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By *lexavier OP   Woman
over a year ago

north birmingham

...why a 18 - 22 year old man would be interested in a 45 year old female ? (or vice versa)

I'm not saying anything against it, if that's really what you want, go for it, I just don't understand it. At 18 there isn't a chance in this world I would want such a huge age gap.

Just curious, I seem to have been getting an awful lot of under 22 year olds messaging me lately, and to be honest with most I feel I would have to be asking them for photo ID and passport before sitting down for a cuppa with them - not exactly a lustful start to a meet!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

we all like different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

heres to you mrs robinson

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By *lexavier OP   Woman
over a year ago

north birmingham


"we all like different things"

I know, just curious about this particular attraction for (it seems) so many?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some are attracted by maturity.

some by youthful exuberrence

you have to go with what you like either side

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

That's why there are filters: works for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...why a 18 - 22 year old man would be interested in a 45 year old female ? (or vice versa)

I'm not saying anything against it, if that's really what you want, go for it, I just don't understand it. At 18 there isn't a chance in this world I would want such a huge age gap.

Just curious, I seem to have been getting an awful lot of under 22 year olds messaging me lately, and to be honest with most I feel I would have to be asking them for photo ID and passport before sitting down for a cuppa with them - not exactly a lustful start to a meet! "

It's the "milf syndrome"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I have to say that I don't understand your criteria for meeting but I don't question it. On here it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we all like different things"
.. its called being an individual if we all liked the same thing we would be fucked..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we all like different things.. its called being an individual if we all liked the same thing we would be fucked.. "

and more often lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like you need to set your age filters and alter your message filter so only rhe age your interested in can mail you.

having spoken to some its down to wanting you teach them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its because very young men are hornier you should feel flattered

I get messages from young men its just a bit of fun, i dont want to meet them all, they wouldnt always be my type anyway.

its only sex, maybe different if you were in a realtionship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more surprised so many men are up for blind meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm more surprised so many men are up for blind meets "

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I have to say that I don't understand your criteria for meeting but I don't question it. On here it is what it is."

Quite agree, meeting someone blind? I shudder at the thought, but then that is my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago was out in town this very nice young lady kept coming over chatting etc i thought at first it was a wind up and half expected her mates to laugh at the old fart chatting their mate.

I saw her for 6 months and was a good period of my life we got on really well and the age thing whilst at first was odd it faded i was 40 her 19.

A case of enjoy the moment and if you hit it off who xares about how society views it.

My daughter is 30 her hubby 50.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...why a 18 - 22 year old man would be interested in a 45 year old female ? (or vice versa)

I'm not saying anything against it, if that's really what you want, go for it, I just don't understand it. At 18 there isn't a chance in this world I would want such a huge age gap.

Just curious, I seem to have been getting an awful lot of under 22 year olds messaging me lately, and to be honest with most I feel I would have to be asking them for photo ID and passport before sitting down for a cuppa with them - not exactly a lustful start to a meet! "

Not sure why but it is quite common for younger lads to like us more mature women. I'm 44 and my fb is 32. I think that's about the limit for me. 18 - shudder!!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"...why a 18 - 22 year old man would be interested in a 45 year old female ? (or vice versa)

I'm not saying anything against it, if that's really what you want, go for it, I just don't understand it. At 18 there isn't a chance in this world I would want such a huge age gap.

Just curious, I seem to have been getting an awful lot of under 22 year olds messaging me lately, and to be honest with most I feel I would have to be asking them for photo ID and passport before sitting down for a cuppa with them - not exactly a lustful start to a meet! "

The truth is when we're at that age we like to try for the older women because many of them are very flattered and therefore more willing. The old "I much prefer mature women" usually does the trick.

We would then go to our mates and laughingly say "You'll never guess how old the bird was I pulled last night?"

Of course that was then. Things may have changed.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The above is exactly why we have our lower limit set mid thirties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...why a 18 - 22 year old man would be interested in a 45 year old female ? (or vice versa)

I'm not saying anything against it, if that's really what you want, go for it, I just don't understand it. At 18 there isn't a chance in this world I would want such a huge age gap.

Just curious, I seem to have been getting an awful lot of under 22 year olds messaging me lately, and to be honest with most I feel I would have to be asking them for photo ID and passport before sitting down for a cuppa with them - not exactly a lustful start to a meet! "

Set your age filters if want to stop them messaging you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

young men are lovely, but the best sex i have had, so far was with older men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love them - read my 84 veri's as to why they love me ) xx

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

young is ok for NSA but not a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Young men.. ooo yeah

18..yummy

smooth. Fit. Fun. Dont think they are some expert..

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

Oedipus complex, Freud,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oedipus complex, Freud, "

No he wanted to kill his father and fuck his mother - these guys just want to be taught a thing or too by an experienced woman - and I for one enjoy that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet young men simply because I don't believe they will actually want me and it's more a holes a goal mentality... So if s young fit guy messages me I quietly pass them by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's anything about being taught, or hoping that an older woman will be flattered (I actually find it a bit off-putting when they're over-complimentary/appreciative!) for me personally. I just find women of different ages attractive for different reasons.

After all, to put the shoe on the other foot: Jon Hamm's 42, and I definitely know girls my age who have told me they fancy him. Likewise, there a lot of gorgeous women in that same vintage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 27 and master is 49. Best sex I've ever had is with him.

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

Met 2 older women awhile ago, seporately. And it was because I liked them, and found them attractive too.

One was redicously cuddly too :D

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

This isn't going to be the most popular post but...

The reason is, many men want sex badly and struggle to get it. At clubs, its actually not as easy as people make out. Even here, you do not just get sex... You have to work at it.

However, it is easier to chat up older ladies and the success rates are a lot higher.

A friend from here only goes for older women because he finds them a lot easier to catch. In clubs, he's always trying to het the stunning 20 year olds but he never pulls it off!

Not the most popular answer I know, but I believe this to be the answer.

Xxx

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"...why a 18 - 22 year old man would be interested in a 45 year old female ? (or vice versa)

I'm not saying anything against it, if that's really what you want, go for it, I just don't understand it. At 18 there isn't a chance in this world I would want such a huge age gap.

Just curious, I seem to have been getting an awful lot of under 22 year olds messaging me lately, and to be honest with most I feel I would have to be asking them for photo ID and passport before sitting down for a cuppa with them - not exactly a lustful start to a meet! "

All you need to understand is that different people like different things each to there own i say (you will not understand everybody's wants or needs on this site)

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Oh, but I've found that women like older men because they are not 'dick heads'. Lol. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh, but I've found that women like older men because they are not 'dick heads'. Lol. Xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the female, can still be hot at 45 easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...why a 18 - 22 year old man would be interested in a 45 year old female ? (or vice versa)

I'm not saying anything against it, if that's really what you want, go for it, I just don't understand it. At 18 there isn't a chance in this world I would want such a huge age gap.

Just curious, I seem to have been getting an awful lot of under 22 year olds messaging me lately, and to be honest with most I feel I would have to be asking them for photo ID and passport before sitting down for a cuppa with them - not exactly a lustful start to a meet! "

Your wrong, many younger like older and vice versa, hence there are inter generadtional, sex and dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh, but I've found that women like older men because they are not 'dick heads'. Lol. Xxx"

Really?

I've found it's usually because of an extra zero or two on.the end of thier bank balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the female, can still be hot at 45 easily"

Yeah that's true,my wife is always bring being chatted up by younger guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im 45. i have a friend whos 20.

sometimes we go out to dance clubs and rave.

sometimes we fuck.

im not attracted to older men.

each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet it's

Porn

It's that which is influencing the young ones more than we could possibly imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer! Older ladies are much better in bed than the young ones and now the truths out everyone wants a piece of the action !

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By *utterflywingsWoman
over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire


"This isn't going to be the most popular post but...

The reason is, many men want sex badly and struggle to get it. At clubs, its actually not as easy as people make out. Even here, you do not just get sex... You have to work at it.

However, it is easier to chat up older ladies and the success rates are a lot higher.

A friend from here only goes for older women because he finds them a lot easier to catch. In clubs, he's always trying to het the stunning 20 year olds but he never pulls it off!

Not the most popular answer I know, but I believe this to be the answer.

Xxx"

At last a guy being honest.... well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally there's something enticing about an experienced lady

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By *lexavier OP   Woman
over a year ago

north birmingham

Thanks for the replies guys, it was just curiosity due to the number of message I was suddenly getting. For those saying set filters, I wasn't actually complaining about it - I tend not to say "no" to any idea until I have tried it (ahem), it's just something I don't understand, simple as. I guess it's a case of asking as each person will probably have their own answer in the end.

Gotta say though, thats what I like about this site - the acceptance that everyone is different, without judgement and the ability to explore as "dark" a side as you wish... or dare....

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"This isn't going to be the most popular post but...

The reason is, many men want sex badly and struggle to get it. At clubs, its actually not as easy as people make out. Even here, you do not just get sex... You have to work at it.

However, it is easier to chat up older ladies and the success rates are a lot higher.

A friend from here only goes for older women because he finds them a lot easier to catch. In clubs, he's always trying to het the stunning 20 year olds but he never pulls it off!

Not the most popular answer I know, but I believe this to be the answer.

Xxx"

Interestingly (or not), my mate who is a couple of years younger than me and also quite well-off hangs around with a lot of these 20-something girls, and I find I either have nothing to say to them or, those that I get on with am just not attracted to, in spite of them being physically stunning or whatever. I have always been drawn to women older than myself, and it really isn't because I 'can't get' the 20-somethings, I dont want them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see younger men and on the whole I don't need to teach them anything! In fact I now have a couple profile with my gorgeous FWB. He's 25... He's very VERY knowledgable about sex, but also an interesting and articulate person.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I see younger men and on the whole I don't need to teach them anything! In fact I now have a couple profile with my gorgeous FWB. He's 25... He's very VERY knowledgable about sex, but also an interesting and articulate person. "

..."but also an interesting and articulate person..."

As if the two are somehow usually mutually exclusive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met an 18 year old once in my early thirties he's 28 now and I still get together with him, but that was an exception wanting to try some one younger.

I personally couldn't see some one that young now. But wouldn't judge others who do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see younger men and on the whole I don't need to teach them anything! In fact I now have a couple profile with my gorgeous FWB. He's 25... He's very VERY knowledgable about sex, but also an interesting and articulate person.

..."but also an interesting and articulate person..."

As if the two are somehow usually mutually exclusive? "

I doubt she was implying any such thing, I simply read it as he's more than a one trick pony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see younger men and on the whole I don't need to teach them anything! In fact I now have a couple profile with my gorgeous FWB. He's 25... He's very VERY knowledgable about sex, but also an interesting and articulate person.

..."but also an interesting and articulate person..."

As if the two are somehow usually mutually exclusive? "

I believe they are complimentary.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"This isn't going to be the most popular post but...

The reason is, many men want sex badly and struggle to get it. At clubs, its actually not as easy as people make out. Even here, you do not just get sex... You have to work at it.

However, it is easier to chat up older ladies and the success rates are a lot higher.

A friend from here only goes for older women because he finds them a lot easier to catch. In clubs, he's always trying to het the stunning 20 year olds but he never pulls it off!

Not the most popular answer I know, but I believe this to be the answer.

Xxx

Interestingly (or not), my mate who is a couple of years younger than me and also quite well-off hangs around with a lot of these 20-something girls, and I find I either have nothing to say to them or, those that I get on with am just not attracted to, in spite of them being physically stunning or whatever. I have always been drawn to women older than myself, and it really isn't because I 'can't get' the 20-somethings, I dont want them. "
This applies both ways - I would not - as a rule - have enough in common with a man this much younger - I have not met anybody for whom I would break my rule of not going below 30

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies guys, it was just curiosity due to the number of message I was suddenly getting. For those saying set filters, I wasn't actually complaining about it - I tend not to say "no" to any idea until I have tried it (ahem), it's just something I don't understand, simple as. I guess it's a case of asking as each person will probably have their own answer in the end.

Gotta say though, thats what I like about this site - the acceptance that everyone is different, without judgement and the ability to explore as "dark" a side as you wish... or dare.... "

I often say that myself. I love the openness and honesty part of this lifestyle.

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By *corcherMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

For me older women look sexy. So do younger women but in a different way. It's not about experience or whether they're easy, I just think they look good. That's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horses for Courses!!

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