FabSwingers.com forum: where am i going wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Help im a geniune guy but a little shy and dont know how to break the ice ....as a result a dont think people are takin me seriously..

any ideas .....im not trying to trick anyone into bed ...i want them to want me ....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help im a geniune guy but a little shy and dont know how to break the ice ....as a result a dont think people are takin me seriously..

any ideas .....im not trying to trick anyone into bed ...i want them to want me ....lol"

Lose the lol's and mmmmmmm they really divide opinion thus reducing your audience.

Check for spelling and sentence structure as there are a lot of mistakes i.e. -'fourplay'

The lsdies will advise on the cock pic.

Put something about things you like and more importantly why you are here and what you want to get out of it.

Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't just put a cock pic up on your profile. You need your face if you dare and defo some body shots like your bum shoulders and so on. Agree with above also, loose the mmmmmmmms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check out some other profiles and see how they have done it.

make it short but precise and good spelling, no text speak.

About you....what your looking for etc.

Leave the cock shots in the private album , we all know what they look like. Add some humour and ......be patient

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help im a geniune guy but a little shy and dont know how to break the ice ....as a result a dont think people are takin me seriously..

any ideas .....im not trying to trick anyone into bed ...i want them to want me ....lol"

You might not be going wrong you may be nearly there but you might just have a lot of competition. There is no magic wand or super message you can send its about being polite with people in messages, taking an interest and getting peoples attention in the right way and that's different with everyone. Just keep positive and put more into getting peoples attention in your own individual but polite way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of cock shots, don't worry about a face pic, we can turn the light out

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It takes time and can be tough for a single guy. Your location is listed as nowhere, so you are making it hard for others to know if youre a potential meet, local or far. It could appear as if youre only half interested in the whole process. Your profile has to really sell you incredibly well. It doesnt quite at the moment. If youre shy, move at your own pace and dont pressure yourself, as you maybe toughen up to any knocks. Find friends, not just fb's, people who will get to understand and support you. Consider why youre on a swinging site, where many are looking for couples and more-somes. Overall hang in there, polish your profile and get drawn to good people. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think grammar tends to throw people off on here, especially if you're over a certain age. Keep the Mmmmm's for the messages, there was just a discussion on here the other day how it puts some people off. I think or I've found for us it's been more trial and error, we have definitely added to our profile along the way, when running into the occasional crazy.

You don't seem like that of course

you will need something witty on your profile that will make a lady want to message you.

Best of luck to ya, if you follow the advice everyone is giving you should be fine

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over a year ago

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Well, put it this way, with so many other guys in your region, you have to compete with them and to be the best, you have to effectively "sell" yourself.

But with your Profile as it stands at the moment, it will put people off.

You have almost gone down the line of using text speak in some ways. Stop using words like 'chillin, givin' and 'fit n healthy'.... instead use the full versions of 'chilling, giving' and 'fit and healthy'.

You have several instances of im inserted in the text; it should read as I'm (or) I am... Plus some words run into each other, so break them up into separate words; also break the long sentences into smaller ones. There are also some spelling mistakes.

Some may say that all sounds pedantic, But as it is now, it all seems as if it has been cobbled together in a few minutes, so spending a few more minutes to compose a better looking Profile will work.

Get a facial pic on your profile too; ditch the cock pic to Private use only.

But you also need to get out into the Forums, go to socials or clubs if any are in your region. It's all about being noticed, and with perseverance, patience and even more patience, it can work. Good Luck.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Well, put it this way, with so many other guys in your region, you have to compete with them and to be the best, you have to effectively "sell" yourself.

But with your Profile as it stands at the moment, it will put people off.

Get a facial pic on your profile too; ditch the cock pic to Private use only.

Exactly this! I read your profile and cringed a bit with all the mistakes! Nothing makes you stand out from the other thousands of guys on here - make more of an effort to promote yourself!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My advice is take the advice given. The longer you leave it the less chance you will have of meeting because people who might have said yes, will say no because you will have been on here a long time with no veris.

Some people might assume (rightly or wrongly) that the more effort you put into your profile, the better you will be at sex and are serious about swinging.

What you do know and recognise, which is good, is that your current profile isn't working the way you want it to.

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