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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will be visiting a club for the first time this week during the day and I'm quite nervous about it.

Does anyone have any advice on this as I really want this to be a nice first visit and I don't want to make a fool out of myself and don't want to be sat there on my own while everyone is having a good time.

Any advice would be very appreciative.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be respectful and ask before touching, wait to be invited, smile and make eye contact, don't follow couples about, tell the manager it's your first time then you might get a 'buddy' to show you round, put a meet up now and go with someone, don't sit in a corner looking sorry for yourself, get up an walk about and chat to people.

Guess what? I've never been to a club but that's what I'd do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be respectful and ask before touching, wait to be invited, smile and make eye contact, don't follow couples about, tell the manager it's your first time then you might get a 'buddy' to show you round, put a meet up now and go with someone, don't sit in a corner looking sorry for yourself, get up an walk about and chat to people.

Guess what? I've never been to a club but that's what I'd do. "

Thanks mate. This is very useful advice. I must ask though, do I buy condoms at the club or should I bring my own?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you think? "

I think bring my own but how do I carry them about? I can't keep holding them in my hands all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tuck them in your towel, lots of guys wear their locker key on their ankle with condomes tucked in the elastic band.

Chams have them on the bar

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just realised that I have a little bag that I carry my swimming goggles in. I could use the bag to put my condoms in and carry it about around my wrist

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"I've just realised that I have a little bag that I carry my swimming goggles in. I could use the bag to put my condoms in and carry it about around my wrist "

do you have a snorkel too lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've just realised that I have a little bag that I carry my swimming goggles in. I could use the bag to put my condoms in and carry it about around my wrist "

See? You worked it out! Ps. The goggles might come in useful for close ups of women squirting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've just realised that I have a little bag that I carry my swimming goggles in. I could use the bag to put my condoms in and carry it about around my wrist

See? You worked it out! Ps. The goggles might come in useful for close ups of women squirting. "

Lol thanks for the tip but I'll be leaving the goggles at home lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread maybe it's a bit early for you to be going to a club.

Take some time to read club website FAQ's, based on what you are asking here I guess you haven't done that yet.

All the answers you could ever want are freely available on line so if you have to come ask in here maybe you are not ready yet.

Just my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reading this thread maybe it's a bit early for you to be going to a club.

Take some time to read club website FAQ's, based on what you are asking here I guess you haven't done that yet.

All the answers you could ever want are freely available on line so if you have to come ask in here maybe you are not ready yet.

Just my humble opinion "

I have had a look on the club websites which had useful information. I did ring up a club at one point asking about prices and they were very helpful.

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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester


"I will be visiting a club for the first time this week during the day and I'm quite nervous about it.

Does anyone have any advice on this as I really want this to be a nice first visit and I don't want to make a fool out of myself and don't want to be sat there on my own while everyone is having a good time.

I posted a similar question on the forums. Great advice was given.

http://m.fabswingers.com/forum/clubs/203889

Any advice would be very appreciative."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will be visiting a club for the first time this week during the day and I'm quite nervous about it.

Does anyone have any advice on this as I really want this to be a nice first visit and I don't want to make a fool out of myself and don't want to be sat there on my own while everyone is having a good time.

I posted a similar question on the forums. Great advice was given.

http://m.fabswingers.com/forum/clubs/203889

Any advice would be very appreciative."

Thanks mate. Looking at your post was very useful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect nothing to happen - just observe the other guys closely , maybe even a few visits watching and learning single guys who play all the time - then you wi be ready

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"I will be visiting a club for the first time this week during the day and I'm quite nervous about it.

Does anyone have any advice on this as I really want this to be a nice first visit and I don't want to make a fool out of myself and don't want to be sat there on my own while everyone is having a good time.

Any advice would be very appreciative."

I went to a club last Sunday and I was quite nervous...all you can do is just try to be yourself. Nod at people to acknowledge them, greet them politely if you are in a jacuzzi or sauna...try to make conversation whenever possible but don't force it if you see the cold shoulder...try to roam about in the play areas but not for too long in the same place or where too many men are. That's in my humble opinion though. I hope it helps. Just be as relaxed and authentic as you can x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys. I really do appreciate all the advice I've been given tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you going in the day? Are you trying to go when it's quiet to get a feel for the club scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect too much, take up offers of tours round the place and try to smile when you can. It won't be easy to relax but try to do so and make an effort to chat to people if you can. Just go have fun and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phone and check beforehand that you will get in. I think chams is not taking any more single guys at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just realised that I have a little bag that I carry my swimming goggles in. I could use the bag to put my condoms in and carry it about around my wrist "
Job's a gooden

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

Very nice pics and profile ..i hope your first club experience is a positive one. I think the main thing to remember is manners and respect to other ladies and couples and not to expect sex just because you have paid to get into a club ..have fun and let us know how it goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks very much everyone for such lovely advice. Its a good thing I always have manners and respect for people. I probably may get a bit shy at first when talking to people but hopefully I should be able to have a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was you I would try and get a female friend to go with you.

Failing that, don't be afraid to sit at the bar and talk to the bar staff to get you feeling comfortable ...

Which are you planning on going

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I was you I would try and get a female friend to go with you.

Failing that, don't be afraid to sit at the bar and talk to the bar staff to get you feeling comfortable ...

Which are you planning on going "

I'm planning on going to Cupids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm having to postpone my visit to Cupids till next week as my new card has not turned up yet so I'm gonna have to wait till next week

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By *leepyangelCouple
over a year ago

over the hill and far away

I have met single guys at cupids with my playmate. If you feel a bit uncomfortable, sit at the bar with Kim, she's lovely. Make the effort to speak to the ladies there. Whatever you do .... DON'T prowl!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks. I'm thinking of sitting at the bar to get a snack and a drink to get my strength up. I'll make sure not to prowl lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm taking L plates with me when I go for my first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have met single guys at cupids with my playmate. If you feel a bit uncomfortable, sit at the bar with Kim, she's lovely. Make the effort to speak to the ladies there. Whatever you do .... DON'T prowl! "

Never stand in a dark corner -!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have met single guys at cupids with my playmate. If you feel a bit uncomfortable, sit at the bar with Kim, she's lovely. Make the effort to speak to the ladies there. Whatever you do .... DON'T prowl! "

Never stand in a dark corner -!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm taking L plates with me when I go for my first time "

Plenty of clubs within reasonable traveling distance for you

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