FabSwingers.com forum: Help please

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jaz and I love having sex in positions that enable him to get really deep penetration. The problem is, despite my thoroughly enjoying to, it frequently causes agony. Any idea why/ what I can do so that we can enjoy the sex we love?

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi you need relax more or adjust ur levels just slightly ...asuming you wet n willing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi you need relax more or adjust ur levels just slightly ...asuming you wet n willing

What do you mean by levels?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get you so aroused you squirt then guarantee no position will be a problem!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may need a trip to the drs as any pain with sex ( aside of anything to do with BDSM) should be checked out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get you so aroused you squirt then guarantee no position will be a problem!"

Hahaha, we've never quite managed squirting unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You may need a trip to the drs as any pain with sex ( aside of anything to do with BDSM) should be checked out. "

You think? Worried now! It wasn't a problem for a long time, only the last few months.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You may need a trip to the drs as any pain with sex ( aside of anything to do with BDSM) should be checked out.

You think? Worried now! It wasn't a problem for a long time, only the last few months.

It was my first thought too especially if its recent. Don't be worried it could be as simple as bruising from deep thrusting but better safe than sorry, hope all goes well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may need a trip to the drs as any pain with sex ( aside of anything to do with BDSM) should be checked out.

You think? Worried now! It wasn't a problem for a long time, only the last few months.

It's probably nothing but it's better to be safe then sorry especially if it's only been the last few months.

I didn't mean to worry you though , sorry.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I agree you should go visit the doctor better safe than the alternative

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Alright ladies, thanks for the tip.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Get you so aroused you squirt then guarantee no position will be a problem!

Hahaha, we've never quite managed squirting unfortunately. "

its not quite correct anyway - no matter how wet you are, if he's going deep, its going to hurt. Having said that - unless he's hammering away, it shouldnt really hurt - deep doesnt mean pain really.. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly like others take a trip to the docs just to be reassured.

Then depending what positions your trying maybe try adding pillows for support (e.g. if ypu have your legs on his shoulders a couple of pillows under your bum makes a massive difference! And remember your more sensitive down there depending on time of the month

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I'm reasonably thick/reasonably long and unless I go nuts and really pound I dont get any painful ows.. I can go deep for as long as necessary really, but that doesnt mean hard thrusting - so it may just be the type of sex you like.

Similaily - dont know if you're using condoms with your partner but some lube on the condom will help greatly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A girlfriend of mine had a similar problem hurt when going deep especially from behind, went to get checked out and nothing wrong, her gyno suggested to just change position and angle of penetration.

Always good idea to get checked out, bit embassasing i know but better safe than sorry, could just be bruseing from a particular session, if have by the sounds of it been going hammer and tongues alot recently!!

Apart from that just take it easy for a few weeks ride him etc control the depth you take him in. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jaz and I love having sex in positions that enable him to get really deep penetration. The problem is, despite my thoroughly enjoying to, it frequently causes agony. Any idea why/ what I can do so that we can enjoy the sex we love?

L x

I get pain on deep penetration in certain positions- I have endometriosis- always good to get checked out . K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same trouble thats why i only like sex in the missionary position, i told the people at the gum clinic they said there wasnt anything wrong with me though, i think it might be fibroids because a few years ago i seen a fanny doctor because i had heavy periods and he said i had a big fibroid, thats why i had a mirena coil fitted, i dont need it now though because i am 52.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's going deep try a more rocking motion than an in and out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If he's going deep try a more rocking motion than an in and out. "

That sounds like a great idea, actually.

Thanks for all the advice everyone!

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By *ittleBitOfFunCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I get the same problem especially when doing doggy position as mr is quite thick and does get in really deep. This feels nice until it goes too deep and bloody hurts! The rocking motion sounds a good idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get the same problem especially when doing doggy position as mr is quite thick and does get in really deep. This feels nice until it goes too deep and bloody hurts! The rocking motion sounds a good idea

Funnily enough, Jaz can literally be balls deep in me and it will cause no pain at all. This is amazing considering he measures up at 8.1 inches.

It's when he puts me in my back and has my legs over his shoulders that it can cause pain, probably because that is the deeper position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When he's doing that you need to make sure he's not just pounding in and out, if he just pulls out a little and kind of just thrusts in and up kinda as if you were just grinding.

I had never squirted before until the mr and I tried this.... same with girl on top. Take it all in and just rock. Sit quite high up on it so there's more touching the front wall, rock only slightly, like only moving a few inches but make him push his hips up and make sure you've got all your weight on him. It totally deep but massages the gspot without bashing in your cervix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could draw you a diagram, I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could always just get your insides removed lol

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By *orks funMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *orks funMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"If I could draw you a diagram, I would

:P"

webcam instead ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may need a trip to the drs as any pain with sex ( aside of anything to do with BDSM) should be checked out.

You think? Worried now! It wasn't a problem for a long time, only the last few months.

I wouldn't be worried. I get sore esp after long session with deep penetration. Usually it's just repeat of similar actions and can be caused by not being wet enough. Try in between swap positions ur partner go down on u or use lube. If doesn't help try drs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When he's doing that you need to make sure he's not just pounding in and out, if he just pulls out a little and kind of just thrusts in and up kinda as if you were just grinding.

Ah... We do that quite regularly actually.

think I'd like a demo though :P

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"When he's doing that you need to make sure he's not just pounding in and out, if he just pulls out a little and kind of just thrusts in and up kinda as if you were just grinding.

Ah... We do that quite regularly actually.

think I'd like a demo though :P "

depends how high your cevix is - but with length, you can usually get your head around the back of it, so the guy is only pushing on your upper wall.. use short movements so its just the head stumulating it and you get the deep feeling without any clattering - that can do the trick

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"depends how high your cevix is - but with length, you can usually get your head around the back of it, so the guy is only pushing on your upper wall.. use short movements so its just the head stumulating it and you get the deep feeling without any clattering - that can do the trick

I'll get Jaz to try that.

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