FabSwingers.com forum: Are men on a hiding to nothing?

By *obbyCock36 OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

So I've had some good feedback on my profile, and had hoped to have made contact with people.

So it's not happened, is it just luck that a couple/single lady decides to contact? Is there anything else I can do to, I'm not a weirdo! (honest)

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

On one of your pictures at first glance it looks like you ve a corn on the cob shoved up ya bum,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its' luck.. or lack of i'd say. I'm having the same trouble meeting cos I've no verified meets.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Get yourself out there. Post more on the forum. Go to socials, clubs as well, but I find socials better.

Chat to a few people, then when they are ready or are free to meet, you will be a first option.

Some meets are quick, most take time and effort.

Your profile is fine. But being on here is only part of it. That obviously is only my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember you are single so your time is more freely available. A lot of couples on here have children, so arranging meets is a lot more difficult and free time is not as readily available. Be patient be polite and chat to them,then when they do have time hope you are top of their fuckit list

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Are men on a hiding to nothing?

once a guy starts to have that mentality, it is time to consider if swinging is for him.

yes guys significantly outnumber ladies in the swinging scene but a lot of guys do really well.... it is how they conduct themselves, sell themselves, maintain & don't compromise their standards.

self respect is worth more than an empty scrotum.

and if I am honest, it beggars belief that a guy can't get a meet on a swingers site, it may not always be within their expected timeline but jesus it is not hard.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just keep at it, chat in the forums, go to socials, be friendly in the messages you send, even try and be funny, dont just message hi how r u, dont take it personally when people dont message back are some get alot of messages a day, and not everyone is everyone's type, good luck dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I've had some good feedback on my profile, and had hoped to have made contact with people.

So it's not happened, is it just luck that a couple/single lady decides to contact? Is there anything else I can do to, I'm not a weirdo! (honest)

It's difficult for me here mate; just hand around - you'll get lucky at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are already thinking like that having only been on the site a few weeks then I'd echo View's point of is swinging really for you?

At the very least I suspect you need to revise your sense of expectation, I can't help but suspect you thought this site would be a lot more instant fix than it is.

But the reality is many men on here are wasting there time because to be blunt they are clueless but equally it is not difficult to be a success on here eithet.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Mentality (change it)

Socials (try and attend at least one)

Clubs (daunting yes, especially on your own, but a great way to meet people and enjoy the lifestyle more)

The site (and your profile by extension) is just one small part of the whole experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is it just luck that a couple/single lady decides to contact? "

You're expecting to be contacted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you asked advice on your profile last week.

how quickly do you expect results?

as has been said, think your expectations of the site are somewhat inflated and out of step with the reality of the thing.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

As people have said get to a club ir social meet. Even if you don't play there is a good chance you will meet someone off of Fab who will give you a verification if they like you...

But don't be too needy as it puts people off. Just drop it into the conversation that you are on Fab and if they are on here send them a verification and hope they return the favour or just ask before you part company.

Don't do as others have done to us and send a random request and when we said no got a nice " Well go fuck yourself you ugly cunt.."

Lol... Then start grovelling and asking to meet...

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By *1KandiCouple
over a year ago

Jacksonville

I never go shoping for guys on the site. If you are waiting for a girl to come to you.... Could be waiting for a while. I get quite a few messages a day. I save the ones I like and chat immediately or later when I have more time.

You need to touch base with some people on here. But accept that not everyone will want to date you. I am sure however someone will say yes in time.

Good luck

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"On one of your pictures at first glance it looks like you ve a corn on the cob shoved up ya bum,

Doh I went and looked

it's not there now

oh and _iew hit it on the head

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