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By *andF_fun OP Couple
over a year ago
Philly PA area |
thank you to everyone for their input.
I guess i should start opening my mouth to tell people "no thank you" or "we just want to be alone tonight".
just a question, not being confrontational, but is it really considered giving mixed signals if i smile, say hello, and give a simple kiss on the cheek while greeting someone? We're there to chat, and have a good time. laughing, smiling and conversaton. Is that mixed signals. Not like i rub the guys back, or put my hands on his leg to openly flirt.
I just need to clarify though. We only played with this guy the first time. The second time we were concentrating on a couple that we had met before and agreed to meet there. They were unconfortable at the last party they attended so we found a small intimate bedroom, pretty dark with only a few candles, but left the door open (house rules). While i was involved with the couples guy, my head was in his crotch, i had someone hold my hand, since it was only us 4 in the room, and small room, i assumed it was one of the other 2, or the man i was with, holding my hand. I only noticed it was the single guy after the guy i was with came, and we were finished. So, NO, the single technically wasn't invited to play, or nor was i intimate w/ the single excpet for the very first time.
Anyway. I just kinda thought that the holding hands incident was somewhat co-incidence. But when we attended the party the 3rd time, and noticed that we were possibly being hovered around it was kinda creapy so we only stayed about 2 hours and left before 11pm.
Not for that reason, but due to other parties and club events, we haven't been back to this one due to schedule conflicts. If we notice a similar pattern, we will be saying something quietly to the guy, but don't want to alert the party hosts unless it goes further.
But, we will be verbally communicating alot more. Like i said, thanks for the advise.
As for someone lableling me... go for it, i'm now 40 and prob heard it all anyway.  |
