FabSwingers.com forum: I'm getting drained from the same question over and over...

By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose its because you are most white guys dream date, and they cant believe their luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every profile says where someone is from but people still ask....

I think a lot of people use dumb questions to try and break the ice

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

by the time you meet the questions irrelevant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your smile is breathtaking...nothing to do with the thread but I felt complimenting it took precedent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep, just looked and its pretty straight forward.

there are many bother things i could think of asking than what ethnicity the men you are after need to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

So...do I have a chance? I'm blackish and bbc-ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's becoming draining then change it to reflect what races you are looking for.

If race is not an issue for you then say so.

You should not have to but this is fab and some people need it spelling out unfortunately.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"If it's becoming draining then change it to reflect what races you are looking for.

If race is not an issue for you then say so.

You should not have to but this is fab and some people need it spelling out unfortunately."

My profile is clear hun so I don't see why I should have to spell anything out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's becoming draining then change it to reflect what races you are looking for.

If race is not an issue for you then say so.

You should not have to but this is fab and some people need it spelling out unfortunately.

My profile is clear hun so I don't see why I should have to spell anything out."

So was mine when I said I was not looking for men. But men kept messaging me In the end I just blocked men and the problem was solved.

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By *istress and SissyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

mat sound a bit naïve but why ask which skin colour ?, much more important likes/dislikes ,personalities , ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

I get asked this often even after some seeing our friends pics and seeing my man who is mixed looks white lol... It is funny, but I do notice some people openly say they aren't into a certain races, so I assume that's why this question gets asked to me so often!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I occasionally get the opposite: black men asking why I only meet white men. Selective reading so sometimes, when I'm feeling devilish, I mess with them saying I'd like to see the contrast of my white strap on entering their black arses.

Strangely enough I never hear from them again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I occasionally get the opposite: black men asking why I only meet white men. Selective reading so sometimes, when I'm feeling devilish, I mess with them saying I'd like to see the contrast of my white strap on entering their black arses.

Strangely enough I never hear from them again!

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

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profile is very clear cant be any clearer what else can u do grr some people.

so to clarify do u meet white guys or not?

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

"If it's becoming draining then change it to reflect what races you are looking for.

If race is not an issue for you then say so.

You should not have to but this is fab and some people need it spelling out unfortunately.

My profile is clear hun so I don't see why I should have to spell anything out."

Your profile says as long as they have a good personality then it doesnt matter what race they are.... as long as they a between 31 and 35 years old

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

You're entitled to a moan as everyone is. Profile seems fine and is clear though i fall short by an inch

If the idiocy continues your block button will be working over time

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP - if this question is being asked often enough to drain you, I would suggest you tweak your profile a little. Otherwise it will be continued to be asked. Sure your profile does not state you have a preference, but these men just want clarification, as so many people do have.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"OP - if this question is being asked often enough to drain you, I would suggest you tweak your profile a little. Otherwise it will be continued to be asked. Sure your profile does not state you have a preference, but these men just want clarification, as so many people do have. "

I hear you hun, but I won't be tweaking my profile as then I'm boxing myself into something which could become a lie.

Me even engaging in a conversation with a man should be enough clarification.

Asian guy "Do you fuck Asians?"

White guy "Do you go with White men?" "I've never been with a Black women but I'd love you to be my first because you're beautiful"

Black guy "I see you only fuck White men"

How do they get this from my profile???

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

So something that happens regularly is bothering you (enough to make a thread on it)

You have the opportunity to greatly reduce the above by making a small change to your profile

But you won't.

Am i reading this right? Because that sounds pretty backwards to me.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

I hear you hun, but I won't be tweaking my profile as then I'm boxing myself into something which could become a lie.

Me even engaging in a conversation with a man should be enough clarification.

Asian guy "Do you fuck Asians?"

White guy "Do you go with White men?" "I've never been with a Black women but I'd love you to be my first because you're beautiful"

Black guy "I see you only fuck White men"

How do they get this from my profile???"

Maybe they have an inferiority complex and think that you're out of their league? Or more likely they're not very good at opening conversations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though, if when messaging a person of a skin colour other than your own, if you feel like you absolutely HAVE to ask them if they're attracted to those of your ethnicity then you're probably not off to a good start. I message women on here if they seem attractive - race doesn't even factor into it, and with that in mind I'm hoping they reply because they see me as an equally attractive guy, not just someone who's Caucasian.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Seriously though, if when messaging a person of a skin colour other than your own, if you feel like you absolutely HAVE to ask them if they're attracted to those of your ethnicity then you're probably not off to a good start. I message women on here if they seem attractive - race doesn't even factor into it, and with that in mind I'm hoping they reply because they see me as an equally attractive guy, not just someone who's Caucasian."

Thank you

As that is exactly how I feel.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

Is it that weird, really? Walk down the road, how many mixed race couples do you see where the man is white, the woman black? it's pretty rare, even in big ethnic cities.

I don't actually think it's a far cry to assume a black girl might only want black guys.

* of course they don't read you profile, that's a given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's becoming draining then change it to reflect what races you are looking for.

If race is not an issue for you then say so.

You should not have to but this is fab and some people need it spelling out unfortunately.

My profile is clear hun so I don't see why I should have to spell anything out."

Then stop moaning.

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

all the guys that message you with the stupid question, they are doing you a favour..they are saying "don't look at my profile"..."don't pick me"..so not sure how exhausting hitting the delete button is, but it's got to be less tiring than bothering with an answer since they never bothered to read your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you hun, but I won't be tweaking my profile as then I'm boxing myself into something which could become a lie.

Me even engaging in a conversation with a man should be enough clarification.

Asian guy "Do you fuck Asians?"

White guy "Do you go with White men?" "I've never been with a Black women but I'd love you to be my first because you're beautiful"

Black guy "I see you only fuck White men"

How do they get this from my profile???"

you sound an intelligent yet stubborn lady, if you are not prepared to change why moan about the outcome you are getting, only you can fix your problem, no one else.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I hear you hun, but I won't be tweaking my profile as then I'm boxing myself into something which could become a lie.

Me even engaging in a conversation with a man should be enough clarification.

Asian guy "Do you fuck Asians?"

White guy "Do you go with White men?" "I've never been with a Black women but I'd love you to be my first because you're beautiful"

Black guy "I see you only fuck White men"

How do they get this from my profile???

you sound an intelligent yet stubborn lady, if you are not prepared to change why moan about the outcome you are getting, only you can fix your problem, no one else."

That would require logic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So something that happens regularly is bothering you (enough to make a thread on it)

You have the opportunity to greatly reduce the above by making a small change to your profile

But you won't.

Am i reading this right? Because that sounds pretty backwards to me."

because then there would be nothing to moan about and no thread to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The drama of unwanted attention is such a thrill to some people....its their oxygen

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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago

north birmingham

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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago

north birmingham

Actually, to me, the fact that you mention your own race in your own introduction suggests that it is an important issue for you, I am not too surprised that people pick up on that particular part of your profile, you have given the topic a whole paragraph separated to itself so it MUST be important to you.

You have very clear ideas about what you are looking for, very set borders, right down to the height of a person, if I was someone messaging you I too would be asking if my race/colour would be acceptable to you. (although I am female, not the right height, or age lol, but hey thats a different problem! )

I disagree that you make it as clear that race doesn't matter to you when so many other factors about a person obviously do, I would suggest, as others here have that you simply put that statement into your profile if the question is bothering you...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

That sounds like a quiestion from someone who isnt going to meet. Either they are interested in you and are getting along with you or not. Colour should be the last thing on their mind!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"The drama of unwanted attention is such a thrill to some people....its their oxygen"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

Is it that weird, really? Walk down the road, how many mixed race couples do you see where the man is white, the woman black? it's pretty rare, even in big ethnic cities.

I don't actually think it's a far cry to assume a black girl might only want black guys.

* of course they don't read you profile, that's a given."

In London, common, in my own family my son-in-law is white as is three of my brother-in-laws.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"The drama of unwanted attention is such a thrill to some people....its their oxygen"

God ain't that the truth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

put a keyword at the end of your profile that they have to put in the subject line.

when you check your mail, if no keyword in subject line.

you can delete it without the boredom of reading.

it's a small addition to your profile that could save you the time and annoyance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

I think a lot don't know what to say and so they have to start somewhere

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"put a keyword at the end of your profile that they have to put in the subject line.

when you check your mail, if no keyword in subject line.

you can delete it without the boredom of reading.

it's a small addition to your profile that could save you the time and annoyance

You realise anyone even scanning your profile can see this as it stands out so much.

Never seen the point in anyone doing this - if the message is shite - they haven't read your profile, simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bottom line, when they ask the question, "Do you go for white men?" they generally already have their cock in hand as they jerk off to your pretty smile. They've answered the question and have started without you. If you ever reply, most will probably fall off their toilets LMAO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So something that happens regularly is bothering you (enough to make a thread on it)

You have the opportunity to greatly reduce the above by making a small change to your profile

But you won't.

Am i reading this right? Because that sounds pretty backwards to me.

because then there would be nothing to moan about and no thread to make"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol most dont got a chance anyway

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By *innamon ChallengeMan
over a year ago

London

"Actually, to me, the fact that you mention your own race in your own introduction suggests that it is an important issue for you, I am not too surprised that people pick up on that particular part of your profile, you have given the topic a whole paragraph separated to itself so it MUST be important to you.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I was gonna post yesterday,.. then got distracted by this online game, took a break to watch UFC live, then went back to the game for a bit before calling it a night.

OP, some people sadly have the compulsion to quiz and query a (perceived) point of self-elimination.. albeit in a bid to badger you into submission into relenting. I don't know if it works, or if they think you will take pity and (if true) forego your preference for them.

Either way, fuck 'em (and I don't mean literarily).

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

You should not have to put in your profile that race is not an issue, surely it is taken as read if not expressly mentioned.

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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago

north birmingham

"You should not have to put in your profile that race is not an issue, surely it is taken as read if not expressly mentioned. "

But that is exactly it - she HAS mentioned her race within her profile, therefore, it IS an issue... therefore don't be surprised that this is picked up...

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I cant comment I am not able to read the profile

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Its Your profile,

so you choose how you word it,

If people ask questions that you find irksome,

your choice whether you reply or not,

The fact a preference is nt stated other than age and height you can use the irksome question as a filter of sorts,

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"You should not have to put in your profile that race is not an issue, surely it is taken as read if not expressly mentioned.

But that is exactly it - she HAS mentioned her race within her profile, therefore, it IS an issue... therefore don't be surprised that this is picked up..."

What's your problem????? My race is not an issue but when MEN keep asking me if my parents are from SPAIN how would YOU want me to respond?!?!?!

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"You should not have to put in your profile that race is not an issue, surely it is taken as read if not expressly mentioned.

But that is exactly it - she HAS mentioned her race within her profile, therefore, it IS an issue... therefore don't be surprised that this is picked up...

What's your problem????? My race is not an issue but when MEN keep asking me if my parents are from SPAIN how would YOU want me to respond?!?!?!"

respond with a smile and a block

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By *ovelybumCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

What about white couples?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I keep getting asked if I go for White men and this has been going on for months.

I don't understand why I'm always being asked this question as my profile is very clear, I like men with personality...

Just a moan I guess

Haven't looked at your profile but if your profile is as clear as you say, then just delete.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"The drama of unwanted attention is such a thrill to some people....its their oxygen

God ain't that the truth! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a simple response could be "yes I do, but lets chat more"..if it turns out they arent what u want, say thanks n bye

the responses to the profile might likely be coming from those that havent had many or any meets..they see the site and think everyone(female) wants BBC or BWC etc etc..

As it is single males u are targeting...sometimes it does help to be in their shoes..as much as it helps them to understand what its like to be in urs.

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