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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Of course not, especially as your profile says you won't meet smokers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they should have said they were smokers to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

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Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not at all! If your profile says you dont meet smokers and they say on theirs they are non smokers then your doing nothing wrong by walking away.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

If they made you feel uncomfortable leave.

No matter what the reason, it's about you doing what you are comfortable with and having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all we actually left after couple started smoking when there profile said no smokers

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No it is not rude....

People are free to change their minds at any time on a meet for whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a smoker but honest abt it,I have turned up at meets and they smoke but wernt honest on profile

People hide the fact they smoke to get more meets,I think ur not rude at all,it is understandable to leave when u c they smoke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

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The rudeness, for want of a better word, lies with them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks.

I dont really mind if people smoke but when i was kissed it just wasnt very pleasant. I'm not that keen on kissing anyway lol

never know whether or not to put that on profile

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

So did you say sorry and leave ?

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By *ony and shaz for funCouple
over a year ago

omagh

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By *ony and shaz for funCouple
over a year ago

omagh

Theres lots of things that dont be put on profiles or misrepesented on them and veris too for that matter.

Thank god for friends that you can

on

Friends that are true and know things from others that and the grapevine

shaz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, I wouldn't like to kiss someone who smelt or tasted of fags.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So did you say sorry and leave ?"

No we didnt. They were lovely couple. Didnt want to offend them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not at all, I wouldn't like to kiss someone who smelt or tasted of fags."

Quite, so would you just say 'sorry this isnt for me' and leave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy swinging is about meeting like minded people.. most of who are very mature.. its easy as.. they understand if they are not suitable.. but if u got to the stage of playing with them after they smoked and them make a statement in the forum about if its rude to walk away.. i would pause to ask.myself on how mature u are.. sorry..x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Easy swinging is about meeting like minded people.. most of who are very mature.. its easy as.. they understand if they are not suitable.. but if u got to the stage of playing with them after they smoked and them make a statement in the forum about if its rude to walk away.. i would pause to ask.myself on how mature u are.. sorry..x"

oh yes i hadnt looked at it from that point of view, thanks for ur reply, hadnt realised until reading your much needed advice how very immature i must be. will make sure I work on my immaturity for future meets. thanks again for ur mature and sensible comments

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

"

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I'm a smoker but honest abt it,I have turned up at meets and they smoke but wernt honest on profile

People hide the fact they smoke to get more meets,I think ur not rude at all,it is understandable to leave when u c they smoke"

I always check that someone knows I am a smoker before I arrange a meet. The amount who say they don't smoke on their profile but say they do when asked is ridiculous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy swinging is about meeting like minded people.. most of who are very mature.. its easy as.. they understand if they are not suitable.. but if u got to the stage of playing with them after they smoked and them make a statement in the forum about if its rude to walk away.. i would pause to ask.myself on how mature u are.. sorry..x"

Maybe they weren't smoking in front of them but tasted on breath later!I think you were spot on if they lied about that they could lie about anything!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up. "

lol, sorry but that really made me smile. yeah profile said they were non smokers and they werent (as someone above suggested) smoking in our presence but had obviously been smoking before we arrived. As i say they were lovely couple so i didnt want to offend but am learning very very quickly good manners are wasted on some people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Easy swinging is about meeting like minded people.. most of who are very mature.. its easy as.. they understand if they are not suitable.. but if u got to the stage of playing with them after they smoked and them make a statement in the forum about if its rude to walk away.. i would pause to ask.myself on how mature u are.. sorry..x

Maybe they weren't smoking in front of them but tasted on breath later!I think you were spot on if they lied about that they could lie about anything!!"

thanks for comment, they werent smoking while we were there and play had began when we noticed taste n smell, made it a rather awkward position to be in (no pun intended)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a smoker but honest abt it,I have turned up at meets and they smoke but wernt honest on profile

People hide the fact they smoke to get more meets,I think ur not rude at all,it is understandable to leave when u c they smoke

I always check that someone knows I am a smoker before I arrange a meet. The amount who say they don't smoke on their profile but say they do when asked is ridiculous!"

thanks for reply xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x"

once again you are trying to cause an argument on a thread i have started on the forum, sorry but it aint gonna happen. go and try bullying or annoying someone else, i have a very nice glass of red i'm off to enjoy, nite nite xxxx

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x"

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wat.. noone is trying to start anything..the freedom of speech is allowed sorry public forums are public.. please dont accuse people of things if u dont like wat they say... by the way noone suggested they smoked in front of u.. but sorry if the people u met are on here they may feel offended by thinking they had a good meet.. and find out publicly it wasnt..that is bound to hurt.. if u are to be honest and put urself in their place u would admit it would. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie."

We all know not everyone is honest on their profiles..been on the receiving end of lies on profiles as i am sure u have to.. its a sad fact of fab unfortunately..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand they lied...but to er is human...perhaps they had a smoke for nerves, or had some drink?

Sorry I'm still with the fact you dont have to discuss a meet on the forums really

U couldnt say this to their faces because they were a lovely couple...but you can say it to the general forum crowd..

reflect

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

We all know not everyone is honest on their profiles..been on the receiving end of lies on profiles as i am sure u have to.. its a sad fact of fab unfortunately..x"

This sadly is true. But at the end of the day if you get caught out lieing and are then pulled on it, in whatever form, you only have yourself to blame.

Honesty is the best policy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the best policy... sadly not all are honest.. wish they all were.. make life on fab a whole lot easier.. u get people who smoke pertending to be non smokers.. u get men pretending to be females and all sorts of other things.. wat a tangled web is weaved on fab...xxx

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Honesty is the best policy... sadly not all are honest.. wish they all were.. make life on fab a whole lot easier.. u get people who smoke pertending to be non smokers.. u get men pretending to be females and all sorts of other things.. wat a tangled web is weaved on fab...xxx"

But beware in case the spider gets ya lol x

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By *ub Bi GuyMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up. "

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

once again you are trying to cause an argument on a thread i have started on the forum, sorry but it aint gonna happen. go and try bullying or annoying someone else, i have a very nice glass of red i'm off to enjoy, nite nite xxxx"

All about choice for sure but has to be said that you mention nothing in your profile about drinking red wine which leaves breath stinking like a bad drain to someone who doesnt drink it.....same sort of thing really. Totally agree you shouldnt meet those you dont want to but agree with those saying its wrong to lead the couple to believe all was well by continuing to play then having a go here. Think you have done yourself a disservice more than them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is the best policy... sadly not all are honest.. wish they all were.. make life on fab a whole lot easier.. u get people who smoke pertending to be non smokers.. u get men pretending to be females and all sorts of other things.. wat a tangled web is weaved on fab...xxx

But beware in case the spider gets ya lol x

"

Lol.. i think the spider has caught many...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is the best policy... sadly not all are honest.. wish they all were.. make life on fab a whole lot easier.. u get people who smoke pertending to be non smokers.. u get men pretending to be females and all sorts of other things.. wat a tangled web is weaved on fab...xxx

But beware in case the spider gets ya lol x

"

Lol.. i think the spider has caught many...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is the best policy... sadly not all are honest.. wish they all were.. make life on fab a whole lot easier.. u get people who smoke pertending to be non smokers.. u get men pretending to be females and all sorts of other things.. wat a tangled web is weaved on fab...xxx

But beware in case the spider gets ya lol x

"

Lol.. i think the spider has caught many...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry hit post button to often...lol

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!"

In what way ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't smoke but crystal does, I can't stand meeting smokers as they all bugger off for a fag and leave me looking like billy no mates in the pub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

"

Not rude at all!!

How would they feel if when it came to playing you said "I don't like condoms" ?

Its no different really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

Not rude at all!!

How would they feel if when it came to playing you said "I don't like condoms" ?

Its no different really

"

Just to add, that was just a example and not to infer that you go bareback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't smoke but crystal does, I can't stand meeting smokers as they all bugger off for a fag and leave me looking like billy no mates in the pub! "

wooohooo...worked out how I can get crystal on my own now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't smoke but crystal does, I can't stand meeting smokers as they all bugger off for a fag and leave me looking like billy no mates in the pub!

wooohooo...worked out how I can get crystal on my own now "

Whatcha talking about? You'll be at the bar getting our drinks in

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't smoke but crystal does, I can't stand meeting smokers as they all bugger off for a fag and leave me looking like billy no mates in the pub!

wooohooo...worked out how I can get crystal on my own now

Whatcha talking about? You'll be at the bar getting our drinks in

crystal"

getting our drinks in crystal...well thats a bit kinky....bud or stella???? but will look great in some pics

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By *ub Bi GuyMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!

In what way ? "

It implies that short orientals are inferior to tall whites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't smoke but crystal does, I can't stand meeting smokers as they all bugger off for a fag and leave me looking like billy no mates in the pub!

wooohooo...worked out how I can get crystal on my own now

Whatcha talking about? You'll be at the bar getting our drinks in

crystal

getting our drinks in crystal...well thats a bit kinky....bud or stella???? but will look great in some pics "

Just don't get lost going to the bar @ Paddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't smoke but crystal does, I can't stand meeting smokers as they all bugger off for a fag and leave me looking like billy no mates in the pub!

wooohooo...worked out how I can get crystal on my own now

Whatcha talking about? You'll be at the bar getting our drinks in

crystal

getting our drinks in crystal...well thats a bit kinky....bud or stella???? but will look great in some pics

Just don't get lost going to the bar @ Paddy "

OOh u cheeky wee bugger lol xxxx arse slap for that next time! xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!

In what way ?

It implies that short orientals are inferior to tall whites. "

It implies nothing of the sort...

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!

In what way ?

It implies that short orientals are inferior to tall whites. "

But it doesn't and was not intended to. It's merely to highlight the fact that you should not advertise yourself as something you're not. And seeing as "personal choice" is often highlighted on the forum your remark is rather invalid. As for suggesting it was a racist remark ("short orientals are inferior"), well we're sorry your mind works that way because ours don't.

Sorry for the rant folks. But if only folks wouldn't try to turn things into something they're not....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rude of them to lie to you by saying they were non smokers. They wasted your time as you could have met someone who suited your requirements.

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By *ub Bi GuyMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!

In what way ?

It implies that short orientals are inferior to tall whites.

But it doesn't and was not intended to. It's merely to highlight the fact that you should not advertise yourself as something you're not. And seeing as "personal choice" is often highlighted on the forum your remark is rather invalid. As for suggesting it was a racist remark ("short orientals are inferior"), well we're sorry your mind works that way because ours don't.

Sorry for the rant folks. But if only folks wouldn't try to turn things into something they're not...."

I think you'll find race was initially brought into the equation by yourselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant stand fag breath ewwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's rude of them to lie to you by saying they were non smokers. They wasted your time as you could have met someone who suited your requirements. "

They went ahead with meet so time not wasted.. they then chose to discuss it on a public forum..so when playing it did not worry them that they smoked..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's rude of them to lie to you by saying they were non smokers. They wasted your time as you could have met someone who suited your requirements.

They went ahead with meet so time not wasted.. they then chose to discuss it on a public forum..so when playing it did not worry them that they smoked.."

As she said, ...everyone had a good time.This could have been discussed privately..something along the lines "Look we dont care for the smell of smoke, we wish u would have been honest with us.we are sure you are a lovely couple and attractive, but we just hate the smell." instead it was " get ur cock out geez ur fanny wham bam nite nite,meet u again "...but actually thinking....."Ewww that smoke..lets forum this"

Am I being harsh?- no just actually highlighting a meet that went ahead that shouldnt have and is now aired on the forum.... I need a fag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have left and not discussed it in forum. I would have blocked them also.

I didn't read all the posts so didn't know that the meet continued, therefore I can only say its disrespectful to the other people involved to discuss this in forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have left and not discussed it in forum. I would have blocked them also.

I didn't read all the posts so didn't know that the meet continued, therefore I can only say its disrespectful to the other people involved to discuss this in forum.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!

In what way ?

It implies that short orientals are inferior to tall whites.

But it doesn't and was not intended to. It's merely to highlight the fact that you should not advertise yourself as something you're not. And seeing as "personal choice" is often highlighted on the forum your remark is rather invalid. As for suggesting it was a racist remark ("short orientals are inferior"), well we're sorry your mind works that way because ours don't.

Sorry for the rant folks. But if only folks wouldn't try to turn things into something they're not....

I think you'll find race was initially brought into the equation by yourselves! "

Oh FFS, can't be doing with all this P.C shite!

Good Night all!

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By *ony and shaz for funCouple
over a year ago

omagh


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They went ahead with meet so time not wasted.. they then chose to discuss it on a public forum..so when playing it did not worry them that they smoked..

As she said, ...everyone had a good time. This could have been discussed privately..something along the lines "Look we dont care for the smell of smoke, we wish u would have been honest with us.we are sure you are a lovely couple and attractive, but we just hate the smell." instead it was " get ur cock out geez ur fanny wham bam nite nite,meet u again "...but actually thinking....."Ewww that smoke..lets forum this"

Am I being harsh?- no just actually highlighting a meet that went ahead that shouldnt have and is now aired on the forum....

All about choice for sure but has to be said that you mention nothing in your profile about drinking red wine which leaves breath stinking like a bad drain to someone who doesnt drink it.....same sort of thing really. Totally agree you shouldnt meet those you dont want to but agree with those saying its wrong to lead the couple to believe all was well by continuing to play then having a go here. Think you have done yourself a disservice more than them....

I didn't read all the posts so didn't know that the meet continued, therefore I can only say its disrespectful to the other people involved to discuss this in forum

What are the Couple going to think when they see this thread.....

People will be scouring the OPs veris and friends lists asking around etc #yes questions are asked and answers can be got #....

You've got to love the community grapevine

This couple who while they may have committed a faux pas and have been now dragged so inmagnanimously and anonymously onto this forum dont, as has been pointed deserve to be the only ones to bear responsability for this thread being here....

its an adult site and adult choices should be the order of the day

Discretion is so important so heyho "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course not, especially as your profile says you won't meet smokers."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting ny view across as a nonsmoker, I met a guy once, smelled lush, we were having fun and a bit of chat inbetween when he said to me "did I know he smoked?" basically I didn't and thought for a moment he should have been honest but I liked him, we were having fun and in no way did he smell or taste of smoke, so I stayed.

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over a year ago

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I don't smoke but crystal does, I can't stand meeting smokers as they all bugger off for a fag and leave me looking like billy no mates in the pub! "

We did wave through the window

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

"

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time....

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

They would only have their own dishonesty to blame. What if you said you were a tall white male on your profile, but a short oriental chap turned up.

Great analogy but a little disrespectful to short orientals!

In what way ?

It implies that short orientals are inferior to tall whites.

But it doesn't and was not intended to. It's merely to highlight the fact that you should not advertise yourself as something you're not. And seeing as "personal choice" is often highlighted on the forum your remark is rather invalid. As for suggesting it was a racist remark ("short orientals are inferior"), well we're sorry your mind works that way because ours don't.

Sorry for the rant folks. But if only folks wouldn't try to turn things into something they're not....

I think you'll find race was initially brought into the equation by yourselves! "

But not in a derogatory way. Just a means of highlighting a point. It was, in fact, you who made the suggestion that "short orientals are inferior". We made no such observation.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time...."

It seems just about all those backing the smoking couple are smokers themselves.

Maybe the OP should have gone about things in a different way. But the fact remains that this couple lied to them in the first place. They were intentionally dishonest. If said couple had told the truth this thread would not even exist.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time....

It seems just about all those backing the smoking couple are smokers themselves.

Maybe the OP should have gone about things in a different way. But the fact remains that this couple lied to them in the first place. They were intentionally dishonest. If said couple had told the truth this thread would not even exist."

I am not backing anyone! Yes we smoke but we clearly state that we do on our profile.

I was just pointing out that honesty works both ways.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time....

It seems just about all those backing the smoking couple are smokers themselves.

Maybe the OP should have gone about things in a different way. But the fact remains that this couple lied to them in the first place. They were intentionally dishonest. If said couple had told the truth this thread would not even exist.

I am not backing anyone! Yes we smoke but we clearly state that we do on our profile.

I was just pointing out that honesty works both ways. "

So how has the OP been dishonest ? It's not the best etiquete to put up with someone who has lied to you in order to garner your attention. But the OP has not been dishonest with anyone.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time....

It seems just about all those backing the smoking couple are smokers themselves.

Maybe the OP should have gone about things in a different way. But the fact remains that this couple lied to them in the first place. They were intentionally dishonest. If said couple had told the truth this thread would not even exist.

I am not backing anyone! Yes we smoke but we clearly state that we do on our profile.

I was just pointing out that honesty works both ways.

So how has the OP been dishonest ? It's not the best etiquete to put up with someone who has lied to you in order to garner your attention. But the OP has not been dishonest with anyone."

By not telling the couple straight that they could smell / taste smoke on them. That were unhappy and disappointed that they hadn't been honest.

Then going on to kiss & play with said couple and still not saying anything.

Is that being honest?

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By *ony and shaz for funCouple
over a year ago

omagh


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time....

It seems just about all those backing the smoking couple are smokers themselves.

Maybe the OP should have gone about things in a different way. But the fact remains that this couple lied to them in the first place. They were intentionally dishonest. If said couple had told the truth this thread would not even exist.

I am not backing anyone! Yes we smoke but we clearly state that we do on our profile.

I was just pointing out that honesty works both ways.

So how has the OP been dishonest ? Itetiquettehe best etiquete to put up with someone who has lied to you in order to garner your attention. But the OP has not been dishonest with anyone.

By not telling the couple straight that they could smell / taste smoke on them. That were unhappy and disappointed that they hadn't been honest.

Then going on to kiss & play with said couple and still not saying anything.

Is that being honest?"

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Honesty and Discretion are held by many to be important and purported by others to be.

Altough in some cases its funny to see how some display those given some of the things unspoken here, but common knowledge on the grapevine it does leave questions unanswered

shaz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op was completely dishonest also.. they stated nice couple didnt want to offend them.. then decided to humiliate and degrade the couple the meeting took place with on a public forum... double stanards spring to mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

"

Its a change in circumstances that were not pointed out before I dont see it as rude as long as you did it in a polite way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not at all, I wouldn't like to kiss someone who smelt or tasted of fags.

Quite, so would you just say 'sorry this isnt for me' and leave?"

I wouldn't consider meeting anyone if they were lying about something so basic, if they lie about smoking, what else are they lying about, HIV, STI's.

So I can say it wouldn't happen, if they did get past my radar and screening systems, I would just ask, why did you lie about being smokers?

Whwn I had the answer I would thank them for coming, and ask them to leave.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Not at all, I wouldn't like to kiss someone who smelt or tasted of fags.

Quite, so would you just say 'sorry this isnt for me' and leave?

I wouldn't consider meeting anyone if they were lying about something so basic, if they lie about smoking, what else are they lying about, HIV, STI's.

So I can say it wouldn't happen, if they did get past my radar and screening systems, I would just ask, why did you lie about being smokers?

Whwn I had the answer I would thank them for coming, and ask them to leave."

Then you would be blasted for being a timewaster......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just so you know.... We smoke, and after reading this thread.... we are glad we do!!

Does seem that the "more interesting" people are often found in the Smokers Corner!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time....

It seems just about all those backing the smoking couple are smokers themselves.

Maybe the OP should have gone about things in a different way. But the fact remains that this couple lied to them in the first place. They were intentionally dishonest. If said couple had told the truth this thread would not even exist."

And maybe if the op had been honest also a thread like this would not need to have been discussed on a public forum...they went ahead and played with the couple then decided to discuss in public about the fact the other couple smoked instead of saying to them in private. . They already stated the couple had a profile.. they also went on to state they played with them..and cos they were nice they didnt want to offend.. but had no issues dicussing it with the whole of fab forum users.. its not the smokers people are defending its the fact that a meet has been torn to bits here is wat them defending it is disgusted by.. swinging is suppose to be about having respect about like minded people.. not tearing a meet apart on a public forum.. I have told people in clubs and here no I dont want to continue and happily said why..and managed to remain friends..but I would never discuss it so publicly and I am sure many here wouldnt either..its totally disrespectful to them we meet..and if u cant have respect for others were is ur own self respect...xxccx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U can tell if someone smokes.. sorry the smell does linger.. i feel for the couple met.. if they thought they had a great meet them find themselves the forum topic.. and in a negative way...x

Perhaps said couple should have been more honest in the first place. After all, it's them who chose to lie.

Just a thought but perhaps the OP should of been honest when they found the smell of smoke off putting. Rather than saying nothing at the time....

It seems just about all those backing the smoking couple are smokers themselves.

Maybe the OP should have gone about things in a different way. But the fact remains that this couple lied to them in the first place. They were intentionally dishonest. If said couple had told the truth this thread would not even exist.

And maybe if the op had been honest also a thread like this would not need to have been discussed on a public forum...they went ahead and played with the couple then decided to discuss in public about the fact the other couple smoked instead of saying to them in private. . They already stated the couple had a profile.. they also went on to state they played with them..and cos they were nice they didnt want to offend.. but had no issues dicussing it with the whole of fab forum users.. its not the smokers people are defending its the fact that a meet has been torn to bits here is wat them defending it is disgusted by.. swinging is suppose to be about having respect about like minded people.. not tearing a meet apart on a public forum.. I have told people in clubs and here no I dont want to continue and happily said why..and managed to remain friends..but I would never discuss it so publicly and I am sure many here wouldnt either..its totally disrespectful to them we meet..and if u cant have respect for others were is ur own self respect...xxccx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"........to turn up for a meet with couple who say they are non smokers, then realise when you start playing they are smokers to say sorry and leave?????

"

Harsh if they didn't smoke while you was there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up smoking 18 months ago, should I change my profile from non-smoker to Ex-smoker?!?!

Just asking......,,

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By *ony and shaz for funCouple
over a year ago

omagh


"I gave up smoking 18 months ago, should I change my profile from non-smoker to Ex-smoker?!?!

Just asking......,,"

Are you asking all the posters to this thread or the op they dont seem to have returned to here in a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a load of shite

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