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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not agree at all .. people have the right to be on here for what ever floats there boat

Be it Cams . Chat of meets . Who are we to say you must swing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people use the site just to talk to people what's wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x"

Some people choose not to show their variations that's their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?"

I would ban people with no photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't agree at all. The site is for however people want to use it within the rules.

Just because someone isn't verified doesn't I think make them fake , maybe they prefer discretion over verifications.

If anyone doesn't like a profile for whatever reason it's really easy to move onto the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x

Some people choose not to show their variations that's their choice"
That's my gal lol

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x"

Well don't speak to them then.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x"

Use your filters to block non-verified members from contacting you... Job done!

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

with no verifications to display OP...u could be a serial cammer...is ur verify from a meet? or from a man?..

questions questions...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its just an opinion. I just don't believe its what the site is about. Even if people do just want to chat, its not hard to get verified.

I think it would get rid of a lot of men posing as women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x

Some people choose not to show their variations that's their choice That's my gal lol "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can display verifications no worries mate

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

How can people meet if they don't chat? I like chatting in-between meets. People use the site. in whatever way they like subject to the site rules. There's several chatrooms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's people like you that make this place such an unwelcoming unfriendly place. .... I wouldn't post verifications if I had them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its just an opinion. I just don't believe its what the site is about. Even if people do just want to chat, its not hard to get verified.

I think it would get rid of a lot of men posing as women."

So where are your verifications then

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

How do you know they're not meeting? As strange as it may seem some of us don't need the inane ramblings of post coital strangers to decide whether to take another total stranger into our bed!

If you think these members are fakes don't contact them, use it as a filter...it really is that simple.

No need to thank me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its all about opinions and I'm obviously in the minority. It was a genuine thought for improvement on here and reduction of time wasters.

I won't share my thoughts again lol

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

OP why are you making what other people use the site for your business

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

What does it matter at the end of the day? Just do what is good for you and mind your own about others. If they aren't bothering you or doing you any harm, then leave them alone. I have come to see that it is reactions and threads of this nature which do more damage than anyone who has been on here for six months and not been verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all about opinions and I'm obviously in the minority. It was a genuine thought for improvement on here and reduction of time wasters.

I won't share my thoughts again lol "
Please feel free to share your opinions . Just make them sensible ones

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As stated in the previous post. My opinion is obviously a minority. I won't apologise for it, but at the same time not looking to fight about it either

I've checked the opinion, I'm a clear minority, I'll accept it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all about opinions and I'm obviously in the minority. It was a genuine thought for improvement on here and reduction of time wasters.

I won't share my thoughts again lol Please feel free to share your opinions . Just make them sensible ones "

That's my man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll try harder next time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have Non verified blocked as dont want endless conversation getting nowhere

However,there is no harm in people coming on here just to Chat,use forums,and look around,there Not bothering me personally

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its all about opinions and I'm obviously in the minority. It was a genuine thought for improvement on here and reduction of time wasters.

I won't share my thoughts again lol "

I knew you'd say that! Typical really. You can have an opinion on how other members choose to use the site, people are giving their alternative _iew and you display petulance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry OP it sorta backfired on u, and as some point out verifications arent everything, though they are to some.Some of us use a networking strategy(we arent all inane strangers btw misstress lol),

but u seriously cannot come on making suggestions on other members like what pics they have and what verifications they display...when u arent showing them urself.At the end of it, I dont know when ur verify was from(it could be 2010 and uve been doing fuck knows what in that time),it could be its a webcam verify(that wont really hold up for securing meets)...I think u see my point

surely that makes sense?

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

If you kicked off the 6 months no veris people, you'd loose 3/4 of the site who are single men.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Personally I'd rather veris were only available for meets.

Veris for cam, phone, whatever, are not any kind of verification you'll show up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've put on the verification summary keen.

Its not about me though bud.

It was just a thought, wondering if people got frustrated like me. Obviously it doesn't. I don't see it as backfiring at all. Its cool that people have different opinions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not at all miss-tress. I'm totally fine with other peoples opinions. And the text you quote was firmly tongue in cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *obbobeanMan
over a year ago

dagenham

You can't veri some one now if you have only spoke on the phone. I agree with the veri over cam should not count. But as for banning people who have no veris on show after 6mths I'd say NO to that as like other posters have said we all use this site in our own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve met a few people and not received verification or given one - we still chat and will meet them again but all agree its not about on the record so dont need more - we have veris to show we are real already

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't understand how the process of banning someone who had been on here 6 months with no veri would stop fakes and timewasters? They would had had 6 months to fake or timewaste. Then, because they were fake or timewasting, simply create another profile.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I see your newest one is 6 months old, would you be kicking yourself off the site???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cool OP, I made my points anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Possibly Steve.

I just think there are so many fakes and time wasters and that was one idea to try and cut it down, at least a little

Given the replies maybe not the best idea :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alongside those with no avatar or pictures...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've got another one which will be added from last night foxy. But that's not my point. Once verified you at least know the sex of the person you're talking too. Its not a man hiding behind a woman's profile

And Yeh totally agree keen. We've different opinions but that's all good. Have a good day mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

TheTig, is there any real difference between no avatar, and one which doesn't show who you are?

I could hide behind a cock pic like 90 percent of the men here if I wanted

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I've got another one which will be added from last night foxy. But that's not my point. Once verified you at least know the sex of the person you're talking too. Its not a man hiding behind a woman's profile

And Yeh totally agree keen. We've different opinions but that's all good. Have a good day mate"

Convenient!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You'll see it soon if you wanted foxy. But as I say that's not my point.

Anyway its clear this is a debate I'll never win,but was started with good intentions. Which was to marginally decrease the amount of fakes.

Need to go play football now. So will concede to a huge defeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having said all that . I would like to say a big up to the op

He clearly had his opinion and took a lot

Of flack

But has stayed in here and defended himself and not just disappeared . So well done mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having said all that . I would like to say a big up to the op

He clearly had his opinion and took a lot

Of flack

But has stayed in here and defended himself and not just disappeared . So well done mate "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks tosh. As I say it was a genuine opinion. Just thought at least one person might share it lol

My first venture into forums as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Minnie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks tosh. As I say it was a genuine opinion. Just thought at least one person might share it lol

My first venture into forums as well. "
You are welcome mate and don't let it put you off expressing your opinions .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TheTig, is there any real difference between no avatar, and one which doesn't show who you are?

I could hide behind a cock pic like 90 percent of the men here if I wanted"

I appreciate the need for privacy however most blank avatars I have had contact with and arranged things haven't shown. I was implying that your 6 month limit doesn't actually solvevanything and the saga of managing time wasters will continue for eternity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get that tig, nothing wrong with trying to improve it at least a little though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks tosh. As I say it was a genuine opinion. Just thought at least one person might share it lol

My first venture into forums as well. You are welcome mate and don't let it put you off expressing your opinions . "

Definitely won't put me off. I'm not actually that outspoken normally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x

Use your filters to block non-verified members from contacting you... Job done!

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't have any veris for aaages when i first joined. I wasn't anyones cup of tea but that didn't mean i was not genuine. It's only recently i've pulled my socks up and built my confidence and been out there getting meets.

Its not as easy as it may seem when you first join. Especially for single guys with a very different look (talking about myself).

And who gives a shit how someone else uses their profile. That's their profile. You just concentrate on your own i say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if some ppl spent more time on here doing what they liked and not worrying about what others were doing MAYBE fab would be a little easier for them to enjoy

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Having said all that . I would like to say a big up to the op

He clearly had his opinion and took a lot

Of flack

But has stayed in here and defended himself and not just disappeared . So well done mate "

And welcome to the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im over a year with no veri`s and im as real as they come brah

not my fault i havent found anyone suitable in my area yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should ban all profiles with no text, no veri's on show and no pics. Bloody timewasters!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks tosh. As I say it was a genuine opinion. Just thought at least one person might share it lol

My first venture into forums as well. "

Welcome! Keep posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't have any veris for aaages when i first joined. I wasn't anyones cup of tea but that didn't mean i was not genuine. It's only recently i've pulled my socks up and built my confidence and been out there getting meets.

Its not as easy as it may seem when you first join. Especially for single guys with a very different look (talking about myself).

And who gives a shit how someone else uses their profile. That's their profile. You just concentrate on your own i say.

"

I like you. You seem cool, you stay so positive and lately you seem to be having loads of fun. That makes me smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't have any veris for aaages when i first joined. I wasn't anyones cup of tea but that didn't mean i was not genuine. It's only recently i've pulled my socks up and built my confidence and been out there getting meets.

Its not as easy as it may seem when you first join. Especially for single guys with a very different look (talking about myself).

And who gives a shit how someone else uses their profile. That's their profile. You just concentrate on your own i say.

I like you. You seem cool, you stay so positive and lately you seem to be having loads of fun. That makes me smile. "
Yeah not like me whos mega shy

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Can we ban people who don't reply to one liners? Tell you what let's just ban people eh that'll sort it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?"

Try a year, try two years with just a cam verification .

Use this as a filter for people you don't want to meet, then it works :D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd rather veris were only available for meets.

Veris for cam, phone, whatever, are not any kind of verification you'll show up."

Total agreement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't have any veris for aaages when i first joined. I wasn't anyones cup of tea but that didn't mean i was not genuine. It's only recently i've pulled my socks up and built my confidence and been out there getting meets.

Its not as easy as it may seem when you first join. Especially for single guys with a very different look (talking about myself).

And who gives a shit how someone else uses their profile. That's their profile. You just concentrate on your own i say.

I like you. You seem cool, you stay so positive and lately you seem to be having loads of fun. That makes me smile. Yeah not like me whos mega shy "

Shy my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your ass shy ? I think not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your ass shy ? I think not lol "

Was referring to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh me ? Little old bashful me .. and none of the old jokes xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do not agree at all .. people have the right to be on here for what ever floats there boat

Be it Cams . Chat of meets . Who are we to say you must swing ? "
Well said.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

your last verification was 6 months ago, what have you been doing chatting?

People swing in different ways: let them enjoy what they do, in the way they want to do it.

You enjoy what you do, when you do it.

if people break rules, let the powers at be take the appropriate action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh me ? Little old bashful me .. and none of the old jokes xx"

Am saying nothing hot tub man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?"

Actually, I find new members to be generally very interesting and great fun to meet, be they experienced swingers or investigating swinging for the first time. It'd be a real shame to ban people without verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

I would ban people with no photos "

Lets ban everybody problem solved. Hang on how will that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?"

Your newest veri was 6 months ago! Does that mean you should be banned? After all, you haven't been swinging for those 6 months have you?

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By *himanMan
over a year ago

chichester


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x

Some people choose not to show their variations that's their choice That's my gal lol "
i totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been 6 months since you had a verification, should you now be thrown off?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I've got another one which will be added from last night foxy. But that's not my point. Once verified you at least know the sex of the person you're talking too. Its not a man hiding behind a woman's profile

And Yeh totally agree keen. We've different opinions but that's all good. Have a good day mate"

What about fake veris?

I was offered one within hours of joining the site. If I'd been a man posing as a 23yr old nymphomaniac contortionist who happens to be a part time porn star (that's why my pics are all over the internet) I would have accepted and been verified and would have passed your criteria.

It's not always as clear cut as has veri is really as advertised.

Add in the fact that verified people can be no shows too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggested

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/217634

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what does it matter if someone has veris or not?

a veri doesnt mean a person wont mess someone about and i always say until someones knocking at my door i dont know if they genuine or not!

i chatted to guys on phone and had contact with prior to meets..even say on way..then no shows!! they were verified!

despite anything its all a chance online when meeting someone as plenty of bullshiters about verified or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all about opinions and I'm obviously in the minority. It was a genuine thought for improvement on here and reduction of time wasters.

I won't share my thoughts again lol "

shareing thoughts on here is what the forum is all about, sometimes we don't get the response that we want, other peeps may have different oppinions to your self, how sad it would be if we all thought the same way.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x

Some people choose not to show their variations that's their choice"

Exactly. But if you have enough contacts you can tell people to jog on then fair enough

Julie

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't have any veris for aaages when i first joined. I wasn't anyones cup of tea but that didn't mean i was not genuine. It's only recently i've pulled my socks up and built my confidence and been out there getting meets.

Its not as easy as it may seem when you first join. Especially for single guys with a very different look (talking about myself).

And who gives a shit how someone else uses their profile. That's their profile. You just concentrate on your own i say.

I like you. You seem cool, you stay so positive and lately you seem to be having loads of fun. That makes me smile. "

Thank you.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

The thing with veris is that almost universally only the nice ones are published, you can be a total timewasters, turn up 1 out of every 10 meets, abuse people etc but be nice for an occasional meet and get a good veri and publish just those

I've had no shows from verified people, it's no guarantee of success

And photo verifying proves you are a guy/ woman /couple etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?"

9 out of 10 ( fabbers ) r fake anyway.

99% of the ( verifications ) r faked also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

9 out of 10 ( fabbers ) r fake anyway.

99% of the ( verifications ) r faked also."

glad I'm in that 1% that isnt then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

9 out of 10 ( fabbers ) r fake anyway.

99% of the ( verifications ) r faked also."
how u work that 1 out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

9 out of 10 ( fabbers ) r fake anyway.

99% of the ( verifications ) r faked also."

Well, when you get another 9 veris, mind and tell us what 1 was the real deal!

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

9 out of 10 ( fabbers ) r fake anyway.

99% of the ( verifications ) r faked also."

Where do you get your statistics from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

9 out of 10 ( fabbers ) r fake anyway.

99% of the ( verifications ) r faked also.

Well, when you get another 9 veris, mind and tell us what 1 was the real deal!"

I will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

9 out of 10 ( fabbers ) r fake anyway.

99% of the ( verifications ) r faked also.

Where do you get your statistics from? "

Jimmy Carr and Sean Lock?

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By *ittle-Miss-NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

Worksop

I agree, if a woman or couple messages me an theyv been on for a long time but has no veris im very suspicious of them and often dont reply

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?"

I concur.

I don't ban them but I don't purposely go to chat with them and certainly don't expect to meet them.

The reason being, a lot of women come onto this site just to chat, laying on an impression that they want to meet but never do. They just like the attention!

Don't get me wrong, I like to chat and get to know the person but unfortunately for them, I do actually want to meet too!

I used to fall into this trap often but changed my tactics and I get on fine now.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on here a couple of months and not verified yet. Its not through lack of trying. we are gagging to have a meet. But we find our babysitter is not willing to babysit more than once every couple weeks or so, or at a moment's notice. So It's hard for us. We go to chameleons and have fun there though and had cybersex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on here a couple of months and not verified yet. Its not through lack of trying. we are gagging to have a meet. But we find our babysitter is not willing to babysit more than once every couple weeks or so, or at a moment's notice. So It's hard for us. We go to chameleons and have fun there though and had cybersex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather see people banned who think they can dictate who can or cannot be allowed on this site based purely on their preferences - narrow minded 'site police" are in danger of spoiling this site for the vast majority who are happy to live and let live

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"I would rather see people banned who think they can dictate who can or cannot be allowed on this site based purely on their preferences - narrow minded 'site police" are in danger of spoiling this site for the vast majority who are happy to live and let live "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree, if a woman or couple messages me an theyv been on for a long time but has no veris im very suspicious of them and often dont reply "

Took about 10 hours but I knew someone would eventually side with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?

I concur.

I don't ban them but I don't purposely go to chat with them and certainly don't expect to meet them.

The reason being, a lot of women come onto this site just to chat, laying on an impression that they want to meet but never do. They just like the attention!

Don't get me wrong, I like to chat and get to know the person but unfortunately for them, I do actually want to meet too!

I used to fall into this trap often but changed my tactics and I get on fine now.

Xxxx

"

Well said mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would rather see people banned who think they can dictate who can or cannot be allowed on this site based purely on their preferences - narrow minded 'site police" are in danger of spoiling this site for the vast majority who are happy to live and let live "

I'd rather the swinging site was about swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here for over a year, I left for a good chunk of that, and have had several meets during this time actually using my account - but just haven't got the feedback - I use the site every day and enjoy doing so, not every one without the feedback are fakes or time wasters.

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By *randmrsfreakyCouple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield

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By *erendipity99Woman
over a year ago

Runcorn


"Personally I'd ban people who fall into the above category. Its a swingers site not a chat room. Would help clear out fakes too

What's everyone else's thoughts?"

Oh it's this thread again.

Just don't contact members who are not verified. Why do other member feel the need to tell other members how to use this site?

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By *erendipity99Woman
over a year ago

Runcorn


"I would rather see people banned who think they can dictate who can or cannot be allowed on this site based purely on their preferences - narrow minded 'site police" are in danger of spoiling this site for the vast majority who are happy to live and let live "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the ones who have been on here a year or so without any verifications you need to avoid ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't agree at all. The site is for however people want to use it within the rules.

Just because someone isn't verified doesn't I think make them fake , maybe they prefer discretion over verifications.

If anyone doesn't like a profile for whatever reason it's really easy to move onto the next. "

Moody you hit the nail on the head as usual...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's people like you that make this place such an unwelcoming unfriendly place. .... I wouldn't post verifications if I had them...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the ones who have been on here a year or so without any verifications you need to avoid ..."

Possibly however don't forget those in the armed forces who register then get posted abroad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather see people banned who think they can dictate who can or cannot be allowed on this site based purely on their preferences - narrow minded 'site police" are in danger of spoiling this site for the vast majority who are happy to live and let live

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet mainly married men, who are "straight"

I would never ask for or give a verification, discretion is important to me, and to my meets.

Some people use them as a tool , that's their choice, there are other ways of verifying if someone is genuine or not, for me that includes a phone call, and chemistry, I trust my instinct, and so far it has always protected me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree, if a woman or couple messages me an theyv been on for a long time but has no veris im very suspicious of them and often dont reply

Took about 10 hours but I knew someone would eventually side with me "

I agree but we all joined with no meets or veris on our profiles, without a guy or a lady giving us the benefit of the doubt and meeting up, whether for a social or a meet for sex, none of us would be here now. My first meet, he had a very shy, inexperienced lady to deal with, much patience from him and here I am. I don't get regular meets which is down to my status and other reasons no doubt, but we can chat to people by Skype or other cam sites, chatrooms here, so we no they aren't fakes. Anyway, little rant, wasn't aimed at the poster, just a opinon

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"How do you know they're not meeting? As strange as it may seem some of us don't need the inane ramblings of post coital strangers to decide whether to take another total stranger into our bed!

If you think these members are fakes don't contact them, use it as a filter...it really is that simple.

No need to thank me! "

Thank you

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By *hocola_vanillaCouple
over a year ago

Rhondda cynon taf

Just to point out we have only one cam veri. Y? Because when we do get the rare chance to arrange meets after sorting out a babysitter we get let down very last minute by some who are very verified I might add. Others seem to think that if they chat and we get on, they can worm their way to a single meet with the mrs. Simply because they don't like the Mr. So to ban people like us, would be unfair really and misguided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think as I say, its a swingers site. Not a chat room. Think it would be better if it was kept that way.

I'm also extremely suspicious of unverified long term members x

Some people choose not to show their variations that's their choice"

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

We don't agree either.

Its up to people if they want to use the system or not.

You're suspicious of a profile. Don't meet them, its your choice, but it should also be a choice to use them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's interesting that our OP keeps saying that "a swinging site should be kept for swinging". It's very holier than thou really. I mean, many people use the site in many different ways, but that doesn't mean they are wrong.

I have used this site for dating and I've also made just friends on here. I guess I'm wrong in the OP's eyes for not doing what is his definition of swinging.

As for the verification system, that can be flawed anyway. Personally I take a lot of veri's with a pinch of salt. I prefer to talk to a person to make my decision as to whether I want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having said all that . I would like to say a big up to the op

He clearly had his opinion and took a lot

Of flack

But has stayed in here and defended himself and not just disappeared . So well done mate "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ban people with no photos.

What is a timewaster? might just not be for you or you might not appeal to them. Some thing should be done for those who agree to meet but fail to turn up for no reason, some sites use feedback to warn others but then another profile could be made.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Okay, I read the first few (maybe upto the 15th) post(s) and this is my tuppence.

DISCLAIMER: there WILL be lots of contradictions following:

1) Yes its a swingers site, for people who want to swing.

2) No, people don't have to "only shag" in order to use the site.

3) Yes people have every right to not show any verifications.

4) More than 3 months and no form of verification/tick (different from hidden!) is suspicious.

5) While everyone is entitled to how they choose to sue the site, verifications "by webcam" (only) does not count as swinging.

6) My personal opinion to swinging actually involves a lot of what people can do in bed as well as out of.. not just one without the other. My opinion only. Those who want to "chat-and-cam-only" I think may be on the wrong site: Yes, those who joined "not to meet, but only to chat and make friends" can do so on ANY site... I don't go to the library, market or horse racing "to make friends".

7) Speaking of personal choices and everyone's entitlement... when will this site stop having a go at men that have "cannot accomodate" but think its perfectly within the entitlement of a lady that has "cannot accomodate"?

8) Take it a step further: when will the site stop thinking its not okay for a married man but cheating on his non-swinging wife as he uses this site,.. but is perfectly okay for a married woman cheating on her non-swinging husband?

And yes, I'm fully prepared for those that chose to de-friend me base don my opinions, at 4 in the morning I couldn't really care less

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Okay, I read the first few (maybe upto the 15th) post(s) and this is my tuppence.

DISCLAIMER: there WILL be lots of contradictions following:

1) Yes its a swingers site, for people who want to swing.

2) No, people don't have to "only shag" in order to use the site.

3) Yes people have every right to not show any verifications.

4) More than 3 months and no form of verification/tick (different from hidden!) is suspicious.

5) While everyone is entitled to how they choose to sue the site, verifications "by webcam" (only) does not count as swinging.

6) My personal opinion to swinging actually involves a lot of what people can do in bed as well as out of.. not just one without the other. My opinion only. Those who want to "chat-and-cam-only" I think may be on the wrong site: Yes, those who joined "not to meet, but only to chat and make friends" can do so on ANY site... I don't go to the library, market or horse racing "to make friends".

7) Speaking of personal choices and everyone's entitlement... when will this site stop having a go at men that have "cannot accomodate" but think its perfectly within the entitlement of a lady that has "cannot accomodate"?

8) Take it a step further: when will the site stop thinking its not okay for a married man but cheating on his non-swinging wife as he uses this site,.. but is perfectly okay for a married woman cheating on her non-swinging husband?

And yes, I'm fully prepared for those that chose to de-friend me base don my opinions, at 4 in the morning I couldn't really care less

"
some good points made there

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