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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol they proberly do..gets them more action too i think what i read on here..nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only meet in clubs anyway so whats your issue?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just because they wanna come in as a couple but I come in as a single as I get in for free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might just give this a go

Never thought of it before reading this, it'll be a heck of a lot cheaper lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them no then

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have 'helped' a couple of guys get in a club as a couple, but I find people are more likely to play with me if I have a bloke around. So its good for both of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the harm in them paying? They'll get in cheaper and if you're going to meet them anyway..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

don't go with them then, go on your own and meet them there.

of course it is cheaper to get in so is there anything wrong with trying to save some money.

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By *AMES19620Man
over a year ago

newport

i would never ask just for that reason

when i want to go to a club i go

its too much hassle finding a single lady to go life too short to save a few bob lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol women alwais get in for free, men pay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've always said that I will meet them there, not go in as a couple and then become nasty when I ask why they can't go in on their own, I did when I first went in and loved it so why can't single men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would never ask just for that reason

when i want to go to a club i go

its too much hassle finding a single lady to go life too short to save a few bob lol xxx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" so why can't single men?"

restrictions on entry, a limit set per night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lol women alwais get in for free, men pay."

No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners and have worked on party nights for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"
whats wrong with that

it means we can spend more money on the drinks they have on offer

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners

Bonus for me lol and don't have to pay for drinks either

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners

Bonus for me lol and don't have to pay for drinks either

wow, you certainly have a great deal there.

enjoy and I hope you have many fantastic meets there with single guys paying the entry rate and enjoying the club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it means we can spend more money on the drinks they have on offer "

Because I go in on my own. Never go with anyone as I feel I'll have to talk to them all night which us not what I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol women alwais get in for free, men pay.

No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners and have worked on party nights for them"

Ah right yes thats good, I dont normally go to clubs lol x.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lol women alwais get in for free, men pay.

No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners and have worked on party nights for them

Ah right yes thats good, I dont normally go to clubs lol x."

Yeah lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what club your on about, and yes it is a tenner for a single woman. Its not always free for single women in clubs as some think. If I lived closer to it I would go there on my own too. And I dont mind paying to get in as its such a lovely club. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners

Bonus for me lol and don't have to pay for drinks either

wow, you certainly have a great deal there.

enjoy and I hope you have many fantastic meets there with single guys paying the entry rate and enjoying the club."

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

If I had to pay the prices that single men pay I would not go to so many clubs. Especially as they normally have to become members so a one off visit in my opinion can be over priced.

I have no problem with a single guy coming in with me. The only restriction is that we have to leave together. It can save them a LOT of money. Especially if it means I have a potential playmate there. As I chat and get to know someone well before I meet them, I know that we have a lot in common and I will enjoy their company anyhow.

If you discuss both your expectations beforehand I don't see why you both can't have a good night, and introduce a club to a gentleman who otherwise would not probably go.

I am lucky to be a female and pay either nothing or next to nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had to pay the prices that single men pay I would not go to so many clubs. Especially as they normally have to become members so a one off visit in my opinion can be over priced.

If you discuss both your expectations beforehand I don't see why you both can't have a good night, and introduce a club to a gentleman who otherwise would not probably go.

I am lucky to be a female and pay either nothing or next to nothing. "

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

some guys do see it as a cheaper way of getting into clubs.....

some guys also see it as a "golden ticket" to couples that wouldn't normally be interested in playing with single guys......

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"some guys do see it as a cheaper way of getting into clubs.....

some guys also see it as a "golden ticket" to couples that wouldn't normally be interested in playing with single guys.....

The few time I have coupled up with a guy it's always been on a mixed night, and I am happy if he wants to go off and play as long as he's happy with me playing alone too.

I wouldn't go to a couples only night even if I was with a guy.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"some guys do see it as a cheaper way of getting into clubs.....

some guys also see it as a "golden ticket" to couples that wouldn't normally be interested in playing with single guys......

If these couples wanted to play with a single guy, wouldn't they. Regardless of whether he came in with a woman or not. Just because I went in with a guy does not in any way mean I wil them play as a couple with him.

But like previously stated by another poster I would also only go on a mixed night as I prefer to play with singles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It just seems like they only wanna come in with me so it's cheaper, not for an actual meet so it feels like they just wanna use me

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"It just seems like they only wanna come in with me so it's cheaper, not for an actual meet so it feels like they just wanna use me"

In that case I understand your point. But how do you know it's not because they don't want to meet with you? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just seems like they only wanna come in with me so it's cheaper, not for an actual meet so it feels like they just wanna use me"

If that's how it feels, don't meet them. You'd know of they were interested in you and not just the club admission. It's not nice to be used. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It just seems like they only wanna come in with me so it's cheaper, not for an actual meet so it feels like they just wanna use me

In that case I understand your point. But how do you know it's not because they don't want to meet with you? X"

They just say they wanna come to a club with me as they haven't been to one before but never mention anything about a meet x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Would you not pay half towards a hotel if you were meeting at one? Its the same thing really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might just give this a go

Never thought of it before reading this, it'll be a heck of a lot cheaper lol"

yea it's also easier squeezing through the toilet window lol..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you not pay half towards a hotel if you were meeting at one? Its the same thing really."

No as I only meet in clubs

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Is this a stealth brag?

Cos i really don't see the big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this a stealth brag?

Cos i really don't see the big deal.

No. Read the entire thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.

But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.

Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Is this a stealth brag?

Cos i really don't see the big deal.

No. Read the entire thread"

I did. My comment still stands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, go as a single thats fine enough for me, just sneak me in the back door(not that one!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle

oooh, I like ur street talk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle

oooh, I like ur street talk!

where that z come from? bloody phone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.

But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.

Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club."

So what if they're my friends and no I'm not attracting guys to the club, I simply don't wanna go into a club as a couple. I only go alone and I only get into the club for free because I run the bar on a party night and I'm a regular

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, go as a single thats fine enough for me, just sneak me in the back door(not that one!)"

LMFAO!!!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle

oooh, I like ur street talk!

where that z come from? bloody phone

Brap braps luv!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this a stealth brag?

Cos i really don't see the big deal.

No. Read the entire thread

I did. My comment still stands."

Because they're just using me to get into a club cheaper. I'm gonna let myself be used. End of. They don't even suggest a meet there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.

But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.

Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club.

So what if they're my friends and no I'm not attracting guys to the club, I simply don't wanna go into a club as a couple. I only go

alone and I only get into the club for free because I run the bar on a party night and I'm a regular"

You will only meet in a club you want the guy to pay single guy prices and then it's only to talk to him.

You occasionally work there as well.

Do you not think that sounds a bit iffy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"

Think really if they that interested on meeting they would turn up and get I. As a single guy, makes no odds to me of it cost more as a single guy to get in the result is still the same when you get in ain't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.

But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.

Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club.

So what if they're my friends and no I'm not attracting guys to the club, I simply don't wanna go into a club as a couple. I only go

alone and I only get into the club for free because I run the bar on a party night and I'm a regular

You will only meet in a club you want the guy to pay single guy prices and then it's only to talk to him.

You occasionally work there as well.

Do you not think that sounds a bit iffy?

No it's not as its my preference

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"No it's not as its my preference"

No problem with that. But you can see where they are coming from surely. Single men have to pay a lot to get into a club, and most clubs also charge a membership fee, if single men are allowed in at all (due to restricted numbers/no new members on a weekend policies etc et ad nauseum). So to them they are paying loads of money for what might just be a chat. Why not meet them for a chat in a cheaper location beforehand then neither money nor time is wasted.

Or don't meet men from here. You obviously have a good system set up for yourself using a club, so make it clear that you will ONLY meet men who are already in there, and they then know whether or not they can afford to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No it's not as its my preference

I get where you're coming from but all the men that message me have never been to a club before and so that's how it makes me feel

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By *AMES19620Man
over a year ago

newport

some clubs are very expensive to go in i agree such like chams and a single man still dont have a guarantee to get in on certain nights

well just go to another thats my opinion lol

i do agree with one of the post to meet in more public places which are cheaper but that nooooo good for me as then i would take them for a meal wine and dine well thats just me and we would still end up in a club heheheheh

but at the end of the day boys a good night on the pop with your mates how much would you spend and get no action

i love the swinging lifestyle so for me a perfect night would meet sexy people in a club thats my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've 'coupled up' to go to clubs before - but only with people I already know.

I'd never do it just to get cheaper entry as this is one of those things that bugs me and many others - particularly if it's a couples only night - as the two parties often split and you're left with single guys attending what is a strict couples night.

OP - having read the thread the simple solution is to just agree to meet IN the club - that way no-one will be using you for cheap entry, there'll be no expectancy that you'll do anything other than chat, and if the guy wants to go off and play you'll have no responsibility for him. Simple.

If a single guy wants to try the club scene then he really needs to 'man up' and go solo - else he'll never learn to stand on his own two feet and learn to interact with others in a positive way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had to pay the prices that single men pay I would not go to so many clubs. Especially as they normally have to become members so a one off visit in my opinion can be over priced.

If you discuss both your expectations beforehand I don't see why you both can't have a good night, and introduce a club to a gentleman who otherwise would not probably go.

I am lucky to be a female and pay either nothing or next to nothing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never go to clubs with a man,have been asked loadstimes to go with men,im just too independant and like to meet different people,rather than stay with one.im quite happy to.meet them there,im quite a meany i wont go as a couple because i stay a fair few hours,men dont have the energy lol and go before me x

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I don't go to clubs on my own, membership fees are too much, and so is the cost of the night !

I know why clubs do it, they get the money and plenty are willing to pay it to get in.

I have been to one club recently a couple of times with a lady off Fab, we were meeting anyway and a club seemed a good place.

Cost us £20, enjoyed each others company, played a bit, watched some people and had a good night.

Had I gone on my own it would have cost me £60 !

Not a complaint at clubs, they have a business to run. I just cant afford it !

so yeh if I wanted to meet a lady and she was meeting at a club, I would ask to go in with her and not on my own !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've attended clubs lots of times as a single guy, and occasionally I'll take a very good play friend of mine on a couples night. It's never crossed my mind about the cost or as a tool to play with couples - it's just great to vary the type of club meets I have once in a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not all clubs charge high prices for men x club i go to charge same as do a couple,and its very reasonable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I've been, I've been escorted in by a single female and I paid. Cheaper for me, she's still getting in free.

As Wyrdwoman says above, it's also made play easier for both of us, lots of couples don't want singles but other couples, so it opens up possibilities for both!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If it's someone I haven't met before I arrange to meet in the pub nearby for a drink and a chat. That way if I don't get on with them I can say no thanks there and then and continue into the club on my own.

If we do get on then I'm happy for them to come in using my couples card but it's on the understanding that if they are with me their behaviour reflects on me so they must abide by club rules.

I also only take new meets in on everybody welcome nights. On the rare occasions I go in on couples night it's with someone I already know.

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By *eterpotedMan
over a year ago

Warrington

I'm dying to go to a club but don't think I've got the balls to go alone. If anyone would like to escort me id'e be very greatfull . I don't mind if I have to pay full price . As somebody said earlier it's cheaper than a night on the lash

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By *erverts R usCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

"I've 'coupled up' to go to clubs before - but only with people I already know.

If a single guy wants to try the club scene then he really needs to 'man up' and go solo - else he'll never learn to stand on his own two feet and learn to interact with others in a positive way! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"

Im with you on this. I just dont go as a couple - The most I will agree to is meeting inside but I make it clear Im not going to baby sit them all night, I have no idea what women will be attending and Im not responsible for their enjoyment x this works for me x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I've 'coupled up' to go to clubs before - but only with people I already know.

If a single guy wants to try the club scene then he really needs to 'man up' and go solo - else he'll never learn to stand on his own two feet and learn to interact with others in a positive way! "

thank you................

if i say it.. I get bawled at.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"

You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might do it for the company only if we were playing at a nearby hotel as well. Otherwise I would never try to save a few quid by trying to go as a couple. I am fed up with all the cheapskates trying to save a pound or two on this site. If he cannot pay his way he is just in your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?

You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ? "

You don't!

There are plenty of clubs charging reasonable fees for guys. And the issue tends to be the expectancy of many that once you pay anything to get in then there's an attitude of entitlement to some play - something you rarely get with couples/single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?

You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ?

You don't!

If I pay £10 to get into a club I want AT LEAST 5 shags or else it's not worth my while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?

You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ? "

If clubs charged the same for women... you'd have a room full of men... go eat your bi-heart out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm dying to go to a club but don't think I've got the balls to go alone. If anyone would like to escort me id'e be very greatfull . I don't mind if I have to pay full price . As somebody said earlier it's cheaper than a night on the lash

As someone previously put, man up and go on your own, learn to stand on your own two feet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone previously put, man up and go on your own, learn to stand on your own two feet"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?

You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ?

If clubs charged the same for women... you'd have a room full of men... go eat your bi-heart out

The club I go to is £25 for a single guy on a social night, that's not extortionate. But if you were to go on a Saturday it's £40

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