FabSwingers.com forum: On goes the condom...off goes the erection..

By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

I've met a few guys now who have sported an impressively hard cock during foreplay. But, the minute there's the russle of a condom packet, the little fella develops a mind of it's own and thinks " If you think for one minute you are going to try stuff me in that thing, well you have another thing coming!"

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met a few guys now who have sported an impressively hard cock during foreplay. But, the minute there's the russle of a condom packet, the little fella develops a mind of it's own and thinks " If you think for one minute you are going to try stuff me in that thing, well you have another thing coming!"

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

My fear would be they only have bareback sex.

Have you put the condom on with your mouth? Given oral with the guy wearing the condom? (Get flavoured condoms cos the latex tastes disgusting).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens with most guys I find... Few exceptions. X

Some swear by doing it with your mouth but they taste foul and can taste it for ages after lol...even the flavoured ones xxx

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

It happened to me on Tuesday evening. Stiff as a board during foreplay but floppy as soon as the condom went on. Even oral with the condom still on didn't help. Just had to do a long 69 instead.

For me, its being so constricted that is the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have EXACTLY this problem!!!

I'm NOT allergic to condoms but soon as one appears my manhood heads south n NOTHING will entice it to entertain one. It is all in MY head n I haven't a CLUE why

My solution to this has had to b that I decline to penetrate n state this on my profile to save wasting people's time

I WON'T bareback n will go as far as toys n oral which is why I don't meet solo females! If another male is present it is usually not a problem as he can do the intercourse activity

I appreciate it's not a pan ideal scenario for many but with some couples it has worked surprisingly well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been a fan of them, well I should say my penis has never been a fan of them. A good old Viagra comes to the rescue if all else fails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For guys it helps if you masturbate with a condom on yourself.. it's something that will help over time..

I suggest trying different brands and fits too... But if you really struggle why not take along femidoms... Not sure most women would object... Solves the problem a little.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

I hate them too, particularly the smell of latex...I would say it would perhaps help if the woman sort of artfully puts it on the man between intervals of oral/hand play? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this problem!!!!.bloody things.i find the way around it is to go from oral to putting the passion killer on to having sex with minimum time between the putting on and penatration!.once the old boys inside he stays hard then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate them too, particularly the smell of latex...I would say it would perhaps help if the woman sort of artfully puts it on the man between intervals of oral/hand play? x"

Use latex free ones lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never in my life has this happened.

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

It psychological. Arousal takes place in the brain, of course sensation is a factor but at the very very best it's 50:50. I think maybe some guys try to use it as an excuse not to wear one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Only meet those that can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It psychological. Arousal takes place in the brain, of course sensation is a factor but at the very very best it's 50:50. I think maybe some guys try to use it as an excuse not to wear one."

Maybe they do! But ANYONE meeting me would soon realize I'M not one of them so it's better to b honest n upfront in advance n give peeps the option to decline a meet

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

no ideas but i stick to condom or no play at all, especially given the number of playmates some can have in the swinging world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...am i weird? I find putting condoms on even more erotic. Especially when she does it. I view it as an extension to foreplay and that now she wants me..shes having me.

Touch wood. I havent had this problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the opposite, as I know I'm about to have sex when I put one on the excitement makes me go harder if anything.....

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"...am i weird? I find putting condoms on even more erotic. Especially when she does it. I view it as an extension to foreplay and that now she wants me..shes having me.

Touch wood. I havent had this problem.

It can be arousing depending on how you do it and as Scottish said depending on how much attraction there is...I have been known to have raging hardons with a condom on, plus it also helps you pound

away for longer without finishing too soon.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

If someone has difficulty remaing hard with one on the should tell the people before hand. Save a lot of time and hassle.

Agree that their are a lot of men use this as an excuse to try and fuck BB.

Must ask, why is it the woman's responsibility to keep them hard? If the woman was successful in getting him hard during foreplay and then suddenly he has an issue with condom, its his responsibility. As said previously, practice with condom when wanking, get used to them.

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By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Only meet those that can

That's all very well, but I think if I asked guys if they stayed hard with a condom on I think they would say yes of course and just hope for the best!

I wouldn't know how to put a condom on with my mouth

( Bit naïve maybe?)

But I do agree with the chap who said it should not be up to the woman to keep a fella hard. After all, I've got my sexy gear on, I've sucked it, licked it, pulled it etc . At some point the chap needs to find a way to play with a condom on if he wants to play the swinging game.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Only meet those that can

That's all very well, but I think if I asked guys if they stayed hard with a condom on I think they would say yes of course and just hope for the best!

I wouldn't know how to put a condom on with my mouth

( Bit naïve maybe?)

It's not about the woman being at fault for a floppy dick when a condom is mentioned and used. Yes, practise with wanking solo with a condom on helps but in my humble view it's also about helping each other when putting it on...trying different techniques together...discovering what works...cooperation. Xx

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Theres no ideas. I suppose you cant really pick guys that would be good either, as a lot of verifications are 'in the eye of the beholder' it seems. Fellas in their 40's can be as crap a shag as guys in their 20's (from what I have heard). It's just luck of the draw on true sexual experience I guess.

Getting hard with a condom is not an issue if both people are up for it. Personally I cant say I have ever been soft with one (there may have been occasion) but the thought of a good fuck always perks you up.

Getting a good fuck doesnt rely on a condom but the guy using it imo. And guys that go soft probably arent worth the shag in either case I'd think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Yep I have to admit I was the same. Blue friends are the answer if you can stand side effects of Blue vision, headache sometimes and an absoluting raging stonk on the next morning.

Small price to pay for being stud of the day.

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By *oger ThatMan
over a year ago

essex

Never had the problem... Condom simply makes me last longer which I love as I have more stamina than control normally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Yep I have to admit I was the same. Blue friends are the answer if you can stand side effects of Blue vision, headache sometimes and an absoluting raging stonk on the next morning.

Small price to pay for being stud of the day.

I don't think that blue pills should be the answer. Occasionally yes.. but not all the time xxx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some good advice here. Best is if the meet doesn't have any time constraints, then the guy can find his own way of staying hard whilst condom covered, without the added psychological pressure of clock watching.

Think it's ideal if guys get used to wearing them hard, whilst alone or with others - maybe get a fleshlight etc and fuck it whilst wearing one even. Obviously use them for wanking, and use latex free if you don't like latex.

Whilst we girls can use our mouths to cover them up, it is better if a guy informs beforehand that he may have problems, so that it doesn't suddenly happen 'by surprise' in the heat of the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree, but the OP raised the question of condoms and how to stop Mr Droopy coming to play. We never have a problem otherwise as we don't use them at other times.

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Yep I have to admit I was the same. Blue friends are the answer if you can stand side effects of Blue vision, headache sometimes and an absoluting raging stonk on the next morning.

Small price to pay for being stud of the day.

I don't think that blue pills should be the answer. Occasionally yes.. but not all the time xxx"

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By *inkypervertMan
over a year ago

Durham

"It psychological. Arousal takes place in the brain, of course sensation is a factor but at the very very best it's 50:50. I think maybe some guys try to use it as an excuse not to wear one."

That is exactly the issue!

My answer is, guys get a grip! It is all in your heads...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For guys it helps if you masturbate with a condom on yourself.. it's something that will help over time..

I suggest trying different brands and fits too... But if you really struggle why not take along femidoms... Not sure most women would object... Solves the problem a little. "

Just googled Femidom, they look interesting. But there seems to be a rustling sound when one is going at it...reminds me of the old play beds at Xtasia in the old days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too sure if what you say is true. It's a bit like saying to a depressed person, pull yourself together and man up LOL. Sorry couldn't resist being a bit controversial.

"It psychological. Arousal takes place in the brain, of course sensation is a factor but at the very very best it's 50:50. I think maybe some guys try to use it as an excuse not to wear one.

That is exactly the issue!

My answer is, guys get a grip! It is all in your heads..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See condoms don't bother me

If I'm horny and hard I'm staying that way

A lot of blood goes into a 8 inch hard on

Why waste it lol

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

"Not too sure if what you say is true. It's a bit like saying to a depressed person, pull yourself together and man up LOL. Sorry couldn't resist being a bit controversial ..."

We're not talking about impotence here. If you can maintain an erection normally but lose it when a tiny bit of rubber is introduced then the problem is probably in your head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a problem with them but we have come across others that really do.

If anything the tight ring bit round the base of them almost seems to act like a cock ring and make me harder

Must be a nightmare if you do have trouble with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It psychological. Arousal takes place in the brain, of course sensation is a factor but at the very very best it's 50:50. I think maybe some guys try to use it as an excuse not to wear one."

It's mostly psychological, but some people just are less sensitive. I don't maintain an erection with one on easily and it's one of the reasons I only do penetrative sex with Tor.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

This happened on my last two meets. As I don't always have penetrative sex it was very frustrating and made me think they didn't usually practice safe sex.

Both sessions ended pretty much after that as I wanted sex, they couldn't perform in a condom so they were dismissed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

This happened on my last two meets. As I don't always have penetrative sex it was very frustrating and made me think they didn't usually practice safe sex.

Both sessions ended pretty much after that as I wanted sex, they couldn't perform in a condom so they were dismissed!

The thing is, in your role as a mistress, the humiliation of being dismissed may have been just what they wanted

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

This happened on my last two meets. As I don't always have penetrative sex it was very frustrating and made me think they didn't usually practice safe sex.

Both sessions ended pretty much after that as I wanted sex, they couldn't perform in a condom so they were dismissed!

The thing is, in your role as a mistress, the humiliation of being dismissed may have been just what they wanted

I wasn't amused and didn't see them again, and begging just got them blocked!

As a test I said the condom didn't matter: lo and behold a stiffy!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have EXACTLY this problem!!!

I'm NOT allergic to condoms but soon as one appears my manhood heads south n NOTHING will entice it to entertain one. It is all in MY head n I haven't a CLUE why

My solution to this has had to b that I decline to penetrate n state this on my profile to save wasting people's time

I WON'T bareback n will go as far as toys n oral which is why I don't meet solo females! If another male is present it is usually not a problem as he can do the intercourse activity

I appreciate it's not a pan ideal scenario for many but with some couples it has worked surprisingly well"

At least you're honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've had this problem as such only when I used the delay ones and lost all feeling down there. Apart from that it's stayed up, we often use condoms with each other to make a change (and keep the bedsheets clean). I wonder if it's just guys not being used to using them. Usually you wouldn't use a condom for anything other that penetration it's not like you would do a posh wank all the time but maybe it's worth trying to help the little guy get used to it.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

As expected, some utterly ignorant posts in this thread. What a surprise.

Anyway, it happens. It has happened to me a few times, especially when fresh out of a relationship where we weren't using condoms for 2 years.

As with most things, it can take some practice. And for the love of all things holy, please don't try and encourage the guy in that moment. If anything, he develops a mental block and it gets worse.

Find a zone he likes and pleasure him there till he gets hard again (ladies here's a tip...the NIPPLES). Or at least hard enough to get the condom on. By this point, it will be out of the wrapper, and in his hand, so one less step in the process.

Getting an erection is as much a mental thing as it is response to physical stimuli for a man. Not all of us can summon one at will.

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

hotel in teeside once a month

reading this the only thing that comes to my mind, is thank fuck its not just me

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It does my head in when this happens. I like going down on a guy, but after you've been there for a while I like to move on, not go backwards

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By *orn_To_PerformCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Mr B here - I've had a few issues with condoms in the past. It is mostly down to finding a comfortable fit. Mates naturals are great, but Durex are too tight, causing rapid deflation...

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

hotel in teeside once a month

alot of women are assuming guys do this for BB sex, i can inform you from as single guys point of view it really isnt.

I have safe sex 95% of the time lets put it out there unless im in a reltionship or its a couple ive been seeing for years and even with that i get tested on a reguler basis, common its the swinging scene you should be tested or fuck off.

tho i find with alot of comdoms i lost my hard on really quickly, unless ive been abstanat for days/a week. so before i go to clubs i dont want for a week or so this helps me. and also with your little chap smothered in latex its hard to be in the mental state,

esp if your like me and always look like a prat trying to put on the comdom!

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By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

"alot of women are assuming guys do this for BB sex, i can inform you from as single guys point of view it really isnt.

esp if your like me and always look like a prat trying to put on the comdom!

I totally agree with this comment that it wasn't a case of the guys wanting bareback sex . It was simply 'condomaphobia'.

But as Miss Tress said earlier, sometimes you do want penetration and it becomes frustrating for both of you.

It happened with a guy I went to a club with, but as soon as we got there he said he had a 'yoyo dick' and it took the pressure off by telling me.

But the other guy it happened with said nothing , but after a lot foreplay I was eager to ride him. But he kept losing his erection when he tried to put the condom on. But because he had come across in his description as a bit of a stud, I assumed he just wasn't that into me ( excuse the pun), so I felt awkward.

There has been some really interesting comments from my post , and it seems there is no easy solution

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

hotel in teeside once a month

problem is if there anything like me, once the first attempt goes funky, they start to panic and blame themselves then there outta that headspace and things go wrong from there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is called for. Get back on with the tongue and hope the little guy comes out to play again!!

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By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

"problem is if there anything like me, once the first attempt goes funky, they start to panic and blame themselves then there outta that headspace and things go wrong from there!"

That is exactly what happened! They are embarrassed, I feel bad and don't know what to say , if anything. They try again, same thing happens.... then it's time to put the kettle on and talk about the weather lol

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I used to have this problem many years ago so I started putting one on when I masturbated to get used to them. It worked pretty well.

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

hotel in teeside once a month

next time it happens if it does, put on your best mr jones voice!!

'Dont panic!!'

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"It happens with most guys I find... Few exceptions. X

Some swear by doing it with your mouth but they taste foul and can taste it for ages after lol...even the flavoured ones xxx "

We have the same with the guys so its not uncommon, most do get there in the end or on another occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never lost an erection putting on a condom. It helps though if it is there and ready and out of the packet.

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By *aptzogMan
over a year ago

Ledbury

I fear some of the cause may be in the mind although there is of course some reduction in feeling / sensation as well.

I've never thought about it and now I wish I hadn't read this thread, hope I have better things to think about next time I need one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The break between playing and then putting it on can make or break the fuck.

All I can say is suck the guys cock as he's opening the wrapper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has happened to me slightly the odd time. I don't completely lose my erection but, it does go a little limp for a few seconds, once it's on I bounce back very fast and game on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im having this issue at the moment, i came out of a monogamous relationship where condoms werent used, then had 2 year gap before coming here and i was abstinate through out. The first meet right out the gate, everything fine solid as a rock, till the condom came out. I was mortified, and embarrased beyond belief but thank god she was understanding and finished me by hand.

A one off, or so i thought, next meet exactly the same problem, now im getting frustrated and worried and that killed it, again thank god for an understanding partner, we meet fairly regular and ive never been able to hold an erection once the rubber goes on, i know its frustrating for her because she desperately wants me to make love to her and i do too. Ive taken to having a posh wank now with the cheap ones to see if i can train the old chap to respond. So far the results are encouraging and i hope it works cos i dont want to start on the viagra yet at my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The break between playing and then putting it on can make or break the fuck.

All I can say is suck the guys cock as he's opening the wrapper.

I think that is good advice!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"The break between playing and then putting it on can make or break the fuck.

All I can say is suck the guys cock as he's opening the wrapper.

In some cases, that can be detrimental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The break between playing and then putting it on can make or break the fuck.

All I can say is suck the guys cock as he's opening the wrapper.

In some cases, that can be detrimental

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I think they have put something in the Peterboro water system LOL

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By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

I think the advice of having the little buggers out of their wrappers and easily reachable is a good plan. the last guy I had the problem with was disorganised and had to search around in his discarded clothing for them!

And if I come ( or cum) across this problem again I think a will try cause a distraction whilst the condom goes on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the advice of having the little buggers out of their wrappers and easily reachable is a good plan. the last guy I had the problem with was disorganised and had to search around in his discarded clothing for them!

And if I come ( or cum) across this problem again I think a will try cause a distraction whilst the condom goes on..."

Pity you are straight as I am sure D could keep you entertained as I slipped the rubber on lol

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By *ubberdollie OP Woman
over a year ago

Stoke

hey I've dabbled with the ladies... but not my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hey I've dabbled with the ladies... but not my preference

Ha to be fair D is just a dabbler as well but at least with a couple there is always something going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this happen to me recently. Although I had given him advance warning that I only play safe.

The guy said he hated condoms and tried to persuade me to play bare. I refused so we continued to try with condoms with very little success.

It was very frustrating for me but at least he made sure I had cum (twice through oral) before calling it quits. I then thanked him (orally as well).

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By *oung-dreamCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

I also find this A lot to the point where I have had to add it to my profile that if you can't keep a hard on in a condom then don't message me!

I don't mean it in a nasty way but I just end up spending most of the meet keep getting them hard again when changing positions etc.. On a 1on1 basis I find they stay hard but when we do mmf and they are getting sucked while mr fucks me as soon as I get a condom to put on them it goes soft again and makes things so awkward and just spoils the moment!

To be honest I think women have a lot of choice and we do mmf cause we enjoy it not just to get a fuck so I think it's fair for us to say if you can't keep hard then don't bother us!

Sorry if that offends anyone but swinging is suposed to be horny and fun not hard work and awkward x

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By *PLNORTHERNCouple
over a year ago

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By *PLNORTHERNCouple
over a year ago

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think a lot of it is with the condom itself if you use your bog standard Durex your taking all the feeling away a lot to do with heat transfer etc. i find with mates skyn and Durex elite there not so bad and Trojan supra ultra thin are the best i have found, can hardly tell it's on!!

also best think about the Trojan one is its latex free so anyone who allergic to latex then its your dream condom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have this problem always hard, and I love watching a lady put a condom on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Durex XL ( or comfort as they've been rebranded) allow me to work unhindered. I'd previously felt as though I was being strangled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is also an expectation for someone(the visiting male) to get hard

I've met some stunning people, but timings been wrong, the situation wasnt right...etc etc..u might see that as an excuse(I dont care really lol), but I'am more than a wannabe piece of meat

If i dont perform how its wanted........so be it..I would have never promised i was anything more than who Iam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I type I'd never do bareback unless with a partner and both tested. But the thing about condoms is they are not natural. I find I'd have to be really horny - but then there's no pleasure from them. They take all the friction away. So most likely why most guys don't like them. Added to this that they are slightly cool in temperature and not comforting is probs why some guys have this problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, the problem was the size. I found Durex seem to run tight so would become pinched, red and raw very quickly, which then caused Mr Floppy. However, by changing brands (Mates) and looking at types (e.g. Skyns) I found that helped massively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may sound strange but try masturbating while wearing a condom. This will remove any performance pressure from the equation.

Your body will also associate the feeling of wearing a condom with pleasure so you will more likely stay aroused while wearing it. It will likely take multiply times to condition yourself but once you are, you should have no problems.

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By *rinterestingMan
over a year ago

London

I struggled recently with this when taking a girl back from a club last week (clubs omg yeah they still exist). I had been in a relationship for nearly 2 years where we I hadnt had to where a condom and man was it hard adjusting. It is literally like looking a prison camp for penises and mine wasnt ready to here the final verdict so ran away. We tried for an hour of vigorous sucking, pulling and touching till eventually he came back and lasted the whole night

Its very hard for guys used to bb to go back to condoms sex is just that more uncomfortable and unsensitive especially for circumcised guys.

Obviously I use them and will always expect to use them with anyone on here but it doesnt mean I like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have experienced this several times , its the messing about getting the thing on . Never go in without one on though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never used to have a prob years ago.was with my wife 16 years and never needed them. Split up with her and got a new girlfriend and had to use one. Guess what hard as a rock till I put one on then mr soft!!! Was a nightmare. Ended up having gum tests to show I was all clean and started enjoying fun with her.now I have moved on from her. Not used one since so dreading next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there is also an expectation for someone(the visiting male) to get hard

I've met some stunning people, but timings been wrong, the situation wasnt right...etc etc..u might see that as an excuse(I dont care really lol), but I'am more than a wannabe piece of meat

If i dont perform how its wanted........so be it..I would have never promised i was anything more than who Iam"

Of course there is an expectation that the man will be able to sustain an erection!

Can you imagine how many sexual meets you'd get if you wrote on your profile that you sometimes struggle getting hard when a condom is involved?

I am not saying I treat men like a piece of meat but the least you ask for is a hard cock.

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By *oung-dreamCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

I am not saying I treat men like a piece of meat but the least you ask for is a hard cock."

I completely agree if you agree to a meet on a swingers site surely the least a man can do is keep an erection? Not asking you to be amazing in bed, make me squirt etc.. Just asking for a hard cock what is natural surely? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, the problem was the size. I found Durex seem to run tight so would become pinched, red and raw very quickly, which then caused Mr Floppy. However, by changing brands (Mates) and looking at types (e.g. Skyns) I found that helped massively

Guys , I agree with this , I've sometimes used a condom provided at an event and it's been far too tight and whilst I've not lost my erection , it did stop me getting really rock hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a embarrassing moment personally on a meet last year. I won't go into details but based on that if a guy couldn't keep a erection because of a condom, I wouldn't let it bother me as there would be a reason judging from what I've read on here. I wouldn't go bareback but would hope we could just have some fun anyway. Naive maybe but I'm just honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah used to happen to me. Was a struggle to get on, and then they'd be tight and then just made for a mister floppy.

I use the wider fit brands now and they're much easier to slide on so keeps you in the moment and then is less like a boa constrictor.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I am not saying I treat men like a piece of meat but the least you ask for is a hard cock.

No pressure then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can take an eternity to open condom packet could explain going soft to a degree but soon get up for once near ready to put on.

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

Dont think about it, it's all in your head cos once you went floppy and now sub-consiously you think it's going to happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had this problem before??? Though I'd try not to allow it,, maybe it's the way they are going on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem with condoms, think some guys use it as a ruse to get bareback!

If it's genuine then the guys need to introduce the condom to their cock during masturbation and get used to it that way

Ladies stick to your guns and don't allow them near you without a raincoat on!

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By *oung-dreamCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

I usually find people that usually do bareback so guys in a relationship or with fuck buddy's and things are the ones that tend to struggle what then puts me off even more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope stays hard all the time as I a lite horny bugger

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I am not saying I treat men like a piece of meat but the least you ask for is a hard cock.

Yep its natural to be hard at the hint of sex if youre a rutting stag, an elephant in must, as with all males its a hormone that induces it and its not a Tap that can be turned on and off, a switch that can be turned on at Will, there are many dynamics in every meet from surroundings to nerves throw into the mix the people involved, the pressure to be ' great' often self imposed, its a mind thing and the more he thinks about it the worse it becomes , its why porn stars are porn stars they can control the mind, to the original post as for condoms I think its more a reduced sensation I m reasonably big and I don t buy the constriction bit it comes back to the mind ,

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

Skyns condoms. Never had an issue with them. They feel fantastic, like you've got nothing on, not as restricting and don't taste or smell as bad as other brands. Plus they don't break as often as Durex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have now added to my profile that a rock hard erection is a requirement.... In case there was any doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's not a problem the women I have sex with just turn me on that much I don't go soft and if I did then there wouldn't be a connection and I wouldn't want to have sex with that person x

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over a year ago

I am not saying I treat men like a piece of meat but the least you ask for is a hard cock.

No pressure then

Yea, flick the.switch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like having a bath with your.socks on but it goes with.the.territory.

Ok ladies how many have used a femidom?? Feedback please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that for myself. If the lady puts it on me during foreplay and it not like thought it just happens as she rubbing me all over and my cock. I am fine but if I have stop to put it on that when problems start also. I had lady husband put on me once during cuckold thing and that was fine.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"For guys it helps if you masturbate with a condom on yourself.. it's something that will help over time..

I suggest trying different brands and fits too... But if you really struggle why not take along femidoms... Not sure most women would object... Solves the problem a little. "

I tried this in the same situation and it did work and really was good fun!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"Like having a bath with your.socks on but it goes with.the.territory.

Ok ladies how many have used a femidom?? Feedback please"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try distraction, tease him as he puts it on, the 'stress' of maintaining an erection whilst fiddling with a tight condom the mind begins to focus on that and zap soft time.

Embarrassing and a nightmare lol

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By *entaur 9Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

"Mr B here - I've had a few issues with condoms in the past. It is mostly down to finding a comfortable fit. Mates naturals are great, but Durex are too tight, causing rapid deflation..."

Agree . If a durex is produced I think oh! oh !

Strangulation deflation.

I think its only ever been with durex that this has happened with me, and boy I cant wait to rip it off afterwards! Too tight!

Your brain is shouting too tight get it off and your dick is saying right if you dont listen to your brain im just gonna quit this is not a good experience ..

Mates and most other brands are fine.In fact extremely better. You will probably find problem solved. As many have said everything is good till the condom appears

Break the cycle - Find a brand that suits you and take your own !

End of problem .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would check with http://www.mysize-condoms.com/measuring/

and http://www.theyfit.co.uk/pages/choose-your-size

for condom sizing since for me those are the only ones reasonably comfortable. The condom can simply be too tight or of the wrong materials as the others said, which is most likely the reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then it's all very awkward and saying things like it doesn't matter isn't helpful because to the rather frustrated chap it bloody does matter!

So , i'm asking if anyone has any ideas of how to stop this condom phobia? There comes a point when you can have enough foreplay

For a guy, keeping/maintaining an erection is as much a psychological thing, as it is a physical thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I used Durex (featherlite or extra safe) I had the same problem, I think because they were so tight they hurt.

Since I found Skyns Large its been no problem, plus they are not latex so ladies will allergies can enjoy the erection.

So, I would suggest wanking in a condom and trying different sorts on for comfort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It hapends to me to, its nothing you can do with it, basically when you put it on it kills the sensitivty you got in your penis. Usually I just finish of in her mouth and use that as a pussie instead x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our last profile, we met a nice cpl and had some fun before the condoms went on...myself and the other guy went floppy lol.

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