FabSwingers.com forum: Mojo Lost

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been around a little while but of late we are just not motivated to play. Is that is for us, does the need come back and if so what can we do to light the fire again?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

get someone horny over?

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By *iPeopleMan
over a year ago

London

Dont stress about it.

Get some sensual tantric massage swops organised!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe take some time out...I guess perving and meeting can take the fun out of it after a while and It can become boring!

take up a hobby like knitting or stamp collecting...you'll soon be fired up and sexy again in no time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I posted a forum about my mojo last week. It's still missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are in an LDR and my mojo goes missing for the time we are apart.

dont feel horny,

dont feel the need to masterbate

but, when we are due to get back together again, it just comes back, and with a vengance.

its not something you can control, its either there or not.

wouldnt worry about it too much, as thats when it starts becoming psycological rather than physical

it will be back. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

Now it seems ordinary and not daring... Which was half the fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

Now it seems ordinary and not daring... Which was half the fun!"

absolutely agree with you.

we tend to start looking for meets, then think, why? cant really be arsed to.

never look at a profile and think 'oo, theyre sexy', but in a more functional way. are they looking for what we are?

will we tick their boxes?

do we find them attractive?

and so on

maybe you have just over exposed yourselves lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you looked behind the cushions of the settee? Thats where i find my mislaid things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

Now it seems ordinary and not daring... Which was half the fun!"
I think its normal after years in this ... can get boring same old things. I fill my life up with other things not just sex to make me happy .. its just a small part of my life . Some it takes over everything, But never been like that for me .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

Now it seems ordinary and not daring... Which was half the fun!I think its normal after years in this ... can get boring same old things. I fill my life up with other things not just sex to make me happy .. its just a small part of my life . Some it takes over everything, But never been like that for me . "

I would hope it is a small part for most people but it is a bit disappointing that the illicit thrill has evaporated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

I would hope it is a small part for most people but it is a bit disappointing that the illicit thrill has evaporated."
well your not alone xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

I would hope it is a small part for most people but it is a bit disappointing that the illicit thrill has evaporated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

I would hope it is a small part for most people but it is a bit disappointing that the illicit thrill has evaporated."
Maybe increase the complexity by introducing some kind of new challenge that involves pushing yourself.

Introduce new things positions (hello kama sutra?), places (hello hippie sex), toys (use your imagination), hand cuffs kinky sex (just kidding…or maybe not), or routines. They all increase the difficulty and require you to learn something new .. well been there have the tea shirt , lol Like to learn new things to make me feel alive again ..

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

its probably out partying with my mojo

having a whale of a time

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"its probably out partying with my mojo

having a whale of a time

If it's with mine then it's been one hell of a 4 month party!!

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By *heCrowAndButterflyCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

We are the same we can go months without parties, clubs and meets. But we still stay active on here. I think it's fairly natural to dip in and out from time to time, the socials are always good as there is no pressure and you can meet like minded people without the play bit. It will come back it usually does

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By *heCrowAndButterflyCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

Couldn't agree more

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

find someone like me with a little imagination shibari any one

or use a zippo firelighter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been around a little while but of late we are just not motivated to play. Is that is for us, does the need come back and if so what can we do to light the fire again?"

for me it replaces a relationship and gets me away from my demanding family. You are content and happy so maybe give it up and indulge in something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you got any other stress going on. We've had a steady decline too for various reasons. I think external stress's are the big factor. They make having fun seem like a guilty pleasure. One where you feel you shouldn't be doing things because it's too trivial to be pleasing yourself. The parent V adult trap is what I am trying to drive at.

"We have been around a little while but of late we are just not motivated to play. Is that is for us, does the need come back and if so what can we do to light the fire again?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same thing happens to us ... every six months or so ... we close our account and do nothing related to this for a few weeks , then find we miss it and start again !!!

We have found that altering our criteria helps toi and things we wouldn't have dreamt of doing have re ignited our mojo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mojo come back thinking of a sexy man in a pink polo tops today , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

Now it seems ordinary and not daring... Which was half the fun!"

Sometimes a fantasy should remain that. Once it's been done then it's no longer exciting and taboo. Less can certainly be more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Problem being is all the naughtiness and excitement that was there when we first started has long since evaporated.

Now it seems ordinary and not daring... Which was half the fun!

Sometimes a fantasy should remain that. Once it's been done then it's no longer exciting and taboo. Less can certainly be more."

Or we could find some new ones.

Just booked a weekend in Berlin so hope we can find some debauchery!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I think it all can get a little dull sometimes then you end up having to be dirtier and dirtier to get satisfaction because this don't feel right the guilt sets in or am I talking about myself ... just a thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it all can get a little dull sometimes then you end up having to be dirtier and dirtier to get satisfaction because this don't feel right the guilt sets in or am I talking about myself ... just a thought"

There is that.....although taking a break from everything might also reset the moral compass and jaded palate.

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By *endynsampsonCouple
over a year ago

Runcorn

Same here, mojo lost a while ago, still come in and have a perv but not played for some time, searching for something interesting and some new ideas to get the fire burning again, ant ideas please pass them our way, please share xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have just found a ladies' mojo in the dark corner of my garage, behind my old motorbike. I'm happy to return it in person, to any lady that's lost it, and i'll happily re-visit on a regular basis too, to make sure it stays put if you like...

Rod. XX

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