FabSwingers.com forum: Prostitution on fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was contacted by a couple offering a meet with them. I asked for more information and they said there would be a £50 cover charge. Now I don't mind a contribution forbade hotel but I thought this was taking things too far. I reported them to the site for offering prostitution services and before long they were off the site. Was I right to report it and what would you have done?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely!

A couple around our area work in very much the same way, but appear to be asking for 'presents' in return for sex...so not certain where that stands with admin, as not openly asking for cash!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Always report those who ask for money for meets.

Fabswingers is a swinging site not an escort site.

However escorts do use the site for their own recreation, so if you see a profile and think you recognise them from an escort site remember they are doing nothing wrong if they are not asking for money!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd report them and tell 'em to do one.

£50 for what expenses?

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

you did the right thing, a guy I know off here was going to meet a lady. Then she aske for £40 (I think) for a bj..

he declined - but was surprised

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was contacted by a couple offering a meet with them. I asked for more information and they said there would be a £50 cover charge. Now I don't mind a contribution forbade hotel but I thought this was taking things too far. I reported them to the site for offering prostitution services and before long they were off the site. Was I right to report it and what would you have done? "

Cheeky frikking sods!!!

You did the right thing! Some folk eh, what happened to free love?

Been serious though id have done same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide."

Yeah including private house parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many who ask for money or gifts, then rant about time wasters when the duped individual pulls out.

I should clarify that is pulls out of the meet, pulling out of the other, one could assume is ratification of the contract.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide."

This. Although OP many people ask for costs towards a hotel room. I suppose if that wasn't made clear to you it could come across as a random charge and a charge for sexual services.

Most people pay for swinging in one way or another but if it is for sexual services then it is not allowed.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

see that's where I've been going wrong

I dont charge

You did right op, swinging should be free; unless you decide to contribute to a club entry,hotel or party contribution.

Profit from sex, is not in my definition of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone wants to meet us in a hotel and they stay on in the room we would expect them to pay for it. This isn't prostitution surely? Was this not the case in the OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties"

We have attended lots of private parties and willingly paid to do so. Most only charge £10 per couple which in our eyes is a bargain after all they open up their home put a buffet on and the have all the sheet washing and cleaning up to do.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it."

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party. "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some private parties charge as they are in rented apartments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

Why?

If I invite my family or friends to my house no of course I wouldn't charge but then they bring stuff or indeed help and clean up afterwards.

A swinging party is not the same type of party and not like having your friends round.

It is not comparable imo.

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By *obinhood212Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I agree with julie. I went to a party of julies few weeks ago.her n her fella asked for a tenner towards cost n laid on a buffet.If you ask me that is legit but asking for fourty quid is abit mad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with julie. I went to a party of julies few weeks ago.her n her fella asked for a tenner towards cost n laid on a buffet.If you ask me that is legit but asking for fourty quid is abit mad

Oh hello!

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

Why?

If I invite my family or friends to my house no of course I wouldn't charge but then they bring stuff or indeed help and clean up afterwards.

A swinging party is not the same type of party and not like having your friends round.

It is not comparable imo.

I agree it's not the same but what bit is sufficiently different to justify charging?

The poster above talks about providing nibbles, washing sheets and tidying up. Swap table cloths for sheets and its the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

Why?

If I invite my family or friends to my house no of course I wouldn't charge but then they bring stuff or indeed help and clean up afterwards.

A swinging party is not the same type of party and not like having your friends round.

It is not comparable imo.

I agree it's not the same but what bit is sufficiently different to justify charging?

The poster above talks about providing nibbles, washing sheets and tidying up. Swap table cloths for sheets and its the same."

guests/relatives usually stay behind and help with the clearing/washing up.

and some even come early to help with the setting up/buffet.

most just turn up, do their thing, enjoy a natter, and go home happy and satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

Why?

If I invite my family or friends to my house no of course I wouldn't charge but then they bring stuff or indeed help and clean up afterwards.

A swinging party is not the same type of party and not like having your friends round.

It is not comparable imo.

I agree it's not the same but what bit is sufficiently different to justify charging?

The poster above talks about providing nibbles, washing sheets and tidying up. Swap table cloths for sheets and its the same."

We have been to parties before and paid, we have known about the charge upfront and happy to pay.

We as you will now see hosted a party recently, we were actually out of pocket.

Once you add all costs eg laundry/water/electricity/food and the list is endless going down to texting costs it is not as simple as you are saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

Why?

If I invite my family or friends to my house no of course I wouldn't charge but then they bring stuff or indeed help and clean up afterwards.

A swinging party is not the same type of party and not like having your friends round.

It is not comparable imo.

I agree it's not the same but what bit is sufficiently different to justify charging?

The poster above talks about providing nibbles, washing sheets and tidying up. Swap table cloths for sheets and its the same.

guests/relatives usually stay behind and help with the clearing/washing up.

and some even come early to help with the setting up/buffet.

most just turn up, do their thing, enjoy a natter, and go home happy and satisfied."

And you have an ongoing relationship with friends where it is swings and roundabouts eg you go to their house for a party etc

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

Why?

If I invite my family or friends to my house no of course I wouldn't charge but then they bring stuff or indeed help and clean up afterwards.

A swinging party is not the same type of party and not like having your friends round.

It is not comparable imo.

I agree it's not the same but what bit is sufficiently different to justify charging?

The poster above talks about providing nibbles, washing sheets and tidying up. Swap table cloths for sheets and its the same.

guests/relatives usually stay behind and help with the clearing/washing up.

and some even come early to help with the setting up/buffet.

most just turn up, do their thing, enjoy a natter, and go home happy and satisfied.

And you have an ongoing relationship with friends where it is swings and roundabouts eg you go to their house for a party etc "

So you pay to go to their house and they pay to come to your house?

That really IS swings and roundabouts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly the asking for recompense for sexual services comes in many guises on swinger sites. If unsure: refuse, report and let the site decide.

Yeah including private house parties

If you were invited to a birthday party or a dinner party in someone's home, would you expect to pay?

I doubt it.

That is entirely different to a swinging party.

Why?

If I invite my family or friends to my house no of course I wouldn't charge but then they bring stuff or indeed help and clean up afterwards.

A swinging party is not the same type of party and not like having your friends round.

It is not comparable imo.

I agree it's not the same but what bit is sufficiently different to justify charging?

The poster above talks about providing nibbles, washing sheets and tidying up. Swap table cloths for sheets and its the same.

guests/relatives usually stay behind and help with the clearing/washing up.

and some even come early to help with the setting up/buffet.

most just turn up, do their thing, enjoy a natter, and go home happy and satisfied.

And you have an ongoing relationship with friends where it is swings and roundabouts eg you go to their house for a party etc

So you pay to go to their house and they pay to come to your house?

That really IS swings and roundabouts."

No that is not what I am saying at all. My friends outside fabs I might go to their house for a party and then I will have a party etc

No charge involved whatsoever.

The analogy being it is a completely different get together.

My friends are my friends or family and not to be compared with people we meet from fabs.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

" ........

So you pay to go to their house and they pay to come to your house?

That really IS swings and roundabouts.

No that is not what I am saying at all. My friends outside fabs I might go to their house for a party and then I will have a party etc

No charge involved whatsoever.

The analogy being it is a completely different get together.

My friends are my friends or family and not to be compared with people we meet from fabs."

I still don't get why it's acceptable to charge guests when sex is involved but not acceptable when sex isn't involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ........

So you pay to go to their house and they pay to come to your house?

That really IS swings and roundabouts.

No that is not what I am saying at all. My friends outside fabs I might go to their house for a party and then I will have a party etc

No charge involved whatsoever.

The analogy being it is a completely different get together.

My friends are my friends or family and not to be compared with people we meet from fabs.

I still don't get why it's acceptable to charge guests when sex is involved but not acceptable when sex isn't involved."

I am not saying that either.

It is a charge to cover costs, exactly as we would expect hotel costs to be contributed towards.

And personal friends who come to your house there is no correlation between the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ........

So you pay to go to their house and they pay to come to your house?

That really IS swings and roundabouts.

No that is not what I am saying at all. My friends outside fabs I might go to their house for a party and then I will have a party etc

No charge involved whatsoever.

The analogy being it is a completely different get together.

My friends are my friends or family and not to be compared with people we meet from fabs.

I still don't get why it's acceptable to charge guests when sex is involved but not acceptable when sex isn't involved."

Also if people don't like it, they do not have to attend.

From clubs, to parties to hotel meets costs are always involved.

You can't compare me inviting say my friend for dinner as I did on Saturday evening to holding a swinging event.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

" ........

So you pay to go to their house and they pay to come to your house?

That really IS swings and roundabouts.

No that is not what I am saying at all. My friends outside fabs I might go to their house for a party and then I will have a party etc

No charge involved whatsoever.

The analogy being it is a completely different get together.

My friends are my friends or family and not to be compared with people we meet from fabs.

I still don't get why it's acceptable to charge guests when sex is involved but not acceptable when sex isn't involved.

I am not saying that either.

It is a charge to cover costs, exactly as we would expect hotel costs to be contributed towards.

And personal friends who come to your house there is no correlation between the two.

But I've already shown the costs are similar, probably less, for a swing party than a dinner party.

PS. I count the people who've come to parties here as personal friends. I have to be able to vouch for them to other guests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incidentally if you don't feel comfortable about paying then exercise your right not to go. Simple.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

I really don't see what the fuss is about.

If you don't like paying for sex, don't pay - nobody is twisting your arm.

If you don't like paying for a party then don't go.

It's up to people if/how/why they justify charging.

I have no problem with prostitutes, etc but its not fair make money out of a free site when they have server costs and development to take care of. That's the only issue is see here.

Not that I'd ever pay for sex mind you.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ........

So you pay to go to their house and they pay to come to your house?

That really IS swings and roundabouts.

No that is not what I am saying at all. My friends outside fabs I might go to their house for a party and then I will have a party etc

No charge involved whatsoever.

The analogy being it is a completely different get together.

My friends are my friends or family and not to be compared with people we meet from fabs.

I still don't get why it's acceptable to charge guests when sex is involved but not acceptable when sex isn't involved.

I am not saying that either.

It is a charge to cover costs, exactly as we would expect hotel costs to be contributed towards.

And personal friends who come to your house there is no correlation between the two.

But I've already shown the costs are similar, probably less, for a swing party than a dinner party.

PS. I count the people who've come to parties here as personal friends. I have to be able to vouch for them to other guests."

Well not in our experience, I could hold a dinner party for less and have less cleaning up with people helping and bringing stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't see what the fuss is about.

If you don't like paying for sex, don't pay - nobody is twisting your arm.

If you don't like paying for a party then don't go.

It's up to people if/how/why they justify charging.

I have no problem with prostitutes, etc but its not fair make money out of a free site when they have server costs and development to take care of. That's the only issue is see here.

Not that I'd ever pay for sex mind you.

Xxx"

Site supporter costs go towards the running of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Incidentally if you don't feel comfortable about paying then exercise your right not to go. Simple."

Exactly

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Always report those who ask for money for meets.

Fabswingers is a swinging site not an escort site.

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