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Why is it so hard to get a meet on here? Any help?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I was just wondering I've been on here for a couple of months now but I still haven't managed to get a meet even though I'm a site supporter but I can't get verifications because no one will meet me and I think this is the main problem and tips or ideas?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Being a site supporter doesn't help in getting meets. Your profile says nothing about you or what you have to offer so of the thousands of single men on here you aren't likely to be top.of the list.

Write a bit about what you could offer a cougar, take out the bit about having been here before, join in the forums and get yourself known and maybe lose the description cougar...good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot accommodate + Cannot travel = zero meet prospect, IMHO!

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

there are quite a few good adult clubs near you and I am sure that you can get to them using public transport if needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are quite a few good adult clubs near you and I am sure that you can get to them using public transport if needed"

yes like Chameleons for example

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Hi I was just wondering I've been on here for a couple of months now but I still haven't managed to get a meet even though I'm a site supporter but I can't get verifications because no one will meet me and I think this is the main problem and tips or ideas?"
As you say, you have been on here before so will know it's not an instant sex site. Make the effort if you want it that badly.

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reply back to to the post

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By *ean Claude long swordMan
over a year ago

Kirkby

Just keep ur fingers crossed be nice don't get angry when messages get deleted just be urself it's like the lotto u have to be in it to win it

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By *endynsampsonCouple
over a year ago

Runcorn

It always amazes us why people think its a given you will get meets when you come on the site, its not easy for anybody BUT you have to make a big effort to sell yourself and make your profile appeal to people. Even as a couple we find it difficult to meet new friends on here, the club scene can be a great way of meeting people and hopefully by doing that you will get feedback. Give it a go.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Just looked at your profile. The user name put me off straight away. Looked at the pics which are predominantly cock pics then looked no further. Didn't bother to read it.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"Hi I was just wondering I've been on here for a couple of months now but I still haven't managed to get a meet even though I'm a site supporter but I can't get verifications because no one will meet me and I think this is the main problem and tips or ideas?"

Your profile says little or nothing about what you have to offer. Why should someone meet you instead of someone else? You have to sell yourself. Not literally of course.

Not all 'older' women like being called cougars so you might want to lose that!

If you can't accom and can't travel, how about putting something on your profile about where you propose to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" meet-ups " r mor 4th-coming if u've a partner ( female or male ). Who's willing 2 participate? just my theory anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm, where to start.

You're age is gonna go against you with a large part of membership. You're whinge is longer than your profile, never a good look. A Gallery of just cock pics=yawn for most. Can't travel, can't accomodate.

What exactly is you can offer any potential playmate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that you can neither travel nor accommodate is going to hamper your luck a bit, I think.

Personally, I hate being referred to as a cougar. If you message older women it is pretty obvious that you like them...

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"The fact that you can neither travel nor accommodate is going to hamper your luck a bit, I think.

Personally, I hate being referred to as a cougar. If you message older women it is pretty obvious that you like them..."

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't meet or travel which people have been pointing out?

I'm wondering how you expect to meet? If they can't come to yours and you can't travel to theirs where you gonna meet then??

Genuine enquiry as to your expectations of a meet and I'm not trying to take the Mickey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile makes you sound boring ik no expert but sure you can wright something half decent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I said in your last thread, go to clubs, best way to meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't meet or travel which people have been pointing out?

I'm wondering how you expect to meet? If they can't come to yours and you can't travel to theirs where you gonna meet then??

Genuine enquiry as to your expectations of a meet and I'm not trying to take the Mickey?

"

Seeing as he's looking for cougars, i'm guessing the zoo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't meet or travel which people have been pointing out?

I'm wondering how you expect to meet? If they can't come to yours and you can't travel to theirs where you gonna meet then??

Genuine enquiry as to your expectations of a meet and I'm not trying to take the Mickey?

Seeing as he's looking for cougars, i'm guessing the zoo!"

If he can't travel how's he going to get to the Zoo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cannot accommodate + Cannot travel = zero meet prospect, IMHO! "

I can travel and accom but still no meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gift of the gab.. i say no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"gift of the gab.. i say no more "

Not quite got the hang of that gift then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cannot accommodate + Cannot travel = zero meet prospect, IMHO!

I can travel and accom but still no meets. "

Profile says you can't accom so get it changed.

OP, your profile sucks. Can't accom or travel, zero info. The fact that you deleted your profile and then came back says that you throw these tantrums regularly which is very unattractive in itself. Being a site supporter means nothing, won't get you laid.

You've had advice so use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cannot accommodate + Cannot travel = zero meet prospect, IMHO!

I can travel and accom but still no meets. "

You do know accom means accommodate don't you? Just asking as according to your profile, you can't accom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Changed, bet it makes no difference to getting a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Changed, bet it makes no difference to getting a meet."
are you surprised considering your profile tells people nothing of interest

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Changed, bet it makes no difference to getting a meet."

time for advice now I think .. watch out for fur balls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Changed, bet it makes no difference to getting a meet."

Now try and put into your profile something about the type of lass your wanting to meet. A couple of lines about yourself isn't exactly stand outish.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

You use the word genuine 3 times in a very short profile and it still doesn't say why anyone should meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still wondering if my friends list is genuine...

people pulling out of meets hours before....

disheartening to say the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Changed, bet it makes no difference to getting a meet."

That wasn't the only thing wrong just the most obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there..I notice that you're quite young and suspect that you set up your profile from your phone?...take some time to saywhy you are just right for them. it may be that you just haven't learnt the art of flirting..although it's a sex site...no lady wants to feel as though you're only *******her because she said yes....just my thoughts and not wanting to crush your confidence..

Good luck...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there..I notice that you're quite young and suspect that you set up your profile from your phone?...take some time to saywhy you are just right for them. it may be that you just haven't learnt the art of flirting..although it's a sex site...no lady wants to feel as though you're only *******her because she said yes....just my thoughts and not wanting to crush your confidence..

Good luck...xx"

Thats cos its against the law if she says no and you still fuck her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree about the comment above " been here then deleted " screams unreliable to me ! Glad you have hidden the cock pics - read profiles ! Some like mine or a bloody epic but get it right with the first message then get chatting !

IMPORTANT - I use this site on my phone. It holds 100 messages and the rest drop off the page - if I chat with someone and they send a message that doesnt invoke a reply from me - unless they send me another message that guy will " drift away" and no meet sorted x when I exchange phone numbers I may meet 1/10 of those guys as they bottle it or drift away xx

Need to be pro active ! X good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple way of life, respect people's boundaries, don't be pushy, if a woman says no don't get upset it happens, when a meet is arranged attend it standing someone up clearly isn't good lol, got to clubs meet people and mingle try the forums just be active have a laugh and if someone likes the look of you they will talk to you, and yer as everyone's said saying you can travel or accommodate isn't ideal at all.

Good luck bro

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