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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive been on here for a while now, had a couple of meets, and no feedback for them, I read peoples profiles and reply to them accordingly, but one of my mates does copy and paste messages and gets loads of responses and meets, thinking its a load of bollocks this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused! You're showing two veri's!

As for the site being bollocks - we all have our own opinions - personally I think it's the best I've used over many years. And if that's how you feel - why stay?

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Haha!

Well of your mate uses copy and paste and it works and you don't copy and paste and it doesn't work, it indicates that one method is better than the other. Yeah?

You've got to do what you can do but never copy and paste as that is naughty.

Just do your profile up, get some better pics, do a bit of research onto women's psychology and send some well thought out messages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think the site is a load of bollocks then what are you still doing on it?????

Another look at me thread me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you blaming the website? It isn't the websites fault that you haven't had meets, its your own inability.

You've got two verifications, so why are you complaining? If you don't like the website then leave.

If you're not getting meets then try to be original in your profile and when you message people.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Ive been on here for a while now, had a couple of meets, and no feedback for them, I read peoples profiles and reply to them accordingly, but one of my mates does copy and paste messages and gets loads of responses and meets, thinking its a load of bollocks this site"

When you say 'feedback', do you mean verifications? If so, you have two. If you mean feedback on your sexual ability then that is subjective not objective and so would be of little use really. Be patient, go in the chatrooms, go to clubs, go to socials.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been on here for a while now, had a couple of meets, and no feedback for them, I read peoples profiles and reply to them accordingly, but one of my mates does copy and paste messages and gets loads of responses and meets, thinking its a load of bollocks this site"

I delete copy and paste messages, and bet your mate exaggerating as to responses he gets from his pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been on here for a while now, had a couple of meets, and no feedback for them, I read peoples profiles and reply to them accordingly, but one of my mates does copy and paste messages and gets loads of responses and meets, thinking its a load of bollocks this site

When you say 'feedback', do you mean verifications? If so, you have two. If you mean feedback on your sexual ability then that is subjective not objective and so would be of little use really. Be patient, go in the chatrooms, go to clubs, go to socials....."

Think he means the women he claims to have met haven't verified him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop whinging and get a grip, so many needy single lads on here like you complaining at absoloutly nothing! You have veris youve had meets all you doing is making yourself look stupid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats the point though, I Do read profiles and customise messages according to what they say on there, instead of a minesweeper generic message.

My profile is short sweet and to the point, well I'd like to think so anyway.

Yes I agree that I have 2 veri's and its harder for a single male on here to do anything.

just seems by writing a personalised message i get nothing but he send generic messages and has loads of meets. goes against the point that women/couples will not reply to copy paste but when you don't send a copy paste you just get deleted anyway.

I know it is not the fault of the site and I refute the accusation of my inability to have meets, my ability is perfectly fine, just for whatever reason know one is giving me the time of day. It would be nice to have some sort of response to say XX is the reason I don't want to meet, while i can understand that they have loads and loads of messages, but i take the time out to put together a thought out sincere message and the only consideration others give is a quick glance and a delete that really helps doesnt it...no

I appreciate the comments on going to clubs and in the chatroom etc, but the same ignorance ensues, in chatrooms anyway.

bit harder to go to clubs when you do things on here its ignored so why would that give the impression that a club would be any better than sitting in a corner on ya bill with a glass of in your hand.

Just frustrating is all, I'm sure all can agree we have times when we feel unable to do anything and thats where the frustration comes from, nothing personal to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You basically asked the exact same thing here 2 weeks ago. That alone makes you seem a bit needy which isn't an attractive trait.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You're going to have to get your head round one basic truth. No-one is entitled to a meet on here. No-one is entitled to a reply to their messages. No-one is entitled to a shag at a swinger club.

Life is not just sex, sex, sex, no matter how high your sex drive might be. Is that all you talk about on meets and in messages? Because that would get very dull fast. You have to make yourself interesting to interest people.

Having said that, you're cute! Shame Liverpool is outside my travel zone. Get to a local club and get to know people. The first few times might seem pointless but once you get known, things will improve.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

sounds horrendous ...there is a 'delete profile' button you know !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

far from all i think about, i don't even have a response to get that far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe ur mate just naturally gets more pussy than you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

kind of pointless if i delete the profile, defeats the object of having one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

seems that way Sbaybay

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What about this as a question then:

What attracts you ladies when you look at a profile and/or what kind of messages would you respond to?

as obviously what I am doing isn't right and need someone to point me in the right direction

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

How would you chat up a woman at a pub? That's the sort of thing I would like.

Just be aware that women on here aren't a homogenous group - we are all different.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"What about this as a question then:

What attracts you ladies when you look at a profile and/or what kind of messages would you respond to?

as obviously what I am doing isn't right and need someone to point me in the right direction

"

Man!

It's an art. You're not the only guy who struggles. Most do.

I disagree with the homogeneous comment above. Women are actually very similar I've found... As are men. You CAN improve and you can learn what women like and don't like.There are certain things which apply to 95% of women.

There are too many things to reel off and I'd get slated too but ill have a chat with you if you have specific questions. Message me.

You have to play the game properly.

But to start with, you can definitely work on your profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats the point though, I Do read profiles and customise messages according to what they say on there, instead of a minesweeper generic message.

My profile is short sweet and to the point, well I'd like to think so anyway.

Yes I agree that I have 2 veri's and its harder for a single male on here to do anything.

just seems by writing a personalised message i get nothing but he send generic messages and has loads of meets. goes against the point that women/couples will not reply to copy paste but when you don't send a copy paste you just get deleted anyway.

I know it is not the fault of the site and I refute the accusation of my inability to have meets, my ability is perfectly fine, just for whatever reason know one is giving me the time of day. It would be nice to have some sort of response to say XX is the reason I don't want to meet, while i can understand that they have loads and loads of messages, but i take the time out to put together a thought out sincere message and the only consideration others give is a quick glance and a delete that really helps doesnt it...no

I appreciate the comments on going to clubs and in the chatroom etc, but the same ignorance ensues, in chatrooms anyway.

bit harder to go to clubs when you do things on here its ignored so why would that give the impression that a club would be any better than sitting in a corner on ya bill with a glass of in your hand.

Just frustrating is all, I'm sure all can agree we have times when we feel unable to do anything and thats where the frustration comes from, nothing personal to anyone."
its no wonder with a mindset like this that your feeling this way, if a person/persons dosent find you appealing in any way why should they take the time and effort into sending you a nice rejection reply when most of the time people who do that just get abuse back anyway so just because you say you are not like that dosent mean you are, most of those other guys probly said that too. Clubs are one of the best ways to meet people without a doubt, if you went and sat in a corner that would be your own fault, its great to socialise even if you dont get to play the first time you go so what? You would have had a good night met some new people and maybe get somthing more the next time, ive had things happen in clubs that i wouldent have dreamed possible, the oppertunitys are there and its up to yourself to make it happen dont be so negative

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just a bit of down day, thanks for the advice guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused! You're showing two veri's!

As for the site being bollocks - we all have our own opinions - personally I think it's the best I've used over many years. And if that's how you feel - why stay? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mean to be rude but maybe they just dont fancy you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time i commented on this type of look at me thread i had an enforced period of not being able to take part in forums so you can guess what i think

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By *erendipity99Woman
over a year ago

Runcorn


"Ive been on here for a while now, had a couple of meets, and no feedback for them, I read peoples profiles and reply to them accordingly, but one of my mates does copy and paste messages and gets loads of responses and meets, thinking its a load of bollocks this site"

Your mate is probably lying. You can spot copy and paste messages a mile off.

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By *erendipity99Woman
over a year ago

Runcorn


"Thats the point though, I Do read profiles and customise messages according to what they say on there, instead of a minesweeper generic message.

My profile is short sweet and to the point, well I'd like to think so anyway.

Yes I agree that I have 2 veri's and its harder for a single male on here to do anything.

just seems by writing a personalised message i get nothing but he send generic messages and has loads of meets. goes against the point that women/couples will not reply to copy paste but when you don't send a copy paste you just get deleted anyway.

I know it is not the fault of the site and I refute the accusation of my inability to have meets, my ability is perfectly fine, just for whatever reason know one is giving me the time of day. It would be nice to have some sort of response to say XX is the reason I don't want to meet, while i can understand that they have loads and loads of messages, but i take the time out to put together a thought out sincere message and the only consideration others give is a quick glance and a delete that really helps doesnt it...no

I appreciate the comments on going to clubs and in the chatroom etc, but the same ignorance ensues, in chatrooms anyway.

bit harder to go to clubs when you do things on here its ignored so why would that give the impression that a club would be any better than sitting in a corner on ya bill with a glass of in your hand.

Just frustrating is all, I'm sure all can agree we have times when we feel unable to do anything and thats where the frustration comes from, nothing personal to anyone."

It has been said many times on this website no reply = no thank you. I am not going to reply to every guy who messages me. I would have to employ a secretary to help me out.

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