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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can I really be that off putting to people I know I am not good looking and people rather meet someone that has verifications and I do understand why that is. But can people please give me a honest opinion on what is off putting about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok for me personally i'm not liking the fact your a smoker, is the table cloth some sort of cannabis poster? if so then thats not my kinda thing either (if not i appologise)

teddy bear on a bed in a purple painted room.. are you attached and not saying anything?

these are just my thoughts and opinions on why you may not appeal to me.. however its not to say these things wont attract others to you.

good luck

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Firstly... You've been here 3 weeks so if you're getting despondent already I'd give up now. Just because your on a swingers site doesn't mean everyone is shagging 24/7

Secondly... If you were to message me I wouldn't be interested for a few reasons. But there's someone for everyone on here and perseverance, patience and a thick skin is what's needed.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"ok for me personally i'm not liking the fact your a smoker, is the table cloth some sort of cannabis poster? if so then thats not my kinda thing either (if not i appologise)

teddy bear on a bed in a purple painted room.. are you attached and not saying anything?

these are just my thoughts and opinions on why you may not appeal to me.. however its not to say these things wont attract others to you.

good luck "

Ok so you have the exact same reasons as me. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok for me personally i'm not liking the fact your a smoker, is the table cloth some sort of cannabis poster? if so then thats not my kinda thing either (if not i appologise)

teddy bear on a bed in a purple painted room.. are you attached and not saying anything?

these are just my thoughts and opinions on why you may not appeal to me.. however its not to say these things wont attract others to you.

good luck

Ok so you have the exact same reasons as me. Lol. "

Thats not to say that if he were to hide that picture id be interested. Distance and physical attraction do play a part in my criteria of what i find attractive.. but as a female i do look beyond profile text and believe a picture (and background) can paint 1000 words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's that soft drinks can pic I'm telling ya lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also your not looking for SINGLE females, just FF couples and MF couples.. (which is fine if thats what your after)

Also the heading 'Willing to learn'.. speaking as a younger female it would then make me a little uneasy that perhaps sexually you arent the most confident. For my preferences id like to be the more submissive one and expect a man of 30 to know what he is doing.

Of course sex with every new partner is a learning curve to some degree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly... You've been here 3 weeks so if you're getting despondent already I'd give up now. Just because your on a swingers site doesn't mean everyone is shagging 24/7

Secondly... If you were to message me I wouldn't be interested for a few reasons. But there's someone for everyone on here and perseverance, patience and a thick skin is what's needed. "

Correction " Rhino skin" required ,as I will think you will find as this thread progresses

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand your comments and thank you but that picture was at a mates house before we went out for the evening. I was attached but am now single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are wallowing in self pity and you need to snap out of it and not take it all so seriously

Have a laugh and enjoy the site with no real high expectations,anything you get back will be a nice bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand your comments and thank you but that picture was at a mates house before we went out for the evening. I was attached but am now single."

Oh perhaps a gallery of new pix may be the answer then???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree every sexual experience os a learning curve but was with my last partner for over 10 years and our sex life was not adventurous at all thats why I put willing to learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly... You've been here 3 weeks so if you're getting despondent already I'd give up now. Just because your on a swingers site doesn't mean everyone is shagging 24/7

Secondly... If you were to message me I wouldn't be interested for a few reasons. But there's someone for everyone on here and perseverance, patience and a thick skin is what's needed. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's that there is anything off putting at all .

However you don't stand out from the crowd at all . Just an average guy which is not a bad thing , but frustrating when you want some fun !

Try a social if there are any nearby and be more positive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you I do believe I have had high expectations which I have no longer got. And I will try to update my profile and my pics as I am aware the ones I have may seem off putting to alot of people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you I do believe I have had high expectations which I have no longer got. And I will try to update my profile and my pics as I am aware the ones I have may seem off putting to alot of people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What advice could you give some9ne like me to help stand out more. And I will keep my eye out for some socail meets in the area thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What advice could you give some9ne like me to help stand out more. And I will keep my eye out for some socail meets in the area thank you"

you don't need to explain why you need to upload new pics. Explain why you're here, what you're into sexually, any hobbies, what you look for in a woman etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What advice could you give some9ne like me to help stand out more. And I will keep my eye out for some socail meets in the area thank you"

and be realistic about about age preference. Would you really play with someone in their 60's? They'd be old enough to be your mum/ grandma

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Point taken thank you and I will try my best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

make your profile text more readable.

the content may be fine, i dont know, but just having one huge block of text isnt very inviting.

you cant accommodate, whatever the reason it suggests you have something to hide. we wouldnt invite someone into our home if they wouldnt be prepared to reciprocate.

the pics on the bedsit are dingy, get some nicer brighter ones taken, as your mates place isnt the most welcoming either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your views. As for accommodation I am waiting to get a place of my own since splitting with my ex partner as soon as I get a place I will be more than happy to accommodate. I have updated my profile not sure if its quite up to scatch and I will be updating my profile pics to when I get the chance. So thank you once again for your advice

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By *thlete0Couple
over a year ago

southend


"ok for me personally i'm not liking the fact your a smoker, is the table cloth some sort of cannabis poster? if so then thats not my kinda thing either (if not i appologise)

teddy bear on a bed in a purple painted room.. are you attached and not saying anything?

wow you noticed so many things ...should be in the police

these are just my thoughts and opinions on why you may not appeal to me.. however its not to say these things wont attract others to you.

good luck "

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By *thlete0Couple
over a year ago

southend

Didn't mean to do that many faces lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats quite alright put a smile on my face and thank you for the good luck to

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Iron your shirt.

Don't put ciggies behind your ears.

Don't take pics in a woman's bedroom,

smile - for God's sake smile.

Loose the can.

Loose the cannabis covers.

Accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will accommodate when I have a place and I am sorry about the room the pics was taken in but that is where I was stayingbat the time but I will update pics when I get the chance to take some decent ones. And thank you for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

smile in the face pics, ideally get someone else to take them if you can so you don't have to be staring at the screen (or use the timer)

ditch the cig, the beer and the stuff.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"What advice could you give some9ne like me to help stand out more. And I will keep my eye out for some socail meets in the area thank you"
The same advice you asked for a we're given two weeks ago when you asked

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