FabSwingers.com forum: jealousy and bitching

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do some women find it acceptable on here? I've had issue with same women for 2 yrs. I reported her to fab, called the police as its spilled over to whats app abuse. Daily I get messages from men warning she is after me, yet I dont know her. She uses my pics on whats app, has nasty status about my kids on whats app. Yet apart from civil action it seems this behavior is acceptable. Not sure what to do next??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hire a hit man?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Can't you block her on whstsapp?!

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By *ohn_1983Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

Wow, that's clearly unacceptable in any way.

I can't suggest anything beyond what you've done.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Go back to the police if it continues and take note of everything.

Don't react in any way that she can observe, that will feed her.

I would also be wary of people who carry the tales.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She doesnt have my number I was given hers to see my pics as her profile pic and the status she has, todays is implying social services should be called as im on fab. I've reported her some men have, yet it still happens. I try not to react but isnt easy when kids get brought into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *randmrsfreakyCouple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield

By reading your status, it seems that you are doing the same thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She has it in for few women but really hates me. No one seems to know whu. Yesterday a man messaged to say she offered him a meet if he would chat to me find out info and my address. Thats scary..

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

do you think calling her a fat twat will help the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I snapped when saw latest whats app status. I shouldnt react...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps a little more to this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow didnt think this happend on here..gosh...why are some people like that??...we are all on here for the same reasons! ...just block her..best thing!...the silly woman!...xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have no idea why she is doing it. As far as I know I havent met anyone she has met. I never messaged her. Not interested in what she doing. A friend on here asked her why she said coz she can. From messages I get she does seem a bit wired and nasty but its getting out of hand. She had fake profile and see's who I met and messages to slag me off. The police cant do anything unless she makes threats only option is civil action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if she is trying to find out your address then the police could take action as it's a concern for your personal safety?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" see's who I met and messages to slag me off. "

Then hide your friends and verifys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apparently not unless men receiving messages from her report them to the police. Which isnt very likely given the nature of the site. It was bad enough that I had to explain it. Lol

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

She obviously knows you can see her whatsap pictures and status.

Some people just like the attention.

Delete her number from your phone so you can't see them.

Also don't make threads about her, as it is giving her the attention she craves.

A fire needs oxygen to keep burning. Attention may be her oxygen. Starve her of it and the fire will go out.

Having had a couple of stalkers in the past. This has worked for me.

Just my opinion of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to experience the green-eyed monster on FAB since joining the site in Aug 2009, and believe it may have something to do with having the good sense of not displaying my friends list and verifications from Day 1.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I tried hiding but as we in local area if a man contacted her who had my veri she would rip into them. So I could hide verifs, friends are hid. Never verif again. Report and report. But still doesnt stop her using my pics and the bitchy status she has on whats app naming this site my name and mentioning social services.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with above poster, she is probably just a keyboard warier with nothing better to do x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She obviously knows you can see her whatsap pictures and status.

Some people just like the attention.

Delete her number from your phone so you can't see them.

Also don't make threads about her, as it is giving her the attention she craves.

Good advice, just very frustrating..

A fire needs oxygen to keep burning. Attention may be her oxygen. Starve her of it and the fire will go out.

Having had a couple of stalkers in the past. This has worked for me.

Just my opinion of course.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the men should report the messages whenever they recieve them and admin will nip her new profiles in the bud

and sadly, I can just imagine some men go between you both with the tales hoping to get something from it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems just have to let her get on with it and hope she gets bored. But damned if im leaving fab for her, been here to many yrs and made many good friends for that to happen.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'd hide my veris and friends list. Then she can't contact anyone else. She'll soon get bored if she doesn't get a reaction x

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By *unwithus2.Couple
over a year ago

south kent

just a suggestion ,

why don't you cut your self off to whats app, and delete your profile from here and start a fresh !!!!!

how do you know its a female it could be a male pretending to be a female !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Deffo female. Dont see why I should delete. There should be something that can be done. A man just messaged to say her whats app status was about him few days ago. He met her for coffee and she threw it at him coz he didnt want to take meet back to hers. Thats kinda person im dealing with. Hopefully she will find new status that doesnt involve my kids soon. And I can ignore it again as ive had to for over 2 yrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had trouble similar to yours a couple of yrs ago . Its not nice . She will get bored trust me. Keep a note of everything she says and does though as you may need to go back to the police.

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First give it a break, delete all profiles on here and social media, if she cant connect with you she will stop.

in 12 months time, using a new name, new phone number, start up again, but this time don't give number and contact details out too easily, be selective.

Use a pay as you go phone specifically for your swinging and dates, children should not be part of your social life, family should be kept separate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I can see why you wouldn't want to give in to this person, I would seriously consider giving FAB a break for a while till this all blows over. If you are as blameless as you say (I'm not saying you're not but we do only have your side of the situation) then if you're not around she will move on to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One more tip your very list is rather long, hide it, because you are just giving the person a list of contact details for you, if you have 20 veris and each one has say 5 you are giving the person 100 people who " know you" so it will not stop, and if you are reported to social services, the veris do make you look very promiscuous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have NO direct contact with her. In three yrs I have given my number out less than 10 times. And im not leaving giving her exactly what she wants. I have done new profile thing 18 months ago. As soon as I was back she started. She has pics saved from my first profile 3 yrs ago that I dont have copies of.

I dont care who she messages as her profile is negative so is her attitude. But I do care she is naming me on whats app with fab and involving my kids. Women is sick.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"and if you are reported to social services, the veris do make you look very promiscuous."

Having a full and varied sex life does not make someone a bad mother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have NO direct contact with her. In three yrs I have given my number out less than 10 times. And im not leaving giving her exactly what she wants. I have done new profile thing 18 months ago. As soon as I was back she started. She has pics saved from my first profile 3 yrs ago that I dont have copies of.

I dont care who she messages as her profile is negative so is her attitude. But I do care she is naming me on whats app with fab and involving my kids. Women is sick."

and the only person who can take responsibility for it and stop it is you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"and if you are reported to social services, the veris do make you look very promiscuous.

Having a full and varied sex life does not make someone a bad mother. "

No it doesn't at all. Some people are just very judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and if you are reported to social services, the veris do make you look very promiscuous.

Having a full and varied sex life does not make someone a bad mother. "

of course it doesn't, in fact it may make them a better mother, that isn't the point, society, and that includes social services, have a different attitude to swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First give it a break, delete all profiles on here and social media, if she cant connect with you she will stop.

in 12 months time, using a new name, new phone number, start up again, but this time don't give number and contact details out too easily, be selective.

Use a pay as you go phone specifically for your swinging and dates, children should not be part of your social life, family should be kept separate."

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I dont care who she messages as her profile is negative so is her attitude. But I do care she is naming me on whats app with fab and involving my kids. Women is sick."

Personally, if I was getting so upset about something and my kids were being involved - as well as the Police - I would see getting it sorted out as being more important than keeping a profile on a few swinging/social media sites.

We only have one side of a story here but youve been given some sound advice. Obviously up to you whether you want to consider any of it, or continue adding fuel to the fire.

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