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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good afternoon all (or evening/morning when you read this).

I am currently in a relationship but enjoy coming on here to chat/flirt and meet others if possible. Since being on here, i have noticed there a plenty of couples here that are married etc. This post is generally aimed towards these people.

How did you get into Swinging and sharing each other with others? Were you both into it before you met? perhaps you even met on here? or were you already a couple, on of you was into it, the other wasnt but you both 'gave it a go'?

The reason i ask, i would love to be in a relationship with my girlfriend that was like this. We are both very open and adventurous in our sex lives. She's bi-curious and we have discussed the possibility of a 3-sum. But she doesnt really have the confidence to do it. when it comes to it, it is often a case of 'perhaps its better left as a fantasy'.

dont get me wrong, some things might be better left as fantasies and swinging isnt necessarily for everyone. but everyone starts somewhere... i know i wouldnt have thought twice about it when i was 18... but now its one if my biggest fantasies.

i know there are quite a few questions in here so think of it as more of a discussion lol

any advise would be much appreciated...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your cheating on your girlfriend with strangers off here, thats the perfect way to start....,,, says pretty much everything about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AnD also the fact you prefer to 'not play safe' as its worth the risk in your opinion, winder if its worth the risk when you catch somthing especially since it could be HIV or aids seen as tho you dont seem to care who u play with, get a grip mate honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your cheating on your girlfriend with strangers off here, thats the perfect way to start....,,, says pretty much everything about you "

This. You're not swinging, you're cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Caution, incoming artillery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live fast leave him alone each to their own you sound like a right quilt you mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got together 3 years ago and were vanilla fir the first year . The next year we got engaged and started swinging and have been married a year now and still enjoy the lifestyle .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just talk to her sweety tell her your all fantasies and be supportive x

let her know no matter what her fantasies are you will help her with them x

try a club not to play just to look see what you both think

and please please don't let the perfect upright morally correct people on here put you off

lots of us still remember when we were sinners and love it

jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had experience of swinging before my current relationship

The biggest thing has to be trust show them that u trust them to come back to u let them do wat they want to but only if ur 100 per cent sure they will and in time you will probably given permission to play to but the trust has to be there on both parts

We spoke about it during sex, then spoke outside the bedroom and with me arranging the meet he agreed to plsy dispite being under confient etc x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been happily married for 17 years and neither of us had any experience before we met.

We chatted long and hard about swinging for a long time before we decided to give it go. So glad we did, never looked back or regretted a moment.

You must both want this and be open and honest with each other.

We feel fantasy is good but reality is better, in our experience anyway.

SandD

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest you delete your profile and take the time to discuss fantasies with your partner. If you share the same fantasies, and they involve swinging then come back as a couple.

If your fantasies arent compatible then at least be honest with her, and do not go behind her back as that is not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had always been a one man woman, normal exclusive mf relationships, I also cheated on every guy I've ever had a relationship with....except my current bf.

My bf however has always been sexually open, and at the start of our relationship we promised more than anything else never to lie...

we always talk about how we feel about everything.

My bf would reveal his fantasies to me during foreplay...and i'd reject the idea's...but still ponder them!

now....i'm more open sexually than he is, but we continue to talk and discuss 'both' of our wants, dreams and desire's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Live fast leave him alone each to their own you sound like a right quilt you mate "
Public forum mate im

Perfectly entitled to my opinion, how would you feel if your lass was in here without you knowing shagging men and women with no protection then coming home and fucking you? Its disgusting , if he wants to play away fair enough but not being safe is just downright stupid and extremly risky in his gf's part. Say she catches somthing iff him

And he dosent tell her- 6-12 months down the line she finds out shes no longer able to have kids becauseshes had somthing for so long now you tell me how thats ok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Live Fast for you constructive comments... im not going to bother commenting on them...

thanks for everyone else who replied

it seems as though every couple who has got into this has gone though a different path. hopefully my gf will develop more confidence to try it.

a social club meet at the lodge etc would probably be a good place to start when the time comes. until then, i wish you all good luck... i should probably quit whilst i am ahead and restrict my usage on here to just gain information/advise until the time comes

thanks again to everyone who had something constructive to say

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Live fast leave him alone each to their own you sound like a right quilt you mate Public forum mate im

Perfectly entitled to my opinion, how would you feel if your lass was in here without you knowing shagging men and women with no protection then coming home and fucking you? Its disgusting , if he wants to play away fair enough but not being safe is just downright stupid and extremly risky in his gf's part. Say she catches somthing iff him

And he dosent tell her- 6-12 months down the line she finds out shes no longer able to have kids becauseshes had somthing for so long now you tell me how thats ok?"

ok... i take that back... i am going to have to reply.

firstly... i have yet to meet anyone, have not cheated, and only exploring my fanstasies at the moment... yes, i have advertised for meets and it has been very tempting. perhaps i shouldnt have really put myself in this position.

secondly... my profile stated 'i would perfer not to play safe... but its not worth the risk'. I put this on there because i was being requested by guys to do BB. i put this on there to clarify i would not. I do prefer to not play safe. that is a fact. but i ONLY do this with my gf!

i dont understand why you have wasted your time to unsult me on this post when all i was seeking was advise and i was curious about how couples had come into swinging!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

rant over.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"AnD also the fact you prefer to 'not play safe' as its worth the risk in your opinion, winder if its worth the risk when you catch somthing especially since it could be HIV or aids seen as tho you dont seem to care who u play with, get a grip mate honestly "

You didn't read his profile did you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"AnD also the fact you prefer to 'not play safe' as its worth the risk in your opinion, winder if its worth the risk when you catch somthing especially since it could be HIV or aids seen as tho you dont seem to care who u play with, get a grip mate honestly

You didn't read his profile did you?

Sharp change that part didnt you mate

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Sorry if he changed it after you posted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can assure you that my profile has been like that long before I started this thread.

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By *andF_funCouple
over a year ago

Philly PA area

Back to the orig question.

We're happily married 15 years, together since school days for 23 years. We've had a few BFs and GFs in our early years, but together soo long, not many.

Relationship is stronger than ever, started talking, bedroom fantasies. Joined the site just to see what was out there. Played on cams abit and hubby loved watching me flirt w/ strangers. Went to our first house party and made some wonderful friends.

Originally went to chat and say hello. But, we went all in and totally had fun.

After almost a year of attending parties, clubs, and chatting online.... Lots of lessons learned, good and bad.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP,

With respect, you have started on your journey on a downward spiral by being on FAB chatting and flirting etc...

You may not have met anyone for fun behind your partner's back, however, if you continue with what you are doing, you will be presented with temptations that you cannot resist.

This is coming from someone who thought chatting on adult chatrooms without meeting anyone was harmless. WRONG!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP,

With respect, you have started on your journey on a downward spiral by being on FAB chatting and flirting etc...

You may not have met anyone for fun behind your partner's back, however, if you continue with what you are doing, you will be presented with temptations that you cannot resist.

This is coming from someone who thought chatting on adult chatrooms without meeting anyone was harmless. WRONG!

"

I fail to see how any of this is any of 'your' business or any of 'our' business for that matter, if you are not interested in commenting on the original topic...then you can PM the OP directly about his personal life and morals!!!

Wish you people would stop cluttering up threads with judgemental pish

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