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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do ppl actually hook up on here? Haven't had any luck yet. Is it my profile or my messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it might be your age sweetie. Your pics are good, profile is short but informative. You haven't mailed me but I'm not looking to meet bi cur/bi guys or anyone at the moment so I can't judge.

If I were local and looking to meet and you were straight, I'd be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been on here for a very short time. For many you are too young for us..

Patience and remember to respect others... And yes people meet off here.. but it takes time x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do ppl actually hook up on here? Haven't had any luck yet. Is it my profile or my messages?"

I'm imaginary and I have the real veris to prove it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 20/11/13 18:36:35]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a hologram

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do ppl actually hook up on here? Haven't had any luck yet. Is it my profile or my messages?"

Not met anyone from the site yet - been on here a over 2 years.

But we have met up with peeps we have met at clubs and now know on here.

Patience is key - and get out more to clubs and/or socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

none of us are real ppl who are in a deep deep sleep.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Can't comment on the messages but you're very young and that is usually a hindrance plus 5 weeks isn't long in the world of fab! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixture of fake and a bit backwards I've discovered

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm real and I meet (though I am extremely fussy!) But your age will be a hindrance, patience is key on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I missing something he is 34?

Put some effort in and you might get somewhere.

Good luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Do ppl actually hook up on here? Haven't had any luck yet. Is it my profile or my messages?"

time, patience, time, basic common sense, patience, time, patience.....

5 weeks isn't a whole bunch of time.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I missing something he is 34?

Put some effort in and you might get somewhere.

Good luck"

He's 20

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I missing something he is 34?

Put some effort in and you might get somewhere.

Good luck

He's 20 "

School boy error or maybe 6th form

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I'm as real as you.. I imagine. Just much much older

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Rather than just expecting a shag why not chat to people in messages or join in the forums. It's a good way to get to know people- had one of my best meets following a pm about forum banter.

I would be concerned about how young you are so wouldn't be interested unless I felt you had a great personality.

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Local but haven't received a message from you.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"I am a hologram "

misread that as hooligan lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everyone has said, being young will stop a lot of people meeting you as a lot of member here have children around your age or even older, I am in the same situation being 18.. Although I haven't exactly found it that hard here to find possible meets, you just have to communicate, have a think skin and not be bothered about what people say or if they ignore you as a lot of people will do so, but that just means that you aren't their type so try chatting to someone else.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't really have anyone to go clubbing with who be into swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A but stuck on the first message. Most tend to ignore single guys. Any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yesterday he had fake LL cool J so I will be fake Denzel Washington just got to find a pic of him 20 years ago

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Kklass parties run by in Miss I Kandi in dunstable at arousals. not far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do ppl actually hook up on here? Haven't had any luck yet. Is it my profile or my messages?"

I understand your frustrations matey - it's near on impossible for men to get meets here quickly - I've been back for several months and have only achieved two!

Don't worry about your age ...there's always someone suitable for everyone - it's just a matter of two paths crossing.

If it was me - I head over to more 'vanilla' sites ..usually takes me a day or two max, to meet someone in that realm

People are much more picky here and they have a right to be, of course.

Just stick around ..you'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I missing something he is 34?

Put some effort in and you might get somewhere.

Good luck

He's 20 "

Though his user name suggests 21 which would be enough of an inconsistency to make us pass the OP by.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm beginning to think I'd a figment of my own imagination, as I am not getting much luck these days either!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What would be the more 'vanilla' sites?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to think I'd a figment of my own imagination, as I am not getting much luck these days either!"

I doubt if you are a Figment of anyones imagination, If I can get meets here I am sure you can

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ah, will be 21 in 1 month

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How often are they?

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By *rchippyMan
over a year ago

omagh

They not chatting about going clubbing. They were chatting about going to swingers clubs!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

OP you seem to have become straight now.

This site isn't about telling people what you think they want to hear.

You have to show yourself to your best advantage but show the real you.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

OK look this up then

Username: KKLASS PARTIES really not too difficult

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"OP you seem to have become straight now.

This site isn't about telling people what you think they want to hear.

You have to show yourself to your best advantage but show the real you."

Not another I will be honest about my sexuality until it gets me nowhere quick so will change it to straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are down the road from two clubs that would be happy for you to go when you reach 21.

We use this site as a way of keeping in touch with people we meet in clubs and then arranging further meets.

That's not to say we don't also use it to meet new people it's just rare as it's hard to arrange a convenient time for all.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I'm real, at least, I think I am, and the people I meet are real...I think.

Took me over six months to get my first meet on here, so have a bit of patience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know, took me time to find the username search for sum reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haven't had any genuine replies, thought it could be course of that.

So u sure i need to change it back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

usually single men are instantly written of here as women are most after couples lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not true. It is about perseverance and tenacity and making yourself known and stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't had any genuine replies, thought it could be course of that.

So u sure i need to change it back?"

Depends. Do you think lying, or at the very least misleading people is a good idea?

But I doubt that is the reason you are struggling to get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"usually single men are instantly written of here as women are most after couples lol. "

Rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats rubbish i know lots of women including myself that meet single men

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"usually single men are instantly written of here as women are most after couples lol. "

Not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a neglected breed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well, so far I messaged all single females near me ... and zero replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, so far I messaged all single females near me ... and zero replies"

Great idea!! Mail everyone in the hope one replies!

Not!!

The concept of bulk mailing what are probably cut and paste messages, changing your sexuality because someone hints it may get you more meets - and the general disbelief you seem to have that you've not managed to meet after a mere 5 weeks, suggests to me you haven't really thought through what this site is all about!

Oh - and ignore anyone who says single guys are ignored. It's the usual shout of those who for various reasons struggle to engage in a respectful and sensible way with other site members.

Type 'feedback' into the search box on the forums - you may well learn a lot!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Found tease 2 but apparently it's 25, what the other one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"usually single men are instantly written of here as women are most after couples lol. "

errrr not this woman lol ~ I'm after men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, so far I messaged all single females near me ... and zero replies"

All of them? Do you not think they might detect your desperation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

K, I do personalise each msgs though.

TBH since I am new here still have to learn a lot about the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

TBH no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do ppl actually hook up on here? Haven't had any luck yet. Is it my profile or my messages?"

Single males make up a big chunk of the site. As a couple meeting couples, we do fine and have met some lovely people. As a single, hubby has yet to have a meet arranged through fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How come you don't see 21 guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"K, I do personalise each msgs though.

TBH since I am new here still have to learn a lot about the site."

you need to add more interests other than the obvious

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So how should a single guy stand out? Experience in swinging helps but that's catch 22

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how should a single guy stand out? Experience in swinging helps but that's catch 22"

well how do you think they should stand out? Add more pics, more interests, what you're looking for and more info about yourself, check grammar and spelling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how should a single guy stand out? Experience in swinging helps but that's catch 22"

so make up for it in other ways, a well written profile, good pictures, join in the forums, chat rooms etc etc.....

you have to put the work in to get the reward however long that may take!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ty, very helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ty, very helpful"

if you post a similar thread it means you haven't put in the effort and hard work. happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"usually single men are instantly written of here as women are most after couples lol.

errrr not this woman lol ~ I'm after men!"

lol nice one, lucky guy x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably 2 things going against you, the fact you are a student, could possibly mean you are short of cash, most women like to be spoilt.

secondly, you have a lot going for you in the real world, unlike a lot of people, who have kids, jobs, family.commitments, so maybe dating would be the best way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you are certainly holding your own ( not literally lol ) on this thread - which shows a good ability to converse and discuss - which are key things in the world of swinging. If you have a similar looking mate - go to a club together. There are many MILFS that look out for young guys or a pair of guys x

Always send face pixs with first message. If I dont get a face pic conveniently attached to the message - if I am busy or have a lot of messages in - I wont even bother to look at the profile if nothing sparks my interest x ive got quite a few " frequently asked questions" on my profile - personal view of mine - but might assist xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pretend to be a single bi fem , youll be inundated with offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking from experience, as i joined the site the same age as you.

Try and go in to the chatrooms and speak to people and make friends in there. Forums may be a good place too but I just discovered the forums recently so can't comment much on that.

Our age may put many off but there is always someone out there for you. You just have to be yourself, be respectful and things will go from there. Once people get to know you, then you will see what fab has to offer.

You just have to find a way to stand out from the rest of the crowd and decide what it is you want from fab. And take it from there really...

Wish you all the best and good luck on fab.

Happy swinging.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a pity you had a knee jerk reaction and changed from bi to straight. When people are looking for someone to have sex with in their own homes, they often put a lot of effort into researching the right sort of person. Part of that research will be looking at the little green arrow by your name and from there thy will see you changed from bi to straight. Some might consider that to be dishonest and not choose you on that basis.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It's a pity you had a knee jerk reaction and changed from bi to straight. When people are looking for someone to have sex with in their own homes, they often put a lot of effort into researching the right sort of person. Part of that research will be looking at the little green arrow by your name and from there thy will see you changed from bi to straight. Some might consider that to be dishonest and not choose you on that basis. "

^^^^^This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"usually single men are instantly written of here as women are most after couples lol.

errrr not this woman lol ~ I'm after men!"

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Patience, Grasshopper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent a welcome to fab message to the op. No response.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

LOL he not been on line in 9 hours .. He responded to my messages straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent mine yesterday lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us guys who use text speak or can not grasp simple spelling or basic grammar is a massive turn off when such a vast choice of men is avalible to us. And always send a nice clear face picture with your messages rather than a cock shot, or a face pic from 30m away in the dark in fancy dress in a sand storm 10 years ago! Hope this helps. There is plenty of fun to be had on this site as a single guy and I know as have done it for myself! Good luck and happy swinging!

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

A whole 5 weeks and nobody's dropped their knickers for you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a holographic pair of androids from the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Soz, was looking through the messages with tips first, but hey.

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By *xaratvTV/TS
over a year ago

bolton

Hi hot guy Well if your under the impression you have probelsm then try being a tv and then look at how many couples say theyre into crossdressing but not man like to meet a tv out in the public view and you will see your a lucky guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP you seem to have become straight now.

This site isn't about telling people what you think they want to hear.

You have to show yourself to your best advantage but show the real you."

I was just scrolling down to see if anyone else had mentioned you turning straight all of a sudden.

If you're Bi just keep it as Bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a pity you had a knee jerk reaction and changed from bi to straight. When people are looking for someone to have sex with in their own homes, they often put a lot of effort into researching the right sort of person. Part of that research will be looking at the little green arrow by your name and from there thy will see you changed from bi to straight. Some might consider that to be dishonest and not choose you on that basis. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

TBH not sure how bi I am anyway. I'm not into guys, but do enjoy the sight of cock.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"TBH not sure how bi I am anyway. I'm not into guys, but do enjoy the sight of cock."

Put that in your profile. No one can guess stuff so you have to tell people.

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