FabSwingers.com forum: Advise on why I can't get a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi fab's

I've seen loads of these type of messages here some with sound advise some just being rude and impolite to the person seeking advise

Here goes, I've written a none one liner profile, cut back on the cock photos and hope I'm ok looking....

I'm getting hardly any attention "is my message a request for attention.. Ummm maybe" but would sooner get to know where I'm going wrong.

I can't accommodate so that's probably most people deciding not to contact me but who knows.

Thanks, be gentle but honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry for the typo, bloody predictive text ..

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

Your profile says you have been on Fab before, so surely you should know that it can take more than the 3 weeks you have been on this time to get a meet??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile says you have been on Fab before, so surely you should know that it can take more than the 3 weeks you have been on this time to get a meet??"
hi thanks for your reply it really is appreciated

I was on fab before but to be honest I had a terrible profile and had quite a lot of stick for the ummm indecent pics so I came off the site for a while but the adult fun tempted me back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we were reading your profile in view of meeting you we would be put of by the fantasy paragraph as it does not read well and does not convey what I think you mean.

Perhaps another go at it as to be honest in our book it's the little details where you fall down.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Hi fab's

I've seen loads of these type of messages here some with sound advise some just being rude and impolite to the person seeking advise

Here goes, I've written a none one liner profile, cut back on the cock photos and hope I'm ok looking....

I'm getting hardly any attention "is my message a request for attention.. Ummm maybe" but would sooner get to know where I'm going wrong.

I can't accommodate so that's probably most people deciding not to contact me but who knows.

Thanks, be gentle but honest "
it's your profile, it's down to you to 'sell' yourself. As you have been on here before you should know this.

One thing about your profile, it does not read well, bit jumping about.

Best of luck though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi fab's

I've seen loads of these type of messages here some with sound advise some just being rude and impolite to the person seeking advise

Here goes, I've written a none one liner profile, cut back on the cock photos and hope I'm ok looking....

I'm getting hardly any attention "is my message a request for attention.. Ummm maybe" but would sooner get to know where I'm going wrong.

I can't accommodate so that's probably most people deciding not to contact me but who knows.

Thanks, be gentle but honest it's your profile, it's down to you to 'sell' yourself. As you have been on here before you should know this.

One thing about your profile, it does not read well, bit jumping about.

Best of luck though

I thank you for your advice.

I'm not a 2nd car lol nor Arthur daily so probably not the best sales man. I've updated my profile text, you was correct and hopefully the change has made things read better.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Hi fab's

I've seen loads of these type of messages here some with sound advise some just being rude and impolite to the person seeking advise

Here goes, I've written a none one liner profile, cut back on the cock photos and hope I'm ok looking....

I'm getting hardly any attention "is my message a request for attention.. Ummm maybe" but would sooner get to know where I'm going wrong.

I can't accommodate so that's probably most people deciding not to contact me but who knows.

Thanks, be gentle but honest it's your profile, it's down to you to 'sell' yourself. As you have been on here before you should know this.

One thing about your profile, it does not read well, bit jumping about.

Best of luck though

I thank you for your advice.

I'm not a 2nd car lol nor Arthur daily so probably not the best sales man. I've updated my profile text, you was correct and hopefully the change has made things read better.

L"
If you read the hundreds of other threads on this subject fab profiles are shop windows so you do have to sell yourself.

Good luck though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit one dimensional. There is no hint of personality just a list of what you want.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

Agree with the others you have to sell yourself, and all you seem to be going on about is what you want, not much about what you can give to others.

As your after meeting couples, look at what couples want from their profiles, people close to you, and adapt what you want to fit in with what they want.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"It's a bit one dimensional. There is no hint of personality just a list of what you want."

Wholly agree on this aspect!!

You are up against so many other guys on here, so your Profile has to stand out. You have to simply "sell" yourself!

Ditch all the cock shots to Private and instead get a facial pic of yourself on your Profile; people like to see what you look like!

Take off the header line "where am I going wrong?" It smacks of negativity and will put people off.

You can't accommodate, but that is true for many people, but if you don't say why, others will jump to incorrect conclusions, so be honest and say why!

Get onto the Forum pages, go to socials or clubs in your area; it's all about communicating with others and getting yourself noticed! You have to put in the effort to achieve any result.

But this is not an "Instant Fix" site; it can and will take months for some to get a result! It takes perseverance, patience and even more patience!

Good Luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I also add that 39 is not 'mid 30s'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a bit one dimensional. There is no hint of personality just a list of what you want."

Thanks, I've seen your replies to other posts and they have been honest without being rude so again thank you.

I've updated my profile and took on board some if your and other fab members comments. My profile does read a little mechanical but again thank you and hope my profile reads as good as it can get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit one dimensional. There is no hint of personality just a list of what you want.

Thanks, I've seen your replies to other posts and they have been honest without being rude so again thank you.

I've updated my profile and took on board some if your and other fab members comments. My profile does read a little mechanical but again thank you and hope my profile reads as good as it can get

My other bit of advice is that if you want to be a bull and be involved in cuckolding then go for it. Focus on it. The vast majority of people will be put off but those that seek that will be receptive to the openness.

Covering all bases never works. Selling yourself to the minority that you are interested in and not worrying about the majority does.

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By *GR2014Man
over a year ago

England

"Hi fab's

I've seen loads of these type of messages here some with sound advise some just being rude and impolite to the person seeking advise

Here goes, I've written a none one liner profile, cut back on the cock photos and hope I'm ok looking....

I'm getting hardly any attention "is my message a request for attention.. Ummm maybe" but would sooner get to know where I'm going wrong.

I can't accommodate so that's probably most people deciding not to contact me but who knows.

Thanks, be gentle but honest "

Swinging is mainly a activity done by couples men have a purpose single guys are 10 a penny. I can't get a meet and I'm relationship material mate... There's beautiful stunning sexy intelligent women on here and women want sex but only if you do it for them on a mental level first. My time is more valuable than looking on here for women. I've introduced women to the scene and that's probabmatic too I'm great in bedroom and never known a woman I've been with watching me pleasure other women actually happy about it, its a mine field but looking for women and finding on here is like finding rocking horse shiiit if you find 2 save me a bi fem mate

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By *errible_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just thought it was way too long a profile and couldn't be bothered to read it all maybe make it shorter as people don't have time to read long profiles when they have a life too just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just thought it was way too long a profile and couldn't be bothered to read it all maybe make it shorter as people don't have time to read long profiles when they have a life too just my opinion "

Didn't even get to the profile ..got majorly distracted by your ass - that's got to be a contender for the most fabulous bottom on fab

Oh and to the OP ...you're a man; nuff said

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By *errible_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the bottom line is it is just difficult for single guys to get attention on here. Difficult, but not impossible... It's hard to describe what grabs my attention.

Make your messages witty (but not cringe-worthy), and personal to the person you are messaging.

Definite "no-reply" messages for me are copy-and-pasted messages that are clearly sent to everyone, "Hi, how are you" messages, and "great tits, wana meet?" messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like cock shots. I'd like to see a couple at least (I always feel a bit hard done by if a guy has none on his profile!), so I know what I might be getting.

You need a proof reader, couple of silly mistakes, and that kind of thing puts me off.

Fantasy stuff always sends me to sleep a bit.

I've met with a really great guy whose profile consists of six words which I would normally pass by, but he hooked me in his messages and his pics. It's not all about the profile and one person's likes are another's dislikes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as has been said, 3 weeks is hardly a cause for concern.

you said you are getting no attention, do you mean no ones looking at you, or no ones messaging you, either way, no one will come to you.

you have to be pro active.

as for your profile, i found it boring.

hate the list things.

the only list i have in my life is for shopping, and occasionally when V tells me i have shit to do lol, when sex becomes a list of things to be done, its time to go back to wanking lol.

also, hated the fantasy bit.

badly written, and confusing.

basically, the profile was a little boring and unless that is what you are, ie boring, it doesnt bring you across in a good light at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all,

Some bitter pills to swallow here but guess honest feed back can be hard to take

I've update my profile now and hopefully the grammar, and the hated fantasies have gone my profile will read better

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By *ickomxxxMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

"Seriously, I would say that I am a pretty easy going sort of guy as long as i get my own way lol"

Stopped reading your profile at that point!

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Try reading your profile not on a mobile.

There are layout problems and the punctuation and spelling could be tidied up.

Photos look ok

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