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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, just want to ask - as a newbey.

Message sent and been deleted - not interested, of course..

Message sent and showing as read -interested or not.

As I know single ladies & couples get loads of messages just want to check as I would never want to pester anyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless its replied to...assume the recipient isn't interested.

Works for me

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Some read messages on the go and reply later.

Some don't delete as they go but might bulk delete at end of day etc

Some couples might be waiting till the other is there to decide to reply/delete.

My advice... Ignore your sent message folder! Pretend it's not there. You'll drive yourself mad wondering. If you get a message in your inbox then they are the ones you need worry about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some read messages on the go and reply later.

Some don't delete as they go but might bulk delete at end of day etc

Some couples might be waiting till the other is there to decide to reply/delete.

My advice... Ignore your sent message folder! Pretend it's not there. You'll drive yourself mad wondering. If you get a message in your inbox then they are the ones you need worry about x"

This

We both access messages, but for example I haven't been around for a couple of days and there are messages opened but not replied to, and ones that are also unread.

We would then both need to talk about said messages before replying, and sometimes if you are really lucky you will get a reply from both of us haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some read messages on the go and reply later.

Some don't delete as they go but might bulk delete at end of day etc

Some couples might be waiting till the other is there to decide to reply/delete.

My advice... Ignore your sent message folder! Pretend it's not there. You'll drive yourself mad wondering. If you get a message in your inbox then they are the ones you need worry about x"

^^^^^This^^^^^ I actually delete all my sent messages so I don't get all paranoid and keep checking to see if they've been read and then start overthinking why they haven't been replied to. Fact is that as a single male the huge majority of your messages will be deleted. Hate to break it to you lol.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Some read messages on the go and reply later.

Some don't delete as they go but might bulk delete at end of day etc

Some couples might be waiting till the other is there to decide to reply/delete.

My advice... Ignore your sent message folder! Pretend it's not there. You'll drive yourself mad wondering. If you get a message in your inbox then they are the ones you need worry about x

^^^^^This^^^^^ I actually delete all my sent messages so I don't get all paranoid and keep checking to see if they've been read and then start overthinking why they haven't been replied to. Fact is that as a single male the huge majority of your messages will be deleted. Hate to break it to you lol."

Wise move!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, just want to ask - as a newbey.

Message sent and been deleted - not interested, of course..

Message sent and showing as read -interested or not.

As I know single ladies & couples get loads of messages just want to check as I would never want to pester anyone... "

If they message back then looks like they are probably interested unless they state otherwise if they read then delete well that's pretty obvious what that means

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

I know its been said before a million times but I would rather get a polite no thanks than an ignore at least you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its been said before a million times but I would rather get a polite no thanks than an ignore at least you know "

I've had this argument with someone today! I got called rude because I didn't reply but if I replied too all my messages I would be here all day! I would take no reply as not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

TY everyone for your input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hardly ever reply, as most messages are sent off people who quite clearly havent read even the first sentence of my profile

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By *errible_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I will only reply if I'm interested and if people can't read or hassle me I block them I also don't like when single guys just address their whole message to me the fem as I'm in a cpl

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I know its been said before a million times but I would rather get a polite no thanks than an ignore at least you know "

As someone else has said, if I replied to everyone I would be here for hours. Not to mention that there are people who are horrible to you when you send a polite no thank you back.

Although actually, if they haven't read my profile they quite often get a sarcastic reply, advice to learn to read, then get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its been said before a million times but I would rather get a polite no thanks than an ignore at least you know

As someone else has said, if I replied to everyone I would be here for hours. Not to mention that there are people who are horrible to you when you send a polite no thank you back.

Although actually, if they haven't read my profile they quite often get a sarcastic reply, advice to learn to read, then get blocked"

If I replied to all my messages it would take me literally minutes every day!!!

However many don't deserve a reply - so I put as much effort into replying as they put into their initial message.

Absolutely fuck all!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Some read messages on the go and reply later.

Some don't delete as they go but might bulk delete at end of day etc

Some couples might be waiting till the other is there to decide to reply/delete.

My advice... Ignore your sent message folder! Pretend it's not there. You'll drive yourself mad wondering. If you get a message in your inbox then they are the ones you need worry about x"

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By *ohn_1983Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich


"Some read messages on the go and reply later.

Some don't delete as they go but might bulk delete at end of day etc

Some couples might be waiting till the other is there to decide to reply/delete.

My advice... Ignore your sent message folder! Pretend it's not there. You'll drive yourself mad wondering. If you get a message in your inbox then they are the ones you need worry about x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say for example last night we read all our messages but didn't reply as had other things to do. This morning all messages have been replied to.

However if you don't get a reply from us in say 24 hours then we have either forgotten to do it and have had other messages in the meantime or your message was either a cut and paste job or a one line "fancy a fuck" which gets no reply.

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