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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Getting sick of 1. Men not reading my profile

2. Men thinking they have a chance with me when they're over the age of 30 and

3. Being snotty or just being a dickhead when I say I only meet in clubs.

I'm sorry but I'm not gonna go and meet some guy somewhere/jump in his car. I only meet in clubs because I value my safety, is that too much to ask? If they don't like swingers clubs or have never been but want to, then they can go away because I am not meeting in a public place nor am I meeting as a couple.

Fair?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

1 and 3 you can't really do anything about apart from ignore and block.

But as for 2 you can set your filters to stop anyone over the age of 30 mailing you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blahhhblahhhblahhhh...

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Filters & pm those that interest you. Saves all 3.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The only probably about blocking people out of that age bracket is that I have a female friend who speaks to me on here and I don't have any other way to contact her and don't get to see her that often

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

Filters only work on those you haven't previously contacted, they don't work on friends regardless of age.

N

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so if she is on my friends list and i block people out of that age bracket, can she still message me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only probably about blocking people out of that age bracket is that I have a female friend who speaks to me on here and I don't have any other way to contact her and don't get to see her that often"
would you go sking and complain about the snow in your eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your safety comes first x

Most guys will just take a chance as you are what they want x

Just ignore em x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I would complain but I'd never go skiing lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your safety comes first x

Most guys will just take a chance as you are what they want x

Just ignore em x

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"so if she is on my friends list and i block people out of that age bracket, can she still message me?"

Yep,, anyone you ve communicated with can message you after your filters are set friends or not, if you don t want these people to contact you you would need to block them individually,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh good! coz I don't wanna lose contact with her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being picky, block away, have fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about bloke that just want to chat not all bloke want to jump in to bed with every woman thats on here

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Do not get these types of ranty threads. We're on a site where people predominantly meet for sex. Some men assume the women on here are empty vessels in need of filling, and as such approach anyone who THEY fancy. Even with filters some will get through.

Ignore and block! I know, who'd have thought the solution to a "problem" was so simple! There will always be chancers: don't let them spoil the site for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting sick of 1. Men not reading my profile

2. Men thinking they have a chance with me when they're over the age of 30 and

3. Being snotty or just being a dickhead when I say I only meet in clubs.

I'm sorry but I'm not gonna go and meet some guy somewhere/jump in his car. I only meet in clubs because I value my safety, is that too much to ask? If they don't like swingers clubs or have never been but want to, then they can go away because I am not meeting in a public place nor am I meeting as a couple.

Fair?"

I fully understand your thinking here. I must admit though that it is very difficult for a lot of people when a number becomes a qualifier (for all sides)...

For example, suppose a guy and you start talking on the eve of his 31st birthday. Then suddenly 24 hours later he is filtered out even if the two of you were talking nice (but not so far as to be a friend yet)...

Filters can be tough like that.

Personally I wonder if the options should be more relative to your own age eg no more than 10 years older?

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"What about bloke that just want to chat not all bloke want to jump in to bed with every woman thats on here "

Yeah that's all well and good, but how many conversations should single women have with 'blokes that just want to chat'???

I for one, only communicate with those I plan to meet flesh on flesh. Or I keep up with my friends and sometimes enjoy some forum banter.

Fabs should be fun (for everyone) not a chore.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Getting sick of 1. Men not reading my profile

2. Men thinking they have a chance with me when they're over the age of 30 and

3. Being snotty or just being a dickhead when I say I only meet in clubs.

I'm sorry but I'm not gonna go and meet some guy somewhere/jump in his car. I only meet in clubs because I value my safety, is that too much to ask? If they don't like swingers clubs or have never been but want to, then they can go away because I am not meeting in a public place nor am I meeting as a couple.

Fair?

I fully understand your thinking here. I must admit though that it is very difficult for a lot of people when a number becomes a qualifier (for all sides)...

For example, suppose a guy and you start talking on the eve of his 31st birthday. Then suddenly 24 hours later he is filtered out even if the two of you were talking nice (but not so far as to be a friend yet)...

Filters can be tough like that.

Personally I wonder if the options should be more relative to your own age eg no more than 10 years older? "

Filters only stop new contacts over the age range, (Or other chosen filter)and even with filters active I can contact someone, outside my age range, preferences and everything else, and they are then able to respond.

Even a wink from me, allows them through the filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many a good tune played on an old fiddle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Far too picky "

We can afford to be picky lots and lots to choose from

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

O,p I thonk the problem might be your status,,,

.. "wish guys would fucking read my profile before messaging me -.-"

When a guy clicks on your profile your status reads,,,,,

Wish guys would fuck Me,,,"

:bit like selective hearing some men have selective reading,, -D

Delete block,,,, not reading your profile can act as your first form of a filter,,

Have fun,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you dont like it, stick to clubs. you only get this unwanted attention on sites like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its part n parcel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is an irritation when people don't read your profile, or pretend they have. Do turn it around on them if you're ever in a sarcastic mood

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"blahhhblahhhblahhhh... "

A wee Glasgie kiss....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about bloke that just want to chat not all bloke want to jump in to bed with every woman thats on here "

REALLY?????

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

Thanks for telling us!

Feel better having got that off your chest?

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Hahaha!!!!

A few weeks ago, you said you'd consider meeting me at a hotel! You naughty girl you!

I remember you alright...

How's the selling going?

Xxxx

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Why not just set your preferences; then look at profiles and message anyone you are interested in....

Most guys on here would love a message from a lady interested in them I reckon, would make such a difference to guys messaging ladies and getting deleted or blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting sick of 1. Men not reading my profile

2. Men thinking they have a chance with me when they're over the age of 30 and

3. Being snotty or just being a dickhead when I say I only meet in clubs.

I'm sorry but I'm not gonna go and meet some guy somewhere/jump in his car. I only meet in clubs because I value my safety, is that too much to ask? If they don't like swingers clubs or have never been but want to, then they can go away because I am not meeting in a public place nor am I meeting as a couple.

Fair?"

The vagaries of youth! Yes on the whole very fair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not just set your preferences; then look at profiles and message anyone you are interested in....

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Too simple a solution. Some like the attention of all the emails. It's why there's always a reason not to apply filters...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On another side, how about when men do read the profile, respond in a nice manner, not even asking for anything other than a reply when even a no thanks is common decency and they either get message deleted or ignored.

Not all men are narrow minded n think with cock!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting sick of 1. Men not reading my profile

2. Men thinking they have a chance with me when they're over the age of 30 and

3. Being snotty or just being a dickhead when I say I only meet in clubs.

I'm sorry but I'm not gonna go and meet some guy somewhere/jump in his car. I only meet in clubs because I value my safety, is that too much to ask? If they don't like swingers clubs or have never been but want to, then they can go away because I am not meeting in a public place nor am I meeting as a couple.

Fair?"

or of course its far to difficult to just say no isnt it? I mean its so much easier to moan about people not doing the rigjr thing. Rather than saying no snd resolving the problem yourself

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Do not get these types of ranty threads. We're on a site where people predominantly meet for sex. Some men assume the women on here are empty vessels in need of filling, and as such approach anyone who THEY fancy. Even with filters some will get through.

Ignore and block! I know, who'd have thought the solution to a "problem" was so simple! There will always be chancers: don't let them spoil the site for you!"

Far too logical for Fab

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If it really bothers you that much then set your filters and go searching yourself.

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By *ickomxxxMan
over a year ago

West Country

Even better suggestion--just go!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hahaha!!!!

A few weeks ago, you said you'd consider meeting me at a hotel! You naughty girl you!

I remember you alright...

How's the selling going?

Xxxx"

I never said I'd meet you at a hotel and I never would

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do say no and they still don't get the hint, I have had to be aggressive at some point as they just don't get the message haha

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"If it really bothers you that much then set your filters and go searching yourself. "

Yep, now there's your answer - simple.

Unfortunately, it rather involves you making an effort instead of sitting waiting for other to come to you.

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By *hickFlick25Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

Don't understand why guys take it personally when we delete their message. I get more than 20 a day from same old guys with nothing particular shining through, its an admin task to keep on top of the mails. Make some real effort and you don't get deleted: read my profile, think about what would get my attention (not being an asshole or pretending we were talking before), don't send s cock pic, send a face pic, be meet verified from whoever so I know you're not a psycho. If I do reply use real English, don't call me "babes", have some kinky stuff to talk about not "I love eating pussy and giving orgasms"... We are not idiots. Don't be pushy. If you want easy sex get a prostitute. If you want fun, great legal sex not with your right hand or after chasing a girl in the club who wont put out - you have to put some effort in. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't understand why guys take it personally when we delete their message. I get more than 20 a day from same old guys with nothing particular shining through, its an admin task to keep on top of the mails. Make some real effort and you don't get deleted: read my profile, think about what would get my attention (not being an asshole or pretending we were talking before), don't send s cock pic, send a face pic, be meet verified from whoever so I know you're not a psycho. If I do reply use real English, don't call me "babes", have some kinky stuff to talk about not "I love eating pussy and giving orgasms"... We are not idiots. Don't be pushy. If you want easy sex get a prostitute. If you want fun, great legal sex not with your right hand or after chasing a girl in the club who wont put out - you have to put some effort in. Simples."

omg yes I love this Yeah I hate it when guys send cock pics haha

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By *elicious43Woman
over a year ago

Wilts


"Don't understand why guys take it personally when we delete their message. I get more than 20 a day from same old guys with nothing particular shining through, its an admin task to keep on top of the mails. Make some real effort and you don't get deleted: read my profile, think about what would get my attention (not being an asshole or pretending we were talking before), don't send s cock pic, send a face pic, be meet verified from whoever so I know you're not a psycho. If I do reply use real English, don't call me "babes", have some kinky stuff to talk about not "I love eating pussy and giving orgasms"... We are not idiots. Don't be pushy. If you want easy sex get a prostitute. If you want fun, great legal sex not with your right hand or after chasing a girl in the club who wont put out - you have to put some effort in. Simples."

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"If it really bothers you that much then set your filters and go searching yourself. "

Error....too much logic detected.

Fab implosion imminent.....

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over a year ago

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"If it really bothers you that much then set your filters and go searching yourself.

Error....too much logic detected.

Fab implosion imminent....."

It's actually rather enjoyable perving, I mean searching all the single men profiles.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"If it really bothers you that much then set your filters and go searching yourself.

Error....too much logic detected.

Fab implosion imminent.....

It's actually rather enjoyable perving, I mean searching all the single men profiles. "

Great attitude, great pics, great booty.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"If it really bothers you that much then set your filters and go searching yourself.

Error....too much logic detected.

Fab implosion imminent.....

It's actually rather enjoyable perving, I mean searching all the single men profiles.

Great attitude, great pics, great booty. "

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As everyone else's has said Fillter and Block. This age of computers and I want it now culture means thay think and act like machines, would never survive if the had to stand at a phone box to call a girl at night before nine thirty on a weekday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Terrible attitude ! Surprised anyone would want to contact you !!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have a 'Lost Properties' thread for all the spat-out dummies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are beautiful, without men what would you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If fab, it's emails and single men offend you so much, and you only ever meet in a club,

Why not close your account and just go to the clubs

Problem solved???

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

This is going well ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is going well ..."
this is excellent ! She is taking Bate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some peeps love blowing there own horn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some peeps love blowing there own horn "

if I could blow my own horn, I wouldn't be on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think nows a good time to ask if she fancies a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If fab, it's emails and single men offend you so much, and you only ever meet in a club,

Why not close your account and just go to the clubs

Problem solved???"

Because I want to keep my account, if single men don't like my preferences then they won't be entertained. I only meet in clubs for the fact it's a safer environment than going to someone's house or in their car, I'm looking after my own safety which men just don't seem to understand. Think I'm being fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly won't be meeting you now after this thread!!! So you can knock me off your hot list ! Your blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I certainly won't be meeting you now after this thread!!! So you can knock me off your hot list ! Your blocked"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If fab, it's emails and single men offend you so much, and you only ever meet in a club,

Why not close your account and just go to the clubs

Problem solved???

Because I want to keep my account, if single men don't like my preferences then they won't be entertained. I only meet in clubs for the fact it's a safer environment than going to someone's house or in their car, I'm looking after my own safety which men just don't seem to understand. Think I'm being fair"

im not licking ass but i think every one should be entitled to there own _iews and bounderes should be respected people respect couples veiws and bounderes so why not singles i dont know wether you should rant about it as for me if someone is not for you then move on as swinging should be about fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Serious?

There are threads like this all the time. Yes it got a bit out of hand but I don't see why it takes a group of people to be mean to one person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These forums are a great source of Block Fodder.

It is always nice to know who the moodhoovers are..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can meet who they want to, or block whoever they want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious?

There are threads like this all the time. Yes it got a bit out of hand but I don't see why it takes a group of people to be mean to one person.

"

Who is being mean? Telling someone that posts saying fuck off and calling people twats is not acceptable behaviour is far from being mean.

As someone else had said, if a man had posted a similar thread he would of been destroyed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious?

There are threads like this all the time. Yes it got a bit out of hand but I don't see why it takes a group of people to be mean to one person.

Who is being mean? Telling someone that posts saying fuck off and calling people twats is not acceptable behaviour is far from being mean.

As someone else had said, if a man had posted a similar thread he would of been destroyed."

you will have a few supporters usually men trying to get a leg over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if she had not started the thread with "Bloody men " it would of gone better . Men bashing is always going to be a topic to get guys backs up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting sick of 1. Men not reading my profile

2. Men thinking they have a chance with me when they're over the age of 30 and

3. Being snotty or just being a dickhead when I say I only meet in clubs.

I'm sorry but I'm not gonna go and meet some guy somewhere/jump in his car. I only meet in clubs because I value my safety, is that too much to ask? If they don't like swingers clubs or have never been but want to, then they can go away because I am not meeting in a public place nor am I meeting as a couple.

Fair?"

I agree with no 1, is a bit of a problem sometimes. 2 and 3 I cant comment on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious?

There are threads like this all the time. Yes it got a bit out of hand but I don't see why it takes a group of people to be mean to one person.

Who is being mean? Telling someone that posts saying fuck off and calling people twats is not acceptable behaviour is far from being mean.

As someone else had said, if a man had posted a similar thread he would of been destroyed."

You are right, it isn't acceptable behaviour but neither are the malicious replies, regardless of gender.

I'm not trying to defend the OP, I just read quite a bit of baiting and then people coming out of the woodwork to make pretty personal attacks.

Meh, I guess people just have to learn the hard way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you will have a few supporters usually men trying to get a leg over"

Not me I'm afraid. I just didn't like what I was reading so thought I'd play devil's advocate.

If people are really disagree with what I said I'll happily take my opinion elsewhere.

Peacekeeper mood, just had a big Sunday roast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious?

There are threads like this all the time. Yes it got a bit out of hand but I don't see why it takes a group of people to be mean to one person.

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i could not agree more

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By *mwantsWoman
over a year ago

City

This has been hilarious! But in all seriousness, you can just ignore those who aren't what you want! Never mind the fact all anyone can read from your profile is what you don't like! I understand some guys are annoying on here, but you need to get over yourself a bit!

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By *egularFunMan
over a year ago

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"This has been hilarious! But in all seriousness, you can just ignore those who aren't what you want! Never mind the fact all anyone can read from your profile is what you don't like! I understand some guys are annoying on here, but you need to get over yourself a bit! "

These threads are getting out of hand

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Serious?

There are threads like this all the time. Yes it got a bit out of hand but I don't see why it takes a group of people to be mean to one person.

i could not agree more"

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wonder what some of these people are like in real life... bet they don't dare say "boo" to a goose....

But put them behind a keyboard.... or perhaps a car steering wheel and the evil in them comes alive.....

But... we agree with the posts... we do wonder why couples cannot read our profile, or maybe do... but still think we are weird for not wanting to meet them and wanting gangbangs.....

You see, we ALL get messages from those we would rather not...at the end of the day...the moon still comes out!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If fab, it's emails and single men offend you so much, and you only ever meet in a club,

Why not close your account and just go to the clubs

Problem solved???

Because I want to keep my account, if single men don't like my preferences then they won't be entertained. I only meet in clubs for the fact it's a safer environment than going to someone's house or in their car, I'm looking after my own safety which men just don't seem to understand. Think I'm being fair"

Sorry to say this but the way your banging on about your safety that your not going to meet at someone's house or in their car.....your making it sound like every single bloke on here is a rapist or murderer!!!!! Take the time to chat to them find out what they are like as a person before you agree a meet, also go with your gut instinct or meet for a so ill in a public place first....better still grow up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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