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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Apologies if this has been asked before...

My boyfriend has rather large hands, and we are struggling to manage this.

I am quite small in that department, even after having a child, and we just cannot manage, even with lots of lube etc

We get so far and then it is just like he is pushing on bone at either edge... any tips, or do we just give up?

Thanks in advance

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

It sounds to me like you're doing everything right. Just keep trying...Like you say...plenty of lube.

My fella has smallish hands so it works well but I experienced huge hands in the club we attend and it totally took my breath. I mean literally. Ouch!

I also love to fist women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOADS of lube and patience is required. Once he gets to the point where he feels like he's hitting bone tell him to rotate his hand 45 degrees in either direction, it will most likely slip in then...

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

aw thanks folks. I think its more on my list than his, and he hates thinking he is causing me any pain. Will defo be trying the angle tip too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"aw thanks folks. I think its more on my list than his, and he hates thinking he is causing me any pain. Will defo be trying the angle tip too "

Try changing positions too. Some find it easier from behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find lots of nice foreplay until Diane is really wet. She gets extremely wet so never needed lube, use a couple of fingers then slowly add one more at a time, try sort of circular motion with the hand rather than just straight in. Takes a bit of time and the woman has to be relaxed, hope it works eventually. We both love it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a corkscrew motion on entry and exit

It'll soon widen, and over time loosen up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great tips ....on my list of things to experiance ....

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I get very wet... and squirt/gush too, so I don't think its wetness thats an issue

It won't be an every time thing - I've worked damn hard on my kegels to keep my pelvic floor nice and neat I'm not looking to be stretched long term... just something I want to do - can manage with women, I think it may just be sheer biology and the size of his paws lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have tried lots of times lots lube but there is no way his BIG hands will fit has been done by fem with smaller hands mmmmmm xx

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"we have tried lots of times lots lube but there is no way his BIG hands will fit has been done by fem with smaller hands mmmmmm xx "

Glad its not just us then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also try altering the angle he's entering you. Sometimes just a little angle change and bingo.

Try different positions too on your back, on all fours, on all found but your head testing on ythe floor or on your side.

All have been the one with different fosters for me xx Dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take your time and don't rush it, sometimes can take people years before they are ready

Like everyone on here says, try different positions and plenty of lube, you may squirt but it dries quicker than lube

good luck, you will get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eek the cork screw motion is not for me, and I love fisting , makes me very wet and I tend to demand more unfortunately v large hands just don't work . Try it in combination with what really turns you on , and one by one another finger mmmm, I never imagined or thought of self fisting until a guy suggested it , mmmm so you could practise on yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have tried lots of times lots lube but there is no way his BIG hands will fit has been done by fem with smaller hands mmmmmm xx

Glad its not just us then! "

no your not alone , I have huge hands, we keep trying but as yet not succeeded, but we will keep trying as she loves it when we try so what will happen when I do get it in mmmmm

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Fisting.

first you have to be wet.. i.e relaxed.

second, lub needs to be across the knuckles and back of hand

3, best position is on your back not doggy

4. it depends on the shape of your vagina, but once in, pushing down toward your arse, theres usually more room

5. if your vagina is quite small ( not the lips) big hands are never gona fit - so no point in busrting something

6.. using 4 fingers sideways, opens you up very well, from that add the thum and then gradually rock on the knuckles, dont force it

7. Get me in

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)


"Apologies if this has been asked before...

My boyfriend has rather large hands, and we are struggling to manage this.

I am quite smal

in that department, even after having a child, and we just cannot manage, even with lots of lube etc

We get so far and then it is just like he is pushing on bone at either edge... any tips, or do we just give up?

Thanks in advance"

Be careful as you can do damage if forced to much. His hands may just be too big for your pelvis and probably is hitting bone. Our pelvis widens during pregnancy to prepare for birth so haveing 5 kids won't matter as the bones will go back to where they ars supposed to be. I would play together with another girl and have her fist you if you want to do it so much.

T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give up. I only allow men with slender hands to do it and even then it's painful so I'm giving up now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We bought an inflatable dildo and use that initially to help stretch things! It worked really well for us...we'd tried loads of times before and the first time we used the inflatable, we managed it.

Other than that, lots of lube and patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of lube. But realistically, for some people, it just won't happen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"LOADS of lube and patience is required. Once he gets to the point where he feels like he's hitting bone tell him to rotate his hand 45 degrees in either direction, it will most likely slip in then..."

could Not explain better...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe i just need to take you out the garage, get the old engine oil out for lube and follow all the steps above, see what happens

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"maybe i just need to take you out the garage, get the old engine oil out for lube and follow all the steps above, see what happens "

You are not putting old engine oil near me!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first experience was following an inflatable dildo, lots of lube and lots of patience.

Unfortunately some men think fisting is as forceful as the term suggests. No!!!!!

I look at guys hands (size) before requesting it now ... a guy can be too big and cause trauma.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Unfortunately some men think fisting is as forceful as the term suggests. No!!!!!

"

bugger, am i not meant to just use my fist like a battering ram?? I knew i was doing something wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of a nooby question but I'll ask anyway. After fisting does your vagina just go back to its normal tightness or is it going to make it more loose in the long term? I've never been remotely interested in fisting but I'd still like to know the answer to this question cos you never know.

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Well from personal experience, having been fisted in the past (and having a child) - it goes back to where it was - IF you do pelvic floor exercises etc. Its just frustrating that he cannot manage it - but he has massive hands, and I am slight build.

Like any muscle it will relax without exercise.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

not in my experience. If you got to hard and cause a lesion or tear or something then obviously this will affect

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