FabSwingers.com forum: confused :s

By *ustfun7788 OP Man
over a year ago

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I don't know what's going on, ive been with my partner 3 years, yes ive slept about and stuff but this time its different...theres a girl from work, she's new...we got on great, both got lotsa things in common, she started to open up to me, we got close, we used to finish work, and sit in the car and cuddle up, yeah there was lots of flirting and stuff, but she always said look i like the cuddles, its nice, but it will never go any further, im sorry, i hope we can still be mates etc...then the other night, she gave me that look....we kissed, hands wandered but nothing happened... Then last night it happened again, she said she was scared that it would make things awkward and regardless of what happened, she hoped we could be ok, then an invite to hers...she was looking after her teenage niece nd nephew, we had a couple of drinks...and talk about playing with fire everytime their backs were turned she was kissing me, we ended up in bed still nothing happened, she fell asleep on me, i don't know what i should do...shes beautiful, and really great to get on with, but i have my parter and she has hers and a daughter, i really should back out, but for once, its the feeling of living dangerously, ive got that spark inside i haven't had for a long time, it ain't even about the sex...yet... Its messing my head a bit, i want her, but i know there's a shit load of risk involved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing good can come from this except an orgasm, if you are willing to ruin her life and yours, plus 2 other people, go for it, if not, Stop it before it happens. It isn't rocket science, its common sense.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You have to make that decision yourself and it's which will win, your head or your heart. Methinks, that the fact that you question is telling in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in my day commonly known as a cock teaser... she playing the game of chase !! personally i would say leave well alone !!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

And you are on fab.....take a step back and have a look at the situation...you need to think about the consequences...she has a partner you have a partner if I was in that situation I would have to walk away...if it's meant to be it will be...when the time is right....do you need the complication right now I seriously doubt it...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it her - is it really, really her that you enjoy?

Or is it danger, the excitement and the illicit nature of your tryst?

Because if its the latter and you make the move to be together it will end as suddenly as it began and you will have both lost everything you truly hold dear.

But ask yourself, - if you're already on here but have partner who does not know about your other activities - are the two of you meant to be together and would her discovery of what you're ding with her be any different to her discovering your activities on here?

Maybe the core question is - Do I want to be with my partner and is this other woman just an exit strategy that doesn't involve me being alone? Because being with someone through fear of being alone is no reason to be with them.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Do the niece and nephew. If she's cool with that you know she won't get all clingy on your ass and start stalking you at home.

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By *ustfun7788 OP Man
over a year ago

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It probably will end in disaster tbh, but i like the excitement, haven't felt this alive in a long time, nahh she ain't a cock tease, i worked that out by the things she has said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck and come back to spill your heart out when it all ends in tears!

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By *ustfun7788 OP Man
over a year ago

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I don't want to be with this other girl...i don't think so anyway...i just like the thrill of being around her, i love my partner, but things haven't been good, arguing a lot, poor sex life etc but things pick up

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Alternatively...... if you like danger and excitement....

Try poking a thin spring onion down your wee hole and then dangle your cock into a blender to see how much of the onion you can shred off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alternatively...... if you like danger and excitement....

Try poking a thin spring onion down your wee hole and then dangle your cock into a blender to see how much of the onion you can shred off."
lmao...... love it !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to be with this other girl...i don't think so anyway...i just like the thrill of being around her, i love my partner, but things haven't been good, arguing a lot, poor sex life etc but things pick up "
personally i think that you are the one messing people about even this new female, by saying you don't actually want to be with her, and prepared to lose the one person you do love by all this.......... good luck if you carry on with this pretty sure you will have more problems that you can ever imagine, both in work and in your personal life too !!!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alternatively...... if you like danger and excitement....

Try poking a thin spring onion down your wee hole and then dangle your cock into a blender to see how much of the onion you can shred off."

Please, never offer to do a urethral sounding on me!

...oh and may I politely refuse the tossed salad!

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By *ustfun7788 OP Man
over a year ago

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Tbh i always make idiotic choices, normally they work out no harm done but this time i think ive actually fucked up big time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh i always make idiotic choices, normally they work out no harm done but this time i think ive actually fucked up big time "

Why? Have you done anything from which, through some honesty and good communication, could not be set right?

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Has your missus cheated to your knowledge, does she have particularly close male friends ? Picture her with other guys. How does it make you feel, sad or turned on or perhaps angry ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me you just come across as a weak man who thinks with what's in your boxer shorts,so you're hardly alone. You say you've cheated on your partner before ? wow isn't she a lucky girl.

This female from work messed about with you,with her nephew and niece present ?

You sound like a match made in heaven,both irresponsible people who are willing to cheat. She sounds like trouble with a capital T but to be brutally honest,nothing in your opening thread makes me think you're any better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a profile on here. So I assume you are looking for meets which you partner will know nothing about...

Life's made up of the choices you make. Make enough good ones and you'll have a good life. Make bad ones and you have a not so good life.....

You'll do what you want to do irrespective of what you read on here.....and to be honest I don't know the point of your post...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cheat BUT this girl is different BUT you don't want her...

What exactly do you want the forumites to tell you? Go for it and get burned?

Someone advised you to stop thinking with the pathetic brain in your pants (ok I'm not exactly quoting). Well it is brilliant advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest it sounds like you want the best of everything.

Do your partner a favour and break up with her. I doubt she'd like to know you have cheated on her, have a profile on fab (with verifications) and have kissed and cuddled a woman from work.

Yes you say it doesn't mean anything but man up, accept responsibility for your actions and realise you definitely aren't mature enough for a relationship at present.

If the chase is what you are after, the single life is perfect for you.

Red.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you loved your partner you wouldn't repeatedly cheat on her/ attempt to cheat on her.

Do her a favour and break up with her. By the sounds of it she'd be much better off without you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you loved your partner you wouldn't repeatedly cheat on her/ attempt to cheat on her.

Do her a favour and break up with her. By the sounds of it she'd be much better off without you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do the niece and nephew. If she's cool with that you know she won't get all clingy on your ass and start stalking you at home."

Not sure if that's genius or heinous. Made me lol though.

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By *ustfun7788 OP Man
over a year ago

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Notice a lot of people here seem to pre judge without knowing, don't seem to know the ins and outs of my relationship, don't know my other half's volatility, yes cheating may be wrong, and yes i may be an ass for doing it but when my other half will go out her way to make an argument out of nothing, create world war 3 in my house, yet the other side is the perfect partner who is lovely, cries and apologises, then there's the girl at work, its non sexual, just company, someone to take my mind off the gfs constant mood swings...and the point is, i don't know what to do, when my gf is in a good mood, i love her to bits, i love being with her, and never want to leave her, but when she kicks off... Its a nightmare and i cant handle her, i have to walk out whilst in still able to keep calm, and the other girl was a chance to chill out, lighthearted company etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why r u on fAB ?

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By *ustfun7788 OP Man
over a year ago

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Really don't know :/ escape from reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In your OP you stated that you had slept around previous to the girl at work.

Surely you can take time out from your GF without sleeping with someone else.

One of the worst thing about many people who cheat is that they try and shove the blame onto someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd hazard a guess that if your girlfriend found out exactly what you get up to behind her back you'd never see the "one you love to bits"....you'd only see the other version of her. And quite right too....

Something quite wrong about this type of "poor me" post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're on a swinging site seeking meets but you can't handle the ups and downs of a normal relationship ?

I think you need to re evaluate your life in general as you seem to be very mixed up. No matter what grief your partner gives you,she doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

You're still a reasonably young man and come across as still a little naïve,so you can turn it around. Ditch the female colleague,delete your profile on here and concentrate on your relationship,would be my advice.

Either that or finish with your partner and live the single life for a while. You can't go on as you are currently,it will end in tears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to break up with your girlfriend. You obviously don't love her cause you've already admitted to playing away behind her back. There's no reason for a relationship to go stale after only 3 years other than the reality that you're not meant to be together. Does she know you're on here? Does she know you've played away? You should stay single until you figure out what you're after. You can't just stay with her for the cheap kicks cheating gives you. Likelihood is if you were single this other woman wouldn't interest you at all as you should like you're only interested in the danger aspect.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Notice a lot of people here seem to pre judge without knowing,"

The only person that put up a post saying _ustfun7788 is a cheat is you so how the hell did anyone pre-judge you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like your more her gay best friend than potential sex partner.

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