbo I have posted some right howlers in my time, I think it cheers the place up a bit

dumbo didn't mind!!! lol"

well Dumbo was well known for his ears

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"My honest advice would be to find yourself a new best friend,she sounds way too creepy. Most women would want to physically assault a best friend who had any sexual interest in their son but she actively encourages it ?

I must be getting old or something but that's just not socially acceptable behaviour,well not the way I was brought up anyways.

I'm not putting anyone down here I'm just amazed this is even open for debate,strange days indeed."

Well said and just my point too,this mother and so called friend is creepy. We been to a swingers club where a couple brought their son also arousal let in a very heavy pregnant woman sorry to me that's so wrong, people who would involve there family is fucked up,

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"When I started reading this thread my reaction was disgust but then I thought about it.

With the lad being 24 the 13 year age difference isn't an issue for me. Different if he was 18, maturity and all that.

How many of you with adult kids have said to a friend I bet my so and so would get on with your do-da?People have been matchmaking since man has been on the planet.

Have you got grown up kids? I have teenagers and would never tell them to go with any of our friends very strange thing to say especially if you don't have kids? You have obviously not read all the replies TUT TUT

Yes, I have read all the replies but im not a herd animal, I can formulate my own opinions.

So what you and others are saying is that if you and a friend had single adult children of similar ages who hadn't met but you know from discussions with this friend your respective children had similar interests you wouldn't even think of introducing them?

Oh, for the record, I've five children, three of which are over eighteen.

So you would be happy for your daughter or son to go off with an older man/woman who was a new friend of yours?

My children are not stupid and have been taught to think before they act. If any one of them, at 24 years of age or over, got involved with someone 13 years their senior and that person was a newly acquired friend of mine then I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Don't forget we're talking about a 24 year old, not a barely legal 16 year old with a 29 year old.

Fair enough, but would you introduce them with a view to having a relationship?

If I thought they'd get on well then yes I would. At least I'd know I'd get on with my potential son/daughter-in-law. "

OMG

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By *p4u77Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

Jeeze!! They are both consenting adults for god sake it's not like he is underage! Some lads have a good relationship with their parents sounds like he is one that can talk to his mum about anything! Go for it Dee as long as u r honest from the start and set boundaries as to what u both want I can't see what the problem is and it's not like u will lose your friendship if u have the blessing of your friend good luck!!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

make his day and ask his mum to join in lol

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By *p4u77Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

Just find some comments on here highly amusing are we not all supposed to be open minded when it comes to swinging? So why do some of u find a sexual relationship between 2 consenting adults odd just because u are friends with his mother?? I think some need to reassess their morals each to their own I say who are we to say what's right or wrong?

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