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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Many people on here lack confidence in one way or another. In fact, I think someone who was over confident would come across as a bit conceited to be honest.

If there are things you want to try, there WILL be plenty of people more than willing to help you achieve them. Go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews? "

To be honest, if you suffer lack of confidence and take things to heart you may struggle. Having said that can be a huge ego boost. So good luck. You don't know until you try. X

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Depends.....

You know you have it, can you deal with it? If you can face your fears and jump in then you'll be fine. If you can't then maybe you'll struggle a bit.

You'll be needing a backbone on here to not everyone is sweetness and light.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews?

To be honest, if you suffer lack of confidence and take things to heart you may struggle. Having said that can be a huge ego boost. So good luck. You don't know until you try. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this site gives a huge ego boost to all women whatever shape or size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont feel put off by fitter,handsomer,bigger cocked guys on fab, to me I dunno why women should be either(with their own sex i mean)

if u lack the emotional control to to stop being unhappy through use of the site then yes, its the wrong place(regardless of gender)

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"I think this site gives a huge ego boost to all women whatever shape or size "

It can also crush an already fragile ego - some of the threads are vile.

You just have to find a way of working around your confidence issues whilst trying the things you want to. Like, if you feel you can't expose certain areas of your body, then get some gorgeous sexy lingerie to cover those bits whilst enhancing others.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews? "

OP I am a larger lady, but I have never suffered with confidence issues fortunately. I recently went to a BBW party and saw lots of women having a fabulous time. However they were happy and confident in themselves. If I was you, I would work out exactly what you want from this site. You are the only person who can change the way you feel about yourself. You can be fed a lot of BS from some on here, so I would recommend you take it with a huge pinch of salt. Don't rely on others to build up your confidence. Size has nothing to do with being sexy, desirable, confident, kinky, attractive etc. some will fancy you some will not. All that matters really is do you you desire them?

Don't forget this is YOUR journey, you are here for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lack confidence in some ways, not in others. If you meet the wrong people which i have done when i first started meeting people they can make you feel bad about yourself, but if your careful about who you meet, and meet some nice men then you realise its not always you, its them, that has the problem.

There are all different types on here,

lots of large people who are having a good time. Just concentrate on your best bits, i do, i know im far from perfect. I think although you have to be attracted to someone its not all about looks its how nice you are, if your compatible, and how much you both enjoy the same things. I am quite shy but once i am having sex i am enjoying myself too much to think about it.

try concentrating on the other person you are with, not thinking about yourself all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews? "

I'm new and feel exactly the same as you. I've found as long as your honest with who your talking to, there isn't a problem. They can only say they aren't interested and in my experience that had rarely happened.

My advice love who you are, be honest in messaging and chatting and enjoy the experience. Xx

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews?

OP I am a larger lady, but I have never suffered with confidence issues fortunately. I recently went to a BBW party and saw lots of women having a fabulous time. However they were happy and confident in themselves. If I was you, I would work out exactly what you want from this site. You are the only person who can change the way you feel about yourself. You can be fed a lot of BS from some on here, so I would recommend you take it with a huge pinch of salt. Don't rely on others to build up your confidence. Size has nothing to do with being sexy, desirable, confident, kinky, attractive etc. some will fancy you some will not. All that matters really is do you you desire them?

Don't forget this is YOUR journey, you are here for you! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone can lack confidence, but there is someone for everyone, just take your time finding the right one, or two or three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a large woman,always been confident in my skin as use to do pics on few sites I'm retired now lol been on here a year,I started out with meets one on one,went to clubs with a man,now my confidence has bloomed now that I go to partys and clubs alone,feel very comfortable doing this

It Dosent matter wether ur large or slim,some peoples confidence grows as u become comfortable with urself and others,if ur uncomfortable naked where a Basque or underwear that covers belly,flop ur boobs out and play lol

Some of the threads can be harsh abt size,which I don't take notice of,,I feel sorry for people that lack in confidence as they take to heart,don't let it,I've not personally had a nasty thing said to me at my profile,I've met some lovely people socially and to play x be choosey who u meet there are a lot of men like large ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a large woman,always been confident in my skin as use to do pics on few sites I'm retired now lol been on here a year,I started out with meets one on one,went to clubs with a man,now my confidence has bloomed now that I go to partys and clubs alone,feel very comfortable doing this

It Dosent matter wether ur large or slim,some peoples confidence grows as u become comfortable with urself and others,if ur uncomfortable naked where a Basque or underwear that covers belly,flop ur boobs out and play lol

Some of the threads can be harsh abt size,which I don't take notice of,,I feel sorry for people that lack in confidence as they take to heart,don't let it,I've not personally had a nasty thing said to me at my profile,I've met some lovely people socially and to play x be choosey who u meet there are a lot of men like large ladies x "

Couldn't agree more x

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By *teve2012Man
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

There are a lot of us men just love the larger ladies on this site. I hope that gives you a teeny weeny bit of confidence.

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By *obbyCock36Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

take things steady and don't rush in, you need to feel comfortable and relaxed.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews? "

I am very confident is some ways and not in others. It has not stopped me having lots of fun. Most of us have insecurites about something or other. It justs some are more open about them.

But I do think you often need to have a pretty tough skin on sites like these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no ones perfect soo be loud and proud and if u want George can give you a confidence boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews? "

I've had plenty of fun on this site and never been held back by being a fattie...yes there are many who prefer slimmer women but there are plenty who like bigger women too. Some may even surprise you as both my FB and my kinky partner in crime are gym fit guys who, when I first started playing, I never would have expected to be interested in me. You will get some that will be nasty/abusive...especially if you dare to tell them no...but that's what the block button is for.

You're not alone though, a lot of people on here have some kind of insecurity about themselves, it's just up to you whether you let that take over or whether you can see past it and accept that there will be people that will find you attractive exactly as you are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all lack confidence in some areas - I know I do xx Fab is the place that brings you confidence - really lovely guys interested in you ! Its amazing - hope you enjoy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think if you want to boost your confidence, i would stick to meeting people for real.

as has been said, some of the posters in the forums can be overly nasty for no other reason than it makes them feel better about themselves.

once you are more confidant and can give as good as you get without taking it to heart, then this really is the place to be lol.

good luck to you.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

swinging can help with confidence.... it can also widen many gaps you may have.

for me: I think it is better to sort any confidence issues you may have, then enter the swinging world.

good luck whatever you decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"New and have heaps of new experiences I wanna try but I suffer a lack of confidence due to being a large girl! Am I on the wrong site if I lack confidence? What's peoples _iews? "

I think everyone suffers from the very same thing.....we all have issues with the way we look, and the way we want others to _iew us....this is the perfect site for you sweetheart, lots of lovely men and women who will boost your confidence no end.

I will warn you however, some people don't use this site as swingers do, and are only looking for an easy shag, set your own standards and don't let strangers sway your judgement, assume most are liars, try not to take things personally and you'll have a awesome wild ride!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

youve as much right to be here as anyone else . just enjoy yourself . imagine everyone is naked ... o most of them are lol x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Firstly, refer to keenfucktographers post earlier. He was, of course, referring to me.

Secondly, you didn't lack confidence in joining the site, getting a profile together and posting in here, did you? That confidence can get you a long way and I suspect you will get loads of messages from men. Be choosey and meet someone you fancy. There are many women who describe themselves as BBW and are sexually successful. Don't let a larger size stop you. Size 16 is average and I for one prefer curvy ladies.

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