FabSwingers.com forum: What to do when you meet for drinks ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We meet couples at clubs and directly on this website , but recently a couple asked us to meet for drinks and see where that that takes us. but the question is how do you go about inviting them back to yours to play and what do you talk about ?

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I don't get drinks

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

About halfway through the evening you'll know if its a yay or nay. So if it's a yay I would say 'would you like to carry this on at ours?'

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

"About halfway through the evening you'll know if its a yay or nay. So if it's a yay I would say 'would you like to carry this on at ours?'

in my previous life it was the same for me

nowadays i tend to say would you like to come meet my dogs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually have a chat and a drink like we would with anyone else. I then find a way to get some time with just us two so I know we are both happy to proceed, and give the other couple some room to chat privately too. After joining the others again we can have "the chat" and by then everyone should be in a position to say yes or no for sure.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Doesn't 'fancy a fuck?' work then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have had a few social meets for coffee or drinks and its fine - think especially if its 2 couples meeting as 4 people to please and if we all get on and are comfy its great we move on or make arrangements to meet again - only once has it been a no thanks and that was a single fem but the conversation never flowed - its not just the sex you have to be able to banter at least surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great thread guys. We would like to have a social night with a couple, we never have before, it's always just been the sex. We would love a fun night out with no expectation and just see if anything flows. Do these type of things happen or is it just pipe dreams from us?? Xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we always meet for drinks first, we chat about everything under the sun and it is nice to be able to talk to people without them thinking you're a filthy pervert

We never play on a first meet to give us a chance to discuss things privately but it's easy enough to say after a first or second drink "would you like to come back to ours for another drink?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are new and not verified yet. We would like to meet for drinks and hopefully more. Our plan is, to meet, see if we all like each, and then back to theirs for some fun. But so far every guy we arrange meets with, who says he can accommodate, all of a sudden he can't accommodate. We are starting to realise now what the phrase time waster means.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Most of our meets are a see how it goes type. Conversation will usually just flow and we normally find ourselves chatting about anything and everything. In the right company good conversation shouldn't be a problem or difficult.

9 times out of 10 you can usually tell if the evening is going well. If you would like to take things further then you could just ask if they want to come back to yours to get better acquainted.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"This is a great thread guys. We would like to have a social night with a couple, we never have before, it's always just been the sex. We would love a fun night out with no expectation and just see if anything flows. Do these type of things happen or is it just pipe dreams from us?? Xx "

Yes they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We usually have a chat and a drink like we would with anyone else. I then find a way to get some time with just us two so I know we are both happy to proceed, and give the other couple some room to chat privately too. After joining the others again we can have "the chat" and by then everyone should be in a position to say yes or no for sure. "

We do this. We usuay have a drink first and then if we're all happy go play. Sometimes we go our separate ways, never any hard feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With social meets it is pretty obvious if things are going to go somewhere, I feel the chemistry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just say "fancy coming back to mine for drinks?" It's the new version of "come back for coffee".

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By *obbyCock36Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I think it's a good idea to meet socially, safety for all and if it's a yes decide if you want to go ahead then or arrange another meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About halfway through the evening you'll know if its a yay or nay. So if it's a yay I would say 'would you like to carry this on at ours?'

in my previous life it was the same for me

nowadays i tend to say would you like to come meet my dogs

I love dogs and miss my old Lab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially we always meet socially. Drinks, chat and hopefully loads of laughs. You know pretty soon if you click. For us there is more to a meet than the sex, it has to feel right and the attraction must be there, and if it is then "lets get it on"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we like to do it this way.

meet up for a no presure drink, chat shite for a couple of hours, get to know the real people and see what they are about, and likewise they get to see who and what we are about.

tend to get to know the people behind the profile a bit more, and can be a lot more sexy than playing with words on a screen.

just treat it like a night out with friends you normally would have, just with the possibility of a lot more fun at the end of the evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Initially we always meet socially. Drinks, chat and hopefully loads of laughs. You know pretty soon if you click. For us there is more to a meet than the sex, it has to feel right and the attraction must be there, and if it is then "lets get it on"

^^^^^ this

We have also met people whom we have had an absolute cracking night with... We wouldn't 'play' with them and vice versa, but we still meet occasionally for a fun crazy night out...

Guess they have become friends?

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By *ones222Couple
over a year ago

Melbourne

like anything mostly you can usually tell in the first 5mins.

Most of the time the social side is very nice, free flowing but can be awkward if you're not into them or vice versa. Watch both women's body language, keep it classy and direct when it comes to that point in the evening. Most people appreciate it if you don't let things drag on too long especially if it's something you're not into. Keeping things going can send the wrong message.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Doesn't 'fancy a fuck?' work then? "

It does when the other person does fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We meet couples at clubs and directly "

It's the same as meeting at a club, 5 minutes saying hello, some general conversation, holidays, hobbies, what she is wearing, 15 - 30 minutes or so, then moves onto how long / where you do swinging. If conversation is difficult then move on, it ain't gona work.

Next step is to find an excuse to be alone with your partner for a minute leaving them in the same state, e.g go to the bar for drinks, or blatantly say we are popping outside for a minute, decide if you want to invite them back.

If you don't carry on the conversation till you get bored and leave, if you do then any invitation back to your place will work:

"Would you like to pop back to our place for coffee" = fancy a fuck;-).

"it's noisy here fancy somewhere quieter to talk" = fancy a fuck;-).

"wanna come back and see our etchings?" = fancy a fuck;-).

"we have holiday pics of xxx want to see them?" = fancy a fuck;-).

"shall we go back and get more comfortable" = fancy a fuck;-).

"fancy a fuck" = fancy a fuck;-).

WARNING IF invited back to see holiday pics and there is a projector and screen set up, be prepared to run away very fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We meet couples at clubs and directly on this website , but recently a couple asked us to meet for drinks and see where that that takes us. but the question is how do you go about inviting them back to yours to play and what do you talk about ?

If you meet for a drink you soon know if you are getting the vibe and if you get on and like them. We often tell them we would like them to come back but understand its not always possible there and then but we give them our number and let them decide. Often we get a call while we are in the car park saying yes and they follow us back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone, We was a little nervous about it as we got the club meet down to a tee , but meeting for drinks? we missed out on a few meets then lol

Thanks again

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

This is what we do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never been to a club (yet...transport issues ) and we where not all that confident so we started out with meeting other couples for a "drink".

We just talk to them about anything and everything and change the subject to swinging and sex if we like them.

Since we meet via FAB they've already seen us naked (or more lol) so no point being shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to go somewhere noisey so it's difficult to talk, also somewhere with dancing.

As in real life never go for a meal it's dating suicide when your single , just make the excuse that you never go for a meal as your old fashioned and wouldn't do it until you have had sex at least three times .

I also go down on Paula before we leave to get her really horny , and do discrete things that she likes eg kissing neck to keep her going . I also say sexy things to her , about how horny etc she makes me.

I also like to whisper in her ear what the other guy would probably do later how big his cock is , wether he is cut or not , women are naturally curious and want to know the ins and outs of everything lol

Usually just get the guys to ask each other if it's going to happen , they know if their wives will play. I would play with a woman I didn't fancy if Paula liked the guy.

A great ice breaker is the guys getting the girls to snog . But guys be prepared for the girls to say you do it first

We have gone out on a meet made our excuses and went . We felt bad but we both knew it would not work even if we got really d*unk, and we do like a few drinks .

Make sure you look nice, new clothes, nice clean smelling body, don't get d*unk. Especially if the others are not drinking. I always look really nice, had my hair cut, shave nice smelling Paula always looks stunning . Full make up new outfit.

The most important part to remember is the guys in the couple have already decided they will have sex with the others wife , before they turn up . It will be the women who decide if it goes ahead on the night.

But what works for us might not work for you

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

But what works for us might not work for you

Bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most important part to remember is the guys in the couple have already decided they will have sex with the others wife , before they turn up . It will be the women who decide if it goes ahead on the night.

But what works for us might not work for you

Bugger

not always true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what works for us might not work for you

Bugger

glad its not just my hubby who is up for every lady we meet.have burst his bubble a few times i have.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

"I don't get drinks "

Typical woman !!! Lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

not always true, one of the most important things to realise when meeting people is that they are not going to be thinking the same way that you are.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"I don't get drinks

Typical woman !!! Lol"

no I don't get the offer!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman on Fab I always just had a coffee/drink first meet. It means there's less pressure and time for both sides to decide if they really want to go ahead.

I also felt that if a guy was willing to put the effort in to meet me for just a coffee then he'd probably be better in bed

I couldn't have sex with someone I didn't get on with.

So meeting socially first is nice and can be an indicator of whether the person is worth meeting again, or is just out for a shag and run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single woman on Fab I always just had a coffee/drink first meet. It means there's less pressure and time for both sides to decide if they really want to go ahead.

I also felt that if a guy was willing to put the effort in to meet me for just a coffee then he'd probably be better in bed

I couldn't have sex with someone I didn't get on with.

So meeting socially first is nice and can be an indicator of whether the person is worth meeting again, or is just out for a shag and run. "

same here love.tho a lot think they will be lucky first meet.WRONG.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet for a drink and have a laugh, some of our best nights have been just drinks (wee flirt) if its going well and then we can arrange fun from there, it prevents that awkward will we wont conversation or moment. But we also accept some couples prefer the fun on the same night. Each to their own. Happy fabbing folks xxx

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