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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello

Been on here for a few months and had no meets yet so need some help on where I might be going wrong. I'm not sure if its my profile, my photos or my messages. If anyone can help me, that would be great.

I must add that I'm not good at sending messages as due to my autism, my mind goes blank so need some examples on what to say in an opening message if that's ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have assumed rightly or wrongly that you have a gf or wife from your profile and that would put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also that here are way to many men than women so most arent lucky x.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I would have thought your ASC wouldn't be too affected by social interaction via a computer. After all, it's not face to a e contact. Your similar post 10 weeks ago asked a similar question and Keenfucktographer gave you some advice. Your profile must reflect you ans your personality. If you constantly change it to what you think people want to read, you will fail. You can't please all people all the time and if you try your profile will become bland and not reflect you. Try joining in on the chatrooms or forums, go to a club or a social meet. There are other autistic swingers on here so it is possible, if you have ASC, to succeed sexually. Happy swinging and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have thought your ASC wouldn't be too affected by social interaction via a computer. After all, it's not face to a e contact. Your similar post 10 weeks ago asked a similar question and Keenfucktographer gave you some advice. Your profile must reflect you ans your personality. If you constantly change it to what you think people want to read, you will fail. You can't please all people all the time and if you try your profile will become bland and not reflect you. Try joining in on the chatrooms or forums, go to a club or a social meet. There are other autistic swingers on here so it is possible, if you have ASC, to succeed sexually. Happy swinging and good luck "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have thought your ASC wouldn't be too affected by social interaction via a computer. After all, it's not face to a e contact. Your similar post 10 weeks ago asked a similar question and Keenfucktographer gave you some advice. Your profile must reflect you ans your personality. If you constantly change it to what you think people want to read, you will fail. You can't please all people all the time and if you try your profile will become bland and not reflect you. Try joining in on the chatrooms or forums, go to a club or a social meet. There are other autistic swingers on here so it is possible, if you have ASC, to succeed sexually. Happy swinging and good luck "

Thanks Brightonsteve. The autism I might add is Asperger's Syndrome. I do try to chat in the chatrooms but hardly get any notice. I am planning on visiting a club for the first time next week. Was gonna go this week but a cash machine stole my bank card so I have to wait till my new one turns up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have thought your ASC wouldn't be too affected by social interaction via a computer. After all, it's not face to a e contact. Your similar post 10 weeks ago asked a similar question and Keenfucktographer gave you some advice. Your profile must reflect you ans your personality. If you constantly change it to what you think people want to read, you will fail. You can't please all people all the time and if you try your profile will become bland and not reflect you. Try joining in on the chatrooms or forums, go to a club or a social meet. There are other autistic swingers on here so it is possible, if you have ASC, to succeed sexually. Happy swinging and good luck

Thanks Brightonsteve. The autism I might add is Asperger's Syndrome. I do try to chat in the chatrooms but hardly get any notice. I am planning on visiting a club for the first time next week. Was gonna go this week but a cash machine stole my bank card so I have to wait till my new one turns up."

Keep at it mate, it's tough at first but you will get there, good luck

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I would have thought your ASC wouldn't be too affected by social interaction via a computer. After all, it's not face to a e contact. Your similar post 10 weeks ago asked a similar question and Keenfucktographer gave you some advice. Your profile must reflect you ans your personality. If you constantly change it to what you think people want to read, you will fail. You can't please all people all the time and if you try your profile will become bland and not reflect you. Try joining in on the chatrooms or forums, go to a club or a social meet. There are other autistic swingers on here so it is possible, if you have ASC, to succeed sexually. Happy swinging and good luck

Thanks Brightonsteve. The autism I might add is Asperger's Syndrome. I do try to chat in the chatrooms but hardly get any notice. I am planning on visiting a club for the first time next week. Was gonna go this week but a cash machine stole my bank card so I have to wait till my new one turns up."

A club is good. Your veris noticed you on cam

Don't think it's you being an aspie, try improving your profile. Have just one face pic and get some torso, bum, slightly undone jeans pics instead. Remove the 'I was here before' bit. What does that add? Say why you can't accommodate, as people will assume you're cheating. Say one thing non sexually you're good at and like doing thats action like, and say 3 things you like doing sexually and 2 you don't.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Its a bit of luck on this site, if you get spotted at a time where a single woman thinks you are worth her time

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Hello

Been on here for a few months and had no meets yet so need some help on where I might be going wrong. I'm not sure if its my profile, my photos or my messages. If anyone can help me, that would be great.

I must add that I'm not good at sending messages as due to my autism, my mind goes blank so need some examples on what to say in an opening message if that's ok."

I am going to say the same to you as I would say to anyone so if it sounds harsh.. I apologise...

if you ask a million people what to put, then I am sure you would get a million different answers...

if you listen to everyone, and change accordingly, the message isn't really yours anymore... it is just a generic mess...

if you think that whatever you are putting reflects you to your best.... keep it....

if it doesn't... then change it! it is really as simple as that...

in the end you know you best.. so only you know your selling points are!

just be true to yourself... and if that also means you give an explanation of your situation.. then 100% do it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have thought your ASC wouldn't be too affected by social interaction via a computer. After all, it's not face to a e contact. Your similar post 10 weeks ago asked a similar question and Keenfucktographer gave you some advice. Your profile must reflect you ans your personality. If you constantly change it to what you think people want to read, you will fail. You can't please all people all the time and if you try your profile will become bland and not reflect you. Try joining in on the chatrooms or forums, go to a club or a social meet. There are other autistic swingers on here so it is possible, if you have ASC, to succeed sexually. Happy swinging and good luck

Thanks Brightonsteve. The autism I might add is Asperger's Syndrome. I do try to chat in the chatrooms but hardly get any notice. I am planning on visiting a club for the first time next week. Was gonna go this week but a cash machine stole my bank card so I have to wait till my new one turns up.

A club is good. Your veris noticed you on cam

Don't think it's you being an aspie, try improving your profile. Have just one face pic and get some torso, bum, slightly undone jeans pics instead. Remove the 'I was here before' bit. What does that add? Say why you can't accommodate, as people will assume you're cheating. Say one thing non sexually you're good at and like doing thats action like, and say 3 things you like doing sexually and 2 you don't. "

Ok I've removed the been here before bit and added the reason why I can't accommodate. I might add photos of the torso and jeans but not the bum as I'm a bit hairy and I doubt a woman would like to see a photo of a hairy ass lol.

Can you give me some suggestions on what to say for the sexually and the non sexually part?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because you are a single man thats all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do appreciate the advice here guys. I'll make sure to do some changes to my profile so that it is suitable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked this same question last week in the forums did you not take the advice people gave you then

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I would have thought your ASC wouldn't be too affected by social interaction via a computer. After all, it's not face to a e contact. Your similar post 10 weeks ago asked a similar question and Keenfucktographer gave you some advice. Your profile must reflect you ans your personality. If you constantly change it to what you think people want to read, you will fail. You can't please all people all the time and if you try your profile will become bland and not reflect you. Try joining in on the chatrooms or forums, go to a club or a social meet. There are other autistic swingers on here so it is possible, if you have ASC, to succeed sexually. Happy swinging and good luck

Thanks Brightonsteve. The autism I might add is Asperger's Syndrome. I do try to chat in the chatrooms but hardly get any notice. I am planning on visiting a club for the first time next week. Was gonna go this week but a cash machine stole my bank card so I have to wait till my new one turns up.

A club is good. Your veris noticed you on cam

Don't think it's you being an aspie, try improving your profile. Have just one face pic and get some torso, bum, slightly undone jeans pics instead. Remove the 'I was here before' bit. What does that add? Say why you can't accommodate, as people will assume you're cheating. Say one thing non sexually you're good at and like doing thats action like, and say 3 things you like doing sexually and 2 you don't.

Ok I've removed the been here before bit and added the reason why I can't accommodate. I might add photos of the torso and jeans but not the bum as I'm a bit hairy and I doubt a woman would like to see a photo of a hairy ass lol.

Can you give me some suggestions on what to say for the sexually and the non sexually part? "

No, sorry. I don't know you. It's an idea - a suggestion. You don't have to use it. What works for me might not work for you. Only you can decide what goes on your profile and if it doesn't work - change it. Read Fabio's post again.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"I do appreciate the advice here guys. I'll make sure to do some changes to my profile so that it is suitable."
As been said by others and by myself three times on three other threads to you, it's YOUR profile. Only YOU can know what to say in it to sell yourself.

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair point. Thanks anyway guys.

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