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Time Waster's n Pic collectors

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why o why are there so many time wasters and pic collectors on here........There REALLY needs to be a place to name and shame these people......They arrange to meet and..... surprise surprise, they either dont turn up or even better.... remove themselves from the site. Whats all that about ????

Beginning to wonder how many other people have the same treatment.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Why o why are there so many time wasters and pic collectors on here........There REALLY needs to be a place to name and shame these people......They arrange to meet and..... surprise surprise, they either dont turn up or even better.... remove themselves from the site. Whats all that about ????

Beginning to wonder how many other people have the same treatment."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a sex site, of course people want to see pics, and if yours are in pvt they will say what you want to hear to see them, that isn't time wasting, its a compliment, you seem to be doing something right going by your many verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why o why are there so many time wasters and pic collectors on here........There REALLY needs to be a place to name and shame these people......They arrange to meet and..... surprise surprise, they either dont turn up or even better.... remove themselves from the site. Whats all that about ????

Beginning to wonder how many other people have the same treatment."

Please don't even bother messaging this couple , they arranged to meet me and didn't turn up even after a text from them to say they were on way.

Complete lies of course , see how easy things could get out of hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The time to worry is when you stop getting responses.

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By *icked weaselCouple
over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..

There has Been Photo Hunters Since The Internet Began...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a compliment when I see people using my pics on other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy on here, you hear all the time about timewasters who really make it harder and harder for us real genuine guys to arrange meets etc. I am fortunate enough to have met some lovely gorgeous people from here and I really pride myself in being one of the genuine one's. I too would agree with your comments but that is what admin is for. I honestly don't think that there is a real answer to this. Although have to say there is absolutely no way would I let you guys down if a meet was arranged with you and myself. As for the pic collectors again agree but you are always going to get this, you can either let it bother you or just shrug your shoulders and say onwards and upwards. There are a lot of genuine reliable lovely people on here so please don't be too disheartened, we are here and would only be too glad to restore your faith in us single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your reply, but we have a mixture of pics in both private and public....just dont understand all the messaging to meet and then either dont turn up, delete account or be rather rude about profile. We know its all about sex but we also enjoy the friendship and social side of this lifestyle. If they just want sex with no connection maybe they see see a prostitute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully we are not tempting fate , but we have never had a timewaster or a fake or a pic collector .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for your reply, but we have a mixture of pics in both private and public....just dont understand all the messaging to meet and then either dont turn up, delete account or be rather rude about profile. We know its all about sex but we also enjoy the friendship and social side of this lifestyle. If they just want sex with no connection maybe they see see a prostitute. "

why do they need to pay when sex here is free.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very true......we know there are some very genuine people on here and not to tar everyone with the same brush......Its just when you arrange a day time meet, finish work early, home, shower and change into some nice underwear then head off to meet then let down, it does annoy us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for your reply, but we have a mixture of pics in both private and public....just dont understand all the messaging to meet and then either dont turn up, delete account or be rather rude about profile. We know its all about sex but we also enjoy the friendship and social side of this lifestyle. If they just want sex with no connection maybe they see see a prostitute. "

I couldn't agree more with some of what you say. Unfortunately there are idiots on here who don't have any respect and don't understand the concept of swinging. I can assure you that to be respectful is paramount and please don't think that about the latter part of your statement. You have to accept that there are indeed guys on here to don't have the respect deserved to women, couples but just think that by being either obscene with their requests when they first message you or have the thought that because you are on here it is an easy lay as infuriating as it is when it seems constant, be assured that not all of us are like that and you just gotta block and ignore and report. This site is all about having lots of adult fun, nsa, uncomplicated to fulfil a few desires, fantasies, enhancement of already great sex life, so why let idiots ruin it for you they ain't worth the hassle. Remember any guy fortunate enough for you to allow into your life is very lucky indeed and the one's who arrange a meet and don't show etc their loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very true........and thank you for your kind reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mercy Beaucoup xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy to deal with pic collectors, refuse to 'send' pics. I have face pics on my profile and a couple of more naked pics for friends. If someone wanted more, it's tough. Twelve is plenty to see what a person looks like.

There are some who don't want their face shown on a sex site (due to a sensitive job or the like) and thankfully, you can upload pics to private and send them in a message on the site. Again, if the person wants more, I'd say it's tough.

It is true, that as long as the internet has been around, there have been pic collectors. You just say no and move on.

As for timewasters, yeah they are massively frustrating. I have had people stand me up or give me a lame excuse at the last minute. There will always be internet fantasists or those who suddenly chicken out. It's the nature of this business I suppose.

I think name and shame is a good idea in principle, but sadly it is very much open to abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or should that be Mon Pleasure, och my french is a bit dilapidated but I can speak swahili like a native when I am inebriated, whilst watching dancing on ice and as exciting. Although in all honesty being such a silver tounged devil that I am I have trouble understanding myself sometimes. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use common sense and gut instinct - as well as simple processes such as early phone calls or a social meet - and you'll be able to simply avoid 99% of fakes and fantasists .

Concentrate on using robust selection criteria - good veri's, quality profiles and clear pics. - and don't get sucked in by early requests to meet or same day suggestions as these will be the ones that generally go tits up!!

Proper planning prevents piss poor performance !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just dont accept random friends requests or requests after a few compliments,it stops the pic collectors for me,genuine people are happy to wait till met me,hence im stubborn.

I've never suffered timewasters as meet at clubs,people occasionally do a no show,im Not left sat on own so not a problem

Last week i tried to arrange a local meet for a change,it was rare but wanted a treat for my birthday, i did get some annoying offers but luckily went with my instints and chose a good meet.but Blimey wot a hassle it were with dreamers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why o why are there so many time wasters and pic collectors on here........There REALLY needs to be a place to name and shame these people......They arrange to meet and..... surprise surprise, they either dont turn up or even better.... remove themselves from the site. Whats all that about ????

Beginning to wonder how many other people have the same treatment."

Well we haven't had this problem I have to wonder what you are doing differently to others to scare them off. Do you chat on the phone first and make them feel at ease in the build up to the meet?

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"If they just want sex with no connection maybe they see see a prostitute. "

Or join a swingers site.

Maybe you are the odd one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am i alone in not giving a shit re pic collectors as i have no control as to what folk do with them.

As for timewasters yes they are pain in the arse but part of life generally as well on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i alone in not giving a shit re pic collectors as i have no control as to what folk do with them.

As for timewasters yes they are pain in the arse but part of life generally as well on fab."

Nope ur not alone,hence i put alot front page just keep my mugshot ones out of sight,or i scare the shit out people all over the net

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By *unwithus2.Couple
over a year ago

south kent

Why o why are there so many time wasters and pic collectors on here........There REALLY needs to be a place to name and shame these people......They arrange to meet and..... surprise surprise, they either dont turn up or even better.... remove themselves from the site. Whats all that about ????

Beginning to wonder how many other people have the same treatment.

as above had loads of picture collectors, even made arrangements to meet two guys in one day at a hotel and yes your right neither turned up

yes you know who you are so dont think i don't know where you are !!!!!

Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no naked pics , sex pics or vids on here or for sending. I totally refuse and if they guy isnt happy he can go else where. Its an absolute rule that I wont break and Ive been happy with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why o why are there so many time wasters and pic collectors on here........There REALLY needs to be a place to name and shame these people......They arrange to meet and..... surprise surprise, they either dont turn up or even better.... remove themselves from the site. Whats all that about ????

HERE....HERE...

Beginning to wonder how many other people have the same treatment."

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We've been on Fab for years and in our experience the time-wasters and/or photo collectors are in the majority here. The ratio of our on-line contacts to meets is actually very small. Still, when you do meet real people it's all worthwhile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been on here for 5 yrs and in my experience the genuine people by far outweigh the silly buggers

Pic collectors? Well most people only want to see what you look like which is perfectly understandable if you have an interest in meeting

Timewaster? depends what your definition is,the word is overused im opinion,not opening a message or replying to it gets accusations of timewaster thrown about,messaging that does'nt lead to a meet means you're a timewaster to some people.....Its ludicrous!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Agree with Sexsensual, most messages can't lead to meets, unless people are extremely lucky or not picky. Such failed messages trying to arrange something don't therefore involve a timewaster, when it's just a sensible, normal use of fab.

But there are time wasters who have no intention of meeting, aren't the people they purport to be etc, and just use fab etc as a means to some other end, that is not explicit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree with Sexsensual, most messages can't lead to meets, unless people are extremely lucky or not picky. Such failed messages trying to arrange something don't therefore involve a timewaster, when it's just a sensible, normal use of fab.

But there are time wasters who have no intention of meeting, aren't the people they purport to be etc, and just use fab etc as a means to some other end, that is not explicit."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club happened again to us tonight. Have made some wonderful friends on here who we love to bits but the time wasters are getting more and more these days. Ok so we ugly lol but if that's the case why chase us for a meet and let us down last min. To all u sexy genuine Cpls out there we are on a mail away lol

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By *inCity BluesMan
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but for me it is, we chat for a long time, then they stop messaging you, I find that odd lol.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Ive been on here for 5 yrs and in my experience the genuine people by far outweigh the silly buggers

Pic collectors? Well most people only want to see what you look like which is perfectly understandable if you have an interest in meeting

Timewaster? depends what your definition is,the word is overused im opinion,not opening a message or replying to it gets accusations of timewaster thrown about,messaging that does'nt lead to a meet means you're a timewaster to some people.....Its ludicrous!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs Fox here, l left Hubby to face the Arena and waste his own precious downtime on the denizons of Fab etc.When will people 'get' that swinging is a dark nasty world full of people who don't give a hoot about respect because there is no moral obligation to do so? If you pay a hooker its in their interest to turn up. Swingers have no investment in meeting you. Its a world of 'screw' you I'm going to screw him/her/them instead. Live with it or get out.Your choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the pics you see on here makes you wonder who moderates them.just one look and you can tell they are cropped net porn pics.a google image search soon proves it.

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By *icked weaselCouple
over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..

Tried the searches and Never seen my photos on any other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why o why are there so many time wasters and pic collectors on here........There REALLY needs to be a place to name and shame these people......They arrange to meet and..... surprise surprise, they either dont turn up or even better.... remove themselves from the site. Whats all that about ????

Beginning to wonder how many other people have the same treatment."

Even I've had that. I'm getting quicker at at spotting them now though

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