FabSwingers.com forum: Voyeurism in clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all,

I am a voyeur in a big big way.

My question is... How are voyeurs received/perceived in swinging clubs i.e chams.

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The great thing about clubs anything goes if you want to play then play if you want to watch then watch. For me there is nothing hornier than watching my partner with another person, absolutely beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Voyeurism is well recognised and catered for at swingers clubs!

All 3 clubs I have visited cater for those who like to watch the actions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The great thing about clubs anything goes if you want to play then play if you want to watch then watch. For me there is nothing hornier than watching my partner with another person, absolutely beautiful."

Yes agree...some peeps in clubs love to watch...others loved to be watched...its kinda part of the club scene...and private lockable rooms for peeps who want that as well... so all tastes catered for..and yum...I love watching my man with other women...incredibly horny....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always assumed I would love being a participant in a club the most, but in reality I LOVE being a voyeur even more - I just love watching my wife play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

I am a voyeur in a big big way.

My question is... How are voyeurs received/perceived in swinging clubs i.e chams.

Thanks in advance"

It is quite nice if the voyeurs regard the voyees as active participants in their enjoyment. My partner and I used to be very active public players. We were not particularly exhibitionists but we did enjoy a group scene. We accepted that people did enjoy watching and didnt have a problem with it.

We did have a problem with watchers commenting on us as if we werent there.

masturbating males edging ever closer could be offputting.

Worst of all though were the couples who had been watching, usually in the classsic stance, His arm round her shoulder outer hands clasped together in front,who would look down their noses and totally blank us when we cheerily said "Hi did you enjoy that?" when we finished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

I am a voyeur in a big big way.

My question is... How are voyeurs received/perceived in swinging clubs i.e chams.

Thanks in advance

We did have a problem with watchers commenting on us as if we werent there.

masturbating males edging ever closer could be offputting.

Lol..yes ...know what you mean sometimes...my man had tell one guy to move away from him as he was so close it was off putting...and we have seen that couple you are on about...lol...as with anything...good nights and bad nights...but on the whole good..for us anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a meet with one guy when we first started swinging, who loved to watch us play for a while before joining in. I was turned on watching him watching us! It was very erotic and it suprised me how much I enjoyed being watched. Will def do it again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just like being relatively close to people and watching i.e same room as people when they are having sex. there is something naughty and exciting about it that really gets me going. I have to admit i havent seen my wife with another man yet. Its something she wants to do as she keeps hinting about it but i dont think she wants to admit it as she is wary of what i will think even though i have told her my feelings i think maybe she thinks im trying to trick her into something :S

Anyway thanks for all your replies. We are planning to go to a club together in the next few months so will see what we think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have only ever been to Chams and i love being watched..making eye contact with a couple while you are playing can be very erotic....have to agree about the guys masturbating though...sometimes they do get a little to close but the majority will back away if you ask them politely x

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

Being a single male, I don't usually have a go at fellow singles, but masturbating single males really get to me.

One nearly came over my back, while I was playing...too close for comfort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being a single male, I don't usually have a go at fellow singles, but masturbating single males really get to me.

One nearly came over my back, while I was playing...too close for comfort.

Yes I love single guys...well some of them..lol...but yes this guy looked like he was going to cum on iykes leg...and it just freaked him out...watch.. enjoy ...but uninvited cum up a straight guys leg...kinda spoiled the moment..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being a single male, I don't usually have a go at fellow singles, but masturbating single males really get to me.

One nearly came over my back, while I was playing...too close for comfort.

thats a bit of a problem, don't suppose it will ever be solved. No means no and when told these guys do back off. trouble is by then it is too late and the scene can be spoiled. They desparately want to join in I suppose but inching forward stone faced steadfastly avioding eye contact isnt the way. Drifting off thread a bit though because if you are trying to join in you arent a voyeur

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We stopped going to La Chambre a few years ago because the voyeurism was getting out of hand. We don't mind people watching but when groups of fully clothed men (and this was on couples nights) come right into the playrooms and start making loud comments about the people playing - like "look at the arse on that!" and "go on, give her a good seeing to!" it stops being our idea of fun. The management didn't seem bothered by this sort of thing. It might have changed now but we're not going back to see - they've lost us for good.

We now go to Chams, where people are MUCH better behaved!

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By *he BananamanMan
over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

i not been to chams or extasia but have been to r3tro and the private club,couples and singles do come in there and just enjoy a drink and to watch and as they are not all fully dressed it seems easy to accept,even when these clubs have video shoots or bukkake nights people come to take in the voyeuristic vibe of a live porn setand it gives you a nice feeling being watched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have only been to infusion,but find if we want to be watched we play in the open areas,if we want privacy,we play in one of the rooms n lock the door.dont know what other clubs are like

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By *oobCouple
over a year ago

Netherlands

Heh, we were in a club, sort of warming up, when this German came and stood, what we felt, a little too close.

We politely asked him if he wouldn't mind keeping his distance, as we had a newb with us.

What followed was a conversation along the lines of.....

"No, I may stand here, this is within the rules of the club.

"Come on mate, we're just asking you to keep your distance"

"No, I am within my rights here"

"The rule is 'No means no' would you mind buggerring off a little here?"

"No, I don't have to. There is a private room if you want to be private"

We didn't need to be private, we just WANTED A LITTLE SPACE.

We ended up going to the owner, who quite rightly rejected any complaints from us, had a drink and then continued where we had left off.

Damn German mentality, you're attempting to have sex in a public area of a sex club, you ask if someone can back off a little and he starts argueing, quoting his rights.

Way to change the atomosphere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Voyeurism is fantastic when everyone is relaxed and comfortable with it.Great turn on for all concerned. No touchy touchy. Its brill.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The bloody cheek of some people... ( the german )

It seems that voyeurism in clubs is a rather controversial topic with the few spoiling it for the many in regards to personal space and so forth. All i want to do is be in the same room, no touching(the couple anyway) just watch and enjoy, but i guess it would only be fun if the couple were getting off on being watched aswell. I really get off on watching other people getting pleasured...

Ryan

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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

To some of the voyeurs at Chams I would say what my mum used to say when I was in a toy shop:

"Look with your eyes NOT you hands".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i enjoy being watched.. went to infusions ion blackpool.. on a couples night so no single guys spoiling it.. but the best time was after in the showers.. started playing.. and a lady stuck her head around the corner.. made eye contact with us both..from about 3 ft away.. close yeah.. but not off putting at all.. most horny!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heh, we were in a club, sort of warming up, when this German came and stood, what we felt, a little too close.

We politely asked him if he wouldn't mind keeping his distance, as we had a newb with us.

What followed was a conversation along the lines of.....

"No, I may stand here, this is within the rules of the club.

"Come on mate, we're just asking you to keep your distance"

"No, I am within my rights here"

"The rule is 'No means no' would you mind buggerring off a little here?"

"No, I don't have to. There is a private room if you want to be private"

We didn't need to be private, we just WANTED A LITTLE SPACE.

We ended up going to the owner, who quite rightly rejected any complaints from us, had a drink and then continued where we had left off.

Damn German mentality, you're attempting to have sex in a public area of a sex club, you ask if someone can back off a little and he starts argueing, quoting his rights.

Way to change the atomosphere.

To attribute traits and stereotype an entire nation based on one experience of one person is divisive, unhelpful, inaccurate and unneccessary.

Hope you meet a nice example to undo some of the prejudice you aquired xx

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Believe you me I have comne across worse than that in clubs in the UK from so called English Gentleman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is there such a thing as "German menatlity" ? maybe the guy was just rude and un cooperative, it just happened he came from Germany...you get the everywhere its not a national trait, just a personal one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heh, we were in a club, sort of warming up, when this German came and stood, what we felt, a little too close.

We politely asked him if he wouldn't mind keeping his distance, as we had a newb with us.

What followed was a conversation along the lines of.....

"No, I may stand here, this is within the rules of the club.

"Come on mate, we're just asking you to keep your distance"

"No, I am within my rights here"

"The rule is 'No means no' would you mind buggerring off a little here?"

"No, I don't have to. There is a private room if you want to be private"

We didn't need to be private, we just WANTED A LITTLE SPACE.

We ended up going to the owner, who quite rightly rejected any complaints from us, had a drink and then continued where we had left off.

Damn German mentality, you're attempting to have sex in a public area of a sex club, you ask if someone can back off a little and he starts argueing, quoting his rights.

Way to change the atomosphere.

sighs u get that here as well...had 1 guy come into cpls room with partner, she full clothed and he sit down next to us ... perving away..was put off...complained to management but they listened and uppps bye bye pervy...we dont mind people watching or joining in, but when you say nicely...please move and they argue it's a put off...giggles Dan says u didnt use the proper German words for "fuck off"....

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By *oobCouple
over a year ago

Netherlands

"To attribute traits and stereotype an entire nation based on one experience of one person is divisive, unhelpful, inaccurate and unneccessary."

Fair comments, I did indeed slur a nationality, I realized I had done it in retrospect and am not proud of it.

One can tend to slag off the nationial traits of one's neighbours, England vs Scotland, Australia vs New Zealand, and in my case Holland vs Germany/Belgium.

Sporting rivalry helps to foster that unhealthy trait, but as you say there is no excuse for prejudice.

In my defense, there was an English comedian who used to do a sketch called "The German". ( no idea who it was )

"The German" used to do things like stand at British bus stops and make conversations with other travellers along the lines of "How can this be? The bus timetable says that the bus should have been here five minutes ago, and it has not arrived, this is not correct".

It was this stereotypical example of German "correctness" that ruined the moment at hand, however, as has been pointed out, could have come from a national of any country.

"Hope you meet a nice example to undo some of the prejudice you aquired xx"

Some of my best friends are .........

.............. but to get this thread back on track.

"To watch and be watched" is one of the kicks of going to a swingers club. It is often cited as a way for nervous newbies to get a kick out of visiting a club without pushing too many boundaries within a relationship.

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By *ougntinaCouple
over a year ago

chigwell

there used to be a private club called watched for those who liked to watch and those who like to exhibit. have to say we find theres a time to do both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To attribute traits and stereotype an entire nation based on one experience of one person is divisive, unhelpful, inaccurate and unneccessary.

Fair comments, I did indeed slur a nationality, I realized I had done it in retrospect and am not proud of it.

One can tend to slag off the nationial traits of one's neighbours, England vs Scotland, Australia vs New Zealand, and in my case Holland vs Germany/Belgium.

Sporting rivalry helps to foster that unhealthy trait, but as you say there is no excuse for prejudice.

In my defense, there was an English comedian who used to do a sketch called "The German". ( no idea who it was )

It was this stereotypical example of German "correctness" that ruined the moment at hand, however, as has been pointed out, could have come from a national of any country.

Hope you meet a nice example to undo some of the prejudice you aquired xx

Some of my best friends are .........

.............. but to get this thread back on track.

Different nationalities have different social etiquette based upon upbringing and regional differences. I think your not being Prejudicial but making the point so no need for anyone to have a go at you. Being watched is one thing but it’s the height of bad manners to watch from a distance the people involved get uncomfortable with. That distance is less with many continental cultures and more with the Dutch and English as we are more insular. In my opinion you had a point and it was rude of the guy not to give you space.

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