FabSwingers.com forum: newbie swinger not having much luck..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everybody, im pretty new to the swinging scene and looking for tips on how to get started and get recognition.

I have been registered for a while but not been very active so maynbe that is an off-putter for women? Im open to criticism regarding my profile set up too, so long as its constructive! Ha

Anybody who takes their time to reply I will thank in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile pic and better public ones would be better. Don't cut and paste messages. Read profiles thoroughly and always respect boundaries

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you run your own company, get your PA to proofread your profile. An avatar helps too. You've been on here over a year...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd scrap the profile and start anew. If I get messages from guys who have been here over a year and never met anyone, rightly or wrongly I assume they're not here to meet.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

maybe broaden horizons wanting to meet single fems as a single guy is not overly swingy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the comments, maybe best I start anew, also change my Interests to become more open to the wider swinger community! Cheers guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're having to ask how your profile is then the answer is terrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe broaden horizons wanting to meet single fems as a single guy is not overly swingy "

Why is it not overly swingy? It's the OP choice of who he wants to meet.

OP there is no need to start again, we have met guys who have been on here over a yr and I'm sure others do, just make sure you read profiles before send messages to make sure you are what people are looking for, and like someone else said send an original message not copy and paste.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would definitely start the profile again. You have no veri's that you might lose so being on here with pics since 2012 is always going to work against you x I often meet unverified guys but only new ones as I form the opinion ( rightly or wrongly ) that a year plus - no meets is a time waster xx

Ive got a lot of frequently asked questions on my profile that might assist you xx

Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I'd scrap the profile and start anew. If I get messages from guys who have been here over a year and never met anyone, rightly or wrongly I assume they're not here to meet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ye defo a yr and no meets puts me off guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

start again,new pics.not all of your cock and look for gangbangs as they are a good way to get verified and then you will be on your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

RE: no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE: no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me "

Each to their own. I've met unverified people but won't entertain them if they've been here over a year.

We all have our individual guidelines and you labelling it will not matter a hoot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE: no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me "

What the fuck selfish laziness why is it the verified people's job to seek out the time wasters, it's much easier to meet people who are genuine and not new and know what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op - Fab is great for chatting and getting a feel for the swinging scene . But for getting meets it's not really that good . Get yourself to a club , even for a social and you will ger the coveted veri .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of verifications = the village bike and lack of discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lots of verifications = the village bike and lack of discretion."

A tad unfair methinks

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"lots of verifications = the village bike and lack of discretion."

Quick question.....

So if someone goes to a massive social and they get loads of verifications, are they "the village bike" and lack discretion?

I always thought what went a verification said whether someone had discretion, not just having them

That is why a lot of ppl take verification with a pinch of salt, because they can be construed wildly inaccurate

Op... Back to you profile... For the lines you put in, it actually does say anything about you or the potential playmates...bland of bland... Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another single guy."Whingin" what a suprise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are talking bikes - I miss my Chopper bike from my childhood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lots of verifications = the village bike and lack of discretion.

Quick question.....

So if someone goes to a massive social and they get loads of verifications, are they "the village bike" and lack discretion?

I always thought what went a verification said whether someone had discretion, not just having them

That is why a lot of ppl take verification with a pinch of salt, because they can be construed wildly inaccurate

Op... Back to you profile... For the lines you put in, it actually does say anything about you or the potential playmates...bland of bland... Sorry"

not at all, but when they are having sex meets every couple of days, yes, it just adds to the risk factor, and leaves a big trail, that snowballs.

A definite turn of for me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manrider - thanks for that insight , and your input will undoubtably help so many on here who would be most upset to know you see them as the village bike .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manrider - thanks for that insight , and your input will undoubtably help so many on here who would be most upset to know you see them as the village bike .

many see verifications as a badge of honour, that's fine, I see them differently, and would never ask for or give a verification, because I am discreet and the married straight guys I meet , basically wouldn't meet.if their name/profile was linked to another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manrider - thanks for that insight , and your input will undoubtably help so many on here who would be most upset to know you see them as the village bike .

surely that's what is expected on a sex swinging site, self gratification, all power to everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The village bike, play .

Becky, a newly-pregnant school teacher, has just moved into the countryside with her husband John. While he no longer has any interest in sex and prefers to read baby books and save the envioronment, Becky becomes increasingly frustrated and flirts with the plumber Mike. Off work due to the summer holidays and with high rising temperatures, Becky decides to get fit by buying a bike from the local eccentric, Oliver. Despite neighbour Jenny plying the couple with her second-hand baby equipment, Becky finds herself sexually frustrated and desperate for someone to view her as an attractive woman.

Soon Becky embarks on a secret affair but is determined not to become attached, instead playing out her fantasies from John's old stash of porn films, which she has been driven to watching. With Oliver's wife returning, he insists on ending the affair. Realising how attached she now is, Becky becomes desperate and John more suspicious. After filming herself having sex with Mike, she cycles to see Oliver, but runs into his wife. Leaving in tears she falls off her bike; not badly hurt but emotionally devastated, she takes to her bed. Jenny and John discuss Becky, but, after John finds a stash of plastic bags that Becky has stuffed into a cupboard, he storms upstairs to have her irresponsibility out with her. Terrified that she's been found out, she argues with him, but soon, realsing that John is angry about the plastic bags, she gives up, begging him to let things go back to how they were at the start of the hol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I'd scrap the profile and start anew. If I get messages from guys who have been here over a year and never met anyone, rightly or wrongly I assume they're not here to meet."

One of your pictures is almost 18 months old. No meets in that time would suggest (possibly unfairly) that you are a fantasist and wouldn't be a risk I'd take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manrider - thanks for that insight , and your input will undoubtably help so many on here who would be most upset to know you see them as the village bike .

Each to their own but some might say that a gay man meeting a supposedly straight man for sex behind their partners back doesn't really have much to do with swinging... But like I say each to their own and it's not place to judge, although it has always been lost on me why some choose to judge people on a swinging site for having too many meets. Seriously what the fuck is that about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never realised that once you reached a certain number of meets that you were required to retire gracefully...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE:

no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications

in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of

veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential

timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me

Each to their own. I've met unverified people but won't entertain them

if they've been here over a year.

We all have our individual guidelines and you labelling it will not

matter a hoot."

well i don't care what you think.. so there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE:

What the fuck selfish laziness why is it the verified people's job to

seek out the time wasters, it's much easier to meet people who are

genuine and not new and know what they want "

So what does that say about the people who gave you your first verification? were they judging soley on veris? they took other things into consideration when meeting you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lots

of verifications = the village bike and lack of discretion.

Quick question.....

So if someone goes to a massive social and they get loads of

verifications, are they "the village bike" and lack discretion?

I always thought what went a verification said whether someone had

discretion, not just having them

That is why a lot of ppl take verification with a pinch of salt, because

they can be construed wildly inaccurate

Op... Back to you profile... For the lines you put in, it actually does

say anything about you or the potential playmates...bland of bland...

Sorry"

yes i fully agree. it depends what they write.. e.g 'lovely bloke, nice personality' is better than 'big cock and fucks gr8'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another single guy."Whingin" what a suprise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

bit unfair.. he doesn't know that thwres shit loads of single men, and others can threfore be picky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE: no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me "

I take it you have none then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE:

I take it you have none then?"

No I don't just like you when you started out on here, then someone was open minded enough to not turn you down just because you had none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manrider - thanks for that insight , and your input will undoubtably help so many on here who would be most upset to know you see them as the village bike .

This !!

From someone with 80 veri's ! .....where's me pump - my wheel has a flat tire ! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe broaden horizons wanting to meet single fems as a single guy is not overly swingy "

Why not? Just because you are a single guy that's looking for anything under the sun, (including a 98yo), does that mean you're a swinger then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like a stuck record really..

worse when its someone who has been on the site for a while

profiles are profiles..they can look great..but attract fuck all in the lets meet sense.

guys,girls,couples..anyone..if ur struggling with getting meets, get off ur arse attend a social or club...merely as entering the environment can be enough if u can manage a chat with some folk(hopefully from fab), if people like u enough to send a verification, it will show others ur capable of meeting at least..and able to meet without it needing to be sexually based.

lastly...why on earth hide verifications..if struggling with meets.Utterly pointless(unless its bad or something ffs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE: no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me "

Selfish lazyness?

As a single woman on here I won't meet unverified men for my own personal safety! Nothing to do with being selfish or lazy! We're all strangers on here and have NO idea who is behind any profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit a blurring/ obscure picture and no verifications after a year with so many single guys I'm afraid you'd be passed by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are not worth a damn. They prove nothing, contain half truths and oft repeated 'compliments'... there is little sincerity in a huge proportion of them but more than anything else....they prove NOTHING. People wont meet unverified folk ...fair enough its a personal choice but don't let anyone kid you that they are always what the veris say they are. I have met/been let down by verified guys....means nothing.

I think you explain yourself in your profile re: not having been active, your pics are cool and not porno your young n good looking just bide your time and you'll meet eventually. All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verifications are not worth a damn. They prove nothing, contain half truths and oft repeated 'compliments'... there is little sincerity in a huge proportion of them but more than anything else....they prove NOTHING. People wont meet unverified folk ...fair enough its a personal choice but don't let anyone kid you that they are always what the veris say they are. I have met/been let down by verified guys....means nothing.

I think you explain yourself in your profile re: not having been active, your pics are cool and not porno your young n good looking just bide your time and you'll meet eventually. All the best

I was washing my hair the 5 times u'd asked..its pretty important I have it done..particularly at weekends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you explain yourself in your profile re: not having been active, your pics are cool and not porno your young n good looking just bide your time and you'll meet eventually. All the best

I was washing my hair the 5 times u'd asked..its pretty important I have it done..particularly at weekends"

Whit hair? Last time I saw you, your heid was shaved lolol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you explain yourself in your profile re: not having been active, your pics are cool and not porno your young n good looking just bide your time and you'll meet eventually. All the best

I was washing my hair the 5 times u'd asked..its pretty important I have it done..particularly at weekends

Whit hair? Last time I saw you, your heid was shaved lolol x"

U peeked through the blindfold as I licked! shame on u!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you explain yourself in your profile re: not having been active, your pics are cool and not porno your young n good looking just bide your time and you'll meet eventually. All the best

I was washing my hair the 5 times u'd asked..its pretty important I have it done..particularly at weekends

Whit hair? Last time I saw you, your heid was shaved lolol x

U peeked through the blindfold as I licked! shame on u!

What have I told you about being rude!!!! Behave or else haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you explain yourself in your profile re: not having been active, your pics are cool and not porno your young n good looking just bide your time and you'll meet eventually. All the best

I was washing my hair the 5 times u'd asked..its pretty important I have it done..particularly at weekends

Whit hair? Last time I saw you, your heid was shaved lolol x

U peeked through the blindfold as I licked! shame on u!

What have I told you about being rude!!!! Behave or else haha"

tell me off in person please lol ya keyboard schoolmisstress

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another single guy."Whingin" what a suprise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Wouldnt say it was 'whinging' more so that I was looking for advice and support to get involved in something I am intrigued by, not get a sinical opinion threw at my trying to publicly humiliate me... thanks for that. Real good character you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE:

no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications

in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of

veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential

timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me

Selfish lazyness?

As a single woman on here I won't meet unverified

men for my own personal safety! Nothing to do with being selfish or

lazy! We're all strangers on here and have NO idea who is behind any

profile

I meant it as an element that some people have. not every single person on here.

your reason is valid but some people are selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"RE:

no verifications..

I find it's a viscious circle!. how are others able to get verifications

in the first place?

I find it a tad rich when peeps won't consider meeting, just because of

veri's, and leaving it to others to suss out the potential

timewasters/fakes is sheer selfish lazyness to me

Selfish lazyness?

As a single woman on here I won't meet unverified

men for my own personal safety! Nothing to do with being selfish or

lazy! We're all strangers on here and have NO idea who is behind any

profile

forgot to say.. you only meet veri'd men.. don't be lulled into thinking your safe just cos theyre veri.d.. still keep your wits about you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems the advice wasnt good enough..this site sucks...he was right..I might leave too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems the advice wasnt good enough..."

Or maybe he took the advice and left to create a new profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems the advice wasnt good enough...

Or maybe he took the advice and left to create a new profile

he stole my pics too...sensed my immediately more handsomer finesse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems the advice wasnt good enough...

Or maybe he took the advice and left to create a new profile

he stole my pics too...sensed my immediately more handsomer finesse "

But couldn't steal your veris

For ages (using my mobile) I thought your avatar was you kind of holding your butt cheeks.... it was only when I saw your pic via a pc I discovered your arms were stockinged legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems the advice wasnt good enough...

Or maybe he took the advice and left to create a new profile

he stole my pics too...sensed my immediately more handsomer finesse

But couldn't steal your veris

For ages (using my mobile) I thought your avatar was you kind of holding your butt cheeks.... it was only when I saw your pic via a pc I discovered your arms were stockinged legs

lol..hence why I hate people using mobiles to view pics lol xxx and yes, my fab friend said the very same thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems the advice wasnt good enough...

Or maybe he took the advice and left to create a new profile

he stole my pics too...sensed my immediately more handsomer finesse

But couldn't steal your veris

For ages (using my mobile) I thought your avatar was you kind of holding your butt cheeks.... it was only when I saw your pic via a pc I discovered your arms were stockinged legs

Haha! Glad it wasn't only me!

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