FabSwingers.com forum: Confessions from my co-worker

By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I just received an email from my co-worker (A female) saying she's going to miss me tomorrow as I've booked the day off. We're very close and I thought it was kind of cute so I messaged back saying I'll miss her too.

Then bam she returns a message saying she finds me sexually attractive and she cant stop thinking about me and would like us to spend one night together, even if it's just once as we're both straight....

I've never been with a woman and I don't even want to try, so how do I keep our friendship without hurting her feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to give you some advice, but I don't think I am qualified. I wouldn't know what to do.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"I was going to give you some advice, but I don't think I am qualified. I wouldn't know what to do."

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try it just for one night? No harm done, at least she's not asking for a relationship and you can still go back to being friends!

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

Just be truthful.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Just be truthful. "

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?"

No hun she's been single for 9 years, hence me not wanting to get involved in that way as we're both straight.

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over a year ago

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?

No hun she's been single for 9 years, hence me not wanting to get involved in that way as we're both straight.

Well u thought she was straight lol

Have a chat with her about n see where it leads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be true to yourself & you will probably save the friendship. Anything more & you are likely to lose it. Explain you don't find women attractive but value your friendship with her. Sure she'll understand x

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?

No hun she's been single for 9 years, hence me not wanting to get involved in that way as we're both straight.

Well u thought she was straight lol

Have a chat with her about n see where it leads"

She's already told me what she would like to try doing with me and I don't want a woman to do that with me.

Sorry but I love cock even though I haven't had it for ages

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Be true to yourself & you will probably save the friendship. Anything more & you are likely to lose it. Explain you don't find women attractive but value your friendship with her. Sure she'll understand x"

Thank you

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

if she values your friendship and does not want to affect that then she should respect whatever you feel about this situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?

No hun she's been single for 9 years, hence me not wanting to get involved in that way as we're both straight.

Well u thought she was straight lol

Have a chat with her about n see where it leads

She's already told me what she would like to try doing with me and I don't want a woman to do that with me.

Sorry but I love cock even though I haven't had it for ages

Really? Id have thought youd have had plenty of offers from guys?

Would love to know what she wanted to try...

Cant knock her for the effort tho, not even scared of having her emails monitored at work lol

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're welcome

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?

No hun she's been single for 9 years, hence me not wanting to get involved in that way as we're both straight.

Well u thought she was straight lol

Have a chat with her about n see where it leads

She's already told me what she would like to try doing with me and I don't want a woman to do that with me.

Sorry but I love cock even though I haven't had it for ages

Really? Id have thought youd have had plenty of offers from guys?

Would love to know what she wanted to try...

Cant knock her for the effort tho, not even scared of having her emails monitored at work lol"

Most women on here get lot's of offers hun, but that doesn't mean we can't be picky tee hee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?

No hun she's been single for 9 years, hence me not wanting to get involved in that way as we're both straight.

Well u thought she was straight lol

Have a chat with her about n see where it leads

She's already told me what she would like to try doing with me and I don't want a woman to do that with me.

Sorry but I love cock even though I haven't had it for ages

Really? Id have thought youd have had plenty of offers from guys?

Would love to know what she wanted to try...

Cant knock her for the effort tho, not even scared of having her emails monitored at work lol

Most women on here get lot's of offers hun, but that doesn't mean we can't be picky tee hee"

U must get loads of offers out in public too? Lol u cant really complain then if you're too picky.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Just tell her you're flattered but value your friendship too much to risk compromising it by doing as she suggests. It's tactful, kind and truthful.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Just tell her you're flattered but value your friendship too much to risk compromising it by doing as she suggests. It's tactful, kind and truthful."

I wish she was truthful with me to be honest.

I tried to block out what I caught her doing to me last week when she was at my house last week.

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

"Just be truthful.

I will have to be I just don't want to lose our close friendship.

Live a bit n try it, you might enjoy it n have loads of fun

She not already in a relationship?

No hun she's been single for 9 years, hence me not wanting to get involved in that way as we're both straight.

Well u thought she was straight lol

Have a chat with her about n see where it leads

She's already told me what she would like to try doing with me and I don't want a woman to do that with me.

Sorry but I love cock even though I haven't had it for ages

I think that cock likes you aswell and maybe if the right guy comes along even though there may be a queue of guys very happy to meet you on here then perhaps that situation will change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear, that sounds ominous.....

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Oh dear, that sounds ominous....."

Hun I'm totally embarrassed and confused about what happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to inbox you but you must have couples blocked. Just hope you are ok. Think you really need to talk to her & clear this up, it's obviously upsetting you xx

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"Oh dear, that sounds ominous.....

Hun I'm totally embarrassed and confused about what happened."

You going to leave us dangling with half a tale?

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"Oh dear, that sounds ominous.....

Hun I'm totally embarrassed and confused about what happened."

O dear. Am now more worried as that doesn't sound good. Hope you are ok.

Whatever happened just say you are a friend and I don't think of you that way. Really hope you sort it xxx

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I will inbox you hun as I need to talk to a neutral person as I'm totally confused.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

maybe a little white lie?? saying how much you would love to with her but you have seen what happens to friendships that get intimate and you would hate this to happen with your friendship

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i'm sure if you start your reply by saying your flattered by her honesty and directness whatever you say to put her off will not come across as a nasty brush off.. your obviously a mans woman and that's what turns you on so a lady playmate is not what your looking for

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"i'm sure if you start your reply by saying your flattered by her honesty and directness whatever you say to put her off will not come across as a nasty brush off.. your obviously a mans woman and that's what turns you on so a lady playmate is not what your looking for "

I'll have to tread carefully as I know she has a big heart and needs to feel some type of affection.

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

So where are you actually coming from? You say on your profile that you are looking to meet guys.....

Yet you have blocked all guys from messaging you!

Are you getting a little confused.com?

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"So where are you actually coming from? You say on your profile that you are looking to meet guys.....

Yet you have blocked all guys from messaging you!

Are you getting a little confused.com?

I haven't blocked all men from messaging me hun, as I'm getting lot's of messages, I think something must be wrong on the I.T side.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

tell her you don't want to hurt her feelings .. if your honest in a nice way she can't take offence ...

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"tell her you don't want to hurt her feelings .. if your honest in a nice way she can't take offence ... "

I guess you're right....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is this a wind up? Why put on about something that happened and not finish it off?!?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

good luck babe . what is the worst that can happen .. anything less than your worst fear must be a good thing xxx

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"is this a wind up? Why put on about something that happened and not finish it off?!?"

I did tell someone on here what happened

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Blimey! She's a good friend but she's put you in a very awkward position and you caught her doing something to you and you're worried about upsetting HER?

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Blimey! She's a good friend but she's put you in a very awkward position and you caught her doing something to you and you're worried about upsetting HER?"

I know it sounds daft but sometimes it easier to try and block things out.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Say this to her in this exact way

"Do you know what a size queen is?"

If she doesn't, give her a very short answer as to what it is. i.e 'it's when you like for really big cocks.'

The shock will both tell her you're straight and, that you prefer cock.

She asked you frontedly enough, so you can't fuddle about with it - she's ya friend and friends chat, about cocks. Job done

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Say this to her in this exact way

"Do you know what a size queen is?"

If she doesn't, give her a very short answer as to what it is. i.e 'it's when you like for really big cocks.'

The shock will both tell her you're straight and, that you prefer cock.

She asked you frontedly enough, so you can't fuddle about with it - she's ya friend and friends chat, about cocks. Job done

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something similar has happened to be once or twice (or 4 times) over the years, though its always involved women...

Each time, the friendship was affected, at least to begin with. Two of the ladies only shared their feelings when i left the job. One of the ladies was a very good friend, and perhaps because of this, many months later, things returned to normal. It was made easier maybe when she got into a relationship. Shes probably still my best friend.

Another's relationship faded, we lost touch and life moved on.

The place I currently work at, I work with a lady whose company I really enjoyed. Seriously lovely, smart girl...she just wasnt my happy ever after and having fun with her woukd gave nade ne feel proper guilty. Things haven't been the same since she told me. Still gutted about it. We were very close..now we're just colleagues. Such is life.

I agree with the majority of the sentiments...it's better to be honest. You'll be happy within yourself.

If you ever decided to explore fem sex, you'd have no trouble finding a nice lady since you're a very sweet, sexy lady yourself..and since clearly, you've not been tempted thus far..I'm not sure why people are suggesting you try it. It's not like you'd let them watch!!

Be sensitive, be gentle and be honest. Good luck, sweetheart x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good problems...

Well, if the both of you are close, I would just laugh it off casually.

Like:

"Susan, you already know how super-straight I am!

For real, girlfriend, I think the both of us need to go out and get some dick...

What you doing Friday?"

Or something like that...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Say this to her in this exact way

"Do you know what a size queen is?"

If she doesn't, give her a very short answer as to what it is. i.e 'it's when you like for really big cocks.'

The shock will both tell her you're straight and, that you prefer cock.

She asked you frontedly enough, so you can't fuddle about with it - she's ya friend and friends chat, about cocks. Job done

Thanks"

honestly. Its a good, honest out and sorts it in 1, without saying, look luv, 9 yrs is too long, ya barking up the wrong tree if you think I'm sticking my fingers in you pie ya must be mad! lolo

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Good problems...

Well, if the both of you are close, I would just laugh it off casually.

Like:

"Susan, you already know how super-straight I am!

For real, girlfriend, I think the both of us need to go out and get some dick...

What you doing Friday?"

Or something like that...

Tee hee perhaps I'll tell her about this place.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

Tell her you're interested in her and want to be her friend but not interested in her sexually as you only like men and you still want to be her friend. Also tell her how you felt after the mysterious incident of the naughty kitchen feel-up or whatever it was....

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky."

1 vote for size queen excuse.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

1 vote for size queen excuse.

To be honest I don't even know what a queen is

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

1 vote for size queen excuse.

To be honest I don't even know what a queen is

SIZE queen.. not a queen as that'd tell her you were into gay's potentially

(and you wanna avoid that just at the minute) lol

size queen. a woman that likes (requires) an ample appendage from her fellas.

;)

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over a year ago

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

1 vote for size queen excuse.

Seconded

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

1 vote for size queen excuse.

To be honest I don't even know what a queen is

SIZE queen.. not a queen as that'd tell her you were into gay's potentially

(and you wanna avoid that just at the minute) lol

size queen. a woman that likes (requires) an ample appendage from her fellas.

;)"

Appendage??? Oh gosh I better go on google this is going clean over my head

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

1 vote for size queen excuse.

To be honest I don't even know what a queen is

SIZE queen.. not a queen as that'd tell her you were into gay's potentially

(and you wanna avoid that just at the minute) lol

size queen. a woman that likes (requires) an ample appendage from her fellas.

;)

Appendage??? Oh gosh I better go on google this is going clean over my head

ok, go for the, you once had a fumble in the kitchen thing and it wasnt your cup of tea idea pmsl

keep it simple

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

1 vote for size queen excuse.

To be honest I don't even know what a queen is

SIZE queen.. not a queen as that'd tell her you were into gay's potentially

(and you wanna avoid that just at the minute) lol

size queen. a woman that likes (requires) an ample appendage from her fellas.

;)

Appendage??? Oh gosh I better go on google this is going clean over my head

ok, go for the, you once had a fumble in the kitchen thing and it wasnt your cup of tea idea pmsl

keep it simple

A fumble is something that takes place by both parties right?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Is her name Strate?

Cos then you could say "Strate, I'll be straight, I'm straight"

She knows I'm straight hun, I've never even dreamed about eating pinky.

1 vote for size queen excuse.

To be honest I don't even know what a queen is

SIZE queen.. not a queen as that'd tell her you were into gay's potentially

(and you wanna avoid that just at the minute) lol

size queen. a woman that likes (requires) an ample appendage from her fellas.

;)

Appendage??? Oh gosh I better go on google this is going clean over my head

ok, go for the, you once had a fumble in the kitchen thing and it wasnt your cup of tea idea pmsl

keep it simple

A fumble is something that takes place by both parties right? "

yeah, means you tasted a cherry, fingered some honey, schmoozed over a lettuice and put em back as they weren't .... filling enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably better on the stories and fantasy thread.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"probably better on the stories and fantasy thread."

This isn't a story or fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do the same as you would if it was a bloke. Tell her she's a good friend but sorry you don't feel the same.

If she felt you up that's just rude and she's not really your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably better on the stories and fantasy thread.

This isn't a story or fantasy "

No of course not. Is this even writtten by a woman, looks like some male fantasy fulfilment to me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would simply say that you are flattered but you have no interest in women at all. That in fact you subscribe to fabswingers and perhaps she would be interested in the site too as you are sure she could explore her other interests. It would be nice to stay friends, but you are not interested in the female form at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably better on the stories and fantasy thread.

This isn't a story or fantasy

No of course not. Is this even writtten by a woman, looks like some male fantasy fulfilment to me? "

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"I would simply say that you are flattered but you have no interest in women at all. That in fact you subscribe to fabswingers and perhaps she would be interested in the site too as you are sure she could explore her other interests. It would be nice to stay friends, but you are not interested in the female form at all. "

No I'm not hun

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By *hesecretsquirrelMan
over a year ago

The Nut Stash

"probably better on the stories and fantasy thread.

This isn't a story or fantasy

No of course not. Is this even writtten by a woman, looks like some male fantasy fulfilment to me?

I was just thinking the same!!

Still - did make for good wankbank material!!

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Firstly I wouldn't exhange those sort of emails through work's email as plenty of companies have IT systems which can view every word you write. It could come back on you so a quick 'I really appreciate your friendship but please don't send me stuff like this' would be my first act. Cover your back, unless it's your company you never know when these things can turn round and bite you.

I would then tell her privately that you seriously value her as a friend but you don't fancy her in the slightest because you are straight. If she isn't convinced tell her that the friendship you have and value is at risk of being lost if she tries anything again, as unwanted physical contact could easily be classed as sexual assault.

Make it plain - you like her as a friend and want to keep her as a friend. You don't like sex with women or being sexually assaulted by them and you won't put up with it from anyone.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"probably better on the stories and fantasy thread.

This isn't a story or fantasy

No of course not. Is this even writtten by a woman, looks like some male fantasy fulfilment to me?

I was just thinking the same!!

Still - did make for good wankbank material!! "

Ye i can see it sounds that way but i skyped with her last night and can say definitely a woman. And not the type that would lie either....nice girl.

So i fully believe it.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"probably better on the stories and fantasy thread.

This isn't a story or fantasy

No of course not. Is this even writtten by a woman, looks like some male fantasy fulfilment to me?

Yeah I'm a man really.....

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Firstly I wouldn't exhange those sort of emails through work's email as plenty of companies have IT systems which can view every word you write. It could come back on you so a quick 'I really appreciate your friendship but please don't send me stuff like this' would be my first act. Cover your back, unless it's your company you never know when these things can turn round and bite you.

Make it plain - you like her as a friend and want to keep her as a friend. You don't like sex with women or being sexually assaulted by them and you won't put up with it from anyone."

Hun she sent me an email via my personal email account and NOT VIA WORKS....So I don't need to cover my back, but thanks for your concern.

I told her that I'm not interested and that I don't think it's a good idea that she comes to my home again. Hopefully she will understand and leave me be.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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Sorry... deleted my post as I should have read what others had said....and not repeat things!

Its not easy and I hope you do not lose her friendship!

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Sorry... deleted my post as I should have read what others had said....and not repeat things!

Its not easy and I hope you do not lose her friendship!"

Thanks hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a bit sad and final. Feel for you. Must be tough being a swinger and very straight. Or is it tougher being Bi. I dunno whatever, you know what I'm driving at.

Hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She could of left her computer logged on and left the room. This giving workmates the opportunity they need to send some risky emails, confessing their love for the boss and mates etc

It happens all the time at my work.....the buggers! Unfunny unless it's someone else of course

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"That's a bit sad and final. Feel for you. Must be tough being a swinger and very straight. Or is it tougher being Bi. I dunno whatever, you know what I'm driving at.

Hugs

No hun I don't know what you're driving at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just received an email from my co-worker (A female) saying she's going to miss me tomorrow as I've booked the day off. We're very close and I thought it was kind of cute so I messaged back saying I'll miss her too.

I've never been with a woman and I don't even want to try, so how do I keep our friendship without hurting her feelings?

Just tell her it's not your thing but your flattered she asked, and then take her out for a drink to show your friends, but don't have too many and get all _ruity with her.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I've never been with a woman and I don't even want to try, so how do I keep our friendship without hurting her feelings?

Just tell her it's not your thing but your flattered she asked, and then take her out for a drink to show your friends, but don't have too many and get all _ruity with her.

Hun I don't drink alcohol and if I meet her for drinks she'll read to much into it.

I just don't want her to do what she did to me again. I seriously don't want to have it out with her as I find it upsetting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been with a woman and I don't even want to try, so how do I keep our friendship without hurting her feelings?

Quite simple,

Tell her you are very flattered by the approach, but you are stright and you have no sexual attraction to females (dont say her - keep it generalised as it is really), and it not how you think of her, but you would still love to be friends.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

What the hell go for it !! you on a swinging site its all about sex.try it if you dont like dont do it again. You could always put a meet up for a guy you would both fancy and do the 3 some thing.. then you get the best of both worlds.

Hope this wasnt an email on your work computer you could end up well and truly stuffed.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"What the hell go for it !! you on a swinging site its all about sex.try it if you dont like dont do it again. You could always put a meet up for a guy you would both fancy and do the 3 some thing.. then you get the best of both worlds.

Hope this wasnt an email on your work computer you could end up well and truly stuffed.

Hun I'm straight and I'm not even trying not even for a sample.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope this wasnt an email on your work computer you could end up well and truly stuffed.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Hope this wasnt an email on your work computer you could end up well and truly stuffed.

Why are people saying she sent me an email via works email account?????? How many times do I have to keep she never.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope this wasnt an email on your work computer you could end up well and truly stuffed.

Why are people saying she sent me an email via works email account?????? How many times do I have to keep she never....."

Cos people only read the first post you made, and nothing else.

Surely you should know that on Fab people dont tend to read much past the pictures.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Hope this wasnt an email on your work computer you could end up well and truly stuffed.

Why are people saying she sent me an email via works email account?????? How many times do I have to keep she never.....

Cos people only read the first post you made, and nothing else.

Surely you should know that on Fab people dont tend to read much past the pictures.

My first post was 22 hours ago....Sunday night whilst I was at home just before I had a Skype conversation with someone on here.....

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

You're straight and dont want to try it so let her down gently then. Be a friend to her and it may just do the trick.

Good luck with it

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Hope this wasnt an email on your work computer you could end up well and truly stuffed.

Why are people saying she sent me an email via works email account?????? How many times do I have to keep she never....."

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I actually said I hope it wasnt .. having just had a convo with someone who got into trouble for doing so.

Yep I hold my hands up .. I reply to the first statement first ... I then go back and read what other people say and re comment as an after thought..( just because I can)

I only just saw the thread half hour ago .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nooooo. I'd tread very carefully seeing as you work together. It could go spectacularly wrong. Believe me. Been there, done that, fucked the girl and worn the t-shirt!! Plenty of women to play with who you don't work with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this is true I'd say the friendship is gubbed now anyway...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our bullshit fake-o-meter has just gone so far off the scale it has exploded.

Hear that....... BOOOOOM!

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"Our bullshit fake-o-meter has just gone so far off the scale it has exploded.

Hear that....... BOOOOOM!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still waiting to hear what she she did which you ignored...

inbox me if you would like to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been given lots of very different pieces of advice with varied tones and content...all helping you with what you could say to your colleague to give her a polite brush off. You seem to be very defensive towards some responses. It would be nice for you to feedback to the forum what you said to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the same you would say to a male friend you had no sexual interest in.

just because it has come from someone with a pair of tits doesnt mean you have to say yes (this advice goes for men too lol)

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

I've never been with a woman and I don't even want to try, so how do I keep our friendship without hurting her feelings?

Give her my details and tell her I'm available

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By *icked kittyCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Its a shame she put you in this difficult situation. I am bi and when I was single worked in an environment were we used to make out of work friendships but I would have never have over stepped the mark and jeopardised my friendship with any of the girls no matter how tempted, I don't think any of them ever realised I was bi in fact. This lady sounds starved of affection and has made a reckless judgement because of it I hope you can remain friends

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Its a shame she put you in this difficult situation. I am bi and when I was single worked in an environment were we used to make out of work friendships but I would have never have over stepped the mark and jeopardised my friendship with any of the girls no matter how tempted, I don't think any of them ever realised I was bi in fact. This lady sounds starved of affection and has made a reckless judgement because of it I hope you can remain friends

Indeed, she never came in work today but sent me an email saying she thinks she did something terrible to me but isn't sure because she thinks she suffers from blackouts

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Lol.. Think she's trying to escape the fact she said it. Problem is, the question will still not have had an answer, you're best sorting it out early rather than it being over your head constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed, she never came in work today but sent me an email saying she thinks she did something terrible to me but isn't sure because she thinks she suffers from blackouts

Maybe go with that then. Play along and act like nothing happened. She might be embarrassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure I have seen this in a porn film plot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sure I have seen this in a porn film plot."

very similar to an episode of the simpsons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sure I have seen this in a porn film plot.

very similar to an episode of the simpsons."

I think it was one of those Brazzers lesbian office flicks. Didn't quite catch the title as we were otherwise engaged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just tell her you're flattered but value your friendship too much to risk compromising it by doing as she suggests. It's tactful, kind and truthful."

this, can't ignore it it's out there, but flattered and laugh it off a little, then let her know how you value the friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest with her and tell her that you were flattered that she thought of u in this way but you have never concidered being with a lady and you wouldnt like to spoil your friendship

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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Oh I apologise profusely for my clearly serious and cutting to the bone response.

Apology accepted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed, she never came in work today but sent me an email saying she thinks she did something terrible to me but isn't sure because she thinks she suffers from blackouts

How does she THINK she suffers from blackouts? Is the fridge defrosted in the morning when she gets up after sleeping?

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Indeed, she never came in work today but sent me an email saying she thinks she did something terrible to me but isn't sure because she thinks she suffers from blackouts

Tell her it wasn't a blackout. But when she shoved her head under the duvet to nosh your growler there was no light on and you shut your legs with such force that you made her head spin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nosh your growler". Hah. Love that. Haven't heard that in ages. Made me laugh out loud, nearly wet myself .....

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Oh I apologise profusely for my clearly serious and cutting to the bone response.

Apology accepted

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. Please keep personal digs out of the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive removed posts. Please keep personal digs out of the forum."

I didnt make a personal dig and my post has been removed?! Confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive removed posts. Please keep personal digs out of the forum.

I didnt make a personal dig and my post has been removed?! Confused "

maybe it was seen as inflmatory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive removed posts. Please keep personal digs out of the forum.

I didnt make a personal dig and my post has been removed?! Confused

maybe it was seen as inflmatory"

I just asked for an update on what happened cos i was struggling to understand the last one! Theres a theme here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive removed posts. Please keep personal digs out of the forum.

I didnt make a personal dig and my post has been removed?! Confused

maybe it was seen as inflmatory

I just asked for an update on what happened cos i was struggling to understand the last one! Theres a theme here..."

where?

what theme?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Ive removed posts. Please keep personal digs out of the forum.

I didnt make a personal dig and my post has been removed?! Confused "

You may have quoted one of the posts that had to be removed?

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

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Indeed, she never came in work today but sent me an email saying she thinks she did something terrible to me but isn't sure because she thinks she suffers from blackouts

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Does this young lady have learning difficulties..? sounds that way..if she thinks she *did something terrible too you..and you say she only asked you out..

shame.. ( I am sure she would know if she had blackouts..)

Do you think its medical or drink induced.. aw she must feel mortified now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive removed posts. Please keep personal digs out of the forum.

I didnt make a personal dig and my post has been removed?! Confused

maybe it was seen as inflmatory"

Take some ibruprofen for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still waiting to hear what she she did which you ignored...

inbox me if you would like to xx"

Maybe she doesn't want to tell anyone, maybe she wants to keep it behind closed doors and we should all respect that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still waiting to hear what she she did which you ignored...

inbox me if you would like to xx

Maybe she doesn't want to tell anyone, maybe she wants to keep it behind closed doors and we should all respect that"

Erm....she posted it on a FORUM!!! There is no door! is it just me?! Grrrrr

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Still waiting to hear what she she did which you ignored...

inbox me if you would like to xx

Maybe she doesn't want to tell anyone, maybe she wants to keep it behind closed doors and we should all respect that

Erm....she posted it on a FORUM!!! There is no door! is it just me?! Grrrrr"

My feelings entirely .. giggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still waiting to hear what she she did which you ignored...

inbox me if you would like to xx

Maybe she doesn't want to tell anyone, maybe she wants to keep it behind closed doors and we should all respect that

Erm....she posted it on a FORUM!!! There is no door! is it just me?! Grrrrr

My feelings entirely .. giggles

But maybe she doesn't wanna say what happened on detail which is fair enough

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"Still waiting to hear what she she did which you ignored...

inbox me if you would like to xx

Maybe she doesn't want to tell anyone, maybe she wants to keep it behind closed doors and we should all respect that

Erm....she posted it on a FORUM!!! There is no door! is it just me?! Grrrrr

My feelings entirely .. giggles

But maybe she doesn't wanna say what happened on detail which is fair enough"

Hmmmm but just enough hints dropped to keep the drama going!! Some may call me cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she played with girl and now regrets it.

Maybe girl tried to kiss her.

Maybe maybe maybe, lots that could have happened, which OP clearly not going to divulge after hints she dropped, so no point asking what happened

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